ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of Lynn Meilander, 74 years old, born on August 24, 1946 and passed away on September 2, 2020. She will be in our hearts forever - love never dies.

In lieu of flowers please consider donating to the following charities in mom's honor:

Verde Valley Sanctuary - The Sanctuary offers a safe haven for victims of family violence and sexual assault, providing shelter, community outreach, legal advocacy and education and prevention.
https://verdevalleysanctuary.org/

Grand Canyon Trust - Safeguarding the wonders of the Grand Canyon and the Colorado Plateau, while supporting the rights of its Native peoples.
https://www.grandcanyontrust.org/

Poore Medical Clinic - The Poore Medical Clinic is a community-based and community-supported free medical and dental clinic. Our mission is to increase the availability of healthcare by providing free medical and dental care to low income, uninsured individuals and families living in Coconino County.
http://pooremedicalclinic.org/about/


Flagstaff Family Food Center - We serve hot meals, provide children’s literacy programs and distribute emergency food boxes to our food insecure neighbors.
https://hotfood.org/programs/

Posted by Jacqueline Brandt on September 17, 2020
Brother this is an absolutely beautiful tribute to your Mom and the amazing person she was. You and I met for the first time when I was 11 and you were 18, and I remember going to your house to see where my brother grew up all these years.....which just so happened to be only 20 minutes from where I grew up!! I remember meeting your parents for the first time. Your mom greeted me with a big warm smile and hug and was kind, warm and inviting. I also remember her super cool purple convertible that I thought was so awesome! All these years later when I think of your mom I think of that big warm inviting smile and presence she always carried with her whenever I saw her. I thank God for her and the amazing mother she was to you and grandmother to the boys. I am so thankful that God gave you to her as well. You were her treasure and gift and she loved you so well and I love her for that so much. I see her tender loving spirit, tenacity, and creative side being lived on through you, and reading about her makes me want to be a better person and mom myself. She was a precious soul and I feel honored to have known the mother who loved, cared for, and nurtured my brother in so many ways over the years. She is a gift to this world. Love you Brother and your mama so so much!
Posted by Marilyn Gauntner on September 13, 2020
Dear Jeff, This is so beautiful. I did not know your mom, but after reading about her, looking at the photos and watching your video I see how influential she was in your life and how proud she must be of you. I am so sorry for your loss but know you will have so many special memories you will pass on to your boys and they will keep her alive with those memories. Thinking of you and your family. Love, Marilyn
Posted by Mely Stiever on September 13, 2020
Was a huge privilege and blessing to get to know your mom, Jeff, we gave support, love and care for each other for many years. Lynn was an awesome person, a love giver and she will stay in the deepest part of my heart and memories for evermore. Prayers your way, Julie, Jorney, Quest, Nova & Foxy for comfort. God bless all of you. ❤
Posted by Mary Cira on September 13, 2020
A loving tribute to a beautiful and caring mother, grandmother, daughter, niece, and friend. Though I didn't see your mother often I enjoyed her upbeat spirit, great smile, and contagious laugh. I'm so happy I had the pleasure to know her. Sending lots of comfort and love to you, Julie, Journey, and Quest. All my love - Mary
Posted by MaryAnn Canning on September 12, 2020
Jeff, I am so sorry to learn of your mom’s passing. Although I haven’t seen her since your wedding day, it’s a wonderful memory. She was so happy and proud of you and her love for you was written all over her face. You are a lucky man to have had such a great mom. Take comfort in knowing your strength and your love surrounded her in her final days. 
Posted by Eric St. Pierre on September 11, 2020
Dear Jeff, I was saddened to hear about your mom. I have lot's of fond memories of her, especially the early years as we signed our franchise agreement in 1993. Fun times at those early annual meetings. She was such a nice lady. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
Posted by Melanie Bergeron on September 11, 2020
Dear Jeff, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved Mom. Thank you for posting so much about her....that smile..... Infectious. She always reminded me of Mary Tyler Moore. I worked with your Mom for many at Two Men and aTruck, talked to her all the time. Her favorite subject was you. You were and are loved. Love endures all things. She was blessed to have a loving son like you Jeff. Your mom was very determined, tough and ladylike all rolled into one. She is very much a part of the fabric of Two Men and a Truck. You are in my prayers, your Mom will never be forgotten. Melanie Bergeron
Posted by Mary Ellen Sheets on September 11, 2020
Dear Jeff, I am so sorry to learn your Mother passed away. I haven't seen her for many years but have fond memories of she and your Dad when they first became TWO MEN AND A TRUCK franchisees. We were a little company back then with our office in two rooms over a detail shop. They were so proud of you and took you all over to play hockey. My memory of Lynn is bubbly and fun.  I'm sure it is such a hard time for you.... take care of yourself. Mary Ellen
Posted by Jeff Meilander on September 8, 2020
Thanks for all your unconditional love, your never ending support, and for always working as hard as possible to give me a great life.

