Lillian Venezia
  • 55 years old
  • Date of birth: Mar 13, 1958
  • Place of birth:
    Brooklyn, New York, United States
  • Date of passing: Feb 4, 2014
There is nobody else who will offer Your heart to the world and experience its sacred qualities but You. You can make a difference in this world, so long as You have confidence in Your innate ability to love. - Lodro Rinzler

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Lillian Venezia, 55, born on March 13, 1958 and passed away on February 4, 2014. Lillian touched so many people during her life and this website is an opportunity for all her friends and family to share how Lillian impacted their lives. Lillian was a couragous and passionate individual who will continue to influence our lives for many years to come. 

Service was held  on Saturday, February 15th, from 3-9pm
at The Green Building, 452 Union Street, Brooklyn NY 11215,
Ph 718-522-3363.

Valet service was provided. 

Flowers filled the building and were a beautiful tribute to Lillian's life and love for plants and flowers (you know Lillian loved her flowers!).

Donations can be made to the Cancer support organization "Fighting Pretty" via their website www.fightingpretty.org. If you want to indicate that the gift is to made in Lillian's memory, include her name in the name field. For example, write "Jane Doe for Lillian Venezia". Checks can be sent to PO Box 951, NY NY 10150.

This organization sends supportive care packages to women who are fighting cancer and Lillian was moved by the package that I had arranged to be sent to her, which included a pair of mini pink boxing gloves.  

A foundation is being set up to help fund the college education of her daughters. Please check back to this website for more information.


Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Marian Heidel on 13th March 2017

"Lillian, we are remembering your birth day today.  Just think, you were born the year I graduated from college!  We remember how you and Kevin met, and the special times: being shown around the East End, your wedding, baptizing your first-born at Christmastime, graduations from jr hi, high school, and college, your visits to us in Hawaii, getting to know you and your loves: family, dogs and cats and Peanuts and neighbors, your care for people with AIDS, cancer, drugs,....what a rich life you had, and made life rich for many."

This tribute was added by Arlene Hughton on 13th March 2017

"My daughter Jada and I were just talking about the wonderful trip Lily invited us to upstate. Lily and I had an instant connection and I think of her more especially on my birthday because we are a week apart. Happy Birthday Lily, we miss you.

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 4th February 2017

"I pray your soul has found its resting place, on a hill, under a tree, surrounded by flowers, with Your father and brother holding your hands, my grandma Katherine sitting next you, all of them loving you, with Minnie, BJ, Baby, Pico, Chico, Mike and Ike, and Tatiana sitting around you. Rest in peace."

This tribute was added by Kathleen Cavalieri on 14th March 2016

"Dearest Heidel Family, My thoughts and prayers are with all of you as you remember her life, vision and love. Cousin Kathy"

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 13th March 2016

"Happy Birthday my Darling, my love, my soul mate. Today has been full of many emotions. Mostly misty and grey, because I miss you. You should be here to see your girls grow up, to share in my dreams for us as a family, for me in my career and business ideas, to witness your garden that has just begun to fully awaken in Spring. So I am sad when I read these tributes and look at your pictures on our mantle, your many tchotchkes spread all over the house. I cry. Yet we are moving forward, as life requires, as you would want us to. We are growing, albeit sporadically and with the pain of you not being here to guide us. We miss your strength, but our memories of you keep us strong. We miss your love, but we keep loving. We miss your spirit, but you are in our hearts. Happy Birthday my Beauty!


This tribute was added by annie zaslow on 13th March 2016

"Thinking of you on your birthday. Yesterday I drove to Brooklyn saw our friend Marlene and we remembered you. The days your wedding dress hanged in my closet prior to your wedding the fittings and when we went to buy the shoes and you introduced me to gnoochis!!!  You touched so many lives. Will always remember you. Rest in Heaven"

This tribute was added by Nancy Doniger on 13th March 2016

"Thinking of Lillian and how kind she was to me. Every time I see her daughters I think of how proud she would be to see the strong young women they have become. And Kevin is such a loving father.  It's spring and the crocuses are blooming and reminding me of Lilian the talented and passionate gardener."

