February 5, 2017
February 5, 2017
Mary you are still so missed by your family. We love you and know your spirit lives on.
Love, Pete, Leni, Joe, Joe Jr., and David.
Love, Pete, Leni, Joe, Joe Jr., and David.
This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Mary Koehler-Marley, 60, born on May 2, 1952 and passed away on February 5, 2013. We will remember her forever.
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May 3, 2016
May 3, 2016
Mary, we spent much of yesterday thinking of you. You would have only been 64. You were taken from us all at such a young age. We miss your powerful presence. We still feel the void of your being gone. We hope you're staying busy and productive in your heavenly home. We love you for eternity. Your Family
May 3, 2016
May 3, 2016
Yesterday would have been Mary's 64th birthday. Our simple lives measure each moment with the hands of a clock but in eternity, no such clock exists. God lets us keep the memories, trusting that we use them wisely. Mary is continuing her journey and I always see her special star in the night sky.
May 2, 2016
May 2, 2016
Thinking of you today and every year on this day. I can't believe how time passes. You are very missed, but your spirit lives on with all of us. xo
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
Three years today! Time moves forward with the Grace of God guiding my life. All is well and I understand the meaning of Perfect Peace.
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
I made a snowman in your honor today, Mary, and fondly remembered
our cherished times together! Friends forever.
our cherished times together! Friends forever.
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
When we first met (~1980) Mary was proud to tell me her 'stats': "Five-Two-52 and 52 and a half".Loved it and have told many new friends about her over the years. Mary Angela - someone I will never forget. [ Joe Koehler, if you're still in NH and online, please send me an email: DTW, Amherst. at Email.Me.in.NH@gmail.com ]
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
Dear Mary- we still miss you so and think about you all the time. Miss those bi-coastal catchup calls, and especially your visits home, where your NY accent would reappear overnight! Our family has had a void in it ever since you left us. We're sure you've made many friends in your heavenly home. Love you with all our hearts, Pete, Leni, Joe, Joe Jr, Heather and David.
August 13, 2015
August 13, 2015
Dear Arley and Family:
Words cannot express how shocked and saddened Sanjay and I were to learn about Mary's passing just today.
We know Mary from our days at Ives Terrace. She was the warm, wonderful person who welcomed us to the neighborhood and was always there when we needed help or advice. She will be truly missed.
Kalyani & Sanjay Tandon
Words cannot express how shocked and saddened Sanjay and I were to learn about Mary's passing just today.
We know Mary from our days at Ives Terrace. She was the warm, wonderful person who welcomed us to the neighborhood and was always there when we needed help or advice. She will be truly missed.
Kalyani & Sanjay Tandon
May 2, 2015
May 2, 2015
Today would have been Mary's 63rd birthday. Birthday celebrations were always special to us as we exchanged two cards. One card was always funny and the other serious. We celebrated all holidays in the same manner!
Our lives were about laughter and celebrating the joy of being together. So, this day will always be burned into my heart as I continue to move my life forward. Happy Birthday to my sweet Mary!
Our lives were about laughter and celebrating the joy of being together. So, this day will always be burned into my heart as I continue to move my life forward. Happy Birthday to my sweet Mary!
March 27, 2015
March 27, 2015
Today, Monty and I celebrated my 73rd birthday by coming to Carmel for a few days. Looking across the sea in the opposite direction of the day we placed Mary's ashes at sea off of this beach. Lots of memories and a few tears. We continue our path forward and thank God for the times we shared. It's all so strange but today was part of my healing process.
February 6, 2015
February 6, 2015
Mary was the first one to meet us at the front gates to Stratford Gardens when we were looking to buy a house, and we will always remember her smile, her generosity of time and talents to create a wonderful neighborhood for us to live there for several years. We look forward to catching up with her in the eternal neighborhood, and she will probably be at those gates smiling to welcome us in there. Thanks, Mary, and we miss you and your spirit of being a "good neighbor".
February 6, 2015
February 6, 2015
Mary, you are both remembered and missed. I choose to remember your laughter, wit and helpfulness.
February 6, 2015
February 6, 2015
Dear Mary, You have left such an indelible mark on us at Los Altos Rotary. I think still of your sparkling smile, your very smart and creative ideas to help others, and your immediate willingness to help. You gave us all a model to live by. And most important, you did it with love. Arley continues your good work.
February 5, 2015
February 5, 2015
Today is the second anniversary of Mary’s passing. I find that time and great friends, including little Monty, are part of the healing fabric that seals a heart wounded by such a loss. Maybe this is God’s way of showing the infinite possibilities of love and the truth of all life. My memories stand as tall as the tallest mountains and as deep as the deepest oceans. I know this day, oh so well, and that all my thoughts will reverberate with love across the universe.
