May we all remember the happy times we spent with Mads, Madhu, Madhavi and keep them alive forever...
  • 47 years old
  • Born on August 21, 1965 in Mumbai, India.
  • Passed away on October 7, 2012 in Bangalore, Karnataka, India.

This memorial website was created in the memory of our beloved sister, Madhavi Anshumali who passed away on October 7, 2012.

She had been diagnosed with Brain Cancer...astrocytoma grade 3. The Docs at the Institute of All India Medical sciences had given her less than a year. But, her 8-year old daughter Dhwani and I  refused to accept it and fought with everything we had to keep her with us for as long as we could.

Sadly we managed only a good two and a half years or so.

The amazing thing was despite the fact that she was bedridden,we never saw her sad or in pain. Just very very tired.

We tried our best to kept her spirits up, laughed a lot and pretended all was normal.

I am so glad Dhwani and I had these last years together with her.  It gave us the chance to love her and provide her the best care we could.

Thank you Mads for putting your trust in me and for the most wonderful gift of my life ...your darling daughter Dhwani.

I shall miss our long chats  late into the night and the way you use to shriek "Diddddi" and come running up to hug me everytime we met after a long break.

 God am I going to miss everything that is so you. Your mischief... your crazy giggle, your rebellious spirit...

Most of all your love.

This site has been specially created for all friends and family members who loved her. Together let us cherish our beautiful memories of her and keep her alive in our hearts and minds.  Do please help us know more about her different sides and the ways she  touched your life.

Thank you,

Her loving sister,

Aruna

 

