ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created to pay tribute to my Mother and our Loved One. Marie Bank was born on June 3, 1966 in Bronx, New York. My Mom, at the young age of 18, had her first child, Crystal, in 1984. Being a young Mom and having a daughter with cerebral palsy and special needs wasn’t easy and my Mother remained at home living with her mom and my crazy grandmother. By the year 1991 my Mother had her 5th kid, me (Lillian). 5 children oldest to youngest: Crystal, Alexis, Dominique, Ashley who were all special needs and then there was me! My Mom, when she got really mad at me, liked to remind me that I was the baby who was not only premature but that also almost killed her. She spent 2 months in the hospital after having me. We relocated to Wisconsin in January of 1999 as my Mother realized that The Bronx, NY wasn’t a place to raise a family. My Mother never married but spent over 20 years with my step-dad Paul, aka her "Boo". My Mom’s favorite food dish was Chicken Parmesan, and the Antipasti tray where she would rave about the meats from Cousin Louis. And her new favorite food towards the end was anything that WASN’T from the nursing facility. She was OBSESSED with Prince and always reminisced of the concerts she got to attend with cousin Stacey. I can still hear her blaring music in the living room/bedroom and me always saying she should be respectful and lower it. Well, you can probably imagine how that went. I swear she blew her dang ear drum because she would say, “it is lower”. After I received possession of my Mom's belongings (she was always jotting down something) I came across a page in her notebook where she wrote down a list of things to do when she got home (back to Wisconsin).

I want to share that list with you.

1.Buy a train ticket back home. (My Mother for the past couple years wanted nothing more than to be home back with her children).

2.Buy cigs- Newports (Anyone else laughing this is number 2 on the list? Just me?)

3.Buy VIP tickets for Paisley Park

4.Buy Flowers for the fence (at Paisley Park)

5.Find my picture on the fence (at Paisley Park)

6.Whip Domi’s ass (She wrote Pingy next to this; my biological dad who was staying with my sister and she was NOT happy about it)

7.Get an apartment so I can see my grand kids (She is talking about pets whom she loves, Tango, Zulu, and Salem) :)

8.Call Social Security-Get my money back

9.Get a new phone

10. Start Over


Mom, you passed away too soon and I wish I would have taken you to Paisley Park. You annoyed me so much, but that was the ONE thing I could have given you. I am going to honor your legacy and wishes by going to Paisley Park for your birthday on June 3rd. I am going to spend 3 hours on a VIP tour that I won’t really know much about but I will think about how happy you would have been throughout the entire tour.

Now a time when things were much simpler and I remember us all being so happy: Christmas of 2003. My Mom insisted that she wanted a bunch of Christmas Lights outside our house. That year she went all out there were Christmas lights in every room. Decals on every window and Icicle Lights all along the front of the house. And lights she had placed on the bushes. Now that I am older and thinking about this…. I think she put indoor lights on the bushes. Because once she plugged in, we went outside... looked, everyone then went inside and I took the dogs potty. My childhood dog Spike ran outside and decided the bush was where he wished to go. He lifted his leg, started his business, and was ELECTROCUTED through his pee stream. He never peed on that bush again. I yelled,  "MOM!!!! the lights are out….Never mind they're back on!" When she came running to the entrance to check on me outside with the dog and asked what happened she about died of laughter. That is a story she reminded me of almost every Christmas. Mom, you are gone way too soon and will be remembered forever.

Posted by Cody Rivers on May 30, 2021
We occasionally crossed each others paths throughout the years. Beginning when Lillian and I were in high school together. Now that I think of it, it seems that music brought us together. Lillian and I had an addiction to Guitar Hero/ Rock Band, consisting of classic and modern music we were all able to reminisce in. You opened your doors and instantly approved of me as Lillian's friend. It seems silly, but I had some memorable times with you and your daughter during this time period.

