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Our beloved Lita left her body June 21, 2017 with her characteristic gentle grace. She left not with fear but with a tranquil inward gaze of acceptance, even a sense of adventure, because she knew she was going on the journey back to her true Home of pure Love and Happiness.

In her final days Lita felt a big sense of relief  -  to finally be done with the very difficult chemotherapy treatments she had hoped would cure her advanced ovarian cancer, and to finally be leaving her sick worn-out body behind. Everyone did the best they could to try to help and cure her, and I know Lita is grateful for all the care and love she received.

What should I say about your life sweetheart?
How can I possibly fit the boundless love and beauty you are into words?
What would you write?

About your childhood you wrote  -

"My heart carried the memory of a blazing light."

Lita was grateful for two great loves she discovered in her childhood.
The first was a deep spiritual kinship with nature including her beloved animal companions.

"My spirit will find sanctuary in the wilderness."

Nature was her cathedral and brought her feelings of joy, peace and renewal, in communion with a shared divine presence.
The second was her love of books. Lita always had a pile of books on her bedside nightstand, and it amazed me that she could go through them all in a week, sometimes one or even two in a day.

 "What holds me here but love? Love for the planet that gives me life. That love has to go somewhere  -  the urge to give form and meaning to my deepest longings, longings to exalt and praise what I love, to take part in a shared celebration of joy."

Lover of rivers, of oceans, of forests and mountains, poet, writer, jewelry artist  - these were the pursuits closest to your heart I think, where the longings of your naturally free spirit could run free.

"Your own life can be universal in its highs and lows, its pains and beauties. I want to write things that touch people in the deeper parts of themselves."

And she did. In her poetry and prose she was able to do that. Although she didn't pursue writing as a profession, she inspired me and many others with her poetry and prose through the years. Lita was the first person in her family to earn a college degree  -  University of Washington, BA in Creative Writing, 1980.

In the last two decades of her life Lita found a new medium for her natural creativity. As a jewelry artist she became a master of the subtlety of design. She amazed me with how she could blend seemingly separate and incompatible colors and objects into a perfect original vision of wholeness, beauty, and wonder. She was a true artist. It was also a way of contemplation for her I think. She often told me she got naturally high and so happy working on her jewelry. Lita loved beading (and going to bead stores and gem fairs) with Karen and Mary, her lifelong loyal best friends.

Lita was really such a fun-loving girl. She loved to laugh and play and party, especially with her girlfriends and could be quite funny and loved to make other people laugh too. Lita just loved to enjoy life.

"Love is our purpose here on earth  -  to truly love and care, not only for each other, but for the earth and everything on it."

One of the many things I loved and admired about Lita was that from her childhood she had this innate sense of empathy for animals and people who were being mistreated, ridiculed, abused, or who were victims of bigotry. In spite of her gentle, sweet, polite demeanor she could also be a ferocious defender of those who needed protection  -  including herself.
Looking at photos from Lita's early childhood I see her open precious innocence. I realize she never lost that sweet inner child of light and joy that she was her own best protector of, even up to the end of her life. She never became hard and bitter during her long illness but bore it bravely and with equanimity.

Lita, the love and kindness you gave to me through the years has meant everything to me. When we first met in that poetry class 40 years ago I never dreamt I'd grow to love and be devoted to you so much. And now that you've left
I would have never dreamt that I could miss you and grieve this much, but your gentle charms captured my heart. Your beauty, your kindness, your childlike heart of innocence and love  -  they just captured my heart.

I recently read a quote sweetheart and thought of you. I know this is how you also feel.

"The being of light showed me that all that was really important in life was the love we felt, the loving acts we performed, the loving words we spoke, the loving thoughts we held  ...  and the love we'd felt during our lives was all that was left when everything else, everything perishable in life, had vanished." *

You once wrote -

"I saw the dazzling radiance once when the door opened for a few seconds."

So now, my beautiful angel of light, 
fly through the wide open door.
You are completely free now

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Be sure to check out the Stories section of this website for videos and writings.
There are also some things that are just in the Gallery section.



Lita touched and was touched by so many people in her life:
her parents Frank and Gladys Headrick, brothers Jim and Bob, nieces and nephews Tina, Mark, Kris, Tabitha, James, and David, her "big sister" Judy Headrick, Mary McCarthy (son Kyle), Karen Hines (husband Bob and daughter Siddra), brother-in-law Bob Hedlund (sons Peter and Drew), her "Sagittarius sisters" Nancy Shimeall (partner Steve Cotter and son James) and Cindy Hedlund, Connie and Robert Hedlund, Dolores and Robert Todd (sons Rob and Herb, daughters Connie Jean and Holly), Alice Roeder, CJ Hope (sons James and Jack), her other best girlfriends Wendy Bori, Tamra Steele (spouse Sean Moore), Sherry Ducken, Nancy Foro, Lee Tobiason, Lisa Thomason, Laurienne Moss, Lunesh Mar, and so many many others.

