Let the memory of Mama Maria be with us forever
  • 71 years old
  • Born on June 20, 1943 in Cameroon.
  • Passed away on November 23, 2014 in Buea, Cameroon.

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Mama Mary Ewunkem, 71, born on June 20, 1943 and passed away on November 23, 2014. We will remember her forever.

Posted by Herbert Ebonlo Nfonsam on 27th November 2018
When I sit and reflect on your live, so many imaginary thoughts and questions invade my mind. How I wish I find solace to my questions and thoughts. ‘Hope by now you have seen your namesake and her Son in the glory of the Lord the Most High and I believe all our brethren are with you. There is no need to carry on with grief, for it is certain that were you are, you are at peace. Not yet forgotten about your song “If you waka with Maria, you go di boast, you go bend down bend down, you go di boast”. May your namesake reward you abundantly and may the peace of the Lord grant you rest.
Posted by Val Nfonsam on 23rd November 2018
Dear Reme, I pray that you continue to rest in peace in heaven. I also pray that you continue to intercede for us. Was in church the other day and guess what, they sang our favorite song!!!! "Shepard me oh lord, beyond my wants, beyond my fears, from death into life" Rest in peace till we meet again
Posted by Amatus Forsac on 21st June 2017
My Loving Mother, Your memory will never faint in my existence. I always think of your unimaginable selflessness all through your time with us on this earth. The way you lived your life continues to teach me to this day. I miss you so much and I will always love you.
Posted by Melanie Wandji on 20th June 2017
Those we love don't go away...I remember yours laughs, your dance moves, still smell and taste your kontcha.. On this anniversary of your birth, I thank God for having allowed me to know you, your daughter Ma Flo-my daughter's godmother, your children and grand , I missed you, missed you, missed you....
Posted by Amatus Forsac on 21st June 2016
Reme Maria, my beloved mother: you were my best teacher in life. You were my mother but also the most beautiful spirit I have ever known. On this anniversary of your birth I thank God for blessing me with you as my mother. You are by God's side now and your beautiful light adds to the bright light of His heavenly kingdom. I continue to miss you every single day. I love you and will always love you. You are in my heart. Sleep in perfect peace my dear mother.
Posted by Ethel Elad on 20th June 2016
Happy birthday grama Mary. Can't believe is almost two years since you left us. You will forever be in our hearts.
Posted by Val Nfonsam on 20th June 2016
Happy Birthday Reme Maria!!!
Posted by Agi Forsac on 20th June 2016
Reme Mary, Happy birthday in Heaven. I miss your sweetness but I know you are smiling down on us. We love you Grandma Mary and miss you dearly.
Posted by Val Nfonsam on 24th November 2015
Rest in peace Maria. You will forever be on my mind. I think of all the good times, especially in Lansing. The fun, the laughter, the Sundays at church, sleeping on the same bed, all the times I had fun teasing you, the times I made you tell a lie for me, and the times you refused to lie for me, the trips to Value City, the parties, the dancing to Kotto Bass and the priceless times we spent singing church songs at home. Peace till we meet again.
Posted by Agatha Forsac on 24th November 2015
Waoh isn't it amazing and so peaceful to know that grandma "Yeri" is having fun with Jesus. What a lucky woman and what a privilege. You are absolutely free from all the hassles and bustles in life. continue to enjoy eternity its not your fault.
Posted by Innocent Ewongkem on 23rd November 2015
Mom, can't believe it's already a year since you left us!!! Time really flies!!! Your spirit is still alive in us, though!!! May your soul rest in perfect peace dearest one!!!
Posted by Nkie Forsac on 23rd November 2015
Ma Maria,life is tough here with us without your gentle ways,your quiet strength ,your deep concern for our well being.God knows best. The sadness , nakedness ,emptiness is profound.l know you are in a good place. Rest well. Please walk with me every second of my life. You are the best angel one could ever wish for.What a great mother! What a great friend.
