Tribute to Mummy Frances Adebajo
My earliest recollection of Mummy Adebajo was her being a regular feature on an educational programme on the Nigeria Broadcasting Service sometime in the 1960s. The television afforded her the expression of her teaching skills to a wide, but young audience, of the post-independence decade era, beyond the confines of a classroom. Being in the prime of her life at the time, she cut a picture of a beautiful and knowledgeable lady lending credence to an old Latin proverb which describes the face as the index of the mind. This picture remained firmly etched in the inner recesses of my mind.
Mummy Adebajo was a TV celebrity in her own right, unsung and uncelebrated probably due to her modest, quiet and gentle disposition, but certainly due to the nascent stage of the television industry at the time of her involvement.
Little did I know that I would later on in life, several decades after, have the privilege of having a close personal and fond relationship with Mama.
Our hearts are truly known by the paths we walk!
I recall that she was a member of Zonta International – a global organisation in pursuit of women empowerment through its advocacy for equality, education, putting an end to child marriage and gender-based violence. She served, at some point as President of Zonta Club of Lagos II, mentoring some of her successors in office, one of which was Mrs. Elizabeth Wuraola Ojo of blessed memory.
Proverbs 12:4a which says, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown” could easily be deduced as prefacing and characterizing her marriage to Papa Samson Afolabi Adebajo, in all of its 57-year duration. Her Love and devotion to her husband was evident to all. They were a delight to watch as they religiously took their daily evening stroll , hand -in-hand, from their George Street apartment in the west end of London, in the summer months. It was a study in life-long devotion and endearing love, even at an advanced age, of the type that is sadly becoming the exception rather than the norm in current times.
In the words of 1Peter1:24:
“All flesh is as grass,
And all the glory of man as the flower of the grass.
The grass withers,
And its flower falls away”
Age, as it is wont to do, took its toll on Mama’s physical appearance with the onset of frailty, but her inner beauty, like good wine was of rare vintage. Her heart was big enough to accommodate Mobola and I as adopted children. The collateral damage of the aftermath of the COVID-19 pandemic and the physical and social distancing aspects of its protocol made it not possible to pay Mama a visit since the latter part of 2019. Her phone call of 25th March 2021, in which she remonstrated our lack of physical contact, unbeknown to me, was her ‘nunc dimittis.’ An unfulfilled promise of a visit is what we’re left with, as we mourn her transition. A good and gentle heart has stopped beating. Humanity is surely the poorer for this loss.
A teacher indeed affects eternity and can never tell where her influence stops. There`s an African saying that, “A Teacher’s reward is in heaven” which simply means the reward for a teacher’s daily sacrifice, toil and hard work in shaping the minds and lives of the future leaders of the society can never be adequately rewarded in monetary terms. Mummy Adebajo, having fought the good fight, having kept the faith, having finished her terrestrial race, can now claim her well-deserved reward in the heavenly realm.
Mama ti lo si ibi ti awon agba ma nlo. As she swims to a far land unknown to those of us who remain behind, I wish Mummy Adebajo God’s speed and perfect peace. She has left us to cherish her memories on this earthly realm as she proceeds to her eternal home. Fond memories we must cherish indeed!
To Egbon Kayode & Nike, Kunle & Sylvia, Wale & Bimpe, Demola & Toyin, grandchildren, and the family at large, I pray God’s comfort and grace would avail for you all at this time. Kindly take solace in the fact that Mama lived a fulfilled life, well beyond the proverbial three score and ten mentioned in the Bible, and just shy of her 90th birthday. I commend to you the words of C.S. Lewis “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains.” It has pleased the Sovereign Lord to call Mama home at this time. As mere mortals, we have to accept His will in the firm knowledge that He makes everything beautiful in His time.
Adieu our gentle and affable Mummy Adebajo and enter into your deserved rest. Sun re o, Mama to s’owon!
Kofi Sagoe
8 May 2021