If anyone wants to share any of their memories, stories, photos, etc, this site is for all of you too.


All quotes by Lita Lynn Headrick except for
* Revelations of Profound Love  -  New Insights Into the Power of Love from Near-Death Experiencers, Ann Francis Ellis, Ph.D.





This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Lita Headrick, 65, born on November 23, 1951 and passed away on June 21, 2017. We will remember her forever.

June 21
Lita left her physical body 7 years ago today.

My precious beloved
we are more in Love now than ever.
No limits now.
No false selves that made us two,
experiencing each other
as separate and apart.
Now we have abandoned our selves
and are in God,
in the Heaven of everlasting Love. ✨❤️✨❤️✨
June 22, 2023
June 22, 2023
To my angel in Heaven who I feel in my heart always now. I feel you Blessing me and all those you have loved in the world. And I know you have joined all the other blessed ones in Heaven to now include the whole world in your Light. Thank you forever my precious one for your Love, your devotion and the honor of your presence all through our life together and now continuing in a new dimension. Our Love is boundless and forever. Nothing that could ever happen in any world can ever change that.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
June 21, 2023
June 21, 2023
Just a short note to say I'm thinking of you today, as always, my very dear friend. I love you to the moon and back again. Someday we will meet again with joy in our hearts.
Karen
November 23, 2022
November 23, 2022
Hi Leet's,
Five years have gone by and I can still clearly see your face, hear your voice and enjoy your laughter. It is a pure memory that I thank you for.
You really knew how to embrace so many things; taking a walk, making jewelry, the beauty in silence, and an eclectic taste in music, good food, close friendship's, and sharing a moment in the sun with a memorable cup of tea.
Your spirit's echo continues to soar in this life even though you have moved on to the next. I miss you...
November 23, 2020
November 23, 2020
Hi Leets,
Happy birthday for another year. And it's another year I have missed your precious light in my life.
Every time I think of you though, I do feel that light lives in my heart.
Thank you for giving me that gift...
Love you my friend
November 24, 2019
November 24, 2019
Leets,
I'm thinking of you today and miss you, as always.
I clearly see in my mind the beautiful butterfly that flew over Bill's head as he cast some of your ashes into your beloved river. It was like a quiet reminder saying "I am still here with you all". But even though I know I'll see you again someday, I wish we could still spend our days making jewelry, drinking tea, and sharing great meals together.

You left a legacy of wonderful memories behind for all of us. But I'm selfish. I always thought we'd become little old ladies together. I lament almost daily that it wasn't to be. Nonetheless, I am so very grateful to have had you as my dear friend for over 50 years. 

Love you my friend,
Karen
June 21, 2018
June 21, 2018
Lita, it's been a year today since you moved on to a world of light and freedom. I miss your shining smile and capacity for joy and laughter as much today as then, and always will. I love you to the moon and back, my sister of the spirit.
Until we meet again...
September 13, 2017
September 13, 2017
My aunt Lita will be missed...I remember as as a child going to the library in the big black Cadillac. It was always fun and something I looked forward to. We were always laughing and had a great time. She was loving and gentle. We loved getting together for the holidays because we got to see her again. As I got older I remember so many great bbqs with Lita and Bill at the river and all the great stories. I know that she is free from pain and is in a better peaceful loving place. I miss you Lita.  Love Kris
September 13, 2017
September 13, 2017
Lita came into my life when she was 4 years old. She was a flower girl at Bob and my wedding and I was her matron of honor some years later. She grew up with Mark, Kris and David. We had some great times especially at the river.  We shared a love of books and thrift shopping and I miss her so. She was a special "Little Sister" and I miss her every day. It was a special marriage she and Bill shared and I thank him for taking such good care of her. May you rest in peace my "Little Sister" Lita. Love you forever, Judy

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June 21
Lita left her physical body 7 years ago today.

My precious beloved
we are more in Love now than ever.
No limits now.
No false selves that made us two,
experiencing each other
as separate and apart.
Now we have abandoned our selves
and are in God,
in the Heaven of everlasting Love. ✨❤️✨❤️✨
June 22, 2023
June 22, 2023
To my angel in Heaven who I feel in my heart always now. I feel you Blessing me and all those you have loved in the world. And I know you have joined all the other blessed ones in Heaven to now include the whole world in your Light. Thank you forever my precious one for your Love, your devotion and the honor of your presence all through our life together and now continuing in a new dimension. Our Love is boundless and forever. Nothing that could ever happen in any world can ever change that.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
June 21, 2023
June 21, 2023
Just a short note to say I'm thinking of you today, as always, my very dear friend. I love you to the moon and back again. Someday we will meet again with joy in our hearts.
Karen
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When Grief Ends

November 8, 2021
This is how it happened for me -

One day I had an appointment with an energy healer over the phone. She guided me into a pool of Light water. I was completely submerged and saw myself as a Light body, Next to me appeared Lita, also in her Light body. We were drawn to each other and merged. This next part will be difficult to convey. I felt Lita's spirit inside me within the spirit in my physical body. When I breathed she was in my breath breathing with me. When I became aware of my abdomen rising and falling with each breath, she was there. She was occupying the same space as my body yet in spirit form within me. The other thing I started noticing right away is that I felt like she was intimately with me in my mind and thoughts if I looked for her there. If I asked a question she would answer, at first just a yes or no, but now there are phrases I hear. The other thing is something I hadn't anticipated. There is absolutely NO doubt that she is here and NO doubt that I am receiving responses from her. No doubt at all. 

