ForeverMissed
    This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Lawrence Batchilder, 77 years old, born on July 8, 1943 and passed away on October 16, 2020.  We will remember him forever.

    We thought this online memorial would be a good way to share STORIES, pictures, and videos with each other as we are not able to gather together the way we normally would at this time.

 From Paulette Batchilder on October 19, 2020:  
      I would like to invite friends and family to share memories (serious & not-so-serious) of Lawrence.  I just looked at all of the pictures and videos in the GALLERY.  They remind me of such sweet memories!  I am sure many of you have photos and STORIES to share that would bring comfort to our family.

                  . . . Thank you to everyone who has reached out by phone or in person.

   It is highly encouraged, I repeat, highly encouraged for people to share videos, pictures, and STORIES.  We really want to hear from you all. And please spend some time with what others have left. You can actually message contributors by clicking on their name at the top of their entry! How's that for interactive!
   In order to share, click STORIES. To see/share pictures or videos click GALLERY in top tab. 
   In some ways this type of memorial is better than being at a memorial in person. It allows for everybody to share STORIES, etc.  . . . .which only have to be told once for many people to enjoy.
                     Thanks so much for your gift of visiting and sharing.
Posted by Rachel Batchilder on October 25, 2020
Our deepest sympathies Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn, Tara and all your families. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Some of our fondest memories of Lawrence are those summer visits to the green cottage - the best chowders, bonfires, and many laughs. May your memories help you through these difficult times. With love from Rachel, Darryl, Lesley, and Kenny.
Posted by June Welsh on October 25, 2020
My sincere condolences to Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn and Tara .
I met Lawrence and Paulette thru Earl and Elaine. We were welcomed many times into your home when we visited Kingston. My funniest memory of Lawrence was when the guys were in Thunder Bay working and Lawrence had fell and gotten stitches in his head, I went to stay for a week with Glenn and Lawrence needed the stitches out but wouldn't go to the hospital so I took them out for him. He was always up for a laugh. Christine and Ken loved going to your house to visit the pond out back with Lawrence. Rest peacefully my friend.
Posted by Kim And Cam Rose on October 22, 2020
We would like to express our sincere condolences to the family of Lawrence. Though we only knew you through stories of your loved ones, we know you will be sadly missed by so many people. After reading the tributes and looking through the photos and videos, we can see you touched the lives of many. May you rest in peace Lawrence.
Posted by Melissa Batchilder on October 21, 2020
I have so loved reading all of these messages on here with names that are synonymous with Uncle Lawrencie and family. Martha! Earl! The Nieuwkoops! These are names of people that have always been part of the Ontario Batchilder celebrity!

We are heartbroken by this sudden loss and so genuinely understand the path of grieving. Robbie, Avery and I send you our support, prayers, light... whatever works for you... we sent in hope that it supports you through this time.

Uncle Lawrencie was a legend for the kids in my family growing up in PEI. In the 1970s and early 1980s we seemed to swap years as to who went for visits. One year, we would head for Bath (we never drove straight through) and the next year Uncle Lawrencie and crowd would arrive in PEI... often in the middle of the night with Dad roarin' "that foolish Lawrence drove straight through!" The next two weeks would be filled with endless games of Monopoly, Ramoli, lots of swimming and wandering around Georgetown to SHOW OFF that we had cousins from Ontario... and if we were very lucky... maybe the PEI Exhibition -- Old Home Week! By the way, one thing we always knew about Uncle Lawrencie... there would be no cheating in ANYTHING... no matter your age or your ability. He would roar it out! NO CHEATING!! Heaven help you if you got caught... the shame be upon you.

Uncle Lawrencie's generosity is what really speaks to me as reflect on his life. I can't tell you how many people I landed at his door with over the years. As I wrote a piece on my Facebook page, numerous friends from over the years chimed in with "I know your Uncle Lawrencie... I stayed at his place once with you... or Dad." Uncle Lawrencie and Aunt Paulette always welcomed us, fed us and found a bed for us. And something my father never did... but Uncle Lawrencie ALWAYS did ... was ask as I was leaving "do you have enough money?" What a treat!!

Perhaps that's why our parents chose them as guardians for us should anything ever happen to them. Of course, as little kids we talked about this endlessly... we didn't want to move to Ontario, but Uncle Lawrencie was more willing to give us money for the store... so maybe it wouldn't be so bad. lol I am confident Uncle Lawrencie and Aunt Paulette were elated the day Haley turned 18 and their obligation to take those 5 wild ones from Georgetown had concluded.

