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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Lillian Venezia, 55, born on March 13, 1958 and passed away on February 4, 2014. Lillian touched so many people during her life and this website is an opportunity for all her friends and family to share how Lillian impacted their lives. Lillian was a couragous and passionate individual who will continue to influence our lives for many years to come. 

Service was held  on Saturday, February 15th, from 3-9pm
at The Green Building, 452 Union Street, Brooklyn NY 11215,
Ph 718-522-3363.
www.thegreenbuildingnyc.com

Valet service was provided. 

Flowers filled the building and were a beautiful tribute to Lillian's life and love for plants and flowers (you know Lillian loved her flowers!).


Donations can be made to the Cancer support organization "Fighting Pretty" via their website www.fightingpretty.org. If you want to indicate that the gift is to made in Lillian's memory, include her name in the name field. For example, write "Lillian Venezia". Checks can be sent to PO Box 951, NY NY 10150.

This organization sends supportive care packages to women who are fighting cancer and Lillian was moved by the package that I had arranged to be sent to her, which included a pair of mini pink boxing gloves.  

Lillian’s final resting place: Greenwood Cemetery Brooklyn NY, 5th Avenue and 25th St,: Section 45618, Lot 31, Plan 109. provide this information to the office staff and they can direct you to the site

March 14
Lillian, thinking of you with the fondest of memories from our Holy Family days, then onto Catherine McCauley high school, where we enjoyed breaking the rules together. And of course, living just blocks apart in Canarsie was the best. What fun we had! I’m so glad I got to see you in Brooklyn after so many years had passed at one of our Holy Family gatherings. RIP, dear Lil, and prayers to your family. ❤️
March 13
March 13
Lillian, thinking of you on your birthday, and particularly of your 3 girls and Kevin. We all miss you, and remember the giving person you were. You can be proud of your girls. They are all finding their way.

Aloha, Marian
February 4
February 4
Lillian, I am so glad to be reminded that this is an important anniversary for all your family and friends...10 years since you left us. Today Kevin is with us, and we talked to Ilana. I'm sure we will be speaking of you and wishing you were here in person. I'll make contact with Malia and Imani let them know that we are thinking of them today.   

Aloha, Marian Heidel
February 4, 2023
February 4, 2023
Remembering Lillian today and praying for her daughters, Ilana, Malia & Imani and husband, Kevin. May memories be good and comforting. May love overcome sorrow or pain. Be proud of her contributions...remember the expressions of appreciation by her friends and patients at her memorial service.

Aloha, Marian
March 14, 2022
March 14, 2022
Remembering that you entered this world on March 13, 1958. You lived such a varied life....tough times, good times, caring for others with very tough times, as a nurse. I loved the pictures of you playing the accordian, and even heard you once or twice. Your wedding to Kevin, my son, was beautiful, and I loved seeing family and friends dancing the tarantella. You were passionate about your girls and wanted so for them to be strong and successful. At your memorial service I learned how many other people felt your compassion.
Rest well...memories of you are kept alive.
March 13, 2022
March 13, 2022
Wishing I could give you this birthday flower in person. How you loved your garden with all its flowers. I know you are watching us, supporting us in all your loving ways. I am so grateful you were born this day, you gave me so much! You are still giving.
Happy Birthday Lil.
With love,
Your Kevin
March 13, 2022
March 13, 2022
My dearest Lillian thinking of you today and remembering you with some of our colleagues Marlene and Sarah.
February 4, 2022
February 4, 2022
Hey mom, I can't believe you've been gone 8 years. I'm almost done with vet school! One more year and i'll be a doctor. I wish you were here to see it.
Love you, miss you
-Ilana
March 13, 2021
March 13, 2021
I'm remembering it is your birthday today. Reading the previous tributes from over the years is very poignant. I'm thinking of your girls and Kevin. I love the music playing, looking through the pictures. Remembering the words of those who shared their feelings for you at your service on Feb. 15, 2014. You lived a powerful life.

Aloha, Marian
February 4, 2021
February 4, 2021
...a day forever etched on my heart. Wishing you had more time to spend with us, in your garden, and tending your patients.
February 4, 2021
February 4, 2021
This is a special day, remembering you, Lillian. You meant so much to your girls and husband. They are thinking of good times with you, as am I.  It's a bitter-sweet day. 

