Tributes
Leave a tributeWe know you are smiling down on everyone today and giving your mom and brother strength as they celebrate you with so many amazing memories they have. Blessings and love,
Julie, Fred, Bradley and Sydney
I wish you could see your baby brother now. He’s 17 and about to be a senior in high school! He just went to prom last weekend. He was so handsome. I know you would be very proud of him. He misses you. He shows it in different ways. He has memories of you that I don’t. Some I think he prefers to keep for himself. I cherish that about him. He and I are taking the day off from school and work today to devote to remembering you.
I love you and miss you so very much my little Maddy girl. I can’t wait until we’re together again!
Yesterday marked 6 years since you were taken from me. I didn’t do anything special. I stayed busy working in the yard. I thought of you in those quiet moments, digging into the earth, trying to feel your presence. Today I am frozen in grief. I’m taken back to those initial days of pain and shock 6 years ago. It hurts as much as it ever has; it never goes away. I’ve learned to let other feelings in too, like joy and tranquility, but those don’t take away the pain of not having you here with me. I’ll never understand why you were taken from this world, from all your family and friends who loved you, from a world that was better with you in it. But I do hope you celebrated your Angelversary in heaven yesterday. I’m sorry I didn’t do anything special to mark the day here on earth. But I know your loved ones were thinking of you, and I hope you could feel that. I love you always, my sweet Madeline.
I miss you. I miss you everyday. i miss the way we were young and innocent and would just laugh and sing taylor swift with jonah. I miss the time when we were watching Marley and me and you started crying and didn’t come out of your room for like an hour. I miss having our joint birthdays together even though I would secretly always get jealous of your presents because you were older. i miss every time i would come to your guys’ house and we would jump on the trampoline or walk to the gas station. I just really miss you. Why did you have to go to the park that day? Why did you have to cross the street at that moment? Why did you have to get hit by a car? Why did you have to die? you were my best friend... it’s been 6 years now since you died. i still miss you the same as i did 5 years ago. I still wish you were here. Why did this have to happen to us? to me your mom jonah your family my family. it doesn’t make sense none of us did anything to deserve this. it’s not your fault. i know that but i think that makes it harder. that there is no one to blame. when i was younger i didn’t fully understand what had happened. Now I do. now almost every day i think about how you were hit and then just gone. you weren’t really gone to start with. you were still alive. I wasn't allowed to see you because you were in a coma. then one day it was just over. My mom told me you hit your head too hard and you weren’t going to survive. once i found that out i wasn’t allowed to tell jonah. so all day i had to hear him talking about how you would get better and everything would be fine. but i knew. i knew that soon he would have to find out that his only sister wasn’t going to be alive for long. I remember when he was told. I think it was the day you died. your mom took him into a room and told him. when he came out he was bawling. That's the only time I have seen Jonah cry like that. Once he came out he started hugging me. just hugging me. Then he told me that I was like his sister now. that broke me. I didn't want to replace you, I just wanted you back. I just wanted you here hugging us. Why did you have to leave us? we needed you. we still need you. I'm trying really hard to start believing that you are in a better place. It's been really hard but I'm getting there. I just want you to know how much I love and miss you. I didn't truly know how much you meant to me until it was too late and you were gone. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. you didn’t do anything to deserve this. I can not wait to see you again. you were just a little kid. a little kid who was in the wrong place at the wrong time. and for that i’m so sorry. i love you madeline fisher always.
Maddy I love you more than words can express and I promise to never forget you. I absolutely can not wait to see you again. I love you Madeline Charlise Fisher
Two days ago was your 17th birthday, an especially difficult one for me for some reason. Perhaps because it feels like an age that signals a transition to planning for early adulthood. I wonder what plans you would’ve had at this age. Would you know what you wanted to pursue for a career? Would you be picking out colleges? Planning to travel? Would you be working now? Saving for something? Spending with no regard? Would you be out living it up with your friends? Or maybe you’d be a homebody, or a gamer, or an artist, or even an athlete? I don’t know. I’ll never know. All I can hope for is to see you again one day. I love you. Happy Birthday.
I love you, sweet girl, and we think of you every day.