Throughout the years, you were always interested in what your daughter was up to and even indulged in many of her favorite things. Deep down, I'm sure you looked up to Lillian to try and better yourself. Your daughter Lillian is definitely a great role model and will continue to make you proud. Your legacy will continue to be instilled in her.
Posted by Dominique Cintron on May 29, 2021
I really really miss you so much mom I wish you were here I love you so much mom you always put made smile and you always cheer me up when I’m always upset I wish you didn’t go too soon mom ❤️
Posted by Loison Kast on May 29, 2021
We disagreed on things and, for many years, I held resentment of you, for your treatment of your daughter, who is the love of my life, and my Light. But I came to understand that you, just like all of us, always did the best you could. Never anything but the best you could. 

And that is the memory of you that I will carry: the one where you stayed here, with us, and your best just kept getting better and better, until we hardly recognized you, because you became a beacon of Hope in our lives. I believe that's what you wanted, and intended, and that is who you will always be to me.

Without you, I would not have what I have, and what I have is precious beyond measure to me. Together we are your legacy, and we will build our dreams even as we give life to the dreams of those we serve.

Grace found you, in the end, as it finds all of us. And it's Grace that took you from us, to a place beyond pain and fear. I hope that you've found peace in your new home.  
Posted by Laura Gratz on May 29, 2021
What can I say ...what can I possibly say? I met my dearest friend Marie because as luck would have it my daughter Kayla and hers ( Lilly) were great friends :) So through our two beautiful daughters we became great friends .We had so much in common yet were worlds apart in many ways , we just loved each other from the start. We even had matching tens units ! Lol she loved oriental as did I and of course Coke a Cola ..( My kitchen is that very motif ..She gave me a precious Coke Doll which I still have to this day ..We laughed we cried together went to a concert and loved to watch movies all hours of the night lol Marie you were a beautiful woman, you were so strong even though you felt weak at times.You had the biggest heart too ! We had that in common :) you loved your girls so so much and did the very best you could . I will always cherish the loving memories with you and I will always be here for your Children you know that... I miss you so much it hurts ..but I am glad you are with Mom and in Heaven with the Lord. No more pain annd a brand new body baby!! I can not wait for that part for myself lol Until we meet again ...I love you as we said each night on the phone ...not goodbye ..ttyl love you forever Enjoy Prince ! Love always Laura xoxoxoxoxo
Posted by Stacy Bates on May 29, 2021
Maria you were my cousin/sister I will always remember all the good times we shared together RIP MY PURPLE SISTER
Posted by Lillian Kast on May 28, 2021
Mom you passed away too soon and I wish I would have taken you to Paisley Park to see Prince. You annoyed me so much, but that was the ONE thing I could have given you. I am going to honor your legacy and wishes by going to Paisley Park for your birthday on June 3rd. I am going to spend 3 hours on a VIP tour that I won’t really know much about but I will think about how happy you would have been throughout the entire tour. I will find solace in knowing that you are no longer in pain and surrounded by your loved ones. As promised I will look after all my sisters. Until we meet again......no one likes this :) I love you!

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Posted by Cody Rivers on May 30, 2021
We occasionally crossed each others paths throughout the years. Beginning when Lillian and I were in high school together. Now that I think of it, it seems that music brought us together. Lillian and I had an addiction to Guitar Hero/ Rock Band, consisting of classic and modern music we were all able to reminisce in. You opened your doors and instantly approved of me as Lillian's friend. It seems silly, but I had some memorable times with you and your daughter during this time period.

Throughout the years, you were always interested in what your daughter was up to and even indulged in many of her favorite things. Deep down, I'm sure you looked up to Lillian to try and better yourself. Your daughter Lillian is definitely a great role model and will continue to make you proud. Your legacy will continue to be instilled in her.
Posted by Dominique Cintron on May 29, 2021
I really really miss you so much mom I wish you were here I love you so much mom you always put made smile and you always cheer me up when I’m always upset I wish you didn’t go too soon mom ❤️
Posted by Loison Kast on May 29, 2021
We disagreed on things and, for many years, I held resentment of you, for your treatment of your daughter, who is the love of my life, and my Light. But I came to understand that you, just like all of us, always did the best you could. Never anything but the best you could. 

