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Times we talked in Heidelberg

July 30, 2018

I will never forget the wonderful times we sat, shared food, drinks (good Deutsche Bier, Wein, u.s.w) and talked about world problems in general plus work and racial issues in particular. I think of you often; I miss you and always will, Lilburn! 

Sailing memories with Lilburn and Rosemary

April 19, 2016

We had many adventures with Rosemary and Lilburn on our sailboat as we went through the French canals and sailed the Med.  One particular time in the French canals we ran aground on a sandbank and Lilburn, Tony and I jumped in the river to help get us off.  This happened several times as we made our way from the north of France until we reached the Med.  Lilburn was always the first one to help!  Miss him lots and remembering him on his birthday.

 

 

 

 

Seasons of Love sung by Sydney and Dawson at Arlington National Cemetery

July 30, 2015
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Seasons of Love sung by Sydney and Dawson (and Alyce) at Arlington National Cemetery on the first anniversary of their Grandpa's passing. It wouldn't be a song at ANC without a flyover accompaniment.

 Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty five thousand moments, oh dear
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?

In daylights, in sunsets
In midnights, in cups of coffee
In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife
In five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, a year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love?
Measure in love

Seasons of love (love)
Seasons of love (love)

Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty five thousand journeys to plan
Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

Sydney and Dawson's Forget-Me-Nots

May 22, 2015

I came up with the idea for the forget-me-nots, but Dawson and Sydney did 90% of the work: drawing the flowers which we scanned; deciding what they wanted to write (Sydney the cover; Dawson the inside), inputting it all into Publisher (they are learning lots of computer skills); filling the tubes with the seeds, and the tubes and cards into the velvet pouches.

Beyond the Sea - Chae Chambers

May 17, 2015
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Several people asked about Chawanna Chambers and the song she sang during the ceremony at Arlington. Chae was my student worker when I was the Director of the Center for Professional Development at TLU. She was a wonderful student and worker, and we shared many special times. Chae also knew Lilburn from his visits to my office, school events, and time spent at our house. She and her husband, Roderick, are in Northern Virginia for a short time as they prepare for their next assignment to Switzerland. As I was thinking of ways that I could personalize the standard Arlington ceremony one night as I was falling asleep, I saw and heard Chae singing! I knew what I wanted her to sing, and when I asked her if she would do so, she agreed so graciously despite the many demands on her time: caring for two children (one only eight months old),  working on her dissertation, teaching online, and preparing to move.  Beyond the Sea is La Mer with lyrics. It is on the first LP Lilburn gave me in 1962: Bouquet of Love by Percy Faith, and it continued to be one of our favorite songs. The words hold even more meaning now than they did when Lilburn was across the sea in Germany while I was in Evanston, IL. I knew that Chae would add a special note to the ceremony, but she exceeded my expectations. I think we were all touched by her heartfelt performance, and I cannot thank her enough. Please view and listen to the video. The helicopter noise ends at about 45 seconds.

Never a Stranger

March 7, 2015

I met and worked with Rosemary at TLU and those years were the happiest for me. I didn't have much interaction with Lilburn, only the times he visited the office and the times we were invited to the Dawson home. I am usually shy whenever I meet someone new, but Lilburn always put me at ease with the biggest smile and always a hug and a kiss. I will always remember his warmth and generosity of spirit. I imagine the man never met a stranger! Can't help but love him. XOXOXO Monica Hinson

Lilburn and Alyce in Paris

December 31, 2014

This is a Facebook post from Alyce on August 12, 2014:

Random memory while watching French Kiss at home sick on the couch. My Dad made/let me drive his manual BMW 5-series into Paris and around the Arc d'Triumph. Getting in was fine, getting out was terrifying. Then he said now I could drive anywhere. Ha! I think that was the same day we had the best dessert of my life. We ordered chocolate mousse, and they left the serving bowl on the table. Serve yourself, all you can eat chocolate mousse. That day is a good memory, or perhaps a mashup of two good memories. And we topped it off by spending the next few days studying French Impressionist painters. Miss him.

Lilburn a.k.a. Bub

September 30, 2014

I’ve been asked about Lilburn’s name and why some people call him Bub.

Lilburn was Bub to family and friends until 1977 when he was 37 years old. He got the nickname Bub from his sister Pat who is about 15 months younger than Lilburn. She wanted to say brother but it came out closer to bubba. Others in the family (the four siblings to follow) shortened this to Bub which followed him to school and beyond. It also made it clear that people were not referring to or calling his father, also Lilburn.

What Bub experienced over the years is that while Bub was used as a name of endearment by family and friends, it had less positive connotations that included condescension and mock friendliness. Some people also distorted it and called him Bubba or Bubby (not in an affectionate way).

The moment when Bub decided to be Lilburn was in 1977 when we watched the TV mini-series, Roots. Kunta Kinta resisted being given a new name, Toby. Lilburn identified with this and determined to be called by his birth name. This was also after his father, Lilburn, Sr., had passed so he wanted to acknowledge his love and respect for him as well.

Close family and friends continued to call him Bub. When we were around other people or when I spoke or wrote about him, I used Lilburn. When we were alone, I often used Bub. We were Bub and Ro. (I resisted any nick name for years because I don’t like being called Rose or Rosie, but Bub started to call me Ro and it stuck, but only with very close friends and family.)

The name Lilburn is not without its challenges. It is such an unusual name that people mis-hear it and mispronounce it. He was often called Wilbur, Wilburn, Milburn, or the like. So he took to spelling it after telling someone his name. Often that didn’t help.

We don’t know the derivation of the name Lilburn. There is a Lilburn, GA (headquarters of the Lewy Body Dementia Association), but we have found no connection between the Dawson family and Georgia. There is a famous historical figure in England, John Lilburne, who was an abolitionist; sounds like an intriguing connection. We know too little about the generations preceding Lilburn’s mother and father. It really is a mystery!

Happy 48th Anniversary!