Marian Heidel, your mother-in-law
March 13, 2020
March 13, 2020
Thinking fondly of you today Lillian. You deserved many more years with us. I pray you have found peace, and I ask that you watch over us and guide us, especially your daughters, who miss you so much. I will always love you.
March 13, 2020
March 13, 2020
Friday the 13th....always a good date, a sadly sweet date, Lillian: your birth date. You have meant such a lot to so many people. Lay your blessing on your girls, on your husband, on all those to who miss you. Aloha!
February 5, 2020
February 5, 2020
I just mentioned Lillian’s name a few days ago, reliving one of the fun memories from our younger days. I am so fortunate to have gone all through grammar school and high school with Lillian. I recently came across a few of Lil’s letters from when we were teenagers, she spent time upstate over the summer, and we wrote letters back and forth about our adventures. Precious memories that will live on forever. RIP, dear Lillian.
February 4, 2020
February 4, 2020
When I think about you, I remember your strength, your love for your family, your determination, your love of animals, your commitment to your patients. The image is indelible. I miss your clarity, your accordion playing, your gardening. I hope you are resting peacefully and look fondly on us, your daughters especially.
February 4, 2020
February 4, 2020
We always remember this day with sorrow, but also with good memories of your life...how it added to the lives of others. Flowers come to mind, accordion-playing in the subways, love of animals, your devotion to your girls, your beautiful wedding to our son, the times you showed us around Manhattan, visiting with your parents, both at the country house and their home in Brooklyn (on Christmas Eve with a traditional 13-course Italian seafood dinner), your passion in serving your patients. Aloha, Lillian
March 16, 2019
March 16, 2019
We remember Lillian as a great lady who gave a great deal of love to her family, her many patients, friends, and her animals. We are distant family members who only met her in person once at the Idaho farm, and know her primarily by reading and hearing all the tributes and memories of others closer to her, especially her loving daughters. She would certainly be so proud of her daughters, and must be watching their progress in life to see if they are able to remember the example that her life gave them.
March 13, 2019
March 13, 2019
Miss you mom, happy birthday. I wish you could see me and feel pride that your first child is going to be a doctor
February 5, 2019
February 5, 2019
Remembering Lillian today, and often. It was so nice to revisit memories and her warm smile through the photos here. Sending much love to her family, Kevin, and especially her girls.
February 4, 2019
February 4, 2019
Lillian, I think of you so often, remembering your compassion for your patients; your concern and love for your girls, which I share; the times we spent with you, Kevin, and your girls; the flowers in your gardens.  Yes, you would be proud of Ilana as she continues her veterinary training in Vet School.  Looking at the pictures above, so many good memories!
February 4, 2019
February 4, 2019
I made it to vet school mom! I know you would have been so proud of me but I still miss you. Dr. Venezia coming soon
February 4, 2018
February 4, 2018
Dear mom, I still dream of you but it's less painful now. 4 years later the pain and grief has lessened, and I am able to recall memories without crying every time. But the fact is i lost my rock, my teacher, my confidant. Love you wholeheartedly
February 4, 2018
February 4, 2018
Today Lillian is on my mind, her many gifts and strengths, how she loved her children, her passion for her work, her patients. I’m glad she is in her final resting place here on earth, and I pray her spirit will find it’s final resting place as well. Her ashes were placed in Greenwood Cemetery on January 29. Visitors can go to the front entrance in 5th Avenue, and provide the following information to the office staff and they can direct you to the site: section 45618, Lot 31, Plan 109.
February 4, 2018
February 4, 2018
Lillian,

Thinking of you today, remembering the tough time for your family on this day, four years ago. Your life lingers on in our memories, gradually easing the pain we felt for you and the pain your family feels. Flowers especially bring you back, your love for them. May your concern for others in pain inspire us to be caring persons, too.