This tribute was added by Marian Heidel on 13th March 2016

"I've been watching March 13 approach, thinking of Lillian each time.  Now, again, her birth date is a celebration, because it brought into our world a person of such vibrancy, love of people, strong, fun-loving, an accordionist who played in the subways, a bright nurse practioner of various medical knowledge and skills, passionate in her likes and dislikes and let people know it, a veritable mother lioness who loved her daughters and husband,  and brought me a daughter-in-law that I wish I could have known better.  Today I wish for her family a day of remembering the good times and gratefulness for what they learned from her.  That would be a good birthday present .  Love,"

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 5th February 2016

My dear sweet Lillian, has it really been 2 years? I've been feeling your spirit all day today. I woke up realizing you were in my dreams last night. I stayed in bed longer than I should have. Took longer than usual to eat. I cried when I came to this memorial page. I took our daughters to dinner tonight as a way to remember you. Ilana had a dish that you would love to cook, and we laughed a lot tonight, something that we haven't been able to do. Lillian you would be proud of everything they are doing. They have their struggles, but they are moving forward with ever more confidence. We miss you Lillian, you will be in our hearts and minds forever.
With love,

This tribute was added by Judith Heidel on 4th February 2016

"Thinking of you all, Kevin, Ilana, Malia and Imani."

This tribute was added by Arlene Haughton on 4th February 2016

"Forever in my heart Lily!"

This tribute was added by john agosta on 4th February 2016

"The proof is obvious. She was always a great , warm person, kind and helping. Amazing life story. Although I haven't seen her in many years, she lead a fascinating life...
She's in a much better place than we are, I'm sure,
John Agosta"

This tribute was added by Marian Heidel on 4th February 2016

"Kevin, Ilana, Malia, and Imani:  I'm thinking of you all as I think of Lillian.  These two years have been trying for you, but you all have grown through your grief into stronger people.  I think Lillian is looking down in relief that you are making it, even though still sorely wishing she was around.  She must be proud.  I miss her, too, and would like to think that her spirit IS seeing her daughters in all their activities, sensing their emotions, and searching for their futures.  I know she must hear your words and feelings spoken to her.  As I read other tributes to Lillian, I can see that her life touched and affected many; such a compassionate spirit.

Love from Grandma Marian"

This tribute was added by James Kung on 4th February 2016

"My deep condolences for your loss, Kevin. I hope you are well in NYC. Aloha, James"

This tribute was added by Traci C on 5th October 2015

"I saw Lillian for about two years and in a search to pass along her information to a friend, I was saddened to learn the news of her passing.

My heart goes out to her husband, children and animals. Lillian was an amazing person and the sheer number of people she's helped will truly ensure that her legacy will live on forever.

Lillian: It was always great speaking with you and never felt like a chore. You were always so kind, welcoming, thoughtful, empathic and I'll never forget your advice or the way you approached life. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with others and for being a guiding light for all you have helped."

This tribute was added by Loulou Falaise on 10th May 2015

"I met Lillian when we worked at VNS. Her compassion and professionalism  had no comparison. My name is Annie Victor Zaslow. I also attended her wedding to Kevin and together we shopped for her wedding outfit. So sad to hear. So fortunate to have known her. My most deepest sympathy. My parents also had the pleasure to meet her in one of their trip to New York. They their simpathy too. She will be missed. She was a wonderful person."

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 14th March 2015

"My dear sweet Lillian.... I miss you so. I've spent the evening of your birthday reading all these wonderful and loving tributes to you. They both sadden and gladden me, as they remind me what a strong, beautiful, and gentle soul you are. My eyes swell with tears and my throat closes up in grief for all that you are missing  in your girls lives. My heart aches for the times we will never be able to share. I miss having my partner to share in the trials of parenthood and the burden of raising a family. You were a glorious presence on earth, out shining all around you. You were a blessing to all who were fortunate to receive your touch and affection. You are missed by so many. But none as much as by those closest to you. A gaping hole is left in our hearts but our memories of your love for us keeps us warm.
I miss you, and I love you. My one true love."