Posted by Kevin Nfonsam on 23rd June 2015
My dearest Reme Mary, Happy birthday. You will be forever missed. I know you are in the presence of the lord watching over us. May your soul rest in perfect peace.
Posted by Agatha Forsac on 23rd June 2015
Grand ma Yeri HAPPY FIRST anniversary in heaven. God loves you best.
Posted by Yvonne Ewongkem on 21st June 2015
My dearest mother tears could not let me wish you happy birthday yesterday. Happy 72nd birthday mom. You were my inspiration and still my inspiration. It felt like you just left us yesterday but it is actually 8months. You will forever remain in my memory. Continue to rest in the bossom of our beloved father. Love you mom.
Posted by Vince Bright on 21st June 2015
You are greatly missed mami may your gentle soul continue to rest in peace with the Lord. Amen
Posted by Amatus Forsac on 21st June 2015
My Loving Mother, June 20, 2015 was the 72nd Anniversary of your Birth. You left us 8 months ago but your memory is as fresh as ever. I miss your smile, your care, your love, your peaceful nature and your loving heart. But I know you are in a loving place and your kindness, gentleness and beautiful spirit brightens your heavenly dwelling. Your beautiful spirit stays with me always. You are forever missed but forever loved. I love you Mom.
Posted by Katu Katu on 21st June 2015
Mom, you were the best! I recalled many fun times with you in Detroit, Buea & Limbe. Your down-to-earth nature made every encounter memorable. May your soul Rest in Perfect Peace.
Posted by Martha Stacey on 6th February 2015
Mami its taken me this long to pull the courage to do this. I truely do not know how and when to start. I was deeply touched when I heard the news and since then, my mind have been clouded with so many thoughts which are very disturbing. Part of me thought you will be there forever and I never found the time to say and do the things I should have said and done to a mother who was there for me unconditionally. Mami you are a special mother and I love you so so much- Shame I didn't tell you this often enough. You gave me love and trusted/beleived in me. You were a very big part in my life's Journey as a young girl and I can never forget your Kindness. I could go on and on all day but one thing is clear-Mami you are special and I am thankful for being a part in your life no matter how little that part was. As you rest your gentle soul in God's kingdom, I know you will want all your love ones to know that; though your leaving may cause pain, your joy is greater that they remain because you are just that kind of mother that will put all others before you. May your gentle soul rest in peace till we meet again. A lesson to learn- Tell that someone that you love, howmuch you love them always so they know howmuch you love them if tomorrow never comes. I have lose mami who never knew howmuch I loved her and it hurts. Trust me You do not want to be in this dark corner ever. Mami being a teacher would have love to take on this topic in her class and am sure she did somehow through her life style and kind nature. Rest in peace Mami
Posted by Netty Langmi on 11th December 2014
Madam Mary, you laid the foundation of my academic accomplishments. You taught me how to count and say the alphabet. You taught me how to read and write. You were the first teacher I had in school. I still remember how enjoyable my classes 1 and 2 days were. You were not just my teacher but also my mother. You will forever be missed. Rest in peace Madam Mary.
Posted by Nagwa Fokunang on 11th December 2014
Grandma Mary was a nice person. She was a loving and kind person. From what I am hearing now I know she will always stay in our hearts What she has done in our lives will never be forgotten.