September 10, 2014

48 years ago today, Lilburn (Bub) and I were married in Los Angeles. CA, after a 4.5 year courtship (Bub’s term) that included three years apart while he was in the Air Force in Germany and I was in college at Northwestern. That was before inexpensive trans-Atlantic calls, Skype, and e-mail, but we wrote letters – lots of letters! Bub was the envy at mail call. We saw each other three times for a total of about one month during those years. After a challenging first year home in Chicago/Evanston, Lilburn left ahead of me to get a job and an apartment in LA ($99/month for a one-bedroom furnished place). I followed to start a new teaching job there driving across country, not with the girl friend who was to have accompanied me, but with our good mutual friend (like a cousin to the Dawsons), Wayne (“Champ”) Champion who shared Lilburn’s birthday and with whom we reconnected after many decades before his death in 2012. I have tales to tell of that non-stop trip – especially at a gas station in Amarillo, TX, on a Saturday night. It was 1966, after all.

We would have been married earlier but when we arrived at the office to get our marriage license, I thought Lilburn had cash or a check and he thought I did. We had money to get either the license or our car from the parking lot. We got the car. The following week we went back for the license and on Saturday morning stood in line with other couples at the LA County Court House. Our witness was the young man standing behind us (who didn’t speak much English). I’m not saying where we got our rings which were replaced and added to over the years around the world. Bub bought me a bouquet outside the court house. We went home, had tuna sandwiches, and watched football. We had thought that one day we would have a traditional church wedding with all of the pomp and circumstance, but in retrospect, our modest ceremony was the start of a marriage that withstood the test of time while many that started with grand events did not.

On September 10, 1966, we promised to have and to hold from that day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. And we had our share of all six! We had hoped to reach our golden 50th anniversary – and beyond. In the end, the worse, the poorer, and the sickness were far outweighed by the better, the richer, and the in health – so each year with the one love of my life was golden. I miss him so.

The Music on this Memorial Site

September 8, 2014

Beyond the Sea - Percy Faith (Bouquet)

Since 1962 when Lilburn (“Bub”) was in Germany and I was in Evanston, Beyond the Sea was one of our songs. We liked this instrumental Percy Faith version from the Bouquet album the best, but the words had special meaning then as we were separated by the Atlantic. It has special meaning today because we are separated again - but will meet again.

 

Somewhere beyond the sea
Somewhere waitin' for me
My lover stands on golden sands
And watches the ships that go sailin'

Somewhere beyond the sea
He's there watchin' for me
If I could fly like birds on high
Then straight to his arms I'd go sailin'

It's far beyond the stars
It's near beyond the moon
I know beyond a doubt
My heart will lead me there soon

We'll meet beyond the shore
We'll kiss just as before
Happy we'll be beyond the sea
And never again I'll go sailin'

I know beyond a doubt
My heart will lead me there soon
We'll meet, I know we'll meet, beyond the shore
We'll kiss just as before
Happy we'll be beyond the sea
And never again I'll go sailin'

Clair De Lune  - Suite bergamasque, L. 75_ III. Cl, (by Debussy) played by Steve Anderson (Classics for the Heart)

This was our favorite classical piece because it reminded us of the first two weeks we knew each other and I cut all of my classes at Northwestern to spend time with Bub. We spent hours at The Hut talking and listening to jazz and classical music on the juke box. We both liked this by Debussy. Our LP has lots of scratches from the many times it was played.

 

I'll Be Seeing You - Chris Botti featurng Billy Childs (To Love Again)

I think that Lilburn collected every Chris Botti LP/CD. This was a favorite. It has special meaning for me now as I see Lilburn every day in so many places.

 I'll be seeing you in all the old familiar places
That this heart of mine embraces all day through
In that small cafe, the park across the way
The children's carousel,
The chestnut trees, the wishing well

I'll be seeing you in every lovely summer's day
In everything that's light and gay
I'll always think of you that way

I'll find you in the morning' sun
And when the night is new
I'll be looking at the moon
But I'll be seeing you
I'll find you in the morning sun
And when the night is new
I'll be looking at the moon
But I'll be seeing you

Winelight - Grover Washington, Jr. (Winelight) and 'Round Midnight - Miles Davis (Round about Midnight)

These represent just two of Lilburn’s favorite jazz artists. We listened to music almost every day together, and Alyce and I played these and other of his jazz favorites during his final week.

I Miss You So – Chris Conner (I Miss You So)

This is another song from our earliest days when we were separated for three years after only a short time together. I love the cover of the LP which we still have.

Those happy hours
I spent with you
That lovely afterglow
Most of all, I miss you so

Your sweet caresses
Each rendezvous
Your voice so soft and low
Most of all, I miss you so

You once filled my heart
With no regrets, no fears
Now you find my heart
Filled to the top with tears

I'll always love you
And want you too
How much you'll never know
Most of all, I miss you so

Rosemary's red face

August 27, 2014

Rosemary and I worked together at two different universites in Europe but I was also a student of Rosemary.  We were taking a class in Heidleberg and the class and Rosemary and Lilburn were going with us.  We were enjoying dinner and conversation and out of the blue Lilburn asked everyone "where was the strangest place we have had sex."  It was quite for a moment and then Lilburn said "I'll go first".  Needless to say it was a great evening.  I don't know how the rest of the night went for Lilburn when he got home.

I can honestly say I never saw Lilburn without a smile. Keep on smilin' dude.

Rosemary we love you and when things settle down let's get together.  We dont't get that cold ugly white stuff you are so not fond of.  I am retired we can catch a football game.

August 14, 2014

I really wish I could remember more about Lilburn when he was well. My parents have told me so many stories about him, and seeing the ones of this site make me realize what wonderful (not to mention sociable) guy he was. Unfortunetely, all I remember is more recent, after the sickness. Yet throughout all of that, I still couldn't help but notice this constant humor he had, this warmth, and the ability to make jokes (about himself or others) no matter how badly he was feeling - and people like that are truly one in a thousand. I wish I could have known him more. 

August 14, 2014

I had the pleasure (and privilege) to get to know Lilburn about 30 years ago when I moved to Europe. I also had the pleasure to travel with him (and Rosemary and Alyce, of course) during many of those years. There were also fun visits when we all returned stateside. There are so many great memories, it’s hard to pick out my favorites.

A lot of my recollections involve Lilburn armed with a video camera. As someone who’s not fond of getting my picture or video taken, I fought it for awhile. That is until Alyce told me not to, as it just encouraged him more. Good advice, Alyce!