And that is the memory of you that I will carry: the one where you stayed here, with us, and your best just kept getting better and better, until we hardly recognized you, because you became a beacon of Hope in our lives. I believe that's what you wanted, and intended, and that is who you will always be to me.

Without you, I would not have what I have, and what I have is precious beyond measure to me. Together we are your legacy, and we will build our dreams even as we give life to the dreams of those we serve.

Grace found you, in the end, as it finds all of us. And it's Grace that took you from us, to a place beyond pain and fear. I hope that you've found peace in your new home.  
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Mother of 5

Marie Bank was born on June 3, 1966 in Bronx, New York. My Mom, at the young age of 18, had her first child, Crystal, in 1984. Being a young Mom and having a daughter with cerebral palsy and special needs wasn’t easy, and my Mother remained at home living with her mom and my crazy grandmother. By the year 1991 my Mother had her 5th kid me (Lillian). 5 children oldest to youngest: Crystal, Alexis, Dominique, Ashley who were all special needs, and then there was me!

Wisconsin

Marie relocated in 1999 from New York to Wisconsin with my sister Dominique and I. Once we were established in our home in Montello, Wisconsin, getting school set up, the house furnished, my Mom went back to New York to get my sister Ashley and bring her home, too. My Mom started to realize the house wasn't big enough, and after a year we relocated to Princeton, Wisconsin, where my grandmother came to visit and brought my sister Crystal. Our Princeton home was my Mom's dream home out of all the places we would end up living. It really was a great home.
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Shared by Lillian Kast on May 28, 2021
After I received possession of my Mom's belongings (she was always jotting down something) I came across a page in her notebook where she wrote down a list of things to do when she got home (back to Wisconsin).

I want to share that list with you:

1.Buy a train ticket back home. (My Mother for the past couple years wanted nothing more than to be home back with her children).

2.Buy cigs- Newports (Anyone else laughing this is number 2 on the list? Just me?)

3.Buy VIP tickets for Paisley Park

4.Buy Flowers for the fence (at Paisley Park)

5.Find my picture on the fence (at Paisley Park)

6.Whip Domi’s ass (She wrote Pingy next to this; my biological dad who was staying with my sister and she was NOT happy about it)

7.Get an apartment so I can see my grandkids (She is talking about pets whom she loves, Tango, Zulu, and Salem) :)

8.Call Social Security-Get my money back

9.Get a new phone

10. Start Over


Mom, you passed away too soon and I wish I would have taken you to Paisley Park. You annoyed me so much, but that was the ONE thing I could have given you. I am going to honor your legacy and wishes by going to Paisley Park for your birthday on June 3rd. I am going to spend 3 hours on a VIP tour that I won’t really know much about but I will think about how happy you would have been throughout the entire tour.

Christmas of 2003

Shared by Lillian Kast on May 28, 2021
Now a time when things were much simpler and I remember us all being so happy: Christmas of 2003.

My Mom insisted that she wanted a bunch of Christmas Lights outside our house. That year she went all out there were Christmas lights in every room. Decals on every window and Icicle Lights all along the front of the house. And lights she had placed on the bushes.

Now that I am older and thinking about this…. I think she put indoor lights on the bushes. Because once she plugged in, we went outside... looked, everyone then went inside and I took the dogs potty. My childhood dog Spike ran outside and decided the bush was where he wished to go. He lifted his leg, started his business, and was ELECTROCUTED through his pee stream. He never peed on that bush again. I yelled,  "MOM!!!! the lights are out….Never mind they're back on!"

When she came running to the entrance to check on me outside with the dog and asked what happened she about died of laughter. That is a story she reminded me of almost every Christmas.

Mom, you are gone way too soon and will be remembered forever.