Posted by Hephzibah Forsac on 10th December 2014
My dear brothers and sisters. In this time of sorrow due to mami Mary's passing, it is sad that mami has gone from us and we will miss her indeed. But the scriptures say that we should not mourn as those without hope. We do not understand why mami had to go now and we have questions but we thank God Almighty for the time we had with her on this earth. Ist Thessalonians 4:13-14. "But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that you sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him." We will someday reunite again with mami mary and all our loved one if we sleep in Jesus never to die again. This is the blessed hope for every Christian. Ist Thessalonians 5:18 declares " In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." We thank God when good things happen and we thank God when bad things happen because he causes both the good and bad things to work together for our good. Even things that do not make sense like the passing of our beloved mother mami Mary. I had a wonderful time with her. When my sister Flo played the lottery and I came to the US, living with mami Mary in Lansing Michigan was fun. She was a loving mother and very jovial. She loved all her children and grand children especially Daren. Mami Mary loved to dance and will always make fun of my dance- Mbah di dance like gentle man. She will say Flo this your brother don quit that job again. Laughing, she will say Mbah tell e manager say "I quit". She will also say Flo this your brother don get police ticket and e di fear for tell you. I beg no halla hi. She also would never miss church mass and she loved prayers. Mami Mary so na go you don really go you so? Weh I go miss you and all our jokes until we meet again by Gods grace. You don finish running your own God given race and I go continue for run my own race in Jesus until we meet again. Almighty Father I pray that you will comfort us all the entire family in this time of sorrow and help us to find peace in the mist of sorrow and the passing of our beloved mother mami Mary. Help us to live our own lifes in humility, love for each other in unity and to pursue everlasting peace in you so that at the end of our days we will all reunite In you with mami Mary as one godly and heavenly family. In Jesus name I thank you LORD. Amen! Mbah (Hephzibah) Forsac
Posted by Darren Dioh on 9th December 2014
Grandma Mary will be forever be missed. Her heart warming presence was cherished by both family and friends and I am sure that we all feel the pain of her passing. While I am deeply saddened by the loss of Grandma Mary, I take some small joy in knowing that Heaven has gained one of its greatest angels. Having been raised by Grandma Mary throughout the entirety of my childhood and young adult life, I can attest firsthand that she was a woman of great faith and Christian morals. Morals which she made it her mission to pass on to me and morals which I continue to live by today. Grandma Mary is no longer with us but she has left me more than enough fond memories and life lessons. These are memories and teachings that I will carry with me for the rest of my lifetime. You will always be loved and missed. Rest In Peace Mami Mary
Posted by Therese Binfon on 8th December 2014
Mami, words alone cannot describe how I feel. Mami, I can still hear you call me 'Tricia'. Mami, I can still hear you say 'how is Tobie?' ‘how is my daughter Agatha?, Pa Tobie e woman’ Reme Mary, it is tough and unbearable to admit the news of your passing. Reme Mary, Mami, who is there to say 'let it go'? Who is there to say 'leave that pikin alone'? Mami, our entire family is shaken. Mami, there is no one in this world like you. Mami, you taught us to love everybody. Reme Mary, I vividly remember the day you were going to visit Ernest and asked if I would come with you. I did not know at that time that he will become my husband. Mami, he is now my husband and we have four kids. Grandma Mary, I remember the last song you sang in my house, in Atlanta... "Send me, send me, send me, Oh Lord, send me to do your will. The lord is asking that whom shall I send and who is prepared to do my will". Mami, thank you for teaching me, advising me, and guiding me as I pondered my choices in the US as an international student. Thank you for everything you did to the entire family. Your quietness spoke volumes. Your laughter brightened the entire family. Mami, you are with us forever. The Lord has called you to do his work as you sang many times. ' Grandma Mary, Love You' Tricia
Posted by Relindis N on 7th December 2014
Forever loving Mami Mary. When I first arrive Lansing back in the day, you were the only lady I knew as Mami. My very first visit to a home outside our house was your house at Okemos. Once my brother uncle Niba as everyone knew him introduced me as the younger sister, your eyes lighted with joy, enthusiasm, love and excitement. Your very first hug to me was warm, real and motherly. Since that day, you left an everlasting motherly seal of love in my heart. There has never been a moment you come to town and don't ask of me and the kids from anyone that knows me. You were a mother to all. Your dancing everybody talk of is real and geniune because I watch you dance first hand back in Lansing. MA FLO and Uncle Bayunga , thanks for always telling me that mama sends greetings. She will be forever loved and missed. Goodbye Mami Mary and rest peacefully in the Lord till we meet again. LOVE RELINDIS
Posted by Melanie Wandji on 6th December 2014
Mammy Mary knew how to love: and care: I remember my first time eating" eru" at mammy's kitchen. My first "koncha". Mammy you never me to thank you you. So today, I said THANK YOU Ma Flo! For sharing your wonderful mother with us. Mammy allowed me to study peacefully by taking care of my children. Feeding me when I was a pregnant and nauseated, and sick. Consoled me when I grieved my grandma. Encouraged me when I was feeling down. As I looked at your pictures, how much you love to sing and dance, I smile and love you more...