I also remember being a little miffed at Lilburn while we took a university course together in London on Musicals in London (for credit--seriously). While I sweated out my final paper for two days, Lilburn whipped his out in about an hour the night before our last class—and his paper was better!

Thanks to Lilburn’s love of fine dining, there were more great food memories than I’ll ever be able to recount. There was this one trip to Venice when we had eaten fabulous meals night after night. I don’t know if it was my budget or waistline that prompted me to suggest we eat somewhere simple one night—like maybe a fast food pizza joint? Of course that simple place turned out to be some incredible palazzo with frescoed ceilings and waiters in tuxedos. And my simple slice of pizza turned out to be a giant fish baked in parchment served for the table.

There were many such experiences all over Europe.  While I don’t recall the food so much in all these places--or even the restaurants, I certainly remember Lilburn's pleasant (and funny) company.

No matter how many different places we were able to enjoy together, it seems Lilburn never took it for granted how lucky he was to be able to take such special trips and have such incredible experiences.  In my mind, that was one of his many special qualities—an unwavering appreciation of the world around him—wherever it might be.

And now that I think back about all the great times I spent around Lilburn, I realize that his appreciation of life wasn’t just about visiting fabulous places or eating in great restaurants, because two of my favorite recollections involve much simpler get-togethers. One was about 13 years ago when Lilburn and Rosemary came to visit Chuck, Anna and I when we lived in England. Our luxurious little trip that time was a couple of days staying in tents, eating camp food and chasing around a very happy three-year-old at Wells-Next-the-Sea (yes, that’s a real name). I’m not sure, but my guess is that it had been a while since Lilburn had spent the night in a tent. But he was just as cheerful and happy as if we’d been staying at some posh resort. And he didn’t even complain about the rain, or the fact that I had forgotten to pack sheets for our inflatable mattresses.

But I think my very favorite memory might be Christmas, ‘98 when Anna was 10 months old. Lilburn and Rosemary came to our house in Landstuhl for Christmas Eve to spend the night and enjoy Christmas Day with us. That overnight visit turned into three full days just hanging out, eating leftover ham, and laughing at a goober. I remember Lilburn saying to us (as we were being entertained by Anna’s antics) that we really should be video-taping all of this. Of course, we got a video camera shortly thereafter. Great advice, Lilburn--thanks!

Remembering My Brother-In-Law by Derrick Brown

August 12, 2014

We went to Seguin Texas to spend some time with Bub and Rosemary to help celebrate Bub's birthday.  Bub and I spent time watching the Bulls playoffs and bird watching while eating breakfast.  We had a good time sitting on the patio and enjoying dinner as the sun went down.  We celebrated Bub's birthday by going to Ruth Chris.  The first thing Bub said was, what kind of wine he was going to order with his steak.  Even though he was not able to have some wine, he remembered that was one of the first thing he would do when he went to a restaurant.  I will miss the talks that we use to have and tease him about the Chicago Cubs.

"Lilburn as Patient"

August 10, 2014

What a beautiful memorial for Lilburn.  It was such a pleasure being able to learn about Lilburn during his years past prior to him being a "patient'.  I can truly say it was a pleasure getting to know Lilburn and his family throughout my time providing care for Him in his home. Seeing Rosemary as a loving advocate while providing such amazing, loving and unconditional care to Lilburn was a gift. The humor Lilburn continued to have throughout his last days, was so beautiful and always brought a huge smile to my face and heart! Thank you for allowing me to come into your home & treating me with kindness as we worked together as a team to provide Lilburn with loving care.   Kari Jo

true love

August 10, 2014

There are so many wonderful stories here and even though I didn't spend nearly enough time with Lilburn, I appreciate all that has been written and it all fits the FUN and interesting man I knew ever since the late 1980s.  Alyce, I love your "traveling with Daddy" stories.  Whenever I think of Lilburn I think of Rosemary too - no surprise there! - and my most memorable item to share is about when they met (at Northwestern, I believe).  They said it was love at first sight and true love forever.  What an amazing and special couple!  As a hobby, they collected sculptures of couples in a loving embrace, and to this day I think of Rosemary and Lilburn every time I see a sculpture that they might have collected for themselves.

 

A Magnanimous Man

August 3, 2014

As I remembered so many things about Lilburn during the past week, one theme emerges often: his generosity and caring for others. This manifested itself in so many ways. If someone – just about anyone (friend, family member, or stranger) – needed a roof over his/her head, a meal, someone to talk to, or cash, Lilburn would not hesitate to help. Here are some examples that came to my mind in the wee small hours of the morning (the time I miss him most of all).

Even when we had only tiny one-bedroom apartments, Lilburn would make room for another person. During our first year of marriage, I came home to find a stranger in our apartment. As Alyce wrote, Lilburn never met a stranger. He had met this man whose name I have forgotten, struck up a conversation, and invited him to stay with us until he got on his feet. Fortunately, he was a nice man and didn’t stay very long as I recall. He was just one of many who slept on our couches, in our dining rooms, in our guest rooms, or wherever there was room from days to weeks to months and years. In addition to sharing his home, Lilburn shared his heart with our guests, welcoming them as family. I had to smile as I thought of these guests from years ago because one of the Lewy Body Dementia symptoms Lilburn had when we were in Texas is seeing imaginary people. In his case, most of these were guests in our home who needed to be fed (by me). The only such guest he ever questioned was Shaquille O’Neal who slept on our couch and should have been able to find another place to stay.

This generosity extended beyond our home. I remember at least two occasions when Lilburn offered fellow travelers a place in our hotel room because they had not found a place to stay – in Venice and Vienna. Yes, I shake my head and smile when I think of these times!

If someone needed money, Lilburn would do whatever he could (sometimes, more). Even though these were often to be “loans,” he rarely gave expecting to be paid back - and often was not.

Lilburn would volunteer his services – and mine – when someone needed something we could help with from pitching in on a project, to teaching a skill, to providing transportation, to helping to get a job, to serving as a tour guide (his favorite!), and more.

His kind nature extended to animals. All of our pets were either strays Lilburn brought home or animals others didn’t want or couldn’t take care of. Our most recent cat in Oklahoma adopted Lilburn and would go home with no one else (trainer or student). Lilburn came home with Schatzie and all of the kitten paraphernalia as a “gift” to me. (Unfortunately, we think our house cat had no chance against the coyotes when she got out.)

