Tribute from Sarathy, a family friend and Sankar's colleage

I happen to get a chance to attend shirdi baba bhajan this thursday and when the 1 hr songs ended , my friend did the arti pooja and i close my eyes to be one in that moment and to my suprise my eyes became wet and tears were rolling down and deep pangness swept me. i didnt know the reason then but just few sec after that when i opened my eyes, i saw appa's twinkling eyes in the picture of baba which was kept on the table.. I felt your presence appa and there i saw you consoling me saying " hey suj, iam here with you , so kanna thodicho, smile now ".

i could immediately see myself listening to your command and i started feeling warm and good and felt you embracing me and promising that you would remain in me for ever always and i shouldnt miss your absence... Yes appa. i do feel you permeating around me and being with me yet i cant stop those tears trickling down my eyes when i see your picture and those eyes of yours which i see in baba everyday ..

May you be blessed with all the goodness and your soul enrich the lives of many .. Thanks for being in my heart mind and soul and thanks for having such association with me.

I also take this moment to thank MOHAN  to have introduced appa to me and helping me to develop that bond which i carry it with me in special way .. My heartfelt condolences to you and know he is with us.

your right eye- Suj

Dear Sankar,

I am back from my trip to Coimbatore for a trail test of machines and on return I could see your mail.
I really cherish my association with you and your parental family since we lived in close neighbourhood

at Trichy, Puthur officer's colony. I really remember your family group for the fact that it can be earmarked
for the rollmodel of Indian joint family system. I am happy that your father had been your guide spirit all
along till yesterday and continuing his blessings into the future of you and your family. I still remember our
visit to your father office after BE graduation for getting his character certificate at the sub-magistrate

court / Thennur. I am sending the attachment of his character certificate to me to cherish his long family,
friendy association.

May I pray his soul to rest in peace. In fact I wanted to meet all of you atleast once at your place but could not
make it.

Convey my heartfelt condollences to everyone of your family members.

With kind regards,

Balakrishnan Swaminathan. and

Shanthi Balakrishnan

dear c.s. sankar,

prr

Dear Ramesh

I could not believe your father is no more and my heartfelt condolences to you and your brothers. 

I met him couple of times at your store and had always asked him how he is so lively at this age. He will smile and will show his hands to the sky.

I know that this loss is terrible as you used to talk to me daily about his activities while he was with you.

Elango Mani 

Dear Chetan,

I am very sorry to know of the passing away of your respected father on 4th June. I remember having met him couple of times, particularly in November 1991 when I used to be the President of ICAEA, and he gave a wonderful talk as Chief Guest about Deepawali in the annual function of ICAEA.  He was indeed a very well read and a noble soul, and it was always a pleasure to talk to him.

May God rest his soul in peace and provide all of you the strength to bear this irreparable loss.

With best regards to you and Laxmi, and love to your children,

Narendra Kumar Govil

Chetan:

Sorry to get the news about passing of your dad. I know it is a great loss to you and all members of your family. But reading his obituary, it is obvious he lived a grand and fruitful life. I know you have been proud of him. Cherish the memories of a  gentle and well lived life of your loved one. Nimi and I send our sincere and deep condolences to you and all members of your family.

Best wishes always

Dear Dr. Sankar. Shashi and I are grieved to hear about your  Fathers demise. We are really sorry. Though we did not have the good fortune of meeting him in person, he appears to be a very gentle and kind man. I know how much of a shock it is to loose one's Father, I have  been through it. One never overcomes this loss, but with time we do make adjustments and life goes on. Furthermore, he had a very productive and useful life full of accomplishments and service to humanity. He was a great man, and an upright and honest human being. May God grant peace to his soul and a place of high esteem in heaven.  Please accept our heartfelt condolences. God be with you and bless you and your family.
Yours sincerely, Madan Vig