Posted by Innocent Ewongkem on 5th December 2014
I just want to thank everyone for the love and friendship given to our dearest mother "grandma Mary" over the years. I wished we would have been gathering somewhere to celebrate some other fun and exciting event at this time of the year instead of mourning someone special like our beloved mother. However, as you all know, God's will overrides everyother!! As stated in the book of life (eccl:3)--"To everything, there is a season, and time for every purpose under the heavens. There's a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;......" So, I just want to thank our almighty God for gracing us with such a wonderful mother, friend, sister, aunt (ie) "grandma Mary." She was my best friend and mentor, and she'll always remain my Idol. As a matter of fact, many people I know often refer to her as "Sweet Mother" and she really loved the song 'sweet mother' by Prince Nico Mbarga too!! That's just a tip of the iceberg of how unique, wonderful, good-hearted, compassionate, loving, and caring a mom grandma Mary was. I couldn't have asked or hoped for any better mom than she!!! So, brothers and sisters, beloved ones! Don't be disheartened by this upheaval at this point in time. There's a reason that our lord God actually graced us with such a wonderful person in the name of grandma Mary, and there's a reason that he has decided to call her back...to take her away from our very midst at this particular point in time. I truly believe grandma Mary has fulfilled her purpose here on earth. May her soul rests in perfect peace. I love you grandma Mary, and I'll always live to remember you. See you during the Rapture!!
Posted by Rita Elad on 4th December 2014
My beloved Bombo, like a wild wind that blows across and sweeps away the dust from the surface of the earth, so has death swept you from my life. You’ve left me alone Nobody to call Bombo again in the entire family why now? It’s with heavy mine reflecting on how I met you on Sunday 23rd November in the Regional Hospital, Buea struggling with your life. Going back to those moments makes me ask so many questions but our Almighty God is the answer. Bombo, you showed me God’s love which is greater than any. You always make sure i had something special each time i visit you. Reme Mary, you were a very cheerful, friendly and special Bombo, you made a lot of sacrifices to the entire family and friends, your attention were always present when needed. What is amazing is the way you bravely faced all obstacles, but sadly the final confrontation overcome you. Bombo, i thank God that this happened so you can rest. I was there and witnessed your pain and suffering though you did not deserve it. The bible says that if you die in Christ you die no more. I am happy because I know that you die in Christ and you are now safe in his arms. Bombo intercede for love, peace and unity among your children, grand children, sisters, only brother and the rest of the family. I sincerely thank God for your life, he has ended your sufferings and that is the consolation we can hope for. May your soul rest in perfect peace
Posted by Agatha Forsac on 4th December 2014
Grandma “Yeri” as fondly called by Lawrence. I sleep every night with the hope of seeing you in the morning. It is still like a dream that you are gone. I will hardly understand ……………. your sudden departure from us. You were sick but, not so serious as to suggest death. All was looking hopeful. I find myself wishing that it wasn’t real. As human beings we never want our loved ones to die no matter the age, but our ways are not God’s way nor our thoughts his thought. My heart fills with sadness at the thought of never seeing you or talking to you again. Death does not discriminate, right now I am completely torn within but I can hear that quiet voice of consolation whispering to me, urging me, you were called by our heavenly Father for greater reward, reward that we can never give you. I feel incredibly blessed to have had a mother like you. A woman so selfless, so giving, so committed, amiable, peaceful, caring, loving, soft spoken, sympathetic, jovial, nurturing any and everyone who stepped in always. You never were a burden on us and made no demands on any of us. You were an epitome of humility and humbleness with the heart to serve others rather than be served. Always willing to sacrifice for us and our children. Your children’s friends were your children. A simple life that did not call for notice but was exemplified by diligence and humility. I will always remember your warm and contagious smile. Your dealing with people, the respect for people and all. Your candle will burn on in our hearts forever. We thank God for the years that you spent with us and the joy that you brought into our lives. God has you in keeping, we have you in our heart. Farewell to you and hoping that one day we will meet again to part no more because “for we know that when this tent we live in – our body here on earth - is torn down, God will have a house in heaven for us to live in, a home he himself has made, which will last forever” (2 Corinthians 5:1).