This tribute was added by Kim Petro on 13th March 2015

"My  warmest regard go to  Lilian family she was one special lady and the smartest therapist I ever met  last year I wax going threw alot mental   and Lilian before she got sick told me after her being my therapist and personal confident for close to a decade I ,et Lilian at the clinic in bklyn in sunset park after a while eventual I would go to her park slope office  when I saw her memorial last year and her pics  it real t to he'd my heart there wax nothing fake about her and she plays the a cordan sp cool I have one too  she wax a very special person and now she is a super special angel and her wisdom will be with us till our last breathe those of us who, we're lucky to have some of her precious time  I bee in the therapy   since I am a kid and  had alot of problem and also a cute most pole rum and belive  my lies stories I used to tell to hid my person life and shame but Lilian wax never fooled not one not one word   it want thst I lie I just count admit what was going  and was not in good shape  she helped me become whp I am today  and I feel her and hear her words all the time no one is perfect we all have problem and she probably had more then her patient she  worked til she was sick what I herd she cares about  her family and patient they came first  she wax a visionary wise before he years and  affected my life in a positive way yes I am still  néed at time but she gave me the tools I need to fight  my mental illness   I can official say I been threw the worse year of my life   on every level was stabbed in June and other horrible stuff but I didn't hurt myself want to  end my life  and it was hardest recovery ever I love myself in ,y home for the past nine month in this time I studied phscology books and am dead set on my degree and my special is going to be penalty disorder and narsist  victum out reach  I  changed my phone number which talked about for years in therapy  but I wasn't ready to give up my past   when I live threw my asualt last year  I changed my number and I know she  was with me in sprit  and as I isolated from  being scared straight  I  studied and I wrote a book and I am selling it now I just send it and when I did I got the email today was Lilian an   birthday day  and I know this is a sign from her a message telling me my b8ok will be a best allergies and that I will move on to grt my degree and help other I am   a empath healer  nd   I wantv to follow in her legacy and in her Honor no one can ever help me or no me like she did  she  changed my life  and in her death I found hide strength and power beyond ,y imagination  I miss her dearly and think of her often to lilies ifvyou read this thank you for helping me and thank you for   giving me the told I need to function  in society god took you to soon  he always take the good one  it real is not fair  I know she love her family dearly and pets and patient  and  she did it from the heart  not  from her   wished on being rich  she made me who I am today I have new therapist most Oliver  she is nice and seem smart but I am officially smart then all the therapist I know excpet Lilian  my heart goes out to her family and  my book will have a dedication to her cause when I chamged  my  number I wax racy to let go  of my past when she was gone I know I had to move ion  she is such a graze loss to the Medical field the world is just not the same with out her  xpxpx"

This tribute was added by Catherine Lorenzo on 6th March 2015

"Kevin and the girls,

My heart breaks for all of you .  I am so sorry for your loss.  I just found out today that Lillian is an angel looking down on all of us.  I met Lillian in the early 2000's while working at Project Hospitality.  She was an amazing person, nurse practitioner and friend.  She touch the lives of many.  We had many, many conversations about her life and how much she loved and adored her family.  She was the type of person that once you met her you would never forget her .  I also had the pleasure of meeting all three of girls.  They came to my sister's house to meet my twin neice and nephew and we had such a great time. I will keep you all in my prayers and I just know she is with you always.  The world was blessed to have her."

This tribute was added by Marian Heidel on 10th February 2015

"Lillian, you were on my mind a lot as the date of your passing came closer and closer.  On the night of the 3rd, John, Melody and I, with Kevin who had come to rest and play in his beloved Hawaii, took beach chairs down to Lanikai Beach (your favorite beach) and soaked in the light of the full moon, as it shown down on the Mokulua Islands and the quiet waters....not a breeze....so quiet.  We popped the cork on a bottle of Proseco sparkly (your favorite) and raised a toast to you, just about the time you passed away last year.  There are lots of good memories, and still lots of sad moments for Kevin, your girls, and your many relatives, patients, and friends.  Aloha."

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 10th February 2015

"My precious darling, how I miss you. Has it been a year already? It seems like an eternity. And it seems like only yesterday.  Although the times between moments of sadness may be lengthening, the pain of loss and of missing you becomes more and more profound.  I miss your smile, your laughter, how you took care of the dogs, the garden, your girls, and me. It is unfair that you will never enjoy a springtime upstate, or the crocus in the front yard, or to play your accordion. I miss your music making the most I think. You never played enough, and I never tired of hearing you. You were a gift... to me, your family, your friends, your patients, and the world. I hole is in my chest, but I am grateful for the time we shared and all we accomplished together. I miss everything about you my love."

This tribute was added by Cathy Overstreet on 9th February 2015

"Kevin -
BIG HUGS and ALOHA to you, my friend. Lillian truly lives on in these notes, and talking about her. Never stop.
Much love,

This tribute was added by Kathleen Cavalieri on 4th February 2015

"Dear Cousin, One year, where has it gone.  I hope you and my sister are reminiscing and enjoying each others company."

This tribute was added by Jim and Margo Roletto on 4th February 2015

"We'll always remember Lillian as a very talented, strong, loving, lovely woman who cared so much about her family, her patients and her friends. Kevin, we think you were very lucky to have found her and we're so glad you have your three terrific daughters to help you remember all the special times you had together."

This tribute was added by Judith Heidel on 4th February 2015

"Thinking of you, Lillian, and how you touched the lives of so many. You are beautiful, inside and out. Hugs to your family."