He loved to give gifts. Of course, Alyce and I benefited from his generosity, but others, too, probably still have things from Lilburn. About four years ago, we were lucky he had an honest physical therapist to whom he had given a very expensive watch in appreciation.

Yes, there was a generous heart behind that beautiful smile. 

August 2, 2014

Anton shared this observation:
I always thought that the parties didn't start at Canyon Lake until Uncle Lilburn got there.

From Owen:
Uncle Lilburn's laugh was the best.  Even if I didn't get the joke, he made me laugh.

In recent years, I've had the privilege of sharing many Thanksgivings and other special events with Lilburn and Rosemary, and I feel like they are part of my family.  I'll miss having the opportunity to listen to Lilburn's stories about his family, his travels, and his life.  His memory will always bring a smile to me and to Owen and Anton.

'If it's the last dance, dance backwards.'  Cooper Edens 



   

The cool guy

August 1, 2014

growing up in Germany, Lilburn was the one cool guy I knew.  I always was fascinated with his jazz, and he always dressed great.  Going over to Alyces place always meant I could see Lilburn, and feel cool by association, even if only for a little while.  I am grateful my kids got to know him a little bit in his later years in Seguin.  I wish I could say how much more he meant to me, but somehow, I just feel sad for his passing.  


The Best Grandpa!

August 1, 2014

Sydney wrote this story and drew the picture of her giving Grandpa a checkup. She was his best medicine!

 

Grandpa, I wish you were alive. I really miss you a lot. I had a lot of fun with you. I liked giving you checkups. I want to be a doctor. I’m working really hard with my real doctor kit from Grandma. I love you.

Love, Sydney

July 31, 2014
My father introduced me to this poem many years ago.  When I think of many things like Michelin meals, vacations, Europe, laughter ... Fun, I will think of  Lilburn and you, Rosemary.  

Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep (anonymous)

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

The dance of life

July 30, 2014

Many of my fondest memories are of going dancing at bars and discos with Rosemary and Lilburn all over Europe.  Lilburn loved music and he loved to dance.  Over the last few years as he became less mobile, I'd tease him and tell him he had to do his standing and walking exercises so we could go out dancing again.  Remembering those times of friendship and celebration I found this poem that represents a part of Lilburn's life.

Many Winters by Nancy Wood

All my life is a dance.

When I was young and feeling the earth,
 my steps were quick and easy.
The beat of the earth was so loud
 that my drum was silent beside it.
All of my life rolled out from my feet

Like my land which had no end as far as I could see.

The rhythm of my life was pure and free.
As I grew older my feet kept dancing so hard

That I wore a spot in the earth.

At the same time I made a hole in the sky.
I danced to the sun and the rain and the moon lifted me up

So that I could dance to the stars.

My head touched the clouds sometimes

And my feet danced deep in the earth

So that I became the music I danced to everywhere

It was the music I dance to 

It was the music of life.
Now my steps are slow and hard

And my body fails my spirit,

Yet my dance is still within me and

My song is the air I breathe.

My song insists that I keep dancing forever.

My song insists that I keep rhythm

With all of the earth and the sky.
My song insists that I will never die.

 

Facebook Posts to Alyce

July 30, 2014

Michelle Dunn Peters Alyce, I'm so sorry.....may he rest in eternal peace. My heart goes out to you, Rosemary and the kids.

Beth Christenson Bienvenu I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm thinking of you all.

Christina Sharkey Biggert We'll b thinking of u and your family.

Eli Poist Alyce-My prayers are with you and your family. When you have a moment would you share one of your great memories of him with us?

Traci Swindell Haggard Thinking of you all. Please let us know if we can help with anything.

Lisa Gerbig Johnson So sorry Alyce

Adriana Duffy-Hörling Very sorry to hear, Alyce...

Sandra Bulloch Broomfield So sorry for your loss.

Janie Page Prayers of comfort to you, Alyce. I am so sorry-be encouraged by knowing he is in a much better place. Ditto to Ell's post!

Kareen Ellen Lawson So very sorry for your loss Alyce. Thinking of all of you.

Nancy Vega My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Laura Gallagher Weeks Alyce, thinking of you and your family. Deepest condolences for you loss.

Beth Hoke Sorry for your loss, Alyce.

Ken Chun :-(

Raphaela Quiñones Eleuterio I am so sorry, Alyce Dawson. Know that you and your family are in my prayers. I wish you peace.

Catherine Fitzsimmons I'm so sorry for your loss, Alyce and Rosemary, and Sydney and Dawson. He was a truly special person. I am glad Natasha got the chance to meet him, even if she might not remember. Some of my dad's best stories are about Lilburn. I will miss him.

Susan Dilworth Your father was a great man. Never to be forgotten. My Condolences!

Michelle Shaffer Moore Alyce, so sorry for your loss. I remember what an easy smile your dad always had.

Marge Trachtenberg Alyce and family - you are in my heart at this time. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. So happy that you could be there to see him on his way...

Ken Abbe Very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

Amanda Archibald Gosh Alyce. I remember your father with fondness from HDB. I know how much he influenced your life and your great success. So glad you could be with him at his passing.

Debbie Tureck So sorry for your loss. I'm sorry we're out if town - I'm home Sunday if there's anything we can do.

Ron Waters Carolyn and I send our love and condolences to you, Rosemary, Mark and the kids. Lilburn was a great presence on this earth and left a living legacy in his progeny.

Chantel Pederson My condolences to you and your family.

Sharyn Tureck Rosemary and Alyce, we are so sorry for your loss. Wish we were home so we could help out

Karen Rodriguez I'm so sorry for your loss Alyce and Rosemary.

Sara Slovacek Greene Alyce, I know how hard this is right now. Cling to the good memories. I am lifting you in prayer right now.

Lee Liddell My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending much love and sorrow from Hawaii.

Cathy N Rainer Alyce, you are the most gracious human being, and my first thought was: what a wonderful daughter to have provided safe and caring respite for your father to enjoy his family with you. Grief will be your companion for a while, with the associated special memories. Here's to those memories. Love cath

Maria Greenberg I'm so sorry or your loss Alyce. Your dad was such a sweet man. Please let me know what I can do to help you and your family.

