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EULOGY
Lyria's brothers' eulogies of can be read here.


DONATIONS

In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations in Lyria's name to:


* Bridgewell, which provided Lyria with a fine home and services for many years; or

* The Peritoneal Dialysis Unit at Massachusetts General Hospital (Designation: "Other Area," write in "CAPD"). 

 

MEMORIAL
Thanks to everyone who joined us to celebrate Lyria's life June 16, 2012
at te Red Rock Bistro in Swampscott, MA

 

OBITUARY
Lyria Ramos, beloved daughter, sister, aunt, and friend, died peacefully on May 27 at her residence in Danvers from complications of the kidney disease with which she contended for over three decades. Born on July 23, 1962 in New Haven CT, she lived in Rio de Janeiro, New York City and Providence before moving to the Boston area in 1978. She was graduated from Riverview School in East Sandwich and lived in several staffed residences on the North Shore sponsored by Community Group and Bridgewell.

Her 33 years on dialysis exceeded all expectations. Her quick smile, tenacious will to live, and feisty spirit captivated all who knew her. Hospitalized on numerous occasions, she defied the odds, bounced back, and persevered. Engagingly gregarious, she bonded with staff, medical personnel, fellow dialysis patients, and strangers – all of whom learned of her fondness for karaoke. She spent her last days contacting friends and family to say thank you and goodbye, showing a grace that inspired us all.

Lyria is survived by her mother and stepfather Myra Ramos and Ben Rogers; father and stepmother Jovelino and Joan Ramos; siblings Barton, Tarso Luís, Helena and Carlos Ramos; five nephews and two nieces. 

Lyria's Boston Globe obituary can be found here.

 

July 23, 2014
July 23, 2014
Happy Birthday Lyria, You truly touched so many hearts. Your spirit lives on. I think of you often and miss you.
May 28, 2014
May 28, 2014
This flower is as close to the lei of flowers Lyria loved. She really enjoyed her time here in Hawaii. Kevin & I feel so lucky to have shared in her joy during her visit. We sat here tonight and listened to her whole karaoke of "Stairway to Heaven." We saw her perform it live!!! Tonight, smiles mixed with tears remind us of her light!
May 27, 2014
May 27, 2014
Thinking of you today Lyria. Your tree is doing well, reminding us of your determination and spirit.

Sincerely, Melissa
July 23, 2013
July 23, 2013
Thinking of you on your Birthday Lyria. Thinking of your strong and brave spirit, your smile and your love of life. Your tree is doing well, reminding us of your light.

Sincerely, Melissa
July 23, 2013
July 23, 2013
Happy Birthday Lyria !
My first thought, when thinking of Lyria, is of her smile!
Her fight, sass, humor and the genuine person she was, lives on
for all who had the pleasure of meeting / knowing her !
May 28, 2013
May 28, 2013
Since Heaven has become your new home, I still wish you were still here with us. Coolidge Rd family will always miss you. Yes I said family, because we care about our Residents like family. And we talked about you all the time, I'm sure you hear us from time to time, lol. One year feels more like yesterday. You are missed and Love.
~~Jenny~~
May 27, 2013
May 27, 2013
On this first anniversary of Lyria's passing, she is more than ever in our thoughts and hearts. How much her family misses her.
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
I hope Lyria's birthday brings with it memories of joyous times.
With Love and Light to Ramos family from Rob and Connie
July 23, 2012
July 23, 2012
Wishing Lyria a great birthday today. I am pretty sure where you are right now you are definitely in better hands than us on earth.
You will always be remembered.
Happy birthday Lyria Ramos
Love Jen
July 23, 2012
July 23, 2012
“I count myself in nothing else so happy, As in a soul remembering my good friends”
- William Shakespeare

In honor of your 50th birthday, Lyria.
July 23, 2012
July 23, 2012
Birthdays of a loved one who passed are hard - especially the first one. But they are also a time to remember, to reflect and to pay tribute. I am sending Tarso and his family so much love on this, Lyria's 50th birthday.