This tribute was added by Jamie Flores on 4th February 2015

"My heart is very heavy today thinking of you Lillian and knowing that you left the world a year ago today. It is ironic, but I still keep the text that I sent to you on 2/4/2014 asking you to please contact me to let me know that you were ok, which I sent at 8:54.  I do not know what time you passed, but I felt you, and felt compelled to reach out to you.Today I was also at Beth Israel for my appointment with our oncologist and we shared a moment remembering you.....not that I will ever forget you, and how much you meant to me in the year that we were together.  I hope you family is getting by, although we have never met, I feel as though I know you through her.  Rest peacefully my therapist, my mentor, my friend......I will never forget you."

This tribute was added by Mitsui KC on 4th February 2015

"My love to all of your most wonderful family. We are all blessed to know the three most beautiful unique individual girls Lillian and Kevin have raised Ilana Malia and Imani."

This tribute was added by Kim Petro on 12th November 2014

"to lillians family i am so sorry for your loss
she was a special wise lady caring sweet honest  i will miss her dearly
i feel so selfish for help to have helped me with my problems i had no idea she was a special lady now an angel  above ....."

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 4th September 2014

"My dear sweet Lillian. Today marks 7 months since you started the long journey home. I feel your presence in your garden today. I'm watering the flowers with your butterfly sprinkler, and as the bugs and bees and flies start buzzing frantically.  I think they appreciate the water but are annoyed at the added difficulty getting at the nectar.
Life is full, but would be fuller if you were here. The girls are moving forward as best they can, but they would be leaping if you were here. The dogs are happy, but they miss having you around to adore. And me, I just plug along, missing you terribly, feeling misty when certain songs play, when the girls reach a milestone, when I need someone to talk to and need some guidance, when I want to share something wonderful that has happened, I wish I wish I wish you were here to share it with. You, of all the people in the world, deserve more time on earth among the people who loved you. You appreciated the simple things, which are Life's most important things; family, friends, nature, delicate hand made treasures, well made food made with care.
Today, we go to the Botanical Gardens to experience one of your favorite places, and be close to you.
We love you, and as always, keep you close in our hearts."

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 5th May 2014

"Its May 4th, my love, 3 months since you began your next journey. I spent the day at the Botanical Gardens. Today the Japanese Cherry blossoms were finally in full bloom. I remembered how you loved them, and we visited once when Ilana was young and took some beautiful pictures. This year I joined the BBG in your name, as a memorial. Ilana and I have visited once earlier in April to see the Magnolias and the daffodils. They were beautiful too.

Today I sat under the pink canopy, leaned up against one of the trees, listened to Edith Piaf, and I felt you close. It was difficult to see the many families, young and old, small and large, extended and new, enjoying the day...but they are welcome to, for this is life, to share in this natural beauty.

It seems unfair that you could not be here in person to witness the beauty of the spring day, but I felt you here in spirit.

I missed you terribly today. I love you and all that you gave of yourself for and to us. You will always be close to my heart"

This tribute was added by Donna Faith Eldredge on 1st April 2014

"Dear Kevin & family:

I was so saddened to learn of Lillian's death. All words are inadequate. My heart goes out to you all.

Donna Faith"

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 14th March 2014

"A bunch of Malia's friends, a few neighbors, and a colleague of mine  dropped in for some cake, wine, and my home brew. We set off white and lavender balloons with prayers to Lillian at dusk. One of the dozen  balloons got stuck in a tree, which made me think aloud, "Lillian never wanted to leave Brooklyn!" Seems she sent her own message to us! Missing and loving you more this morning, Lillian."

This tribute was added by Ceri Douglass on 14th March 2014

"Dear Kevin and girls,
I have never met you or even been to the USA but received an e mail this morning from your dear mother or grandmother Marion telling us about your great loss. How my heart bleeds for you all and how touched I have been as I have read stories and tributes to Lillian who was no doubt an amazing and lovely lady.
I have never met your mother either but your 2 uncles have visited us in U.K. and I have heard so much about your grandparents who spent many years in China. They were like parents to my own parents who lived in the same province in China. Your grandfather Ray brought my parents first two children into the world and were there when their first child tragically lost her life to dysentery when she was just 15 months old, your grandparents were a great comfort to them and now you must all be reeling with that same pain which must be hard to bear. Andy and I will pray for strength for you all, it is good to know that your dear parents are there for you 3 beautiful girls."