Of course I remember vividly the 8-inch wrench Uncle Lawrencie provided me with when I went off to theatre school -- complete with leather strap on the end and "Ontario Hydro" written on the side. I also remember him stopping in for lunch to visit me when I lived in Prescott once. I was so proud to serve him a dry hamburger (no ketchup to be found) with a tomato from my garden. He then queried me on why my carrots weren't coming up in the garden. I explained I followed the directions exactly as they were on the package and that it had taken me several hours to poke those holes and count out three seeds for each hole. He roared and laughed at my naivete, shook his head, and probably raced off to really get something to eat at Burger King.

If I were to end with words that resonate to describe Uncle Lawrencie, I would think of "passionate lover of all things family" or "profoundly generous" and "unmatched tradesman." He was indeed our "crazy uncle" that I highly recommend all families having... for they are the ones that touch you deeply, remind you of your values, and the ones you never forget. To our much loved Ontario family, we send our love... our sympathy... and our support. We may be far apart right now, but our thoughts and hearts are with you constantly.
Posted by Susan Reynolds on October 20, 2020
My thoughts are with you Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn and Tara
Difficult times but wonderful memories

It has been far too many years, but I can only remember Lawrence with that joyful infectious smile that brought everything to life. 
So many memories from both Murray Place and your Home in Bath are running through my mind. So sorry that it is a time like this that we have these amazing memories

Susan Reynolds ( nee Budarick)
Posted by Martha Tennant on October 20, 2020
I met Lawrence back in 1986 when Debbie and I were first year room mates at the University at Guelph. Debbie has always talked fondly of her Dad and had a funny Lawrence Batchilder story to share for most situations. The one thing I came to appreciate about Lawrence over the course of that first year at university is how he instilled frugality in Debbie. I had never heard of Value Village until I met Debbie and when the Penny Save came, she showed me how to find the good deals. And we can't forget the curbside shopping we did when it was amnesty garbage day in the neighbourhood!

More recently, I got to see Lawrence's great sense of humour. I was at Debbie and Lance's with my 2 boys and they were probably around 10 and 12. It must have been Canada Day because it seemed like there were a lot of people around. Anyway, a game of Euchre broke out and there was Lawrence playing with my two kids! I looked over and they were all laughing like crazy and I can't even remember why, I just remember him giving them the business about something and them laughing their heads off.

Over the 34 years of knowing Debbie and family I have been inspired by their connection through all the bad and all the good, all the ups and all the downs. They are truly a family who knows what it means to stick together and be there for each other no matter what. I hope you all find solace in each other during this difficult time, like you have done all your lives.

Love you to the moon Debbie Doo,
Marf XOXOXO
Posted by Marg Catlin on October 20, 2020
Hard to find words to express the loss I am feeling . Lawrence was an important figure in my life . I will always remember him as a dear friend with a wonderful sense of humor,a heart of gold ,and a kindness beyond description.
To Paulette ,my dearest friend ...to Rory and Ali, Deb and Lance,Terra and Sean ,Dawn and Paul and all the grandkids ,sending my sympathy and love during this time.
Margie and Larry xo
Posted by Moe Englehart on October 19, 2020
I always remember you giving Joan and I money so that Joan could fly to Georgetown for your dad's funeral. I had just accepted a new job in Stouffville Ontario and I hadn't been paid yet. I say giving because you never wanted it back.

Joan and I always knew that you would be there if we needed help.

Rest in peace my good friend

Moe
Posted by Joan Englehart on October 19, 2020
My wonderful brother! Gone so suddenly. I am so thankful that I had a chat with him a few days before. I will always remember you for your generosity and your kindness to Moe and I over the years. We have had many banterings and sarcastic fun over the phone. Will miss you , bro.
Posted by Jim Rose on October 19, 2020
Ah, Lawrence, we were so impressed with your positive nature, your chuckle, and your technical expertise. Jim loved your shop and your tools. You were a very capable fellow. When we were connecting Rory's trailer to the septic tank, you broke everything down into nice, simple steps. Joan and I had the impression there was no physical problem you couldn't handle. Perhaps God has a need for a good pipefitter!
Posted by Elaine Graham on October 19, 2020
I am so sorry to hear about Lawrence, we had many good times together over the years. A memory that I often recall is about the first time I met Lawrence. Paulette invited our family to dinner and it was the first time I met Lawrence, Earl's boss. I finished my meal and had not eaten the crust of my bread. Lawrence said "Eat your crust." All I could think to do was ask for peanut butter or jam and proceeded to eat the crust. That was my first introduction to Lawrence's sense of humour.
Paulette, call anytime. Elaine
Posted by Marion Budarick on October 19, 2020
My sincere condolences to Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn and Tara on the loss of your husband and father. I have a lot of memories of being your neighbour  and friend. I know how hard this is to all of you, so take care and letting you all know I am really thinking of you all.
Posted by Jimmy Dobbin on October 19, 2020
As a person in Dialysis in Napanee with Lawrence for the past 2 years I was happy to know him. The other people on the Mon,Wed. and Fri. also feel sorry and will really miss him He was very witty Happy man and will be missed very much. Rest in peace Lawrence We will miss you. Jim, Phil Bill and Linda.
Posted by Natalie Stinson on October 19, 2020
I had the pleasure of caring for Lawrence in the health care setting for the past couple of years. He will be sadly missed by all here in the Napanee clinic. I will miss his smile and stories about family. Rest in peace Lawrence
Posted by Lisa Butler Nieuwkoop on October 19, 2020
So many memories with you and my Dad!! You were one tough duck Lawrence. You overcame so many things. You will always be remembered by so many. RIP my friend!! Sending much love to all the family
Posted by Rory Batchilder on October 17, 2020
It’s been one heck of a journey. I am really happy I moved back from Nova Scotia after almost 30 years away. It's been so good to spend time nearby since 2008.  I don't think any of us thought you would be around this this long actually - you were such a tough son of a gun - you beat cancer, heart disease, asbestosis and have been pushing back against various other things the last few years. I think more than a few of us have learned the lesson of NEVER GIVING UP from you.