A couple of days later I was envisioning her and I at one of our favorite places to stay on the Oregon Coast, the Yachats Inn. This is something I had been doing with her for a few days. We had a favorite room there and that is where we were. For a couple of days I was starting to see something in the foreground in my mind, kind of a shadowy figure that disturbed me. I couldn't see who, are even what it was for sure but it seemed like maybe a lost soul in this world. I asked Lita, why don't you and I give light and love to this soul and send them to the light. So we did. We started to enfold them in Light and as we did the figure raised its head as it was being transformed and liberated. The figure was me! It was the Bill that had been in deep depressed grief and despair for the last four years. As this Bill vanished in the Light another thing happened. Lita started changing. She transformed into a magnificent huge winged Angel of Light. She was glorious. Her wings were like labradorite adorned with blue and white sapphire. She didn't need to stay in her human form for me because my grief was now gone. This is the Lita I know now and she is very powerful. She guides me and protects me. Sometimes I see her enfolding me in her wings if I need comforting. She is still available as her old Lita self if I need her to be, but now I know what she is really. I always used to call her My Beautiful Angel of Light. How amazing that I could somehow know her true Self so clearly.

Since the old Bill was transformed into the Light I haven't experienced any grief. When sometimes I might feel some bittersweet nostalgia Lita is right there with me and her presence is so real that it blots out those memories or thoughts that once disturbed me so much and I am now in the Love that we both are, more real than anything in this world. 
The other thing I notice now is that Lita helps me when I need to decide something, or if I need advice about something, and she is always helping me when I am writing something. A few days after the grief ended we wrote the following poem together.

Lita was a lover of forests, so much so that I would call her my forest fawn because of her dark brown doe-like eyes.
                                                     

    
                                                                  Lita 

                                   It happened one day as I thought of you.
                                   I found the way
                                   into the deep woods of my heart.
                                   In the silent sunlit clearing
                                   at the edge of the pure pool
                                   you now drink from,
                                   you looked up and saw me.
                                   You held me in your dark forest fawn eyes
                                   and I was flying to you
                                   through the luminous night of your perfect stillness.
                                   Filled with the gratitude all creatures feel here,
                                   I know I will never leave your forest.
                                    

                                                                                                     Lita Headrick and Bill Shimeall



My Beautiful Angel of Light

November 25, 2017
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This is a collection of photos that spans Lita's entire life, from a little baby all the way through her later years. It is set to three pieces of music: an instrumental, Brigit's Feast, by Celtic harpist Aine Minogue, The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face sung by Roberta Flack, and the Billy Joel song Lullabye (Goodnight My Angel), in a gorgeous version by the acapella group The Idea of North. Billy Joel wrote that song for his young daughter.

About a year before Lita became ill we watched the wonderful British movie Unfinished Song.  Arthur (Terence Stamp) is grieving the death of his wife Marion (Vanessa Redgrave) from cancer. In a very emotional scene towards the end of the movie, he sings this song to his departed wife, with the words of the last two verses changed into one new verse. Here are the original lyrics, followed by the changed last verse used in the movie version. 


Lullabye (Goodnight My Angel)

Goodnight, my angel
Time to close your eyes
And save these questions for another day
I think I know what you've been asking me
I think you know what I've been trying to say
I promised I would never leave you
And you should always know
Wherever you may go
No matter where you are
I never will be far away

Goodnight, my angel
Now it's time to sleep
And still so many things I want to say
Remember all the songs you sang for me
When we went sailing on an emerald bay
And like a boat out on the ocean
I'm rocking you to sleep
The water's dark
And deep inside this ancient heart
You'll always be a part of me

Goodnight, my angel
Now it's time to dream
And dream how wonderful your life will be
Someday your child may cry
And if you sing this lullabye
Then in your heart
There will always be a part of me

Someday we'll all be gone
But lullabyes go on and on...
They never die
That's how you
And I
Will be


Last verse from movie version:

Goodnight my angel,
Now it's time to dream
And dream how wonderful our life has been
Someday we all must die
But lullabyes go on and on...
They never die
Just like you
And I
Will Be

Atop Cape Perpetua

September 19, 2017
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This is kind of a magical video I shot of Lita and I atop Cape Perpetua just south of Yachats, Oregon. You can drive to the top of the park and there are some cool trails. It was a beautiful sunny day and you could see for miles up and down the coastline. Lita loved this area so much that she wanted half of her ashes scattered in the ocean at the bottom of Cape Perpetua

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