This tribute was added by Marian Heidel on 13th March 2014

"It's the day of your birth, Lillian.  How fortunate for the lives of your family, your patients, your friends, that you came into the world, and made their world better.  It's sad that we don't give these tributes when you were with us; God bless those who did.  Thank you for the joy and meaning you gave to our son, Kevin, and for our three granddaughters.

Love, Marian"

This tribute was added by Larry Vitelli on 13th March 2014

"I'll always remember we shared initials, and often were seated near each other in Holy Family when teachers sat us alphabetically. Later our paths crossed again while attending LIU. It was a blast. An upbeat, fun person with a great laugh and smile. God bless..."

This tribute was added by Jamie Flores on 13th March 2014

"Happy Birthday Lillian, we honor you in our thoughts today.  Your special day.  You are missed."

This tribute was added by Julia Lee on 13th March 2014

"Happy Birthday, Lillian. I know you are watching over your family- we remember you on this special day and always. Your legacy lives on!"

This tribute was added by Kevin Heidel on 13th March 2014

"Missing you big time today my love. I aim to be present and mindful of this special day, the  day that brought you into this world, that allowed your spirit to engage with the rest of us, that embued the world with your generosity, fierceness, compassion, and joy for helping others. I miss you I miss you I miss you my love. Watch over me and your girls today and every day. I love you. I always will. Happy birthday!"

This tribute was added by Malia Heidel on 13th March 2014

"Not a day goes by without you near.

Happy Birthday mama."

This tribute was added by Jamie Flores on 27th February 2014

"Lillian was my therapist.I had the honor of knowing her and sharing with her through my own battle with breast cancer is 2012.  I can not tell you what an impression she has made on my life. We shared so many stories, she helped me cope with cancer, and come out on the other side. She also shared stories about her family with me. Im glad I was able to "beautify" with L'Oreal products.  I am so devastated to know that we will not be able to share in therapy and in life."

This tribute was added by Gertrud Ashe on 24th February 2014

"Aloha Kevin,
I only knew you as a little boy in Kailua when you babysat my daughter, Monika. I am so sad to hear from your mom that you wife Lillian, lost her battle with that awful disease.
My thoughts go out to you and your three daughters. Maybe all these many tributes by your friends and family will help you a little to get through this hard time."

This tribute was added by edi cooke on 23rd February 2014

"Sending you a big hug and loving care to get you and your girls through this time of loss."

This tribute was added by Megan Kwasniak on 17th February 2014

"Kevin, I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your beautiful family in my prayers..."

This tribute was added by Peter Casanave on 17th February 2014

"A note to Lillian:
I never really thought of an afterlife for myself, but it is easy for me to think of one for you. Why? Because your spirit is not going to be stopped by a failure of the body. I can feel the presence of that spirit as I stroll down our block now. It buoys your family, I think.
That same intensity of spirit kind of stopped me from knowing you better. My loss. Whenever I would see you, you were always doing something, and doing it with such an intensity that I didn't want to distract you from it, even if that something was turning the loam in a pot in your front yard. But just seeing you taught me something about intensity, every time.
However, when I had a question, usually about where to find a health resource for a family member, you were generous with your time and analytic in your response. Many thanks.
You are missed, even if your spirit is felt. I would tell you about your memorial, but, of course, you were there with the flowers and prosecco."

This tribute was added by Andrew Damon on 15th February 2014


I'm so sorry for your loss.  I remember your wedding, beautiful day, beautiful bride.  Let's catch up when the time is right.


This tribute was added by anne drew on 14th February 2014

"Lillian's friendliness and concern for others was remarkable. Neither I nor my daughter will ever forget her care for my husband,Joe, when he was sick and dying. That image of her coming through the door to check on us will stay with me forever. She was a profound strength for us. We pray for her family and friends who will miss her so much."

This tribute was added by Jeanne Marie Forester Briginshaw on 14th February 2014

"Lillian and I became friends when I moved to Park Slope in 1979.  I was new to the city then and she showed me the ropes. Over the next seven years, as we built our careers and searched for that special someone, we shared the ups and downs of living the single life in New York City.  What a gift her friendship was for me during those challenging times!  After I moved to Germany, distance, time and the demands of motherhood and career led to only sporadic contact with each other.  But in the summer of 2012, I had the pleasure of seeing her again with two of her beautiful girls.  A few hours of sharing our stories and the years of separation melted away.  Much had changed, but Lillian's joie de vivre, the sparkle in her eye, the warmth of her smile and her generous heart remained constant.  She was such a force for good in the world and I will treasure her memory always."