Aloha, Marian
March 13, 2017
March 13, 2017
My daughter Jada and I were just talking about the wonderful trip Lily invited us to upstate. Lily and I had an instant connection and I think of her more especially on my birthday because we are a week apart. Happy Birthday Lily, we miss you.
Arlene
March 13, 2017
March 13, 2017
Lillian, we are remembering your birth day today. Just think, you were born the year I graduated from college! We remember how you and Kevin met, and the special times: being shown around the East End, your wedding, baptizing your first-born at Christmastime, graduations from jr hi, high school, and college, your visits to us in Hawaii, getting to know you and your loves: family, dogs and cats and Peanuts and neighbors, your care for people with AIDS, cancer, drugs,....what a rich life you had, and made life rich for many.
February 4, 2017
February 4, 2017
I pray your soul has found its resting place, on a hill, under a tree, surrounded by flowers, with Your father and brother holding your hands, my grandma Katherine sitting next you, all of them loving you, with Minnie, BJ, Baby, Pico, Chico, Mike and Ike, and Tatiana sitting around you. Rest in peace.
March 14, 2016
March 14, 2016
Dearest Heidel Family, My thoughts and prayers are with all of you as you remember her life, vision and love. Cousin Kathy
March 13, 2016
March 13, 2016
I've been watching March 13 approach, thinking of Lillian each time. Now, again, her birth date is a celebration, because it brought into our world a person of such vibrancy, love of people, strong, fun-loving, an accordionist who played in the subways, a bright nurse practioner of various medical knowledge and skills, passionate in her likes and dislikes and let people know it, a veritable mother lioness who loved her daughters and husband, and brought me a daughter-in-law that I wish I could have known better. Today I wish for her family a day of remembering the good times and gratefulness for what they learned from her. That would be a good birthday present . Love,
March 13, 2016
March 13, 2016
Thinking of Lillian and how kind she was to me. Every time I see her daughters I think of how proud she would be to see the strong young women they have become. And Kevin is such a loving father. It's spring and the crocuses are blooming and reminding me of Lilian the talented and passionate gardener.
March 13, 2016
March 13, 2016
Thinking of you on your birthday. Yesterday I drove to Brooklyn saw our friend Marlene and we remembered you. The days your wedding dress hanged in my closet prior to your wedding the fittings and when we went to buy the shoes and you introduced me to gnoochis!!! You touched so many lives. Will always remember you. Rest in Heaven
March 13, 2016
March 13, 2016
Happy Birthday my Darling, my love, my soul mate. Today has been full of many emotions. Mostly misty and grey, because I miss you. You should be here to see your girls grow up, to share in my dreams for us as a family, for me in my career and business ideas, to witness your garden that has just begun to fully awaken in Spring. So I am sad when I read these tributes and look at your pictures on our mantle, your many tchotchkes spread all over the house. I cry. Yet we are moving forward, as life requires, as you would want us to. We are growing, albeit sporadically and with the pain of you not being here to guide us. We miss your strength, but our memories of you keep us strong. We miss your love, but we keep loving. We miss your spirit, but you are in our hearts. Happy Birthday my Beauty!

Kevin
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
2/4/2016
My dear sweet Lillian, has it really been 2 years? I've been feeling your spirit all day today. I woke up realizing you were in my dreams last night. I stayed in bed longer than I should have. Took longer than usual to eat. I cried when I came to this memorial page. I took our daughters to dinner tonight as a way to remember you. Ilana had a dish that you would love to cook, and we laughed a lot tonight, something that we haven't been able to do. Lillian you would be proud of everything they are doing. They have their struggles, but they are moving forward with ever more confidence. We miss you Lillian, you will be in our hearts and minds forever.
With love,
Kevin
February 4, 2016
February 4, 2016
My deep condolences for your loss, Kevin. I hope you are well in NYC. Aloha, James
February 4, 2016
February 4, 2016
Kevin, Ilana, Malia, and Imani: I'm thinking of you all as I think of Lillian. These two years have been trying for you, but you all have grown through your grief into stronger people. I think Lillian is looking down in relief that you are making it, even though still sorely wishing she was around. She must be proud. I miss her, too, and would like to think that her spirit IS seeing her daughters in all their activities, sensing their emotions, and searching for their futures. I know she must hear your words and feelings spoken to her. As I read other tributes to Lillian, I can see that her life touched and affected many; such a compassionate spirit.

Love from Grandma Marian
February 4, 2016
February 4, 2016
The proof is obvious. She was always a great , warm person, kind and helping. Amazing life story. Although I haven't seen her in many years, she lead a fascinating life...
She's in a much better place than we are, I'm sure,
John Agosta
February 4, 2016
February 4, 2016
Thinking of you all, Kevin, Ilana, Malia and Imani.
October 5, 2015
October 5, 2015
I saw Lillian for about two years and in a search to pass along her information to a friend, I was saddened to learn the news of her passing.

My heart goes out to her husband, children and animals. Lillian was an amazing person and the sheer number of people she's helped will truly ensure that her legacy will live on forever.