Posted by Louisa Elad on 4th December 2014
Cheri we were all shocked when you decided to leave us on that faithful day. But we know the Almighty God had a reason why He took you from us. Grama Mary you were the greatest, caring and most loving person to us all and we feel nothing but joy and happiness because we know you are with our Father resting in His Bosom. Grama Mary we will always remember your smile, laughter,and your dancing styles. you were a God fearing person, very gentle, determined, very kind and you cherished and held us all close to your heart.our time with you here on earth was filled with joy and laughter and you taught us so many things and your love for the family had no bounds. Losing you has left a hole in our hearts that words can't explain. we will forever love you dearly and remember the good things you did. Goodbye grama Mary and may your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. we will miss you always. Lulu, Leslie and Brandon
Posted by Stanley-Pierre Ngeyi on 3rd December 2014
My goodness; who will show us the spontaneous and honest smile; Who will prepare that sumptuous dish for us to enjoy; Who will tell us that story that made us all fall off our chairs with unstoppable laughter? Mami, please dance safely to the Lord as the gates of Heaven have been opened unto thee.
Posted by Evelle Kool on 3rd December 2014
Reme Mary, it's been a blessing knowing you; and it's good to know you remain a blessing for me and my family, always. We definitely miss the presence of your personality, but it is comforting to know the warmth of that presence remains forever in our heart. And for sure, you are the one angel to pray for us all now that you share in the Light of His Presence. Peace be with you.
Posted by Laura Forsac Enonjang on 3rd December 2014
"My Pikin, Endam” as you referred to me “Mami Maria” as I reffered to you I can still remember the look on your face the first time I sang this chorus (your favorite), taken from the words of scripture, ‘how many times should I forgive my brother?’ Your face brightened like the first rays of sun in the summer after a long harsh winter (something we were all too familiar with in our early days in Lancing, Michigan). At the time, I did not quite understand it but some lessons take a lifetime of learning before they are understood. Your outlook on life was very bright and very infectious and seemed to make even the most difficult days and times just another step on the ladder. As such difficult times in the past, in your presence were life’s teachable moments. It was really a pleasure being in a classroom where you were the teacher. You seemed to have grasped the full essence of living, making every day count and living it with a smile on your face. You friendly attitude made the mother-daughter relationship easy for us because in you we did not just see a mother, we also saw a friend and a confident. Even my relationships with others became better because of my relationship with you. And when we used to dance… oh so full of life. Music brought you so much joy. Whether it was listening to that soft baritone from Don Williams or dancing to ‘Bamenda’ from Kotto Bass, one could see genuine happiness from your love for music. Did anything ever bother you? Because if it did, you never showed it. There was always something positive to be learnt from every situation that we faced. You always gave great advice but most importantly you lead by example. Now, I understand why that song affected you so positively. It takes someone who fully understands what life is about to recognize and acknowledge one of the building blocks of a happy life, forgiveness. To me, you were forgiveness personified and I think that is what kept a spark (of happiness) in your eye all your life. The Good Book says, ‘No one lights a lamp and puts it under a bowl, instead they put it on a stand’ (Luke 11:33). In this case, I feel like the light that was on the stand has just been covered with a bucket. Even though I am sad that, that light cannot reach us anymore, cannot show us the way anymore, I am happy it was not extinguished. In fact it can never be extinguished because you will continue to live in our hearts. Thank you for all the lessons, thank you for teaching us humility, love and the power of a strong united family. I WILL miss you, the world will miss you, WE WILL ALL MISS YOU. So long…. Laura Forsac Enonjang