This tribute was added by Margarita Sanz Lobo on 14th February 2014

"I am Margarita, Cuco’s wife. I met Lillian when she came to Spain in 1987. I remember her as a joyful woman, music lover and an always smiling person. I am very sorry for your loss. I  believe that when we love someone and lives in our memories, this person never disappears. All my love and support for you, Heidel family"

This tribute was added by Jim and Margo Roletto on 14th February 2014

"We share your sorrow, Kevin, Ilana, Malia, and Imani, and members of the Venezia family. We only wish that we could have known Lillian much better, and visited with your family more than the one time at the Idaho farm in summer, 2005. We remember Lillian as being so much fun, and so loving and caring. She will always be with you in your great memories."

This tribute was added by MaryAnne Daquisto on 12th February 2014

"Lillian was a good friend through our early school years. There are so many fine memories from the holy family school days. Im so happy we had the opportunity to share all those memories at our last reunion.  My sincere condolences ..I will remember lillian and her family in my prayers."

This tribute was added by Kim Dickens on 12th February 2014

your family photos over the years, and here on this site, are filled with such warmth, love and FUN :)  I am so grateful to have been able to share in seeing some of your life, with Lillian.  I hope that your wonderful memories help get you through this difficult, emotional time.  All of my love and hugs to you.....and your ohana. Aloha, Kim"

This tribute was added by Judith Heidel on 12th February 2014

"Lillian was a source of comfort and support to me as I journeyed through my own battle with cancer. She was always positive and strong, helping me to take charge of my own care and treatment. She helped me in other ways as well in dealing with some sensitive issues with members of our family. Lillian added a spark to our family that will continue because we will never forget her passion for life."

This tribute was added by Renée Philie Rankin on 12th February 2014

"Lillian was a childhood friend from Holy Family School in Canarsie. Though we parted after graduating 8th grade, I will always remember her animated life-force. She really was a personality to be reckoned with! A beautiful girl, then a beautiful woman... now an angel. Wishing peace and love to the family during this very difficult time. Kevin, it was wonderful of you to share all of those photos!"

This tribute was added by Frank Marinacci on 12th February 2014

"Their are no words that we can offer, too young to not be here any longer, our prayers and thoughts to Lillian's family. With Love, The Marinacci family."

This tribute was added by Patti Monaco Connor on 11th February 2014

"Lillian and I shared a special friendship for many years. We went to grammar school (Holy Family) and high school (Catherine McAuley) together, and grew up a few blocks apart in Canarsie, We used to love going to Napoli Bakery on Rockaway Parkway and eating way too many brownies and cookies. In high school, she often drove our little group of 4 to school in her white Pinto. We called ourselves the 4 muscateers-Lillian, myself, Susan Lomanto and Joanne Vanacore. We were inseparable and those memories will be with me forever. We lost touch after high school, but then reunited 5 years ago at a restaurant in Brooklyn with about 30 other Holy Family classmates. I will be forever grateful for that night, and will always cherish the many, many memories I have of my friend Lillian Venezia. My sincerest condolences to your family, Kathy, if you remember me (you were forever exposed to our antics) please accept my deepest sympathy and big hugs."

This tribute was added by Sharon Brooks on 11th February 2014

"I am so very sorry for your loss.  I first met Lillian at Catherine McAuley High School and had classes with her from freshman year through graduation.  Unfortunately, after high school every one went their own way.  I remember Lillian always having a smile on her face.  It was so touching that you shared your photos of Lillian after high school, and I couldn't help but notice that all the photos had that infectious smile.  Thank you for posting them and taking me back to our childhood, which seemed like yesterday. May your family find peace and comfort in the weeks, months and years ahead and know that your loved one will always be with you.  Rest in Peace my dear high school friend, your journey and pain is over."

This tribute was added by marcelle mcDonald on 11th February 2014

"I'm saddened by your loss Kevin, may God grant you and the girls comfort in your hearts enabling you to move on from day to day one step at a time. I wish you peace & comfort at this very difficult time!!!"

This tribute was added by Arlene Hughton on 11th February 2014

"My daghter Jada and Malia met in middle school in 2006 so thats how a got to meet Lillian. The girls have been dancing together ever since and are currently at the same high school. Lillian and i meet at the their dance performances quite often and we get excited and proud watching our girls on stage.  I will forever remember the time we spent at the country house together because i know thats a special space she shares. I will miss her wonderful cooking,her energy and generousity. lillian was not afraid to trust....i wll miss you my "dance mom"."