Dear sankar , we are all deeply saddened to hear the passing away of your dear father yesterday.we could still recollect the occasions like marriages and other functions in which we had pleasant talks with him and the camaraderie and bonhomie he exuded which made us relish the occasions even today. All those memories remind us about his engaging avuncular personality which would keep us talking about him whenever the occasion presents.
He had lived a rich life by any Indian standards either professionally or by enriching the family life. He was a fond husband and doting father. These qualities have made him bring all his children to the finest levels of professional competence.He is a Raravis(rare person)  
Karthik avinash dharmu and myself express our heartfelt condolences to you and all of your brothers especially shri.Murthy and his wife who will miss your most.
please convey our condolences to him and other members of your family.
convey our condolences to  your wife lakshmi as well.
May your father's soul rest in peace
Balakrishnan

Chetan:
 
I am out of the country.  I just read about your father.  I read the memorial site.
 
I have no good words to express to you.  I will say, based on what I know about you, your father has left a lasting positive legacy on the world.  A good and honorable man.   You are a living example of what he established as a bar to reach.  He lead you to be the kind of person you are.  One who does make a difference in the world around us.  Never lose sight of your history and the history you are currently making for the rest of us to follow.
 
My greatest sympathy to you and your family.
 
Most sincerely,

Danny

Dear annas

We are very sorry to hear the sad news.We are very luckiest family to have this good soul as Periappa. Very disciplined and gentleman. Whenever we met him during his visits to India,he used to give very useful advices for leading a good healthy and disciplined life. We will never forget hm. As we all know that the relationship between my father and him was always very friendly and affectionate. We always miss him. We pray the ALMIGHTY for this good soul rest in peace.

Ambi & family 

i have uploaded a photos of us taken during one of his visits to india.. Times spent with him remain lively as him in our minds and heart . His smile, enthusiasm s so contagious that whenever i see his picture and think of him , my lips turn into smile and i fondly remember his kutti kutti quotes which he used to say to make me understand the nuances of life.

This shirt was selected by him and i remember murthy anna saying to me , inda shirta appa vidave matengra . He is wearing it daily since 3 days and plz ask him to put it to wash.. You remain in me fondly and thank you for protecting me appa on that day. Loving memories and your love remains in my heart. I thank him for accepting me whole heartedly and giving me his best always

I am really sorry to hear the news of a very good man passing away.
Anna was more than a Godfather for me throughout my formative years. His simplicity and love was very refreshing and left a very lasting impression on my outlook in life. I would not be able to forget when he took me to the Pudukkottai Post office late on a Saturday afternoon, to take a 5 rupees postal order for my application for engineering college admission. He took me on a bicycle. That changed my entire life from being a poor man to an educated man with a decent life.
I can also not forget the Pudukkottai house where Akka gave me food for my body and Anna gave me food for my mind and soul. I will always remember my association with your family as the single most turning point in my life. Both your parents showed a lot of love to me and treated me as their eldest son. I will always be grateful for that slice of luck in my life.
I am glad that he had Uma as a daughter in law ( in fact she was more than a daughter to him ) to keep him company in his old age and look after him.
My heartfelt condolences to you and Uma, &  Murthy, Shankar, Ramesh , Mohan and their respective families. Please convey my love to all of them.
Vasanthi joins me in offerring our sympathies to you all as she also had a very good relationship with your parents and has a lot of regards and affection for your entire family.

Like a  great Banyan tree,  Mama provided shelter and guided all to become great and mentally strong persons. He guided not only his dear ones but also to all who took shelter under the great strong tree.

The tree is no longer with us, we have but its shade.

It is said that “Man lives in deeds not in years”; but here was someone who lived in both. Mama’s youthfulness was evident in his remarks on each of his birthdays. Even on his 90th birthday, he said – ‘Today I am 90 years young.”, Mama your sprit is truly indomitable.

