December 3, 2021
December 3, 2021
Dear Colin and Brant,
Where do I even begin? It's taken me nearly 2 years to write this, (and another year to get it in the computer) probably because I didn't want to admit that she was gone. Your mom was such a special lady! She was a friend who knew how to make others feel really special.
Kirsten and I met because of your dad. Matt and I met him at the neighborhood block party when she was out of town. I'm guessing she was in NYC, but I don't know for sure. She was pregnant with you, and I was pregnant with Izzy. We were neighbors on the same block.
I was so excited to meet a new friend who was also having a kiddo. I knitted both of you some football hats so I could have an excuse to stop by and plan a time to get to know your family more. We eventually had dinner and became friends. We started a neighborhood babysitter coop that became a wonderful group of friends.
Eventually your family started coming to the same church as our family. I remember Kirsten saying "if the Krusemarks go here, it must be good". Like I said, she knew how to make someone feel special.
When Donald Trump was elected president a lot of people were REALLY upset. Your mother included! There were women marches that lead to women gathering to make change in the world. I started hosting a gathering at my house and your mom was the first one every time. She was vocal, passionate and lived with conviction.
As I write this letter there are protests throughout the country to support black Americans and to stand for racial justice. I know that Kirsten would be out there standing for her brothers and sisters of color. I know that she would let her voice be heard. I miss that passionate voice.
I will never forget the day your mother called me when we were camping in Silverthorne. She said she was having headaches for days that were not going away with the medication she was prescribed. She wanted to know what hospital to go to. I had no idea there was ever a chance of something so devastating being the cause of her headaches. A few weeks later she call to tell me the diagnosis. I cried harder that night than at any other point in her disease process. I knew how aggressive and unforgiving glioblastomas are. I had recently lost another friend of the family to the same horrible disease. I knew that day what this diagnosis meant and I hated to know I would be loosing such a special friend. I am sad for the time I missed that last year. I didn't know how to be the friend that I should have been. Your mom was always so positive, even in this. But, she became tired and frail. Despite all of it, her spirit never died. She would joke and laugh and love the best she could.
I still miss her. Our women's group is not the same without her passionate stories and gigantic love. I know that we cannot see her physical body, but her spirit will never die. She touched so many lives, nothing can ever take that away.
Love and grace to both of you!
Where do I even begin? It's taken me nearly 2 years to write this, (and another year to get it in the computer) probably because I didn't want to admit that she was gone. Your mom was such a special lady! She was a friend who knew how to make others feel really special.
Kirsten and I met because of your dad. Matt and I met him at the neighborhood block party when she was out of town. I'm guessing she was in NYC, but I don't know for sure. She was pregnant with you, and I was pregnant with Izzy. We were neighbors on the same block.
I was so excited to meet a new friend who was also having a kiddo. I knitted both of you some football hats so I could have an excuse to stop by and plan a time to get to know your family more. We eventually had dinner and became friends. We started a neighborhood babysitter coop that became a wonderful group of friends.
Eventually your family started coming to the same church as our family. I remember Kirsten saying "if the Krusemarks go here, it must be good". Like I said, she knew how to make someone feel special.
When Donald Trump was elected president a lot of people were REALLY upset. Your mother included! There were women marches that lead to women gathering to make change in the world. I started hosting a gathering at my house and your mom was the first one every time. She was vocal, passionate and lived with conviction.
As I write this letter there are protests throughout the country to support black Americans and to stand for racial justice. I know that Kirsten would be out there standing for her brothers and sisters of color. I know that she would let her voice be heard. I miss that passionate voice.
I will never forget the day your mother called me when we were camping in Silverthorne. She said she was having headaches for days that were not going away with the medication she was prescribed. She wanted to know what hospital to go to. I had no idea there was ever a chance of something so devastating being the cause of her headaches. A few weeks later she call to tell me the diagnosis. I cried harder that night than at any other point in her disease process. I knew how aggressive and unforgiving glioblastomas are. I had recently lost another friend of the family to the same horrible disease. I knew that day what this diagnosis meant and I hated to know I would be loosing such a special friend. I am sad for the time I missed that last year. I didn't know how to be the friend that I should have been. Your mom was always so positive, even in this. But, she became tired and frail. Despite all of it, her spirit never died. She would joke and laugh and love the best she could.
I still miss her. Our women's group is not the same without her passionate stories and gigantic love. I know that we cannot see her physical body, but her spirit will never die. She touched so many lives, nothing can ever take that away.
Love and grace to both of you!