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Posted by Jacqueline Brandt on September 17, 2020
Brother this is an absolutely beautiful tribute to your Mom and the amazing person she was. You and I met for the first time when I was 11 and you were 18, and I remember going to your house to see where my brother grew up all these years.....which just so happened to be only 20 minutes from where I grew up!! I remember meeting your parents for the first time. Your mom greeted me with a big warm smile and hug and was kind, warm and inviting. I also remember her super cool purple convertible that I thought was so awesome! All these years later when I think of your mom I think of that big warm inviting smile and presence she always carried with her whenever I saw her. I thank God for her and the amazing mother she was to you and grandmother to the boys. I am so thankful that God gave you to her as well. You were her treasure and gift and she loved you so well and I love her for that so much. I see her tender loving spirit, tenacity, and creative side being lived on through you, and reading about her makes me want to be a better person and mom myself. She was a precious soul and I feel honored to have known the mother who loved, cared for, and nurtured my brother in so many ways over the years. She is a gift to this world. Love you Brother and your mama so so much!
Posted by Marilyn Gauntner on September 13, 2020
Dear Jeff, This is so beautiful. I did not know your mom, but after reading about her, looking at the photos and watching your video I see how influential she was in your life and how proud she must be of you. I am so sorry for your loss but know you will have so many special memories you will pass on to your boys and they will keep her alive with those memories. Thinking of you and your family. Love, Marilyn
Posted by Mely Stiever on September 13, 2020
Was a huge privilege and blessing to get to know your mom, Jeff, we gave support, love and care for each other for many years. Lynn was an awesome person, a love giver and she will stay in the deepest part of my heart and memories for evermore. Prayers your way, Julie, Jorney, Quest, Nova & Foxy for comfort. God bless all of you. ❤
her Life

Song to Canada

The only reading mom wanted for her funeral was a song written by Nell Valentine, a longtime friend she knew from Canada.  Below this section are short stories I have put together to help paint a picture of my mom. If you don’t have time to read through them and just want to pay your respects and see mom one last time, you can find a section at the bottom of this page under “Mom at Peace.”

Adoption

One of my earliest memories is the “Jeffy Story.” It was about how I was born out of love and that my parents had made an extremely difficult decision to send me to live with another mommy and daddy who couldn’t have kids. It was the story that my parents told me about how I was adopted. Mom desperately wanted kids but couldn’t have them and therefore, was determined to adopt one of her own. She spent years and hours contacting different organizations until one day, while at Sand Lake, Canada, they received a call that a baby was available. My parents rushed home, and there I was. Many of you reading this know that this was the definition of mom’s happiness.

Sand Lake, Canada

Over the years, my parents made sure we lived near the woods and we spent hours on walks and playing outside. I was taught to love nature on our yearly trips to Sand Lake where we stayed in a log cabin with no phones or cable and we hauled our water in five-gallon buckets from a pump, used an outhouse, and bathed in the lake. We would water ski, swim, and fish, but most of mom’s fishing consisted of watching loons, staring at the scenery, looking for loons, gazing at sunsets, checking out loons, and buying loon paraphernalia. I would be surprised if she actually cast her line five times while we were out fishing. That being said, one year she caught the biggest fish out of everyone at camp and won the trophy hat. But this was her sanctuary, her special place, a place that she always dreamed of, revisited in her mind, and the place she chose for her final resting place.

A funny story for me yet terrifying for her, was when she took the boat out by herself for the first time. She got the throttle stuck in full speed reverse and was screaming while going in circles. She finally figured out how to shut the engine off, but she never drove that boat after that.
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Memories of Lynn Meilander from Phyllis Grandison Zuehlke (sister-in-law).

Shared by Jeff Meilander on September 14, 2020
Lynn and I did not use the term sister-in-law.We were sisters!

I first met Marilyn (later called Lynn) on a beautiful spring day at the Zeta Tau Alpha house on the campus of Purdue University.Her brother, Ron, and I were close to an engagement.This was my first meeting of his family.As Ed, Janice and Marilyn arrived, Ron took their coats.I complimented Marilyn (8 years old) on her pretty coat.She replied quickly, hands on her hips and face tilted, “It should be pretty!It cost more than my mom’s!”I have never known another time when Janice Zuehlke was speechless!

Ron and I married in Greenfield, Indiana on June 16, 1956.Ed Zuehlke was hospitalized after suffering a series of heart attacks and unable to attend.He insisted the wedding not be postponed!Lynn and my cousin, Nancy, lighted candles for the ceremony.

In 1960, Lynn and her family moved to Cleveland, Ohio.Ed now had a corporate level position with Republic Steel at their home offices.Lynn was not thrilled with the move and her enrollment at Rocky River, Ohio High School.