I, vividly remember my early days as a daughter-in-law in this wonderful family, when I was overawed by the sheer efficiency that everyone displayed in their work. As I was feeling visibly out-of-place, I casually remarked to him, “I feel like a square peg in a round hole.” Mama then replied in his usual nonchalant manner, “All you need to do is to cut the corners off.”

Mama personally believed in a disciplined and rigid schedule.  He was an avid Bhagawad Gita reader and also followed its teachings throughout his life.

We have seen him responding with promptness to mails. He was calm and composed and the word 'anger' had no place in his dictionary.

My husband and in-laws join me in conveying heartfelt condolences to Mama’s family.

Mama,  We love you and we will miss you forever.

USHA

Appa and myself were like friends in college and meeting after a long gap..May be i was connected with him in some life and it ended half way and we met again in this life and continued from where we left ,,

His energy , smile and perspective over the nuances of life were so contagious and one would be in awe at his perseverence over different things.. We have had good fun times , fighting times ( it was me who used to fight and force him to respond) and he used to fight with me becoz i wanted it ..He has such extreme sense of oness to become like those whom he was interacting with ..I still remember him taking me for buttermilk and ice cream one evening as a thankful gesture since i cut his nails for him.. We twins used to constantly bully and nag him as whom he is close to and he used to smile and say " how can i say which eye is special. Both are essential and fruitful". He had such knack of handling things around him,, Even then i never used to let go . i used to constantly point to him i am special as iam his right eye and mostly we all are right hand dominant people..He used to give that sparkling smile of his on that and touch my hand with warmth,, I miss you appa, i miss your mails asking about each and every one in my family and my work and those special children whom you didnt know yet was reaching out to them in your own special way,

I miss your blessings on festive days and i miss you coming to India and we going out together and me coming to see you and chatting with anna and manni.. You will remain in our memories and i am sure your soul will bless me like always and we will be staying in touch just like how you used to ,, Thanks appa for such wonderful association and Sriram and Supri too joins in conveying their wishes and to rest your soul in peace,, Love you ever, hugs

You are my soul connect, Appa.

You are my strength/motivator/guide in times of my vulnerability. 

You are the one who brings that twinkle in my eyes when I see that sparkle in your eyes.

You are very special whom I revere/cherish, and will hold onto my heart and soul forever.

Love you always. You are engraved in anything I do, Appa.

Hugs.

Your Right Eye (Suja)
 

CS Mani, Rupa's father in law epitomised the ideal of growing old gracefully, hopefully and happily. He was a blessing to his family and loved by them. We were very glad that we were able to spend time with him last December and January in the US, and will cherish the memories of that time.

With our condolences and fond memories at this time.

The Venkats

Dear Mohan,

Just heard the news from Hamsa.  I am in Pretoria at our office conference and did not want to call and trouble you amidst your hospital visits etc.

I am really sorry to hear the sad news.  Our heartfelt condolences to you and your brothers.  May your father’s soul rest in peace and he will be with all of us in our prayers.

Talk soon.

Best Regards,
Raghu 

Dear Rupa
Very sad and distressed to hear about the demise of your father in law at Philadelphia.
Mya God give all of you to bear this loss.
Let the departed soul rest in peace.
J. JAYARAMAN KONU

I am truly sorry I cannot be with everyone to mourn the loss of thatha and celebrate his life.

When I married Akila, I also married into her family.  Thatha accepted me into the family with open arms and an open heart.  I didn't know what a thatha was at the time, but now I can say I am privileged to have him as my thatha, my grandfather. My life is fuller having had him as part of my life, and I will no longer be the same having lost him.

One of my favorite stories of thatha is when Vijay, Vivek, Akila, and I walked in on thatha asleep on an ab machine exerciser.  We woke him up, saying, "Thatha, what are you doing?!?!"  He looked at us, down at the ab machine, and simply said "Exercising" and proceeded to work out his abs without hesitation.  Thatha's is an incredible man, infinitely adaptable, with a heart as big as they come.  In death as in life, his spirit will be unquenchable.