Posted by Aruna Nair on 8th October 2018
RIP my little one.
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 8th October 2018
Dear Madhavi, may God take care of you where ever you are.
Posted by Jaya Govindan on 7th October 2018
I never once thought a time would come when this world would have to one day live without this vibrant and caring person called Madhavi, my good and bad day friend. God had gifted Madhavi with two forms of communication—one with her pithy words and the other with her dark dancing eyes. I used to spend a full day with her in Noida and she would come over to my place in Charmwood. There were so many things we needed to catch up on that even one extra person with us seemed like an intrusion.
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 22nd August 2018
Hi Madhavi, you've gone long time back but we all still hold on to your memory and are still trying to accept that death is the ultimate truth which is Independent of ones age. One of my close friend's 3 year old daughter recently developed acute lukemia and is undergoing chemotherapy. Don't know how to support her in a different country. Guess I will follow your guidance and chant for her highest human potential. Wish you happiness wherever you are....
Posted by Raji Gomber on 9th October 2017
Dear Madhavi, You still live ..you live in my prayers and in my thoughts. Grateful to Aruna that she brings you back from reel to real through this memorial. My life has most fond memories of time spent with you. Wish you all the joys wherever you are .. stay blessed...
Posted by Aruna Nair on 7th October 2017
It is five years since you left for a better place. The journey of grief has been long and arduous. The complete abandonment by those who mattered, the isolation and loneliness has been devastating. I felt amputated.The ache of unending loneliness in an empty house was more than I could bear. The crippling silence, the lack of footfalls and a silent phone. I ached for companionship. There was none. Thanks to Dhwani's presence everytime she returned from school, she has kept me on my toes.It helped me lift myself from this morass. The clouds have finally cleared. I have reconciled to the reality that I will see you again in another dimension. From this day on I move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and confidence. You know what? You were right. I feel too intensely. People misunderstand. What is important is that in the end you understood. You remain in my heart my little one! For as long as I live.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2017
"Happy Birthday Maddy! The 21st of August is always a day for the fondest of memories and a lot of tears. God Bless my darling wherever you are from Dhwani and me!
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 21st August 2017
Happy Birthday Madhavi! Wherever you are, may you stay blessed, happy and healthy.
Posted by Shivani Dube on 14th January 2017
Miss u my dear madhavi and dada....noone cud take ur place....wishing and praying for ur happiness wherever u may b.....why did u go so early. Why did u leave.....wish I was with u when u needed me....pls forgive..... With prayers and prayers!!!
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 9th October 2016
Remembering you today and sending my good wishes to you where ever you are.
Posted by Arjun Nair on 27th August 2016
Sweetheart, Once again this year we sponsored the Lunch @ Karunashraya on your birthday with instructions to serve your favourite Gulab Jamun. Miss you more than others would imagine and only you would know.
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 22nd August 2016
Belated Happy Birthday Madhavi! Death has always intrigued me and made me a little fearful. Ever since I was a little child I used to get nightmares of death of my mother or someone close to me and often I would wake up in tears. However, during the course of growing up I learnt that we all are bodies constituting of energy and energy can never be destroyed it can only change its form. After this belief got ingrained in my psyche, I started believing that if any of my loved one dies he/she would always be around me, just in another form. Honestly speaking the anxiety associated with death still didn't go away completely but I felt more comfortable with this belief in mind. In the course of life several loved ones died. Some so young that their death could have been inconceivable, just like you Madhavi. I wish there was a way I could actually see or experience this transformation of energy. I wish you could help me with this Madhavi. Remembering you today....
Posted by Joshua Eliezer on 21st August 2016
Remembered and missed always - Happy Birthday!
Posted by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2016
Sweetheart Sorry for being late. My account was hacked. Happy Birthday. You would have been fifty one. Dhwani and I miss you everyday. You accompany us everywhere...love you.
Posted by Baba Deolalikar on 21st August 2016
Madhu we miss you a lot here in E117 .Also miss dear Anshu . No one can ever fill the void that you have left.
Posted by Ekramul Haque on 17th June 2016
Both Madhavi and Anshumali are so fresh in my memory. In fact Anshumali was my college senior as well. I can't forget those moments when Madhavi with her electric presence in DSSW campus used to cheer us. Long live your sweet memory with us Madhavi and Anshumali.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 8th October 2015
Three years....the pain doesn't go away...the tears don't stop. Just to let you know you have a brilliant daughter who misses you every day. Did you know the school wants to train her for the nationals in athletics? You would be so proud. I look to You, Mum and Dad for guidance when it comes to her. Love you!
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 7th October 2015
Dear Madhavi, You are remembered today and wished peace and happiness where ever you are. May God give strength to Dhwani and make her a strong individual just like her Mum.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 25th August 2015
Hi mumma Its Dhwanzie here .Mumma I having a looooooooooot of fun here mumma missssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss u lots .mumma maasi visited u no mumma today is brousing every time i have brousing ill meet you nothing else to do mumma hows life out there ? out here its ok mumma Sushil ,Aman Rohan ,aaditiya ,saketh ,mumma my back is hurting like maaaaad ill go home and have a medical check up there mumma u know mumma Beena mamam and moli wished u to mumma love u lotsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss ur loving daughter Dhwanzie