This tribute was added by paul zelensky on 11th February 2014

"Dear Kevin and family.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I did not now Lillian well, but was always touched by your home life stories, as it is very apparent how much your family means to you.  The time I met Lillian I remember admiring her Brooklyn edge, I though it a nice yin to your aloha yang.    I wish you strength through the love of family and friends during this difficult time.  Please don't hesitate to contact me if you need anything."

This tribute was added by Eunice Cruz on 11th February 2014

"Rest in peace sweet Lillian. You were an inspiration to your patients and always so loving and caring to your coworkers. May God grant your family the strength to carry on.

With Love. Eunice (PATH CENTER)"

This tribute was added by Angela Alleyne on 11th February 2014

I am saddened by your loss. May you and your family be sustained by all that she meant to you."

This tribute was added by malia diamond-lee on 11th February 2014

"Kevin, my heart aches for for you and your family. I send prayers and love and light to you as you go down this path, never alone. Lillian surely was a special woman, with whom you shared an amazing life and beautiful children. In Hawaiian there is no word for goodbye, simply a hui hou, until we meet again. And so, to Lillian ... a hui hou. Ke skua pu."

This tribute was added by Ricki Grater on 10th February 2014

"Kevin, Alana, Melia, and Amani,

As Karen said above, the entire block is with you and here for you, embracing you during this time, and so so sad. We will all miss Lillian so very much. We will always remember her big smile and bright spirit, her gorgeous gardens, and her generosity on all levels. I'm sure someone has said above, she was truly salt of the earth. I was honored to be getting to know her better this past year, professionally - and sharing clients and working together. This was way too short.

I know what it's like to lose a mom - my mom was 56 when she died. I see that Lillian was 55. Things will never be the same, but life does go on and new things blossom.

Sending you all love and light, strength and peace."

This tribute was added by Cathy Overstreet on 10th February 2014

I am sending you an enormous hug for it's too hard to accurately address moments like these with words. I remember meeting Lilian once and being very taken by her. What a blessing that you two shared your lives together, and created those beautiful girls. Not even cancer can take that away.
You are all in my heart and my prayers.
Much Love,

This tribute was added by Pérez Cuco on 10th February 2014

"Querido Kevin y familia.
   Me diste la terrible noticia no he podido reponerme aún. Conocí a Lillian en España. Apareció en un bar donde yo tocaba canciones de Edith Piaf. Hablamos, medio en inglés medio en español de música, de acordeones, de New York... y tuve la gran fortuna de compartir música y amistad con ella. Era una persona absolutamente generosa, alegre y rebosante de humanidad. No hay palabras para aliviar el dolor, pero estoy seguro que ella ha tenido una vida muy feliz rodeada de vosotros, compartiendo vuestro amor, y todos nosotros nos sentimos afortunados de haberla conocido y haber enriquecido nuestra vida con la suya.
   Todo mi amor para ella y para vosotros.
   Cuco Pérez"

This tribute was added by Sam Himmelstein on 10th February 2014

"Kevin and the girls:
Your wife and mom was an incredible person who devoted her life to caring for others.  I first met Lillian in 1979, when I moved to 551 4th Street in Park Slope; Lillian was my neighbor there.  We became fast friends and running buddies, frequently running around Prospect Park or down Ocean parkway to Coney Island together. In 1981, I was running the NY Marathon but had not trained well.  I began falling apart at mile 20.  As I entered Central Park, there was Lillian; it was like seeing an angel. She saw the distress I was in, and offered to massage my legs-i took her up on the offer.  This allowed me to finish the race. It was so typical of her and something I will never forget.  She died too young but the four of you brought her years of happiness and joy.
Love, Sam Himmelstein"

This tribute was added by marla dyer-biggin on 10th February 2014

"hey kevin.  you know how sad i am for you and the girls.  i wish you peace in the coming days, weeks, and months.  i'm sorry i didn't know lillian..  i really enjoyed looking thru all her pictures here.  i like knowing she played the accordion and probably brought joy to many thru her music  i liked seeing the inside of your home and you all celebrating the different occasions over the years.  thank you for sharing them.  all my love.  m."

This tribute was added by Dicky Brand on 10th February 2014

"Lillian and I met on a beach in Spain over 25 years ago and became friends, good friends. Thinking of Lillian is remembering her beautiful spirit, how she could light up a room with laughter and brighten up your day with music.

We traveled together and made incredible trips to the Greek isles, to old cities in Holland, a road trip to Key West. Our travels will forever be a treasure of many good memories: Lillian playing the accordion on Corfu island, buying arms full of tulips on the Rotterdam market and teaching me how to make fresh pesto sauce in her kitchen in Brooklyn.