Hi Murali, I am sorry to hear that your dad is passed away. I remember we came to his birthday party may be 90th. He was so strong and active that time. I will talk to you later 

The below eulogy truly defines him as a person who has lived life to the fullest, is forever young and will always inspire younger generations to follow their hearts. Thank you very much for sharing it with us, Peripa.

Chetan,

I am so sorry to hear about your father. You are in my thoughts during this time. Take care.

Sincerely,
Tara

Dr. Sankar,

I wanted to express my condolences on the loss of your father. I had the honor of meeting him when he came to Auburn and from the obituary you sent, he sounded like a great man, and I hope to honor his memory through the scholarship I received.  

Praying for you and your family during this time.

Thoughts of deep and sincere sympathy are with you at this time.

Pramod

Dear Prof Sankar,

I'm sorry to hear of your lose. Your father sounds like an amazing man that I am sure will be missed.

You and your family are in all of our thoughts here.

My condolences,  
Sean

Dear Murthi / Murali / Sankar annas, Ramesh and Mohan,   We, all members of Renukambal's family, share with you all the loss of Anna; for, it is equally difficult for us to console ourselves of this loss. He was so correctly and uniquely called 'Anna' by all in all families related to him. And probably more so to his beloved sister's family. He, along with his brother and Akka, played a major role in giving a proper shape to life of each of her children. We are ever grateful to Anna, Akka and Chinna mama. What a family! We thank God for having blessed us with such great people as our close relatives.   Personally, I would cherish the memories of Anna - I have quite a few of them to myself - including a few strong ones that would last through my life.   We will continue to seek his blessings.   Sankar   for Renukambal's family

Dear Ramesh

I saw your mail and also the newspaper insertion.


I had known your father since 1979. He was always very nice to me and he was the motivator for me to complete my engineering degree. 

The last time I met him at Anirudh's Upanayanam he spent quite some time enquiring about my whole family. He remembered everyone in the family.


At this time, I pray the almighty to give strength to you and your brothers to bear the loss.
         

Dear Ramesh

We know your father very well for so many years and his loss will be great for you and your brothers. He had braved the last 27 years without his wife and lived a wonderful healthy life.

We learnt lots from him. He was a strict disciplinarian and great habits. His keeping helathy and active till his last moments sets as a role model and we had interesting conversations with him while we visited you in 2007.    


Losing a parent is a great loss and only time will heal. 
 

Jeep Thatha...thats how I used to call him from my childhood ...

Thatha was someone who always preferred to look at a glass as being half-full rather than half-empty...one who always had kind and encouraging words for you, in any situation...

I still remember my school days when I would finish 2nd or 3rd in class, and here was Jeep Thatha telling me...”in a way, it is more exciting to finish 2nd or 3rd than to finish 1st in class because you are always on the toes of the class topper and challenging him/her. There is less pressure on you and at the same time, with a little more effort , you can always finish 1st.”

Thatha was someone who could strike an enthralling conversation with any person, irrespective of whether he/she was 5 years old or 85.

I have fond memories of the wonderful mails that he would type-write in English , invariably preceded by a hand-written Sanskrit sloka , from the Bhagawad Gita or the Upanishads, which would serve as an apppropriate 'Thought for the day' message.

Thatha's evergreen smile, his refreshing & positive outlook towards life, the boundless energy that made him forever young at heart - are some of the priceless assets that he has bequeathed to us.

True to this site’s title, Jeep Thatha will ‘Forever be missed’ ...

Raja

SUBRAMANIAN, Mani, 95, passed away peacefully at 12:10pm EDT on Monday, June 4 2012 after a brief illness.  Born in 1917 in Arni, India, Mani Subramanian retired as a Judge.  He emigrated to the USA in 1985 to live with his sons.  Mani is survived by his five sons C.S. Murthi, C.S. Murali, Chetan S. Sankar, C.S. Ramesh, C.S. (Ram) Mohan, five daughters-in-law, seven grandchildren, his sister Lakshmi, and a host of relatives.

