ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created by The FutureWork Institute and her family in memory of Mary Lou Perotta who was born on January 2, 1945 and passed away on December 16, 2010. She was a "rock" to her family,  the "wind beneath our sails" for those who worked with her and a caring confidant to all her friends. We have added tributes from e-mails we received from her many friends and invite you to light a candle with a testimonial, create a story or a chapter of her life and add photos, so that we may all celebrate her life together.

Posted by Valerie Hegarty on July 21, 2020
I miss you Mary Lou, Love Val
Posted by William Prensky on January 2, 2020
You are missed Mary Lou - every day you are missed and remembered. 
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 19, 2019
Lou,

So glad that we made so
many memories and big laughs together. I have some new stories that I wish I could share with you so we could “do our thing.” Miss you and much love!
Posted by Yvette Benjamin on December 16, 2019
Hey there, I know you’re up to no good wherever you are. I can still see the twinkle in your eyes and that smile you had. Thinking of you today as I lie in bed looking out at a gorgeous California morning, I am grateful that I got to spend snippets of time with you. It’s almost Christmas, my favorite time of the year. So, wherever you are, I want you to know you are still thought of with love. Yvette
Posted by Andrea Cisco on January 2, 2019
Cherishing years of fun, family and great memories!
Posted by Enidio Magel on December 16, 2018
Happy Birthday, Dah'ling!
Abrazos, Enidio
Posted by Celia Berk on January 3, 2018
I'm a day late in posting this (Mary Lou would forgive me, with a dry comment in that distinctive voice). I am struck by how often I think of her, all these years later. She left an indelible mark on my mind and heart.
Posted by Josy Gallagher on January 2, 2018
Happy Birthday mi amiga! Thinking of you, your voice, your support, makes me smile. Miss you!
Posted by Brooke Mayes on January 2, 2018
I'm still here Marylou. And yes I STILL miss you profusely
Posted by Nancy Di Dia on January 2, 2018
Always in my heart think of you often...with much love
Posted by Celia Berk on January 3, 2017
A treasured friend. I think of her often -- and can still hear that distinctive voice in my ear....
Posted by Yvette Benjamin on January 2, 2017
I wish you were here to give that special look you had or even one word as we enter into 2017. We could use your civility, compassion and kindness right now, MaryLou.
Posted by Josy Gallagher on December 16, 2016
Six years, amazing. I think of you often, my friend. Always in my heart.
Posted by Eze Nwachukwu on December 16, 2016
I remember you today Mary Lou. Thank you for being there, being a great example, being a great guide Monday through Friday. I could always count on you. Today I remember you and Pray for your family. Thank You Mary Lou.
Posted by Brooke Mayes on December 16, 2016
Marylou...
Omgoodness..... 6 years... It's been a hell of a 6 years my friend. I miss you SO much it's freaky. You're missing SO much fun. I hope your family is ok. I STILL love you
Posted by Rosemary Urbano on January 2, 2016
Happy Birthday in Heaven, Mary Lou. You were one in a million and I know you're an angel watching over your family and friends. You were one of the kindest women I ever had the honor of knowing and working with. Mary Lou, you left so early, but I know there is always a reason God calls special people earlier than we think he should. Until we meet again, rest in peace in our Lord's loving arms.
Posted by Nancy Di Dia on January 2, 2016
Happy Birthday my friend, i think of you all the time and miss our great conversations and MaryLou wisdom of the ages. You continue to have a profound impact on so many. May you continue to rest in peace.
Posted by Josy Gallagher on January 2, 2016
Happy Birthday my friend! You are always remembered with love & affection. Besos, Josy
Posted by Yvette Benjamin on January 2, 2016
When I think of you, I smile. You were an ear when I needed one and I'll always remember you for that. And, of course, your rooting for the Yankees.
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 16, 2015
You always seem just around the corner. We call to you often, especially when we are knee deep in "it". Seems like we can't you rest. Miss you, but hold dear so many memories- from the sublime to the ridiculous.

Peace, Lou.

Andrea
Posted by Celia Berk on December 16, 2015
Thinking of MaryLou today -- a sweet and sassy lady!!