In October, 1962, Ron, Ricky (almost 4), Sue (3) and I were transferred by Ron’s company, International Telephone and Telegraph to Palo Alto, California.This was “hippie” time in the San Francisco area and a most unsettling time in our nation.Lynn came to California to visit us for six weeks that summer.We had a wonderful time.She wanted to learn how to cook.Her mom was not a good cook and didn’t encourage Lynn to learn those skills.She was an excellent student!Our next door neighbor also had a summer visitor—a niece from the Netherlands.Shopping became an enjoyable activity for the girls!

We accepted a company transfer back to Chicago with pleasure and moved on October 31, 1963.In just a few weeks, President Kennedy lost his life.In March, 1964, our son Bruce arrived!Lynn wanted to be the “fun” aunt, but distance didn’t allow that to happen.

Years of college, marriage, new home, the wonderful welcome of Jeff to the family…Ed’s death, Janice’s death, a move to Michigan…life was challenging for Lynn.The constant happiness was Jeff!!!Pure delight!

Ron and I had been transferred to Greenwood, South Carolina in June, 1981.

Rick had graduated from Central Michigan University and married Theresa Lauer September 5, 1981. Their son, Michael, was born October 12, 1983.Lynn was chosen to be Mike’s godmother! She accepted with pleasure!

Les, Lynn and Jeff came to Greenwood in November, 1987 for her nephew’s(Bruce) wedding to Donna Brock.

Rick’s wife, Theresa, sadly died of a brain tumor April 20, 2004.Lynn and Jeff came to Mt. Pleasant, MI to assist and grieve with us.

March 17, 1999 was a tragic day!Lynn’s brother, Ron, died suddenly while playing golf!Lynn came immediately to grieve with me.I will never forget her kindness for staying an extra week to comfort me.

Lynn’s own health issues were becoming challenging.No matter her personal issues, she found others who needed care and attention.

She leaves our family who treasured her laughter and joy and those to whom she gave compassion.

She was my sister!God bless her! And bless Jeff, Julie and their precious boys!

 
Shared by Jeff Meilander on September 12, 2020
I have many memories of Aunt Lynn growing up. Even now when I think of her the first image I see is her big smile. It was genuine, when she smiled saying she was happy to see you, you could feel it. I remember being young when she had her purple convertible and I thought it was the most amazing thing that someone could have a car of any kind that was purple and even sparkled! I remember I got to ride in it when she came while we were on a family trip to Myrtle Beach. I believe I was around ten and someone had done Kristin and I’s makeup and we both felt so fancy. The Aunt Lynn offered to take up for a drive in her purple convertible with the top down around the beach! I felt like the coolest ten year old around. Instantly I knew I wanted to be a lot like my Aunt Lynn. Aunt Lynn was just an amazing person overall. She was kind, generous, hard working, and would do anything she could to help another out. Growing up I really did look up to Aunt Lynn and want to just like her.
Shared by Jeff Meilander on September 10, 2020
Dear Jeff, 
I'm so sorry to hear that your Mother has passed away.  She had such a difficult time struggling with her illness.  But fortunately she was able to fulfill her greatest desire.  She told me she wanted to share the monumental events in your life...to attend your wedding and be here to see a grandchild. I am so glad to know she was able to fulfill those dreams.

Your friendship with Josh brought your Mom and I together.  We had an immediate connection and I always enjoyed being with her.  I admired her intensive drive and her abundance of creativity and energy.  She took pity on me as a struggling Cub Scout Den Mother, and she came to my aid. Together we struggled to manage the mayhem of our unruly den of scouts. We brainstormed about how to keep you guys busy, without injuring each other during the meetings.  We planned projects that would keep you interested for the duration, often achieving our main goal which was to send you home without bandages. We spent a lot of time laughing together as we tried to make you guys act like reverent Cub Scouts. At this, we probably failed miserably. Speaking of misery, I wonder how many hours we spent sitting at Alpine Valley waiting for you guys to get off of the slopes so we could go home and get warm!

Lynn was so artistic and I admired her beautiful cross-stitch needlework and braided rugs. (one beautiful cross-stitch hangs in my house)  Her work was flawless. Your home was full of beautiful things, many made by her hands.  She shared her love of antiques and introduced me to the Fairgrounds Antique Market in Geauga County.  Twice a year we would leave early in the morning and shop until it ended in the late afternoon.  She showed me how to find unique items of quality and how to modify them for my home. I learned so much from her and we had so much fun doing it.  When you moved to Michigan I felt a real loss, and was so happy when you returned to Ohio.

I was so glad to have a good friend to share many conversations about our personal lives and our boys.  She told me about her struggle to have a child, the ultimate joy she and your Dad felt when you came into their life. You fulfilled their dreams of becoming a family and you were always the center of their universe.  Her love for you was great and became her purpose in life. So in many ways, her dreams came true. That must have given her a sense of peace.  I'm sure it was a comfort for her to have her beloved son with her as she left this world.  Bless you for being there.

I will remember her with love and am grateful to have had her as a friend.  Blessings to you and your family, especially at this time.  

Jennifer Sixt