Mani lived a grand life, and will be greatly missed.  A diplomat even amongst his family, he loved to read and go for a regular walk, rain or snow.  He was the patriarch of a large and loving family which he guided with wisdom, experience, patience and love.  Born at a time of no electricity, he kept in regular touch with a wide worldwide network via email.

His love of life, great curiosity and unbounded enthusiasm was combined with an infectious, positive and can-do approach.  Launching himself fully into all endeavors, he rarely let “no” stop him.  In his retired years, he traveled widely around the world, from Africa to Europe to South America, enjoying and exploring with joy and wonder.

A Memorial Service is planned for Thursday June 7th at 9am at Fluehr Funeral Home, 864 Bristol Pike, Bensalem, Pa (215-639-3130).  In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in his name to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society (www.lls.org) or Reading Is Fundamental (http://is.gd/SQBeL6 or rif.org).  An online guest book is maintained at http://www.mani-subramanian.forevermissed.com.

Note: Our address is 610 Deerbrook Dr, Yardley, Pa 19067, and our phone number is 215.493.0750.

I am so sorry. My condolences.

Sorry to hear about appa. Such wonderful soul, God bless him always. Pavum romba suffer pannitta. Take care ma. Thanks for accepting as family.

Heard the news - will miss Appa.

OMG I'm so sorry, Roh. Please pass on my condolences to Moh and the rest of his family. He must be devastated.

Dear Ram and Rupa

May you find comfort and support from those around you during this difficult time.

How lucky you all are to have had such an exceptional gentleman in your life.

We are sorry we can't be there for Mani's fond farewell. Please know we are there in spirit.

Love
Roland and Anne 

Sorry to hear Rupa.  Let me know if there's anything I can do to help.

As I know your gracious father, and you and I have had many talks on multigenerational caregiving, I can empathize with you and Rupa …let me know if there is anything I can do.  Many good thoughts and prayers for him and for you all.

Hi Rupa, 

My condolences, again. Thank you for sending the obituary. 

Mani was a really neat guy and it is great to see how influential he is on his family. I am glad he was able to spend time getting to know Jia and I am sad that I won't get to see him anymore...

Hi Rupa - I am very saddened to hear that. Your family is in my prayers.

I was very sad to hear that your father in law died. I always enjoyed it when you spoke about him. Please let me know if I can help you in anyway. Warmly...

Dear Mohan,
Convey my condolences to all in the family. He had an active and happy life to a ripe old age and passed away peacefully. We will remember him for his cheerful and affectionate disposition even at the old age - Chami

Dear Uncle - My deepest condolences on the loss of a truly exceptional and inspirational figure. Though many things will stand out, I will remember him most for his incredible vitality, wisdom and love of life. I consider myself most blessed to have known and to have been touched by him for over 25 years - Rajesh

Sorry to hear that Mohan uncle. Thatha was one of the nicest person I have seen in my life. I always wanted to follow his principles in life of being very calm and not worry about anything. May his soul rest in peace - Nirmala

I am so sorry to hear that.  Please take whatever time that is needed.  

I am so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Ram,

Our thoughts go to you and your family.

We do know how close you all are in your family, partly of course due to the ability we had to participate at your wedding.

Hugs!

   Patrik & Eva

So sorry to hear.  My condolences. 

Sharon

So sorry to hear that Rupa.  My thoughts will be with you and your family.

Hi Rupa, 

Our team was very sorry to hear the news about the passing of your father-in-law. We hope for the best for your family in getting through such a tough time. Please let any of us know if you could use a hand with anything, and we'd be more than happy to do so. 

We're looking forward to seeing you back in the office with your sunny disposition and sharp British wit, whenever that may be. We miss you! 

Best wishes, 
Brian, Nicole, Ashley & Jon 

Thanks rups so sorry to hear. i will be thinking of you all xx