Lillian: It was always great speaking with you and never felt like a chore. You were always so kind, welcoming, thoughtful, empathic and I'll never forget your advice or the way you approached life. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with others and for being a guiding light for all you have helped.
May 10, 2015
May 10, 2015
I met Lillian when we worked at VNS. Her compassion and professionalism had no comparison. My name is Annie Victor Zaslow. I also attended her wedding to Kevin and together we shopped for her wedding outfit. So sad to hear. So fortunate to have known her. My most deepest sympathy. My parents also had the pleasure to meet her in one of their trip to New York. They their simpathy too. She will be missed. She was a wonderful person.
March 14, 2015
March 14, 2015
My dear sweet Lillian.... I miss you so. I've spent the evening of your birthday reading all these wonderful and loving tributes to you. They both sadden and gladden me, as they remind me what a strong, beautiful, and gentle soul you are. My eyes swell with tears and my throat closes up in grief for all that you are missing in your girls lives. My heart aches for the times we will never be able to share. I miss having my partner to share in the trials of parenthood and the burden of raising a family. You were a glorious presence on earth, out shining all around you. You were a blessing to all who were fortunate to receive your touch and affection. You are missed by so many. But none as much as by those closest to you. A gaping hole is left in our hearts but our memories of your love for us keeps us warm.
I miss you, and I love you. My one true love.
March 13, 2015
March 13, 2015
My warmest regard go to Lilian family she was one special lady and the smartest therapist I ever met last year I wax going threw alot mental  and Lilian before she got sick told me after her being my therapist and personal confident for close to a decade I ,et Lilian at the clinic in bklyn in sunset park after a while eventual I would go to her park slope office when I saw her memorial last year and her pics it real t to he'd my heart there wax nothing fake about her and she plays the a cordan sp cool I have one too she wax a very special person and now she is a super special angel and her wisdom will be with us till our last breathe those of us who, we're lucky to have some of her precious time I bee in the therapy  since I am a kid and had alot of problem and also a cute most pole rum and belive my lies stories I used to tell to hid my person life and shame but Lilian wax never fooled not one not one word  it want thst I lie I just count admit what was going and was not in good shape she helped me become whp I am today and I feel her and hear her words all the time no one is perfect we all have problem and she probably had more then her patient she worked til she was sick what I herd she cares about her family and patient they came first she wax a visionary wise before he years and affected my life in a positive way yes I am still néed at time but she gave me the tools I need to fight my mental illness  I can official say I been threw the worse year of my life  on every level was stabbed in June and other horrible stuff but I didn't hurt myself want to end my life and it was hardest recovery ever I love myself in ,y home for the past nine month in this time I studied phscology books and am dead set on my degree and my special is going to be penalty disorder and narsist victum out reach I changed my phone number which talked about for years in therapy but I wasn't ready to give up my past  when I live threw my asualt last year I changed my number and I know she was with me in sprit and as I isolated from being scared straight I studied and I wrote a book and I am selling it now I just send it and when I did I got the email today was Lilian an  birthday day and I know this is a sign from her a message telling me my b8ok will be a best allergies and that I will move on to grt my degree and help other I am  a empath healer nd  I wantv to follow in her legacy and in her Honor no one can ever help me or no me like she did she changed my life and in her death I found hide strength and power beyond ,y imagination I miss her dearly and think of her often to lilies ifvyou read this thank you for helping me and thank you for  giving me the told I need to function in society god took you to soon he always take the good one it real is not fair I know she love her family dearly and pets and patient and she did it from the heart not from her  wished on being rich she made me who I am today I have new therapist most Oliver she is nice and seem smart but I am officially smart then all the therapist I know excpet Lilian my heart goes out to her family and my book will have a dedication to her cause when I chamged my number I wax racy to let go of my past when she was gone I know I had to move ion she is such a graze loss to the Medical field the world is just not the same with out her xpxpx
March 6, 2015
March 6, 2015
Kevin and the girls,