February 5, 2015
February 5, 2015
Dearest friend -- in your honor, it's snowing here in Boston! I know you're chuckling with me! Hard to believe it's 2 years; you are omnipresent. Miss you and love you, Mary.
February 5, 2015
February 5, 2015
I just re-read all the tributes here. I feel as sad and miss you, Mary, as much today as the first day I heard of your passing. I think of you often and wish so much that I could talk to you once again.
October 7, 2014
October 7, 2014
Today would have been our 25th wedding anniversary. Monty and I will celebrate this special day in reverence and silence. My strength comes from all of the memories!
July 21, 2014
July 21, 2014
My husband and I met Mary when we were contemplating short selling our home. Mary came into our lives and made everything painfully clear - which is what we needed. Mary guided us every step of the way being patient but firm as well - Mary did an amazing job and months later told me she was undergoing chemo treatments. We had no idea - what an amazingly strong woman and we were so lucky to have met her. She made a huge difference in our lives!
May 3, 2014
May 3, 2014
Dear Mary,
At Los Altos Rotary and in our hearts, we continue to remember all the bright, new ideas you generated to allow good projects to happen!
At Los Altos Rotary and in our hearts, we continue to remember all the bright, new ideas you generated to allow good projects to happen!
May 3, 2014
May 3, 2014
Mary we miss you so. We would always call you on your birthday and sing our off-key version of "Happy Birthday" to you. You'd always giggle and be so delighted. We miss your generous heart and spirit, and your keen intelligence. You will always live on in our hearts.
Much Love, Brother Pete and "Sister" Leni
Much Love, Brother Pete and "Sister" Leni
May 2, 2014
May 2, 2014
Happy Birthday, dear Mary! Remembering how much we enjoyed celebrating our special days. Wonderful times. Miss you.
May 2, 2014
May 2, 2014
We shared so many birthdays together. Those memories and the exchange of cards made each of those days special. Today's card can only wish for eternal peace as your soul continues to ride with the wings of an angel. Love knows the peace and grace of God.
May 2, 2014
May 2, 2014
Thinking of you today, Mary. Your birthday is still on my calendar, and will remain there. There are often days where I think 'what would Mary do?' .. Thank you for being an angel to all of us. xo
February 5, 2014
February 5, 2014
Mary is one of those unforetable people who stay with us for the rest of our lives. Her smile and her humor, her spunk that kept us all going. It's been a year, but I know she is still with us in spirit.
February 5, 2014
February 5, 2014
One year passes today! It's now all about memories and reflections. My tears are for both the joy of having Mary in my life and her lose. She now walks through eternity as the angel she was as she walked with me and Monty. True love never dies but puts on a new veil to see the evening stars.
February 5, 2014
February 5, 2014
I can't believe a year has gone by. There isn't a time, Mary, when I drive by your house and don't think about you and how lucky I was to have known you in my life. I miss you.
October 14, 2013
October 14, 2013
Arley,
I just heard of Mary's passing. If I had known earlier I would have been at the memorial to give you a big hug and share some memories. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you and Monty are doing well. Mary enters my thoughts often and forever will be missed. I'm sending lots of love and light your way. ~Frances
I just heard of Mary's passing. If I had known earlier I would have been at the memorial to give you a big hug and share some memories. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you and Monty are doing well. Mary enters my thoughts often and forever will be missed. I'm sending lots of love and light your way. ~Frances
October 8, 2013
October 8, 2013
Yesterday, Oct. 7, would have been our 24th Wedding Anniversary. It was a quiet day as Monty and I continue to let time move forward. Eight months have gone by since Mary's passing.
Daily life can fill some of the void but the memories and thoughts are constant.
Daily life can fill some of the void but the memories and thoughts are constant.
August 7, 2013
August 7, 2013
Ironically, the visit to Mine Falls Park was on the six month anniversary of Mary's passing. This wasn't planned but the stars must have aligned our trip for this special remembrance. I took pictures of this now lonely spot reflecting with each click of the camera shutter!
All of this is so difficult, but for me, appears to be necessary.
All of this is so difficult, but for me, appears to be necessary.
August 7, 2013
August 7, 2013
Monty and I are on our long road trip and just spent the last few days on Staten Island and in Nashua, NH. Both visits were bitter sweet as we frequented locations that we had all shared together during December 2007.
The location at Mine Falls Park in Nashua was extremely emotional. At a very special spot I had taken a picture of Mary and Monty with a backdrop of a dam.
The location at Mine Falls Park in Nashua was extremely emotional. At a very special spot I had taken a picture of Mary and Monty with a backdrop of a dam.