Today is the day I woke up in a hospital bed on the pediatric unit and realized it wasn’t just a bad dream. Today is the day I went from fear to shock to horror to devastation to despair to hope to confusion to guilt to all of those at once to each one compartmentalized to each one all over again and again. Today is the day I sat with your dad and had horrific but legitimate conversations about whether to keep you living with virtually no hope of recovery or allow you to die naturally and spend the rest of our lives questioning that decision. Today is the day I did the hardest thing I’ll ever do in my life: told your little brother you wouldn’t be coming home and watched the world he knew for 9 years fall apart—an image that will forever be burned into my mind. Today is the day I had to look at your grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins filled with sorrow and watch them struggle with not knowing what to do or say. Today is the day I had to pick a funeral home. Today is the day I stood by that hospital bed and watched you take your last breaths. Today is the day my old life ended and a life I never thought possible began.
And here I am, 5 years later, continuing this lifelong journey through grief, with all its ups and downs, twists and turns, never ending but never forgetting, a journey driven by love. And this I promise you my angel: your legacy will not be that of pain. Your legacy will not be overshadowed by a moment of tragedy. Your death was the worst thing that has ever happened to me, but YOU, my precious daughter, are the best thing that ever happened to me.
I never had the chance to know you and didn’t even know your mom that well. We only went to school together for a short period of time in high school. But as I sit here and read these tributes to you and your mothers stories and journal entries about you and her pregnancy, my heart aches for her. So so badly. As a new mother myself I constantly worry about something happening to my child (as does every mother). The only difference here is that your mommy had to live that worst fear. And continues to live with that loss every single day. Your beautiful soul was taken from this earth way too soon. I pray for comfort for your parents and family and for peace, knowing that they have an angel looking down on them. Happy heavenly birthday sweet Madeline.
Just as I never knew true love before you came into my life, I never knew true loss until you left it. You were, are and will always be, my everything.
Love, Mommy
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We know you are smiling down on everyone today and giving your mom and brother strength as they celebrate you with so many amazing memories they have. Blessings and love,
Julie, Fred, Bradley and Sydney
I'll never forget when I first seen Maddy when she was a baby. She was the most beautiful baby I'd ever laid eyes on. The precious memories I have of her will stay tucked in my heart forever. Like the time I let her sleep with my flag blanket when she was just a baby. Jackie warned me that she would probably throw up on it.. yeah, she did. Lol. As Maddy grew and started to develop her own personality she and I became best friends. She liked picking on me., and of course I played along. She was a joy that was given to me from God. She liked helping me do things outside. she loved talking to me as much as I loved talking to her. I really do believe she looked up to me and I looked up to her. She was the most sweetest, kind, loving little person I got to know. She had a Big Heart. She was loved and always will be for now and forever. Her smile and bright eyes will always be in my memory of her. Yes, the memories I have of her will be tucked in my heart until we meet again.
Feels like yesterday
It's hard to believe it's been a year. I look at her pictures and it hurts as much now as it did a year ago. I can't breathe, my heart hurts and I can't stop the need to hold her just one more time. Everyone that knew her loved her. She was the most extraordinary person I have ever or will ever know. To know Maddy was to have been a part of something so much bigger than yourself. When Jeremy told me he was going to be a dad, I was ecstatic because I knew in my heart that child was going to be the better part of my life, and she was. She always will be.
I know one day it won't hurt as bad. But for now and probably for a while to come, I will miss her, my heart will hurt and I will find it hard to breathe. I know she is happy and in a beautiful place. One as beautiful as she is.
Maddy Has Two Mommies
I could write a story about how amazing Maddy was, but it would take me years. Madeline was my first baby. She was brought into this world at a time where her mother and I were inseperable and therefore, she became a part of me her first day on earth.
What I really want to talk about is how loved this child was, even if her time on earth was far too brief. From the moment she found out she was pregnant, Sarah was a mother, and a damn good one at that. Not only did she buy all of the books and do all of the research to prepare for the baby that was coming, but she changed her life to provide an amazing one to her child.
Sarah taught me so much about how to be an amazing mother. I learned little things like how to clip nails (it would take both of us most of the time to do it with Madeline), how important breast feeding was and why, how to make a bottle, and the absolute joy of a baby falling asleep on your shoulder. More importantly, I learned that even though we may not have everything together, even though we can be emotional wrecks and have our own issues, it doesn't mean that we can't be a wonderful and exceptional parent.
Sarah has been my person since I was 16 and we have seen each other transform throughout the years. I was proud of the way she took on motherhood and did it so well. I am also proud of the way she has carried on since last May. The way that she admits how absolutely devestating this is, but keeps going every day. The way she is keeping the beautiful memory of her daughter's life going every single day.
Maddy was special and I know a big reason for that is because Sarah, my bff, is special.