Since I came back from living in Nova Scotia, we spent time working on boats,new a houseboat, cars, electronics, wood projects ,and so many other things, LOL. I would often save up projects to work on when I came down to Bath, because I knew we could connect over those.

It was great that we had a chance to really get to know each other as adults and get past some of those animosities and difficulties we had when we were both younger. I loved working on those boats and bringing them almost back from the dead. It was great to have projects together where we worked together to find the best solutions possible (for the lowest cost possible, LOL). 

We got to explore the water around the Kingston area and the Rideau Canal system - that was an amazing thing to do in these last few years. It is so beautiful around the Kingston area waterways.

I really hope that creating this little memorial helps in some way.
Thanks Dad, you are (and always will be) the most important man in my life. And hopefully you are looking from on high right now, in peace . . . and pleased.

  your loving son,
        Rory

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Posted by Rachel Batchilder on October 25, 2020
Our deepest sympathies Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn, Tara and all your families. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Some of our fondest memories of Lawrence are those summer visits to the green cottage - the best chowders, bonfires, and many laughs. May your memories help you through these difficult times. With love from Rachel, Darryl, Lesley, and Kenny.
Posted by June Welsh on October 25, 2020
My sincere condolences to Paulette, Rory, Debbie, Dawn and Tara .
I met Lawrence and Paulette thru Earl and Elaine. We were welcomed many times into your home when we visited Kingston. My funniest memory of Lawrence was when the guys were in Thunder Bay working and Lawrence had fell and gotten stitches in his head, I went to stay for a week with Glenn and Lawrence needed the stitches out but wouldn't go to the hospital so I took them out for him. He was always up for a laugh. Christine and Ken loved going to your house to visit the pond out back with Lawrence. Rest peacefully my friend.
Posted by Kim And Cam Rose on October 22, 2020
We would like to express our sincere condolences to the family of Lawrence. Though we only knew you through stories of your loved ones, we know you will be sadly missed by so many people. After reading the tributes and looking through the photos and videos, we can see you touched the lives of many. May you rest in peace Lawrence.
his Life

- Obituary -

Lawrence Sylvester Batchilder

July 8, 1943 – October 16, 2020

A long-time resident of Bath, Ontario, Lawrence succumbed to injuries from a motor vehicle accident. He was a proud Prince Edward Islander, transplanted to Ontario in the early 60's. His determination was palpable - In the last several years he stoically dealt with health challenges and never gave up.

Lawrence and wife, Paulette (Dufresne) celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary on October 2nd.  Lawrence leaves behind son Rory (Alison Rose), daughters Deborah (Lance Brown), Dawn (Paul Daley), and Tara (Shawn Baldwin). Loving grandfather to Ryan O'Neill (Julia Murphy), Sarah O'Neill (Milan Verrelli), Alex Brown, Clay Hayes, and Tyrell and Dyrrin Daley. Great grand father to Sophia (Ryan O'Neill). Brother to Joan Englehart (Maurice), and Ken (Doreen), predeceased by brothers Paul (Rosemary ), and Eldon.

Contributions of stories, photos, and videos are highly encouraged to be shared in this interactive web memorial created in Lawrence's memory.

Lawrence was a retired member of the UA Local 221 Plumbers and Pipe-fitters Union. He was a jack of all trades and liked to tinker, always taking things apart and fixing them. He challenged himself by building two homes for himself and his family – doing as much as possible with his own two hands. The most important thing for Lawrence was his family - he was and proud of them all and never tired of talking to them about their adventures and accomplishments. His idea of a vacation was to just be with his family.