Celia Berk
Posted by Joanne Perotta on December 16, 2015
Hey Mom. Another year has passed but it still seems like just yesterday. There has not been a day that has passed that i don't think about you and miss you so much. You always had a unique way about you and no matter how big a mess I was when i called you always knew what to say or do to make it better. You are always in my heart. I love you!
Posted by Yvette Benjamin on January 11, 2015
Will always remember my friend and Towers Perrin colleague, Mary Lou. To honor her memory, I will donate annually to the American Cancer Society in her name in the hopes that we can find a cure.
Posted by Margaret Regan on January 3, 2015
You are in our hearts on your special day. Miss you terribly, but love looking at the photos and memories on this site.
Posted by Andrea Cisco on January 2, 2015
Lou,

Missing you, but honoring your birthday.

Love,

Andrea
Posted by Joseph Perotta on January 2, 2015
Happy Birthday Mom. Words can not express how much I miss you. But you already know that. You are always in my thoughts, A person as special as you is never forgotten. Love you
Posted by Enidio Magel on January 2, 2015
So many good memories - keeping you in our hearts. Thank you for your first 65!
Posted by Josy Gallagher on December 17, 2014
Hola my dear friend. You are always in my thoughts. Miss you. Josy
Posted by Brooke Mayes on December 16, 2014
Hi Mary Lou

Come baaaaaaack!  I miss you and so does everyone else
Always
Brooke
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 16, 2014
Lou,

We still feel you beside us. We are constantly saying, "Mary Lou would have done so and so. Or we know Lou had a hand in helping us." Sending big love,

Andrea
Posted by Celia Berk on December 16, 2014
Thinking of a cherished friend on a very sad day.
Posted by Margaret Regan on January 3, 2014
Mary Lou, Happy Birthday! Every time I come to this site, the memories overcome me. There is not a day that goes by that I do not try to call you and talk about how things went that day. But, I know you are watching, smiling and laughing, as you did every day you were here with us. We all miss you and think of you always.
Posted by Josy Gallagher on January 2, 2014
Thinking of you today! Feliz Cumpleanos!
Posted by Brooke Mayes on January 2, 2014
Mary Lou

Not for nothin...... but I miss you SOOOOOOOO much...I'm not sure if you know that or not, but I am thinking you do! Come BAAAAAACK!
I love you Mary Lou
Posted by Joseph Perotta on January 2, 2014
Just wanted to take a moment and wish you a Happy Birthday and let you know that you are so missed and loved. Keep watching over us like only you can. Thinking of you always
Posted by Eze Nwachukwu on December 17, 2013
I miss you MaryLou. I appreciate everything you did for me. Always helping me keep things in perspective.
Posted by Yvette Benjamin on December 17, 2013
Mary Lou, I can still hear your voice. I can still see your face. I can still see your smile. I will never forget your kindness and compassion. Thank you for always listening!
Posted by Margaret Perotta on December 16, 2013
Dear mom, not a day goes by that we do not miss you. Your love kept us all.strong. Tommy still asks about you and love's to see picture's of the two of you when he was little. John misses you so much as do I and we know you are always by our side. We love you mom.
Posted by Ian Dodds on December 16, 2013
Mary-Lou always made me feel a valued member of the FWI even though I was the other side of the Atlantic. I was very fond of her.
Posted by Enidio Magel on December 16, 2013
Hello Dah'ling! Miss ya..
Posted by Celia Berk on December 16, 2013
I can still hear Mary Lou's distinctive voice -- and distinctive humor -- loud and clear in my head. She was one of a kind, and I treasured our friendship.
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 16, 2013
Hi Lou,

Missing you on this cold morning. Love you and your family!

AndreLou
Posted by Valerie Hegarty on December 16, 2013
I miss you Mary Lou. Sitting at your desk and thinking of you with much love.
Posted by Josy Gallagher on December 16, 2013
Thinking of you today & imagining you & Joe G together in heaven. Miss you lots!
Posted by Celia Berk on December 17, 2012
Once met, never forgotten!  A distinctive voice, a wonderful smile and a lovely person.