Posted by Jaya Govindan on 21st August 2015
It is 11 minutes past 11 pm. Today, we travelled all the way from Alaknanda to Mayur Vihar, to have a Darshan of Guruvayurappa. I recall Madhavi and our desire to one day visit the temple together. Unfortunately, we didn't make it eventually. Frankly, who could have foretold that Madhavi, the very epitome of life and energy, would go away at such a young age? I miss her. And I pray that she is reborn in circumstances more beautiful than the one she left behind.
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 21st August 2015
Dear Madhavi, Wish all those who were associated you when you were a part of this world continue to remember you and get inspired. God Bless you Dhwani! When your mum named you, I so loved your name.. I'm happy to see that you are growing up so well and have such an amazing aunt by your side. You don't know me, still if there is anything I can do for you please let me know.
Posted by S R on 21st August 2015
Best wishes to Dhwani and to Madhavi's elder sister, who obviously has given so selflessly to her niece, in the aftermath of the tragedy of Madhavi's untimely passing. Madhavi was my high school classmate and was quite the life of the class. Much missed and it seems liike she touched so many lives after.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2015
Hi Mumma, How's life? Happy Birthday!!! Missing you a lot today. Mumma, have a lot of fun today and go rocking wherever you are. Mumma, I have no idea, everyone wished you including batch guys, seniors and juniors. Bye! Miss you, love you lots. Love, Dhwani
Posted by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2015
Hullo my Darling Girl! Remembering you a lot today. You would have been 50 Imagine! How Time goes by. I miss you everyday. My heart breaks everytime I visit you which is one of the reasons I haven't come by . The Tears don't stop. I can't help thinking how much time we lost in not being together and not trying hard enough to understand each other when we were given the precious gift of sisterhood. That is what life has been reduced to...each in their own little world ...imagining...not knowing truly where the other is coming from. When you begin to .... it is too late. Such a tragedy really... i can't stop crying...I just want you to know that all along I truly loved my little sister.... God bless you my sweetheart wherever you are! I hope you are with Mum and Dad...
Posted by Mohan Prasad on 21st August 2015
Thanks to Raji, Who has shared the glimpses of Madhvi's life. Really an inspiration struggle. Hope you are at peace wherever you are
Posted by Raji Gomber on 21st August 2015
Hi Madhavi, Its strange your mention comes up each time I speak to a new member sharing your resplendent spirit, your infectious naughty smile and your great mission.. It was just yesterday, I went through your story of life with a couple.. and so you live on...in my heart and as an inspiration to many of never giving up.. Happiness to you wherever you are... Raji
Posted by Aruna Nair on 18th August 2015
Hi mumma how are u ? mumma nice talking to you after sooooooooooooo long mumma I have to hurry up cause its almost time for lights of mamma i am missing u a lot mumma if i can tommrow i will come and meet u mumma hows life mines fine ill come always when im free mumma missing u lots why did u leave me? love u lots your loving daughter dhwani mumma adwanced happy birthday love and miss u lots Dhwani
Posted by Aruna Nair on 13th May 2015
hi mumma mamma today is my birthday !!!!!!!!!!!!!!mumma i have to go now !!!!!!! bye love you a lot miss u your loving daughter dhwani
Posted by Aruna Nair on 12th May 2015
hi mumma , how are you ? guess who this is ? dhwani . mamma tommrow is my birthday and i am having a lot of fun here . mamma i wish u were here in my fa's i got awesome marks .mamma mamma i wish u were here bye love u lots dhwani
Posted by Raji Gomber on 11th May 2015
Missing you today once again... friend.. I could speak with you just whenever... and you would giggle before hearing me out.. Be at peace. ...
Posted by Anjali Venugopal on 8th October 2014
Dear Madhu, when your mother was being wheeled out of Maternity at Ashvini, my mother was being wheeled in - that's when we first met if you remember..they stopped for a chat. Then there was a lull..fast forward to 1973, we were in the same class in Armed Forces Public School, now called something else..we moved to Loreto together.. and then fast forward again to ISCT when we worked together for a while (we didn't recognise each other at first!!) by then I'd got to know your parents as people (not Uncle and Aunty!) and I'd met Bala and Aruna (as I person I mean not as the big sis who only came into the room to say "Come and eat" or something) and their very first cocker spaniel..I met Poonam and Arjun and their family..and I just tagged myself on..I met Anshum and Goofy..haven't met Dhwani but I will I know.. And then everybody moved on - first Uncle, then Anshum, then Aunty (whatever happened to Bubbles??)...and now you.. Aunty's knee surgery was an Event. For some reason, we felt we had to make Corn and Spinach Bake at 6 AM..Why did we have to do that?? I mean why at 6AM can you please tell me.. But we'll meet again somewhere I'm quite sure we will and you'll give me Uncle's gyan on how to save money and how toothpaste must be put on the brush...and how I must stop falling in love with all the wrong men (you'll like the one I have now btw) Much love my dear..please see the picture wherever you are..its got your dear friend Alpana..
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 7th October 2014
Dear Madhvi, May you have a rocking life wherever you are!! Just saw all the pics that Aruna has posted here. It feels like a walk through your entire life. They are lovely!
Posted by Sudha Deolalikar on 7th October 2014
We both miss dear Madhu as well as dear Anshumali as both were close to us always.Never does a day pass without remembering dear Madhu.
Posted by Jayanthi Ramaseshan on 7th October 2014
Remembering you as you are a special person. Have peace and be happy wherever you are. Jayanthi
Posted by Aruna Nair on 7th October 2014
2 years! Every time I visit you here, you still seem so alive. I love you! I miss you.
Posted by Tulika Mehta Agarwal on 31st August 2014