I am sure that Lyria's spirit is somewhere on that "staircase to heaven".
 ellen
July 23, 2012
July 23, 2012
Dear Lyria!
I hope you are having the grandest birthday party ever had in heaven!
You are an angel missed by all....... Never ever forgotten as you will always remain in our hearts! Happy 50th girlfriend!!
July 20, 2012
July 20, 2012
Much love and many hugs to Lyria, who brought warmth and light and love to all who met her! I feel blest to have known Lyria for the short while. I honor her memory, and the great love that her family carries for her. God Bless and Keep you all! Thanks for sharing these terrific photos of Lyria!
Liz, Kyle & Mollie
June 26, 2012
June 26, 2012
I am very grateful to have known and worked with Lyria. Our house at Coolidge Rd is very quiet without Lyria's voice, daytime soaps or the Waltons on tv. Lyria, you are very missed. Rest Peacefully, Sarah
June 26, 2012
June 26, 2012
I enjoyed all the time spent with Lyria, I am so happy to have known someone like that in my life. I am also greatful to have spent her last days with her, because eventhough she knew of her condition, she was still in good spirit and she was worried about making everyone else happy. I miss Lyria a lot, Coolidge house feels empty without her around. I'm sure she's at peace right now. Love
June 26, 2012
June 26, 2012
what a beautiful smile! the world is a little less brighter with the loss. *HUGS* to the whole family, what a side thing to lose a sister. but what a beautiful memorial for lyria! she was clearly very loved and very blessed to have such a wonderful family.
xo
bridget, jeremy, gus, and calum
June 15, 2012
June 15, 2012
Lyria reflected to us what is at the heart of being human. Despite her many difficulties, we could always see a spark of enjoyment and enthused interest in the people around her. Her warm appreciation was a gift and she thrived with the support of her amazing, loving family. We are glad to have known her.
June 15, 2012
June 15, 2012
Once I played Lyria one of my favorite pieces of obscure electronic music. As she listened her eyes lit up in surprise and she said 'wow, I've never heard music like this before'. I don't know if she liked it, but it was clear that she was excited by how different it was. She was sort of a muse for me, as I have often set out to make music that I felt would create the same reaction in her.
June 10, 2012
June 10, 2012
Dear Tarso and family,
Thank you for allowing me to meet Lyria on line and have a sense of her remarkable life both individually crafted and made possible by her village of family and caregivers.
June 8, 2012
June 8, 2012
Partiu para o coração do Pai de infinita bondade a primogênita do Rev. Jovelino, Lyria Ramos, no domingo de Pentecostes, 27 de maio, depois de mais de 30 anos em diálise renal (e, recentemente, peritonial). Lyria foi batizada na ICI e foi aluna da nossa querida tia Eunice Simões na Escola Dominical. Ao Reverendo Jovelino e família, o abraço carinhoso da ICI (Igreja Cristã de Ipanema).
June 5, 2012
June 5, 2012
Dear Tarso,I know how deeply you loved your sister and how much you miss her.My sympathy and condolence to you and your family.Her soul is free and not suffering any more.She will stay alive in your hearts and memories.I am so sorry I didn´t have chance to meet her...With love D.
June 4, 2012
June 4, 2012
Tarso, I was so so sorry to hear of Lyria's passing. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
June 4, 2012
June 4, 2012
My prayers are with and for you all. May Lyria's inspiring life continue to enlighten the paths of many. Peace, Cecil
June 4, 2012
June 4, 2012
Dear Tarso and family,
I'm so sorry to learn of your loss. Thank you for sharing this moving remembrance of Lyria. My heartfelt condolences to the entire family.
June 4, 2012
June 4, 2012
Tive hoje a noticia do falecimento de Lyria, fiquei muito emocionada lembrando dela na escola dominical e pensando na luta de vocês que com tanto amor souberam caminhar dando forças e carinho. Agora ela estar nos braços do senhor . Meu grande abraço a todos que souberam tão bem acompanhar na vida tão preciosa e dolorosa da Lyria.
Com todo o meu amor e saudade, Eunice
June 4, 2012
June 4, 2012
Even though I knew Lyria for a few months, my heart goes out to her family. I am very sad to see her gone , but now she's no longer in pain. Rest in peace my darling angel !!!!
June 3, 2012
June 3, 2012
will alway miss my friend who made me think and smile all the time. I will miss you always. Now you can sing with god in heaven.
June 3, 2012
June 3, 2012
Dear Tarso and all of your family - My deepest condolences to each of you and others who knew and loved Lyria. I'm sorry I never had the chance to meet her, but was so moved by this beautiful tribute and hope in time your heavy loss is comforted by your memories of so many smiles and clearly wonderful moments of joy together. Take care, Lori
June 3, 2012
June 3, 2012
David and I were always in awe of Lyria's independence and of the family's support of her independence. She made clear how dearly she valued her life in how she fought for it. It moves us deeply to know she is on her stairway and that she wanted to share her song with us.
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
what a beautiful remembrance for Lyria, clearly a very, very special person. my deepest sympathies to the entire family and especially my dear colleague Tarso - I know how devoted you were to Lyria and how loved she was by you. warmly, kta
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
My condolences to the whole family for a person clearly so loved. I hope this time of transitions is peaceful for all of you.
Trishala
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
Dearest Tarso, this is truly a beautiful tribute. Music is such a powerful medium - I can feel her strength and spirit in her voice. Witnessing your deep and unflagging love for Lyria has always been such a gift to all of us. Thank you. Sending my deepest love and sympathy to you and your family.
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
I didn't know Lyria, though I met her on a couple of occasions. I do know and love Tarso, her brother, and have always been inspired by his deep love of his sister, reflected here in this tribute. My deepest sympathy to all of the family.
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
Thank you so much for making and sharing this website. Now I too can say that Lyria has touched my life - a gift. love, Marcy
June 2, 2012
June 2, 2012
Though I didn't know Lyria, I feel now that I did, as well a seeing how loved she was by her family and friends. What a gift the world has lost. My thoughts and deepest sympathy are with Tarso and the family. Lyria will live on in your hearts.