Traci Meyer-Ries Omg so sorry for your loss peace be with you and your mom and family.

Jeff Lipscomb I am very sorry to hear this, and pass on all my condolences to you and your mom. My feelings and support, for your pain.

Martha Magroski My heart is sad and full and grateful that you had him in your lives. Such a lovely smile. I know you're tired. Wishing you and Sweet Ro some rest. HUGS.

James A. Young Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Alyce Dawson

Donna Robb Leonardis I'm sorry to read this Alyce. My thoughts and prayers are being sent to your father and all of you.

Keena Butcher I am sorry about your loss.

Reiko Riley Condolences to you and Rosemary and the rest of your family. Love to you all

Maureen Walsh Hunt i am so sorry for your family's loss. Today he is a whole person with no more pain and frustration. Prayers to all.

Michelle Balzola So sorry, thoughts are with you all.

Jacob Schnabel We are very sorry for your loss and pray that he is now at peace, free from the disease.

Anna B. Scott Freedom in such a bittersweet way...take care of yourself and go easy. Much love.

Brett Welborn So sorry for your loss, Alyce. Prayers are with you and your family in this most difficult time

Karen Ely King Thinking of you and your family.

Katja Hornbeck Oh no Alyce! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Wishing you and your family strength during this difficult time. Blessed be.

Sheri Stephens-Hollie Alyce, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers go out to your family as you all stand strong in support of one another. Please let me know if there is anything I can do…even if it’s just to listen to a story or two about your Dad.

Christina Wilson Bowers No words. Just love flowing.

Anita Ballard Martin I'm so sorry for your loss, Alyce.

Dan Heissel Alyce, Your Family is in our thoughts and prayers. So sorry for your loss.

Larry Nisenoff We trust his memory will serve as a blessing

Christine Leonard Thinking of you, sending love and comfort. So sorry for your loss.

Beth Arner Cavey So sorry for your loss.

Debra Hein Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.

Kathleen McEnerny So sorry to hear of your family's loss.

Lisa Langeslay Glenn our thoughts and prayers are with you. Hope your memories bring you comfort.

Beth Davis Alyce, may you be surrounded by peace and joyful memories. So sorry for your loss.

Rosie Bombaugh So sorry for your loss

Karen Warkentien Alyce, I am so sorry for you and your family on the loss of your father. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Bettina Smalley So very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers to you and your family.

Tonya Campbell So sorry for your loss Alyce. Hugs to you and your family.

Michelle Petschauer Spillman So very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you all. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

Adrian Bryant I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences go to you and your family.

Cathy Rodriguez So sorry for your loss Alyce. Praying for strength and comfort to you and your family.

Paula Marie Very sad Alyce. I am sorry for the loss of your dad. Sending lots of love to you and your family during this difficult time.

Mary Kay Jones Alyce my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Elisabeth LeembruggenLove you guys, thoughts & prayers with you, Mum Ro, grandones and Mark. We are remembering Lilburn coming to CCC to pick up Ro after the first 'RFP', dashing & charming; New Year's in HD, his lovely laugh-chuckle, days teaching 'Wang' in FFM and Ro/his kind help getting Sam in the industry. Hugs all round from both of us to you all. X

Kathy Spruill Dudley Alyce my thoughts are with you and Ro. I am so sorry that I won't be able to joke with your Dad, but I have many memories.

Elizabeth M. Lins Alyce, I am so sorry to hear about your father. What a wonderful person he must have been.

Melissa Reyes-Abbey Alyce, my thoughts are with you and your family and friends for your loss.

Kymberlee Pace Gilkey Alyce, I am so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself, and always remember the good times. At some point, the tears will turn into smiles as you remember your dear Daddy. It won't be tomorrow and it might not be for months, but it will happen. I lost my dad a couple of years ago, and I still cry but I also smile a lot knowing that he is always in my heart.

David Leit Aly - so sorry for your loss. I loved your "Travelling with Daddy" story. May his memory be for a blessing.

Elena Dryden Alyce, Mrs. Dawson, Mark and beautiful twins.. I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of Mr. Dawson. You are all in our prayers today. much love to all of you.

Kerryellen Kelly Alyce, I'm so very sorry for your loss

Elisabeth Leembruggen Dear Rosemary, Dear Alyce Dawson, Dear Mark Schnabel--we cannot express deeply enough how sorry we are for your loss. Simply want to say we love you guys; we love Lilburn, remember him such fondness. You have been such a big part of our lives in so many ways. We join you now in thoughts & prayers and love! Let us know if there's anything we can do. xo Beth & Sam

Martha Magroski The photos on this site are breaking my heart. And HIS heart and outgoing nature and presence in the (ANY) moment are evident in any photo I ever saw of him -- and I looked at many the other week at the cabin.

Marge Trachtenberg What a beautiful tribute -- I feel like I was just introduced to an amazing man.

 Jo Willis What a wonderful photo of you and your Dad! So sorry for your loss, Alyce! Loads of love to you and your family...

Stacey Haralson Street I'm so so sorry, Alyce. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Don't hesitate to let me know if there's anything I can do to help.

Alexis Bianca Gault Oh, dear, I'm so sorry. Just from his photos I can tell he was a wonderful man.

Erneste Carla Zimmermann dear Rosemary and Alyce - I´m so sorry to hear this, still remember him from good old times. Wish you lots of strength to come over it in a while

Amanda Schnabel I'm so sorry for your loss Alyce. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dawn Maureen McGuinness Alyce Dawson and Rosemary - I'm SO sorry for your loss. I know it's been difficult for a while and you did so much to help him feel comfortable and surrounded by love. I hope you can focus on the blessing of him in your lives as father (and grandfather) / husband. May you find strength in each other and all your relatives and friends.

Glenna Hauser So very sorry for your loss. I remember your dad fondly. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you, your mom and family.

Dave Bookman I'm very sorry to hear about this Alyce.

Steve Engle So sorry for your loss, Alyce. My condolences.

Anita Dzonic Alyce, I'm also very sorry. Mein herzliches Beileid!

Tracey Riley Wishing you and your Mom lots of love and peace during this time of transition! XO

Martha Magroski Dads and Daughters are such a special duo. Major HUGS.

