My first contact with Lorraine was in Grade 7 in 1963 at Lindsay Girls’ School in Colombo. We had the classroom next to the Library. Lollo as she was known was unwell with rheumatic fever and had several periods of absence from school. When she was in school, she was a bundle of laughs and we soon bonded.
I still remember the day she fainted outside the staff room. The De Silva girls arrived in a taxi which drove up to the staff room – I was standing on the balcony waiting for the bell to go. The rest of the family got out followed by Lorraine; it was like watching a slow motion movie and then without any warning, Lollo fainted. Of course there was a huge re-action from the rest of the girls who witnessed this and a staff member rushed outside and with the help of some others, she was carried into the sick room through the staff room. I really think she loved being theatrical!!!
The De Silva family left Ceylon for Hong Kong (I think it was September 1963) but our friendship did not end there. She used to write the most hilarious letters to me and I would laugh – my parents were very anxious to find out what was so funny and I sometimes read portion of her letters to my Mum.
After a few years the letters stopped and we lost touch. I often wondered what had happened to her and tried to locate her (these were the days before internet and social media so it wasn’t very easy).
How fortunate I was to talk to Therese at one of our Lindsay PPA AGMs and she put me in touch with Lorraine and we began to communicate by email.
I visited her in 2014 and we caught up on each other’s lives and began reminiscing about other school friends and the music of the 60’s. We would share youtube dancing clips usually of various people dancing the tango as she knew I loved the Tango.
One of the stories she told me about her days in the convent in Hong Kong was when she took a tin/packet of Kraft cheese to school and how the French nun looked at her in horror.
During this visit we went out to lunch with David and Elizabeth and Jeremy and Di and her neighbour Adrienne; while we were waiting for our lunch I called Mrs Poulier on my phone and Lollo was able to speak to her.
I was fortunate to visit her again in December last year – I realised that she had deteriorated considerably since I had last seen her. Still behind the pain and discomfort her sense of humour came through and we had many laughs. She was quite angry with me by the third day of my visit and called me a bully, all because I was hassling her about reporting her faulty C-PAP machine. She was very teary when I said goodbye and apologised for calling me a bully.
During my visits she spoke very proudly of Tara and was so delighted that she came to Australia to get married. One of Lorraine’s biggest regrets was that her illness prevented her from travelling.
Rest in Peace Lollo, you have certainly earned your rest after all the years of persevering with your illness.