Celia Berk, Young & Rubicam Group
Posted by Brooke Mayes on December 17, 2012
I was so glad to have received this "remember MaryLou" email today. MaryLou, I don't think I ever could forget you. I miss you SO much it's freaky. I know a lot of people do. I hope you're livin large in Heaven.
God Bless the family. Merry Christmas
Posted by Margaret Regan on December 17, 2012
Mary Lou, I can't believe it has really been two years since we lost you. You are in my thoughts, conversations, memories every day--and it does not get easier to be at peace with our loss. The only thing that sustains me is that my sister, Joan, joined you at this time a year ago, and I know the two of you are laughing together at my adventures and "travel karma." Rest in peace, Mary Lou.
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 16, 2012
Thinking of you with dear, dear memories!
Posted by Josy Gallagher on December 16, 2012
Think of you often my friend! I miss you! Tu Amiga
Posted by Nancy Di Dia on December 16, 2012
Always remembered. Think of you often. Sending light up
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Posted by Valerie Hegarty on July 21, 2020
I miss you Mary Lou, Love Val
Posted by William Prensky on January 2, 2020
You are missed Mary Lou - every day you are missed and remembered. 
Posted by Andrea Cisco on December 19, 2019
Lou,

So glad that we made so
many memories and big laughs together. I have some new stories that I wish I could share with you so we could “do our thing.” Miss you and much love!
Recent stories
Shared by Josy Gallagher on December 16, 2019
Thinking of you today! Abrazos

Sojourners

Shared by Andrea Cisco on December 22, 2010

 

It was 30 years ago that I first met Mary Lou.  I was in new employee coming into a very new and different environment – the very staid and elegant New York Chamber of Commerce.  I had all of the apprehensions that one has on their first day.  Often folks say that it takes a really long time to feel at “home” in a new workplace.  Not true for me on that first day because there I met Mary Lou with that big smile, in her “mama mode” taking care of the latest addition to the group.  By the end of the day I knew I was ok and this would be a good home.  And it was true because wherever Mary Lou and I worked together she carried that feeling of being at “home” with her.

Over these years Mary Lou and I have shared lots of laughs, some tears and a few fancy words.   Unprintable here!  She was friend, counselor and master teacher for all of us.   A sister……

As will happen, along the way I learned interesting tidbits about Mary Lou.  I offer just a few.

Did You Know?

Mary Lou was a history buff - she told me that she loved the Civil War history.

She was interested in the supernatural - we talked about spirits and Ouija boards and such

Napkins make really note pads.  They were Mary Lou’s “post-its”.   She used them for writing down phone numbers, taking notes and reminders etc.

One of her favorite sayings was “not for nothing.”   This was a signal that you needed to listen- up for what was going to follow that phrase.

When Mary Lou’s cheeks were red somebody had better step back.  That somebody was in trouble.

Mary Lou did not operate on clock time.  Her time was measured in relationships and keeping them.  Time was spent in making sure that the job was done - done well - whenever and however long it took. 

Piles: Mary Lou’s little mounds of paper and desk top stuff.  Folks reacted differently to the piles. Some were astounded; others frustrated and just wanted them to disappear.  Some folks were tickled and wondered what treasures might be found in the mound. I confess, I belong to the latter group because I am also a member of that peculiar club. 

 Mary Lou and I had an exit plan.  Whenever we were unhappy, really unhappy, about something we mused about the coffee and doughnut stand we were going to erect on some corner where there were no computers or phones and where people spent less than a minute with you.

And, if you did not know it, Mary Lou’s heart beat for all of us and her lovely hands toiled for us.

So, just as, Mary Lou and I have been sojourned in this life, I expect and look forward to continuing our journey in the next.  

 

 

Shared by Nancy Di Dia on December 21, 2010

Mary Lou for me was the "oak tree" for FWI--that solid tree that never wavered and stood her ground and defended the less extroverted and calmed the over zealous.  She always made time for me, whether it was idle time at the airport waiting for the next flight or just sharing my test results on my cancer check-ups--she emailed me in the waiting rooms waiting anxiously for my results, telling me it was all going to be fine.  Mary Lou listened no matter how busy she was or whether she was on hold for Car 78 to get Margaret to her next destination or to ensure Margaret signed our expense checks.  She was the mothership for all of us.  I am so honored to have been one of her many who she cared about and loved.  Our world will be void of the wonderful love and concern she brought to all of us.  Thank you Mary Lou for living with such grace and grit and for being the friend I will cherish the rest of my days on this earth.  Until we meet again...With Love..The very thought of you....fills my heart and soul.

Nancy J. Di Dia, Boehringer Ingelheim USA Corp