Madhvi and I became friends through Soka Gakkai. Though we were in touch for a short duration, it was enough to demonstrate what a courageous and inspiring woman Madhvi was. The strength that she showcased following the demise of her husband, was unmatched. I got the news of her untimely demise just a few days back and I was left with so many questions and such a lot of disbelief. I felt very bad about getting to know so late and not being able to pray for her when she would have needed it the most; But mostly I felt extremely bad for the little one, Dhwani. Luckily got in touch with Ivy who was able to answer most of my questions, rest of which were answered through the memorial website. Aruna, hats off to you for being such a brave and supportive sister! May God give you the strength and the resources that you require to bring up Dhwani. Being a strong and perseverant member of Soka Gakkai, I have no doubt that Madhvi would have left this world in peace despite the pain. May Dhwani be granted with the same insurmountable strength like her mother. Thank you Madhvi for being a part of my life.
Posted by Raji Gomber on 22nd August 2014
Dear Madhavi.... I have still not come to terms with your leaving us.. your last murmur from the hospital bed in Bangalore is on my phone and when members have questions on unique mission and great causes, I share your pic on my phone and your awakening from slumber and yet chanting.....Bless you ..I will remain in touch for we will meet again...and again.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 21st August 2014
Darling Mads yet another birthday without you. We miss you soo much and not a day goes by without you in our thoughts. Love you forever Dids
Posted by Jaya Govindan on 21st August 2014
Madhavi personified the very essence of life according to me and the countless others, I am sure, who had the privilege to know her. It's so very hard to believe that Madhavi is not within reach anymore. We lived very far away from each other when in Delhi but the phone bridged that distance quite remarkably. Even when she moved to Goa, we remained connected. She never ever complained of health problems and yet ironically enough, cancer dared to short-circuit her life. Madhavi, my heart turns heavy each time I recall that last call of yours to me. "Jaya," you said, "please chant for me. They suspect cancer." And I gasped in horror and disbelief, "it cannot. be Madhavi,it cannot be". And we both wept like children lost on the sands of time.
Posted by Ronjini Bose on 21st August 2014
happy birthday, madhu... shine on..
Posted by Jayanthi Ramaseshan on 21st August 2014
Anshumali was my colleague and I met Madhvi and little Dhwani in some get together. I heard a lot about Madhvi. It was good I met her even for a little time. Wonderful couple. Its our loss,. Today remembering her on her birthday I am fortunate to be part of this group, May both of them be always together in all life times and enjoy life.
Posted by Jim Schmit on 13th August 2014
Very sorry to hear of your loss. This is sad and tragic. My wishes to you and your family. I am not sure if this is the same person but her name was Madhavi Anshumali and she was practising the wonderful SGI Nichiren Buddhism. Is this the same person? Once again very sorry for your loss.
Posted by Aruna Nair on 20th March 2014
Hullo Sweetie! It has been awhile since we conversed. So much has happened which you would be thrilled about. Dhwani has made it to Lawrence School!! Isn't that something? See? I promised you it would happen. And Boy did I move heaven and earth . Don't ask How I managed the finances but there were some angels who love you who helped...and you know who they are and ofcourse thank god I managed "the job!" That helped big time! My first lakh on a painting also contributed. Exciting huh? Why do I feel you have something to do with all of this?. You would be so proud of little D. She is growing up to be a sensible, intelligent and a lovely compassionate being. She now speaks of Homer, Illiad and Hitler!! CAN YOU IMAGINE ? Your little Ms going to be 10-year old?? Guess not encouraging too much TV time but insisting on more reading time is working. We sit and read and have intense conversations about life in the evenings together. Not a moment goes by when we don't think about you. Dhwani is so sure you are with her. Some evenings she tells me she is going to the swing because she wants to have a chat with you...I follow and then both of us look at the stars and try to figure out which one you are! But ofcourse it is the brightest. :) Miss you darling!
Posted by S R on 20th October 2013
I was Madhavi's classmate at Kendriya Vidyalaya Colaba from 10th grade (I think) till the 12th grade (that was definite). She was a really bubbly person and quite the life of the class, she will be missed. Satish Ramakrishna (I was known as Satyanarayan in those days)
Posted by Ronjini Bose on 8th October 2013
Thinking of you today, Madhu.... hard to believe its already a year.... be at peace.
Posted by Abhishek Sinha on 7th October 2013
Dear mam, Hw much I miss u dt only me, u and dhwani knows.Since d time u left I never went to jal vayu colony .Love u till eternity
Posted by Raji Gomber on 7th October 2013
Dear Madhavi, Since Morning I had been feeling not so good..then I saw this mail...and remembered what I was forgetting... when you remember someone so often, every moment then you tend to forget special dates.. Recently I shared your life with some new members , they were speechless and I saw you giving your special smile. u r always there..peace
Posted by Mani Paramasivan on 7th October 2013
So many wonderful memories you bring, Mads, of times rich and meaningful shared with you and with Anshumali and dear Dhwani. Your mirthful, radiant face when you turned up at the door with a sparrow named Bertie in your tousled hair; that’s the face I – we, all of us who loved you and love you still – carry in our hearts and minds. Be at peace, dear Mads...
Posted by Aruna Nair on 7th October 2013
It has been a difficult one year sis. I am dealing with it and so is Dhwani. We can't believe it is a year. I have had no motivation to get back to work. I have just been existing in silence and painting. I miss your critiques. Even though you couldn't speak you would smile and nod your head if you liked a piece. I miss you so much. Love you always my baby sister!
Posted by Baba Deolalikar on 7th October 2013
One year has slipped away so fast.We remember dearest Madhu on every small and big occasion.

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