Elisabeth Leembruggen We can't stop thinking & talking about you guys. Sam was frying a schnitzel, talking to me about special days with Lilburn, remembering when he stayed with you all when he had to go on site early the next day in HD for a training, and so on. Wonderful memories & we like the new ones too. It was so great to share a meal in NL just a few months ago. xo

Amanda Archibald Absolutely LOVED the pictures of you and your family as well. A lot of memories for sure.

Paula Marie Wishing you and your family peace. I love the stories and especially the pictures of your dad.

Barbara McNeil Love you!

Brian Triplett Very sorry to hear of your father's passing, Alyce. My thoughts are with you.

Kerstin Wheeler i am so sorry for your loss , your dad was such a kind and fun person I am glad ive got to meet him.

Edward M Riley Kind of choking still as I remember the year in Germany when "Bub" and I both won USAF athlete of the year (basketball & track and field), the card and domino games in LA, your beautiful, intelligent and well educated Mom, and the little girl with the big "natura.l" take care family. Liliburn is resting well....lol

Dana South Pope Sorry for your loss. We're never ready to give up a parent.

Facebook Posts to Marilyn and Pat

July 30, 2014

 Gwen Wilson Sending my condolences to Marilyn Brown, Tiffany Doby, Felicia Lish Brandon, Joe Underwood, Danielle Perkins. I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for the family.

Marilyn Brown

No matter how well you think that you are prepared for a loved one's transition, when it comes, it is very difficult and it leaves a void in your life. I ask my FB friends to lift our family up in prayer. My oldest brother, Bub, made his transition last night. He is at peace now and is no longer suffering. I am sure it will be a great reunion with our parents and Billy and George in heaven. Another angel looking down on us.

Tiffany Parson Sorry for your loss Ms Marilyn

Wanda Mays Marilyn, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Brenda Harris I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I will keep your family in my prayers during this time.

Velma Watson I'm so sorry to hear that. May God give you and the family strength to carry on. God bless

Lucia Norris Sorry for you loss and praying for you all may your brother rest in paradise with your parents and imagine the reunion they are having.

Rick Perry Marilyn, sorry for your loss and our prayers and condolences to your family.

Pearl Johnson My prayers are with you and yours. May God give you the strength and comfort in your time of grief. God Bless You. Much Love & More Hugs

David B. Weeks Sorry for your loss Marilyn. Will be praying for you and your family.

Shemaye Doby SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS WILL KEEP YOUR FAMILY IN MY PRAYERS

Shirley Ray So sorry to hear this prayers going up for you and your family!!

Gwen Wilson Sorry for your loss mama Marilyn. You and the family are in my prayers.

Gina Buchanan Sorry for your loss

Bunny Gatewood With Sympathy to you and your Family
There’s an unbroken thread that is woven from love, And it keeps family always together, For nothing’s as real as the moments we’ve shared – They live on in our memories forever. As difficult as this time is, may you find comfort in knowing that your loved one will always be with you……and the memories you shared will forever be a part of your life.

DeborahTrouble Williams Sorry for your Loss Keeping your family in my Prayers...

Letitia Andrews You and your family are in my prayers.

Deborah Wallace Sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

Debbie Goggins-Mayes So sorry for your loss. Will keep your family in prayer.

Cynthia Hernandez Sorry for your loss Marilyn Brown

James Gary My condolences to you and your family on your loss. Remember the good times you had together, and the love you all shared. May those thoughts sustain you during these trying times.

Aida Velazquez So sorry for your loss prayers for you and your family God Bless !!
May he RIP Amen

Chenay Hatwood You and your family are in my prayers

Brenda Buchanan I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Brittany Mack Sorry for your loss.

Glynis Sidney Sorry for your loss.

Karl Barnesjr My prayers are with you.

Francena Adams My sympathy. I always thought it was so cool that you had a lot of older siblings. I remember they would make sure we would behave at sleepovers. May your fond memories comfort you during this difficult time.

Connie Hammer-Brown Prayers sent for you and your entire family. Sorry for your loss.

Demerette Hemingway Kee I am so sorry for your loss. God keep you and your family during this difficult time.

Sharon Wharton My condolences to you and your Family.

Muriel Irving My condolences to you and your family, many prayers for you.

MzPayow McPherson Prayers for u and your family mar

Birdis Walker Marilyn I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences and deepest sympathy to you and your family.
May God comfort you thru it all. Will keep you and the family lifted in prayer.

Crystal Lloyd How I know so well!! Praying for you and your family! Luv y'all!

Valerie Howlett I am so sorry to hear this. You have my condolences and prayers for you and your family.

Dwayne DJdocmatrix Oats So sorry for your loss

Sharon Perry Butler Prayers going up for u my family always....

Tekila J Spells My condolences to u and your family. Sending prayers up

Sharon Perry Butler Amen . Family always

David Mack My prayers and condolences go out to you and your family earth has no sorrow heaven cannot hear.

Lynn Brown Condolences to you and your family. May God's love surround you and your family.

La'Trice M. Burns My prayers and condolences are with you and the family during this most difficult time.

Gina Starling Barnes Awww naw sis. I've have you guys in Prayer , yes it is hard , but God will see you through hold on to God's unchanging hand Love ya!

Helen Sanders Pat, you and your family have our deepest sympathy. We will keep you in our prayers. Love

Janet Alexander Davis Sending prayers your way...

Wanda Mays Prayers up for you!

Cindy Darville Grimes Praying for you and your family.

Dale McGrier-Strong Sorry to learn of the loss of your brother, Lilburn. Deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Lisa Valrie Sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and the family.

Janice Aikens Peaks My Condolences to you and your Family.

Dawn K. Jackson Pat you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May you feel Gods loving arms around you.

Mary Burns Pat, My prayers are with you and your family. I haven't been on FB in a few days,so I did not know of the loss of your brother. Stay strong and God be with you all. Love you, Mary (sis-in-law).

Joe Underwood r.i.p uncle Bub #deathsux

Messages to Rosemary

July 30, 2014

So grateful for all of the mesages on Facebook and via email!

Tiffany Doby

Aunt Ro. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for being there for uncle bub all these years. You guys are in my prayers. Love you.

