Shared by Steven Tresner on December 6, 2019
I first met Les at one of the Garden Parties he and Patrick usually hosted in the winter.  He was an affable bear of a man who told good stories, but also knew when to listen.  He obviously loved his friends and enjoyed being around them.  Les was, also, a great believer in individual freedoms.  It was Les who married Koby and I in September of 2008 just before Prop 8 was passed banning gay marriages.  Les was not afraid of championing a cause he believed in.  He was a man of principles who felt things deeply.  I would like to end on a more personal note.  Les was not only the man who married Koby and I, he was the first one to celebrate the occasion with a few tears.  He will be deeply missed.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Steven Tresner
Shared by Pam Culley-McCullough on December 4, 2019
Ken and I loved Les. Whether we were taking him to The Garden Party at San Diego Botanic Gardens or just talking with him for a brief moment at a Moonlight Theater event he was always up on the latest national news. He was my go-to person for an informed opinion about most anything. Ken and I still laugh at how delighted Les was when (at Patrick's request) Ken made a metal part for Les' new toilet. After that, he called Ken his favorite plumber every chance he got! What a one-of-a-kind and wonderful man. 

We're so glad he could be in your life as long as he was, Patrick. You both complimented each other beautifully. Holding you both close...

Shared by Deborah Kraak on November 29, 2019
Patrick's favorite photograph of Les captures what I best recall about Les--a real joyfulness of spirit. He seemed to have such a delight in life and in what and whom he loved. In our last pone call, just a few weeks before he died, he commented about his sight getting worse----but then laughed in a kind of "But what can you do?" sort of way. Even when we were discussing politics ("Is what they're doing legal???"), he wasn't morose or grim. He was impassioned and outraged--and then laughed to recount how he had to get headphones to listen to the news, because hearing the politics annoyed Patrick. He also asked if I had seen Patrick's recent San Diego Opera photo--in full wig and moustachioes. He thought they were a kick--and very handsome. 

I'll miss him. 

My condolences to Patrick, their dogs, and to Les's friends and family.  

A Wonderful Life

Shared by Beth Deutsch on November 29, 2019
Thank you, Patrick, for sharing the amazing story of Les' life.  I didn't have all the details straight because I could not get Les to talk about himself.  I approached him many times at parties to grill him about his illustrious career.  He would quickly lose interest.  I soon learned that to capture his attention, I should come prepared with a good new joke and some witty banter.  If anyone has ever earned the right to be self-absorbed, it was Les, but thankfully, that is not his legacy.
Your wonderful love story would make a great book for an opera!  Maybe that can be your next project, Patrick.  

Shared with Love

Shared by MEGGAN TAYLOR on November 24, 2019
I had the privilege of meeting Les only a few times, but each of those times is etched in my heart. He was a generous and loving human being who was always willing to share his home. I felt instantly comfortable with him and could completely understand what had made Patrick love him.
His passing is  great loss to all who knew him. Surely his memory will be for a blessing and his life an example to us all.

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