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July 23, 2014
July 23, 2014
Happy Birthday Lyria, You truly touched so many hearts. Your spirit lives on. I think of you often and miss you.
May 28, 2014
May 28, 2014
This flower is as close to the lei of flowers Lyria loved. She really enjoyed her time here in Hawaii. Kevin & I feel so lucky to have shared in her joy during her visit. We sat here tonight and listened to her whole karaoke of "Stairway to Heaven." We saw her perform it live!!! Tonight, smiles mixed with tears remind us of her light!
May 27, 2014
May 27, 2014
Thinking of you today Lyria. Your tree is doing well, reminding us of your determination and spirit.

Sincerely, Melissa
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July 23, 2012

For years I dreaded the moment of Lyria's passing—and not only for the profound loss it would bring. I was certain Lyria would be terrified at the prospect of dying, and had no idea how I could respond or help her confront her fear. I tried to imagine what words I could say that would be supportive and comforting, and always came up short.

But when Lyria's time came it was not like that at all. As many of you know, she spent her last days reaching out by telephone, receiving visitors, and sharing memories. Shortly before she passed, she told Barton and me, “ You remember we talked about whether at some point I would stop dialysis, but I'm not ready yet.” A day later, she told Tarso and me, “You know, I'm kind of afraid to die.” I caught my breath, and Tarso asked,”Do you want to talk about it?” “Not really,” she said, and went on to talk instead about pleasant moments from her past. Two days later, she was gone.

Lyria was filled with grace in her last days. Her spirit became peaceful, generous, forgiving. For years she showed us how to fight for life against the odds. And at the end she showed us how to let go. She was a mensch all the way.

A Compliment for Lyria

June 11, 2012

Perhaps 20 years ago, when I was still working at Harvard Medical School, Lyria and my husband Ben came to an HMS holiday party. Noticing at one point that Lyria was sitting by herself on the sidelines, Ben sat down next to her and said what he thought would be a pleasing conversation opener: "Lyria, you have really beautiful eyes."

Lyria gave him a long look, then said, "How about the rest of me?"

 

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