Richard Todd

Wiyada and I are now in Las Vegas and we send both our love and sincerest sympathy. I met Lilburn on a couple of occasions at OU events there in Germany so I can't claim to know him beyond short casual conversation. However, I know you and how you spoke of him so I am well aware of what he meant to you. You can prepare all you want but you will never be ready for the loss of a loved one. I can only hope that the wonderful memories you shared will comfort you and you know now he is free of the illness that so altered both of your lives. Stay strong. In time you two will meet again.

Richard Oscar Riley, Jr.

Aunt Rosemary & Alyce, My heart aches for your loss. It pains me because it seems like I am losing family left and right. I am relieved that Uncle Bub is no longer in discomfort, battling the loss of memories or dignities associated with dementia. I hope the two of you take comfort in the memories and the time shared with him. Even though my mind knows this is the cycle of life, when the time for loss comes, the pain is never dull. I love you both and will keep you in my prayers during this time of mourning. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Love, Richie

Elizabeth Leembruggen Kalberg

Dear Rosemary, Dear Alyce Dawson, Dear Mark Schnabel--we cannot express deeply enough how sorry we are for your loss. Simply want to say we love you guys; we love Lilburn, remember him such fondness. You have been such a big part of our lives in so many ways. We join you now in thoughts & prayers and love! Let us know if there's anything we can do. xo Beth & Sam

Martha Magroski

My heart is full with gratitude for the life of Lilburn Dawson who passed away last night with his wonderful wife and daughter at his side. His hand was always held for two weeks of loving care. Unfortunately not all passings are gentle with sweet smiles at the end.

Beth Christenson Bienvenu Rosemary, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and Alyce and the kids, and I hope that the memories that people will share on the memorial page will be a comfort to you.

Carolyn Cox-Harmes I am so sorry!! So many mixed feelings. . . .so much love and hugs with prayers for All you need. .from a fellow warrior who Has walked in your shoes!! Dear Lilburn. . And most wonderful Ro!!!

Brad Morgan So sorry Rosemary. My deepest condolences.

Traci Swindell Haggard Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help during this time.

Michelle Dunn Peters Oh Rosemary......I am so sorry. May Lilburn's memory live on in the beautiful memories you will always have and cherish..

Donna Roberts Sergio and I are thinking of you and cherishing our fond memories. Sending love and hugs.

Beth Christenson Bienvenu I just read the memorials and was touched to learn so much more about him and your life together. Thank you for sharing those stories with us.

Valerie Bowman I am sad to hear of your loss, Rosemary. I have tried to share with people about this disease that also took a dear friend of ours. That was the first I had heard of it and have learned much from you. May you be supported by your loving community? Thinking of you and your family. He seemed like a wonderful man.

Susan Hohstadt Rosemary, hugs and love!

Kathy Robertson Rosemary, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Mary Sifuentes I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you Alyce Mark Sydnee and Dawson and the rest of the family. I am so glad i got the opportunity to know you all. I miss you all.

Ron Waters Carolyn and I send our love and condolences to you, Alyce, Mark and the kids. Lilburn was a great presence on this earth and left a living legacy in his progeny.

Fiona Burdick Dave and I are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. You are an amazing advocate and I learned so much about this horrible disease from you. Many hugs ♡♡♡!

Lee Liddell Rosemary, Sending so much love and sorrow.

Davida Mahoney Thinking of you and your family.

Sam Razzaque My condolences to you and your family.

Jane Littlefield Love, hugs, and prayers from Maine for you, Rosemary, and your dear family. What a lovely tribute.

Patty Hogan Dewberry So sorry for your loss

Tracye LaBattes Parker Rosemary, I am so sorry for your loss. My best to you, Alyce and all of your family. My prayers are with you.

Rosalie M. Spielman I'm sorry for you and your family's loss. . You have been so strong & brave & my thoughts will be with you.

Sheila Start Gibson Rosemary, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Julianne Kopas Weiskircher Dear Rosemary, Please accept my sympathies for your loss. Your lives together were ones well lived. Your tribute is amazing, just as I learned to expect from you. Godspeed to you and your family.

Sandy McDill Baker I am so sorry for your loss. I know what a wonderful man Lilburn was. I know he will be greatly missed.

Leslie Rhines Joseph Rosemary Gerber Dawson I am saddened to hear of Lilburn's passing. I pray that you and your family will be comforted by your wonderful memories.

Sandy McDill Baker Rosemary Gerber Dawson, the memorial pages are wonderful. I enjoyed learning so much about him. What a fantastic memorial! Clearly there are many many people who will miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Alyce and your family.

Chawanna Bethany Chambers Love you!

Marie McGill Thank you for moving next door to us, giving us the opportunity to know and love you and Lilburn. I miss you both, but happy to know he is at peace. We are thankful for the good memories.

Chris Welde Rosemary so sorry for your loss....keeping you in my prayers

Gayathri Swaminathan Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let us know if we can do anything.

Tina Fluman McLerran My love and prayers to you and your family, Rosemary.

Robin Arndt Love and prayers Rosemary.

Godfrey Knowles Very sorry for your family’s loss. He touched all of us. We are here for you. Allen

Barbara McNeil Rosemary and Alyce, We are so sorry to hear of Lilburn's passing. You have both been inspirational in your dedication and persistence in working together as a family through his fight with Lewy Body Dementia. Our hearts are with you. With much love, Barbara, David and Brenna

Dirk Tuebbing Mein herzlichstes Beileid!

Danielle Miner-Anderson Rosemary - just wanted you to know that the Miner and Anderson families are holding you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

Rachel Romano Kelly Rosemary Gerber Dawson, I am so sorry for your loss. You have done an incredible job on the memorial site, and I hope those wonderful memories help you through the sadness. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

Betty Edwards Dear Rosemary, Your tribute to Lilburn is absolutely wonderful!  I am so sorry for your great loss, but happy that Lilburn’s last months and weeks were with you and Alyce and your grandkids.  We should all be so lucky to have such an ending!  As always, Rosemary, you’ve done a wonderful job of it. Thinking of you, with lots of love, Betty

Vernitha Miner Rosemary, Alyce and family, So So Sorry to hear about your lost. My girls and I send our deepest condolences. He was funny, smart and caring and we are sure you will miss him. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.

Erin Swendeman My heart is going out to you. I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this. Sending you love.