Lillian was a beautiful, caring and courageous woman who loved live and family, music, flowers and dogs. Although we lived an ocean apart, our friendship enriched my life and she will be forever in my heart.

My sincerest condolences to Kevin, the girls, family and friends"

This tribute was added by karen curlee on 10th February 2014

"Hey Kevin:
You KNOW that the entire Windsor place block is there for you during this very sad time.  How we will miss Lillian's gardening tips, gifts of plants, positive words, ever expanding menagerie, her gorgeous accordian playing at the block parties, and her stoop sale prowess!!! You both, together, inspired so many as a couple, as a family, and as the beautiful individuals you allowed each other to be.  How we will miss her.  And our thoughts are with you and the girls."

This tribute was added by PAM SEMPLE on 9th February 2014

"Kevin, when I read the terrible words that your wife had passed I was in shock and felt such sadness for you and your daughters.  What can a friend say to another to ease the pain?  There are no magic words so I hold you, your daughters and Lillian in my thoughts and prayers.  Though I never knew Lillian personally, I could see her bright spirit and love for life in her smile.  How hard it had to be for her to leave you and the girls behind, for one can clearly see the love she had for you all.  I pray for strength and peace to come to you and your family.  This is such a hard and sad road, a road I wish you did not have to go down.  Know that God is sad right with you.  My heard is saddened and troubled with this news.   May you find comfort in knowing that many people are holding you and your family in their thoughts, prayers and heart. – Pamela Semple (Willamette)"

This tribute was added by Angela Allen on 8th February 2014

"May God comfort you and your family at this time and keep the loving memories shared in you hearts forever."

This tribute was added by Rita Gonzalez on 8th February 2014

"Kevin, I am so sorry to hear of your wife's death. I understand the pain you are going through and want to extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.  I pray you find strength in Our Lord.  Kevin, I didn't know your wife, but from a few stories you previously mentioned, I understand she was a magnificent spirit.  I remember when I met you at work, and you mentioning you were from Hawaii and I asked "now what is a boy from Hawaii doing in NY?!!" ... and you said " I fell in love and followed the love of my life and moved here!".   Kevencito, I know your wife will always be the love of your life and she will forever life in your heart.  I hope you will find peace and comfort in the days ahead.
If I can be of any help, do not hesitate to call upon me.

In sympathy,

Rita Gonzalez, RN"

This tribute was added by Ted and Femmy Stannard on 8th February 2014

"To Kevin, and all the Heidels and Venezias: May you find courage, a measure of comfort, and life-long enrichment in the legacy of love and memories Lillian has left with you.

Separated by a continent and sometimes half a world, our paths have not crossed with Kevin, Lillian and the girls since Ted visited in Brooklyn enroute to Egypt in the 90s, so as uncle and aunt we are grateful for all the second-hand sharing at a distance through family mail and photos across the years.

The warmth of Lillian's legacy glows in the photo gallery here. We do  not know when we might be in yhour neighborhood again, but If and when you and the girls, together or separately, can stop by for a visit with us in the Pacific Northwest, it would warm our hearts to share in your memories, and in your futures."

This tribute was added by Adina Dobrescu on 8th February 2014

"May God guide you and your girls through this time of sorrow and sadness. Rest in peace, Lillian ! My deepest condolences, Kevin."

This tribute was added by Maui Meyer on 8th February 2014

"Aloha Kevin-

I am deeply saddened by your loss. The Meyer family is keeping you in their thoughts. Best to you and the Ohana.


This tribute was added by Immacula Volcy on 8th February 2014

"Kevin ,my condolences  for you and you daughters  . May God be with you  and your daughters ."

This tribute was added by Diane Giorgi on 8th February 2014

"So sorry for your loss.  I know what a close-knit family you are by the way you spoke of your family at work.  I'm praying for you all.  May Lillian's memory be a blessing for you and your family and bring you all peace and comfort.
With love,
Diane and Luci"

This tribute was added by Pat Supplitt on 8th February 2014

"Kevin and family, I was saddened to here of your great loss.  Altho, I never had the pleasure of meeting your best friend and wife, knowing you, she had to be a very special person.  I will say prayers for you all and will be thinking of you.   Much aloha,  Pat Supplitt"

This tribute was added by Kara Skaflestad on 8th February 2014

"To Kevin, our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Lillian, you will forever remain in our hearts. You were a true fighter.  

With love,
Your friends at Fighting Pretty"

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