 A Celebration of Life will take place at a later time when people can gather safely. We are really hoping that people don't just read this and pass by without leaving something.  Maybe not immediately, but after they thought about it for a day or two, come back and leave a little story or a couple of pictures in a tribute post.

Kinder, Gentler Last Chapter

   The last several years of Dad's life were quieter, more contemplative, and much slower-paced than his early years.  His manner changed, his strength faded, his voice more measured and kind. I deliberately came visiting often, as I thought our time together was drawing short - but the gods gave Dad a few extra years - maybe there was plan for him?

    I think many who knew Dad in the 60's - 2000's would agree that there was a certain Fred Flintstone flare - (I think Fred was a union guy).  Or maybe for some, Archie Bunker shared likeness as they were similarly "of few words" and hard work'n men.

    We kids occasionally teased Dad about being like Archie and/or Fred back in the day.  I always saw it in him - booming voice, gruff comments and no sense of political correctness to be found.  The young people reading might need to Google these characters to get the joke.

     Dad underwent a real and deep transformation in the last 10 years and it was immensely healing personally, for me, to witness this and interact with Dad (after being away almost 30 years).  It was fulfilling to spend time together working on my many projects which I often saved up so we had something TO DO together.

   Slowly at first, then more rapidly over the last few year's, this giant of a man morphed into something quite different. From that Archie Bunker / Fred Flintstone character into a bird watching, Sheltie dog-loving, "special plants" gardening, driveway sitting, CBC listening, baby-holding, non-smoking, non-drinking, mellowed out grandfather with a ready and welcoming smile.

   Now the transformation is complete; Dad is gone from this earthly world and his spirit is somewhere else.  He will always be in our hearts and memories.  His legacy will continue through his family and personal connections.   And he will live on as the wisdom in our hearts which grew from knowing him - and being challenged by him.

Rest in Peace Lawrence,
                  Your Loving Son,
                                        Rory



Early Life on Prince Edward Island

Dad was born during the war and his dad was away for most of the war only back very briefly. His dad was very much in the action of World War II and was never the same after he returned.  Dad has an older brother Paul, a sister named Joan in Fredericton, I younger brother named Kenny in hometown Georgetown and the youngest brother Eldon who moved out West, but sadly died early at the age of 33.

Life was not easy living in a small town on the far edge of Prince Edward Island.  But it was actually a bit of an industrial hub.  Georgetown had a large pier and a large fishing community and boat building was something very big and had been going on for generations in that town.

My dad's dad, Lawrence Sr. was the jailer in town actually.  And they had a nice big house in the centre of town, they work hard, but they enjoyed a pretty decent living when compared to the standards of the day.

Side note: Claim to local fame: Dad's grandfather was a celebrated woodworker. The story goes that there is a type of a chair called the "Batchilder" chair that he created. See Gallery for photo.

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Shared by Rory Batchilder on October 24, 2020
There is an assortment of videos in the Gallery section. They are all pretty short and entertaining mostly.
  1.  The Infamous "Grandpa Dance" video. Everyone takes a stab at it!  Dad shows us how it's done at the very end. (3 minutes).
  2. Dad fishing off the stern of the houseboat, Big Rideau Lake. (42 secs)
  3.  Dad's new cat Sammy, just hanging out on his foot. (20 secs)
  4. Rideau Canal lock transit, trip to Portland with the Iron Lady, 2017. (53 secs)
  5. Beach View, the Old Green Cottage, PEI, near Dad's hometown of Georgetown. (20 secs)
  6. Rory taking Dad out on his salvaged old boat. Just offshore from the old family campsite at Pickerel Park, Hay Bay, Ontario. (1 min 30 ses)
  7. Washing TeeWye the dog, with granddaughter Sarah. (2 mins 20 secs)

A shelf for Sarah

Shared by Debbie Batchilder on October 23, 2020
Had a pleasant surprise when I went to take a picture of Dad's signature on the back of a pine shelf that he made.  The shelf is one of many items that he made from the wood that was cut from their property before they build their home.  I remember that Dad put the shelf up for me in Sarah's bedroom when she was just a baby.  When I turned the shelf around I found the inscription "To Sarah   Grandpa 4/2/99".  

Had a dream about you this morning . . .

Shared by Rory Batchilder on October 21, 2020
    
     Had a dream about you this morning . . .  You were sitting peacefully, by yourself, at my house, I walked into the room. Your presence took me totally by surprise, as I knew right away I must be dreaming . . . because you had just passed last week! But it was comforting too, at the same time.
    One of the short videos in the VIDEOS section reminds me of the exact energy of that dream. In the video, I am coming around the side walkway of the houseboat taking in the lake's beauty.  There you were! . . . peacefully fishing - and we shared the moment together, then you pulled in something on your rod.
                                                . . . your commentary is priceless.
                                                                           RIP Dad.