Monica Hinson I'm so sorry, Rosemary Gerber Dawson. I will remember Lilburn fondly. I know you and Alyce Dawson will miss him.

Jacque M Brown As always I'll continue to pray for him and his family, with Love.

Anita Dzonic Rosemary, I'm so very sorry. Mein herzliches Beileid!

Tracey Riley Sending lots of love, peace, and blessings your way during this time of transition. XO

Davida Mahoney Thank you to Lilburn and the entire family for research donation.

Kathy Heinrich Rosemary, our thoughts go out to you, Alyce, and family. xoxo

Habiche Latrauch Hi Rosemary. I am so deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved husband. Please, accept my sincere condolences. With my deepest sympathy. All my love. Ciba

Cora Mooney-Graves Rosemary, please accept my heartfelt condolence at this time.... I'll always Remember Lilburn as being the big man not just in statute but in generosity . Truely the gentle man with the big heart. It was a pleasure to know him, as a colleague and friend. So represent the Wang techs. now as you go journey high..... And please leave a space; we'll be along to join you by and by........

Heather Ross You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Clint Miner I am so sorry to learn of Lilburn’s passing.  I know now he is at peace…I drift back to what seems like a different life when we would get together for cards and going out to eat;  I fondly remember staying with you all in Heidelberg… I can’t even get my mind wrapped around this lose….in my mind he is the Lilburn I remember talking smack, laughing while we play cards or pontificating on some major issue as we go for a walk or over dinner….I am so sorry for myself that I did not get to visit with him one more time….I hope you are okay and the family..  Warm regards and keeping you in my thoughts, Clint

James Rail I met Lilburn for the first time, I believe, in Lanstuhl.  He was given the task of teaching the site managers how to use a computer.  For me it was the first time to turn one on.  Lilburn was very patient with my snail's pace of learning and kept me motivated with his stories and quick smile.  The week zipped by and I was off, not running, into the new world of computers thanks to Lilburn.  Thanks to his memorial website, I have learned more about his life and how he affected many people.  Rosemary, you have enviable memories to recall because the two of you lived your lives in style.

Keith Johnson Rosemary, I am sorry for your loss!!! Lilburn will be missed but never forgotten!!!!

Elizabeth Freeland Oh Rosemary and Alyce, I am so sorry to hear that you lost Lilburn yesterday. I know in some way it must be a relief to know he is at peace and no longer suffering from Lewy Body Dementia but nevertheless, your loss is still a big one and I can imagine that you and the rest of your family are grieving the loss of his presence. I am so glad I got to know Lilburn before his disease took hold and I have such fond memories of staying with you two in your home in Texas.I send you my comforting embrace and hope that you all will enjoy, despite the sadness,  celebrating his life in the days to come. My heart is with you, love, Elizabeth

Cheri Rudi Hi Rosemary, My heart aches for your loss! I just am glad you had a great life with Lilburn. I would have loved to meet him. I am going to meet cousin Mickey in about an hour and will inform  him of what has happened. You know I have always loved you and can only tell you that time doesn't stop the feelings for the people we love! I am still crying over the loss of my Grandson!!! You keep your memories and wonderful life experiences with Lilburn alive because he was a special man from what I can tell and the way you talked about him. I certainly would love seeing you sometime.May G-d be watching over you and your immediate family. I'll keep in touch but don't want to rattle on right now.Stay strong for your grand children. They will need you more than ever.Hugs and kisses,Cousin Cheri

Jennifer Kenerson I just visited FB for the first time in a few weeks and saw your posting - I am truly saddened and I have no words. However I do know that I will forever cherish the special place Uncle Bub had in my life. I grew up without a father, but my Uncles never made me feel like I was missing out on anything. I love you all and will call soon! I will also share this sad news with Mom - Hugs all around!

Erica Grove Remembering is an act of resurrection, each repetition a vital layer of mourning, in memory of those we are sure to meet again (~Nancy Cobb)

Lynne Davies Grief never ends... but it changes.It's a passage, not a place to stay.Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith.... it is the price of love.

Venas B I helped Lilburn for more than 10 months until his last day. Lilburn was the most humble and kindest person I ever met in my life. He was strong and did not fear through to the end. Lilburn was a wonderful husband to Rosemary, a wonderfull father to Alyce (and Mark), and a wonderful grandfather to Sydney and Dawson.


A German Dinner

July 29, 2014

On a working trip to Germany with my son Brian, Lilburn took us to dinner at a four-star German restaurant.  Rosemary was working and not able to join us.  The food was memorable, but Lilburn was even more memorable.  What a host he was!  Full of stories of life in Germany, explanations of German cuisine, then leading the conversation into all sorts of interesting byways.  He was such a lot of fun!  Brian and I have often recalled that evening and that dinner and Lilburn.

Traveling with Daddy - Part 1

July 29, 2014

I was lucky enough to grow up in Europe with parents who were adventuresome and open to new cultures.  I toured most of Europe with my parents, and my dad was an ideal Ambassador for the US.  He never met a stranger.  Every shopkeeper, cashier, waiter, or even a person at a bus stop minding their own business was a potential new friend.  He was outgoing and loved to joke around with people, often to the embarrassment of his wife and daughter (really often).  But as a result of his friendliness, we got to try new and different treats not often offered to tourists, like Criadillas (bulls balls) in a small tapas bar in Spain (fresh from the day’s bull fight), or 100 year old cheese at a small bistro in the countryside in France on Armistice Day, or invitations to a Moroccan merchant’s home for Moroccan Mint Tea and snacks with his wife and family. 

Wherever we travelled he treated everyone with kindness and was greeted with enthusiasm and often treated like a long lost friend.  We even had an unexpected encounter with a South African couple at a Parador in Spain.  We were waiting in a bar for our table and started chatting with them.  My dad was drinking a Sol y Sombre and the couple was interested in this traditional Spanish drink.  He offered them a taste and the man stuck his finger in my Dad’s drink.  Dad took it all in stride.  In the late 70’s the fact that they were even having a conversation with a mixed race couple was a huge leap for them.  Other times, we would be in small villages across southern Europe and in northern Morocco and he was often the first black man many people had ever seen.  They would come up and want to touch his and my afros and would call him Mohammed Ali; because that was the only black person they knew of.  You can never say that my dad didn’t make an impression.

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