My heart breaks for all of you . I am so sorry for your loss. I just found out today that Lillian is an angel looking down on all of us. I met Lillian in the early 2000's while working at Project Hospitality. She was an amazing person, nurse practitioner and friend. She touch the lives of many. We had many, many conversations about her life and how much she loved and adored her family. She was the type of person that once you met her you would never forget her . I also had the pleasure of meeting all three of girls. They came to my sister's house to meet my twin neice and nephew and we had such a great time. I will keep you all in my prayers and I just know she is with you always. The world was blessed to have her.
February 10, 2015
February 10, 2015
My precious darling, how I miss you. Has it been a year already? It seems like an eternity. And it seems like only yesterday. Although the times between moments of sadness may be lengthening, the pain of loss and of missing you becomes more and more profound. I miss your smile, your laughter, how you took care of the dogs, the garden, your girls, and me. It is unfair that you will never enjoy a springtime upstate, or the crocus in the front yard, or to play your accordion. I miss your music making the most I think. You never played enough, and I never tired of hearing you. You were a gift... to me, your family, your friends, your patients, and the world. I hole is in my chest, but I am grateful for the time we shared and all we accomplished together. I miss everything about you my love.
February 10, 2015
February 10, 2015
Lillian, you were on my mind a lot as the date of your passing came closer and closer. On the night of the 3rd, John, Melody and I, with Kevin who had come to rest and play in his beloved Hawaii, took beach chairs down to Lanikai Beach (your favorite beach) and soaked in the light of the full moon, as it shown down on the Mokulua Islands and the quiet waters....not a breeze....so quiet. We popped the cork on a bottle of Proseco sparkly (your favorite) and raised a toast to you, just about the time you passed away last year. There are lots of good memories, and still lots of sad moments for Kevin, your girls, and your many relatives, patients, and friends. Aloha.
February 9, 2015
February 9, 2015
Kevin -
BIG HUGS and ALOHA to you, my friend. Lillian truly lives on in these notes, and talking about her. Never stop.
Much love,
cathy
February 4, 2015
February 4, 2015
My love to all of your most wonderful family. We are all blessed to know the three most beautiful unique individual girls Lillian and Kevin have raised Ilana Malia and Imani.
February 4, 2015
February 4, 2015
My heart is very heavy today thinking of you Lillian and knowing that you left the world a year ago today. It is ironic, but I still keep the text that I sent to you on 2/4/2014 asking you to please contact me to let me know that you were ok, which I sent at 8:54. I do not know what time you passed, but I felt you, and felt compelled to reach out to you.Today I was also at Beth Israel for my appointment with our oncologist and we shared a moment remembering you.....not that I will ever forget you, and how much you meant to me in the year that we were together. I hope you family is getting by, although we have never met, I feel as though I know you through her. Rest peacefully my therapist, my mentor, my friend......I will never forget you.
February 4, 2015
February 4, 2015
Thinking of you, Lillian, and how you touched the lives of so many. You are beautiful, inside and out. Hugs to your family.
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March 14
Lillian, thinking of you with the fondest of memories from our Holy Family days, then onto Catherine McCauley high school, where we enjoyed breaking the rules together. And of course, living just blocks apart in Canarsie was the best. What fun we had! I’m so glad I got to see you in Brooklyn after so many years had passed at one of our Holy Family gatherings. RIP, dear Lil, and prayers to your family. ❤️
March 13
March 13
Lillian, thinking of you on your birthday, and particularly of your 3 girls and Kevin. We all miss you, and remember the giving person you were. You can be proud of your girls. They are all finding their way.

Aloha, Marian
February 4
February 4
Lillian, I am so glad to be reminded that this is an important anniversary for all your family and friends...10 years since you left us. Today Kevin is with us, and we talked to Ilana. I'm sure we will be speaking of you and wishing you were here in person. I'll make contact with Malia and Imani let them know that we are thinking of them today.   

Aloha, Marian Heidel
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February 6, 2017

I still think about her...think about my story and how much she was a part of me. When ever I talk to anyone about my cancer story, she is always there with me, helping me navigate my emotions...cautious and careful being so fragile, but she was my rock. When I was with her, we were two women who shared something that no one wanted to share.  I do not, will not forget you Lillian....

She always knew.....

March 13, 2015

I have never met anyone who just knew when you were around her what you needed. Tough love, caring words, brillant mind, funny stories....that was my experience with Lillian every week I saw her in therapy.  I would virtually run when I went back to work to see her every Wednesday, never knowing what to expect in my session.  She let me talk, about ANYTHING, cancer related or not.  She never judged me, and knows my deepest and darkest secrets and fears.  I miss you Lillian everyday.  I still talk to you, and I hope you hear me.  I just wish I could hear your words back to me and see that smile as we fought our way along.

We all miss you so much...Happy Birthday Lillian....you are loved...Jamie
  

we met and were instant friends...

February 12, 2015

My cousin Mickey (my dad's 1st cousin) worked with Lillian at Coney Island Hospital... She and Barbara needed a roommate and I needed a room..we met, and there was no question we'd get a long.... 4th st, between 8th and the Park.... Park Slope... what a great apartment. We were in our early 20's, I had friends from England and they stayed with us a while there. Then Lil, Barb and I took a trip to England and watched Janet & Martin get Married... we took a trip to Paris after the wedding.. and the rest is all a wonderful memory filled with laughter and fun.... Lil, we stayed connected until the early 90's... when grown up life got in the way... but we shared eachother's wedding memories,, and you will live on in my photo's, videos and memory forever....

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