I am writing this because I don't want anyone else to have to go through
what Kyle went through, or what we are going through now.
17 days. That's how long it was from the day Kyle got sick to the day he died. These photos are disturbing. If you think you might find them offensive, please don't look in the gallery. If I could attach them all to this entry, I would, so that those who didn't want to see them wouldn't have to.
I am sure that many of you will think I am a ghoul for taking these photos. I am on a medication that makes it very difficult to store new memories. I knew I needed these photos as reminders that this really happened. If seeing these saves even one person from experiencing this, it will be worth having my name cursed for all eternity.
We suspect that Charlotte was infected with SARS-CoV-2 by a co-worker at her new no-patient-contact job at an urgent care clinic, and developed COVID-19. Kyle contracted it at home. No one at his workplace was ill. They got their groceries at a no-contact store, and did not go out for any other reason during that time.
If you are wondering if Kyle's weight was a contributing factor to his death, I can tell you it was. It's right there in black and white on his death certificate. Morbid obesity, and hypertension (from the excess weight). He weighed the equivalent of 3 of me. Nevertheless, he walked into the first hospital's ER with an oxygen reading of 57. At the next hospital, he walked into his ICU room with an O2 level of 54. Most people would be unconscious at those numbers. He was tough and determined. Those qualities did not help him in the end.
If you think Kyle was just a couch potato who ate too much, let me disavow you of that notion right now. Kyle worked for 1800GotJunk, initially working on the trucks picking up anything and everything you can imagine, including 5,000 lbs. of broken concrete slab. (Later, he worked both on the trucks as needed and in the office.)
For his size, he was in very good shape. And he was strong as an ox. Before the pandemic, he routinely picked up his second-dad Mike as a silly greeting, and Mike weighs 200 lbs. He carried one of the 80 lb. roof rings of our house around his neck like a piece of jewelry, and he positioned 96 24' long rafters from a scaffold so Mike could screw them in. He cut and bent innumerable pieces of #5 rebar for our walls.
He once told me he was a food addict. I now wish I had gently pursued a conversation about what, if anything, he was going to do about it, and kept following up with him. I made several suggestions over the years, but it is a difficult pattern to break.
I want to now, not so gently, urge anyone reading this who knows that he or she is not at the optimal weight for optimal health, to get help today. Even if all you can muster the energy for right now is a small reduction in portion size, do it, and continue doing it. And Move Your Body. Our bodies are designed for motion. Even a little bit more than you are doing right now will help, regardless of age.
Don't wait. We cannot predict what is coming. I want you to be healthy when the next big thing comes at us. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your family. If you can't do it for them, do it because Kyle doesn't want to greet you for many, many years.
And wear the danged mask.
With Love, from Kyle's mom