July 26, 2013
July 26, 2013
Recently, I saw a picture of a house in the Bay Area that looked interesting, so I wanted to see what Mary would think about it. Because I live out of the area, I didn't have ready access to her phone number. I went to Google to look it up. And, that's when I learned about Mary's passing. I am in shock. I admired Mary greatly and am so sad. But, Mary, you will always be in my thoughts.
June 5, 2013
June 5, 2013
It's hard to believe that four months have passed. My heart is still heavy with the loss of Mary. Time is a slow healer as I let memories guide my heart and mind.
Monty and I plan for our long road trip starting on July 20 to re-ground our lives and search for answers. I know that the world is larger than where I am today!
Monty and I plan for our long road trip starting on July 20 to re-ground our lives and search for answers. I know that the world is larger than where I am today!
May 21, 2013
May 21, 2013
Too soon, too young. Mary guided me at ASK, sharing her wisdom. I remember when she arrived at ASK in Chicago as the new Regional Manager. She came into the meeting on stilts. Had a great sense of humor. Whatever she approached she did with dedication and drive. My sympathies to her family.
May 3, 2013
May 3, 2013
Dear Arley, I Just heard the news of Mary's Passing . I'm truly sorry for your loss. She was an incredible woman who changed my life forever ! Will miss chatting with her ! God Bless You Mary , Her Client Daniel Fuentes
May 2, 2013
May 2, 2013
All good wishes on this special day, Mary, your birthday. Miss you.
May 2, 2013
May 2, 2013
Happy Birthday my sweet Angel in Heaven! I think of you and your beautiful smile daily.
May 2, 2013
May 2, 2013
Dear Mary- Pete, Joe, and I miss you so very much! You were always so gracious when we'd sing a cacophonous rendition of Happy Birthday on this, your special day. You will remain in our hearts forever. Your spirit and soul live on. Love you so!
Brothers Pete and Joe, and "sister" Leni
Brothers Pete and Joe, and "sister" Leni
April 3, 2013
April 3, 2013
Arley,
Sharon and I were so shocked to hear of Mary's passing. You two made a wonderful couple. We were blessed to have spent even a little time with you all last June. I'd love to catch up with you when you are down in PG again.
Best wishes,
Dan, Sharon and family
Sharon and I were so shocked to hear of Mary's passing. You two made a wonderful couple. We were blessed to have spent even a little time with you all last June. I'd love to catch up with you when you are down in PG again.
Best wishes,
Dan, Sharon and family
March 7, 2013
March 7, 2013
Dear Arley and Family,
Our deepest sympathies to you. Mary inspired those around her. Her energy, her enthusiasm and her wise advice helped us many times. We miss her and we're grateful for her many years of friendship to us. Ken & Julia
Our deepest sympathies to you. Mary inspired those around her. Her energy, her enthusiasm and her wise advice helped us many times. We miss her and we're grateful for her many years of friendship to us. Ken & Julia
February 24, 2013
February 24, 2013
Arley,
I was saddened to hear of Mary's passing. We had great times at ASK. I specifically remember her doing some jewelry shopping on our Rio Club trip
I remember that she waited a long while for the right guy. You were the love of her life. I think that the last time that I danced in public was at your wedding.
I was saddened to hear of Mary's passing. We had great times at ASK. I specifically remember her doing some jewelry shopping on our Rio Club trip
I remember that she waited a long while for the right guy. You were the love of her life. I think that the last time that I danced in public was at your wedding.
February 21, 2013
February 21, 2013
A fine person and a great colleague. Gone too soon., but made a difference for many.
February 21, 2013
February 21, 2013
I miss Mary's friendly Hello, her enthusiasm,
Her thoughtful response to HOA questions,
Her cheerfulness towards Pug Charlie.
There is a piece missing from my life at Stratford
Gardens.......Pat
Her thoughtful response to HOA questions,
Her cheerfulness towards Pug Charlie.
There is a piece missing from my life at Stratford
Gardens.......Pat
February 21, 2013
February 21, 2013
Arley, I'm saddened to hear of Mary's passing and my heart goes out to you. She was such a positive and joyous person to be around! I loved running into her over the years as our paths would cross while we were training for various running/walking events. She will be greatly missed.
February 20, 2013
February 20, 2013
Dear Arley,
We will truly miss Mary. She never said "no" and always stepped up to lend a hand with a smile and a contagious spirit. Mary was so bright, so willing and so dear.
We will truly miss Mary. She never said "no" and always stepped up to lend a hand with a smile and a contagious spirit. Mary was so bright, so willing and so dear.
February 20, 2013
February 20, 2013
the world is a better place for the time Mary was with us. Not just the world but each of us who shared time and interests and even secrets with her.
We loved her instantly. Then we met Arley. what a blending of talent, generosity and caring for others far and wide. Community service can be defined by them. Mary's parents were right to name her For the angels.
We loved her instantly. Then we met Arley. what a blending of talent, generosity and caring for others far and wide. Community service can be defined by them. Mary's parents were right to name her For the angels.
February 19, 2013
February 19, 2013
Dear Arley:When I think of Mary, I remember the afterglow of her easy smile. When I think of her sweet nature and vibrant mind, I'll recall the shore birds that soar across the sky and the soft stars that glisten effortlessly at night. Such a lovely woman. My deepest condolences to you and your family
February 18, 2013
February 18, 2013
I knew Mary from Team In Training and she always had a positive attitude. No matter what the challenge was she was up for it. I last saw her a few yrs ago when I was in downtown Los Altos getting lunch and she gave me an update on her health status. I wish I kept in touch better. God bless her soul.
February 18, 2013
February 18, 2013
I need to light another and new candle for Mary. I live on the Monterey Bay and while I look at the beautiful view it will have a new and very special meaning for Lilly my Poodle and myself. We'll frolic in the sea foam and know that Mary's beautiful spirit will bless us along with God's beautiful blessings. Rest in Peace Darling Mary. Love, Dian and Lilly
February 17, 2013
February 17, 2013
Dear Arley,
I cannot express how saddened I was by the recent news of Mary's passing. I know the last few years have been tough for you both. And I know the years to come will feel enough tougher. I know this having lost my Jack two years ago. Mary was the most beautiful person and will be so very missed by the entire world. In sympathy, Victoria
I cannot express how saddened I was by the recent news of Mary's passing. I know the last few years have been tough for you both. And I know the years to come will feel enough tougher. I know this having lost my Jack two years ago. Mary was the most beautiful person and will be so very missed by the entire world. In sympathy, Victoria
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February 5, 2017
February 5, 2017
Mary you are still so missed by your family. We love you and know your spirit lives on.
Love, Pete, Leni, Joe, Joe Jr., and David.
Love, Pete, Leni, Joe, Joe Jr., and David.
May 3, 2016
May 3, 2016
Mary, we spent much of yesterday thinking of you. You would have only been 64. You were taken from us all at such a young age. We miss your powerful presence. We still feel the void of your being gone. We hope you're staying busy and productive in your heavenly home. We love you for eternity. Your Family
May 3, 2016
May 3, 2016
Yesterday would have been Mary's 64th birthday. Our simple lives measure each moment with the hands of a clock but in eternity, no such clock exists. God lets us keep the memories, trusting that we use them wisely. Mary is continuing her journey and I always see her special star in the night sky.
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Mary, Joseph & Jonathan-Christmas 2001
Christmas - 1998
Mary
Wendy and Mary-Joseph's Birthday, Aug. 2003
Monty & Mary-Olympia. WA Dec. 2011
Mary with Joseph and newest grandson,-Jonathon-July, 1999
Mary's Father, Arley's Mother, Wendy & Troy with Grandsons-May 2002
Las Vegas - May 1989
Recent stories
Mary Marley Memorial Scholarship at Minot State University
May 5, 2013
by Arley Marley
Close friends Clint Severson and Conni Ahart created the Mary Marley Memorial Scholarship at Minot State University. Clint is a graduate of the university and has created the Severson Entrepreneurship Academy as part of the business school.
Conni shared Mary's story with the audience during a special banquet on May 3rd in Minot, ND. Jamin Heller was this year's recipient of the scholarship. Conni's words definitely came from her heart!
Thank you, Clint and Conni for honoring Mary in such a special way. She would be so proud!
Mary was a true role model
February 12, 2013
Mary was the embodiment of the Rotary motto “Service Above Self.” Mary was tireless and always available when anyone in Rotary needed a hand. She often tackled difficult tasks from their beginning. She was the driving force behind our five-year strategic plan that is the blueprint for where we are taking our club for years to come. Mary was a mentor to a lot of members in our club, and her absence will be great. Mary Marley was a true friend to many and will be missed dearly.
Mary being a Grandmother
February 12, 2013
by Arley Marley
When Mary married me, she became an instant Grandmother. I always told people that it wasn't so bad be a Grandfather but being married to a Grandmother was quite different.
Mary enjoyed the role especially with stepdaughter, Wendy and Wendy's husband Troy Orf. Their two sons, Joseph and Jonathan brought much joy into our lives even though they were several hundred miles away. It has been fun watching these two boys grow and now with Joseph in college, brings a different joy as he marches towards adulthood.
Wendy and Mary had a special bond. Wendy always called Mary, "Mom". I know that Mary will be greatly missed by this special family that she inherited through me.