Posted by Jeanette Angeh on 3rd December 2014
Mama Mary, though The Lord called you home on November 23rd, you will forever live in our hearts. My heart aches because of your physical absence but I know your spirit lives on. Mama Mary, you have been a great inspiration to all who knew you. You were receptive to all who came across your path. Your gentle nature instilled in us how to love and be respectful of each other. You taught us how to take responsibility for our actions and face the consequences. You were very humble and unassuming, caring and loving and above all had a strong faith in The Lord. I know not how my sister Flo would have cope with her program of going through medical school and residency without you stepping in and becoming a full-time mom for Darren, then down the road caring for Njomia and Afang. Well she would have coped somehow because you instilled in Flo how to be a strong woman. You have been very selfless putting the needs of others before yours. You have been one of a kind woman! There are many of us calling mama without hesitation for it is a title that you earned and wore very well and more. You were full of life and fun to be around. I will truly miss your smile and those exclamations. I already miss our days in Lansing and Southfield but I will cherish our special moments of my visits. I remember you saying to me on many occasions and I quote "Jane you too quiet" or "this pikin, how you quiet so? and you like you trouble" Oh Ms. Mary I miss you! I remember how I'll poke fun at you and call you Ms. Mary and you saying how it made you feel like a teacher. A teacher you have been to us, your children and many others without officially assuming that role. We learned so much from you and continue to aspire to emulate your humility, respectfulness, compassion, tenderness, gentile, loving and kindness toward each other. Above all, your quiet strength and unfailing FAITH in God gave us all hope. I will end with my adapted summary of Ecclesiastes 3 'To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.......... Now is our time to mourn and weep for you are gone from us. Now is our time to rejoice for you suffer no more. Now is our time to remember, laugh and laugh some more at moments of old and new. Now is our time to dance just because you loved to dance. Now is our time to give Thanks and Praise to God for creating you and giving us the pleasure of knowing and learning from you. You were not ours to keep forever due to our selfish reasons so your maker called you home To God is the glory for receiving you into his bosoms. Adieu till we meet again.... Your daughter Jane
Posted by Nell Forsac on 3rd December 2014
Grandma, you were the best grandmother anyone could ask for. Words cannot describe how much you will be missed. But you are now in a better place with the Lord. Love you Grandma Mary and rest in peace Your grandson Nell
Posted by Ray Forsac on 3rd December 2014
Grandma, you are the best grandma in the world. I know that you are in a better place. I love you. Ray
Posted by Dan Pefok on 3rd December 2014
My Heartfelt condolence to the entire family and to Ma Florence , Valentine and Co. Grandma left a indelible mark in my life personally by her sense of disciplne and focus. Her smile and many little stories will never be forgotten. My prayer is that we all get ready when ever we are called to travell this journey. 1Thess 4v17-18 " For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first.....Therefore encourage one another with these words"
Posted by Herbert Ebonlo Nfonsam on 3rd December 2014
My Dear Reme Mary I thank God our Father creator of heaven and earth for your life; though short, it was full of exemplary and touching accounts that we who are left behind have to emulate. You lived your life in a special way and I will always remember you for your simplicity, humbleness, kindness, generosity, maternal love and above all your desire to serve God. My heart is heavy with grieve not for the fact that you are gone, but for the fact that I could see you battled with that devil’s hell of a sickness which only God knows where it came from; I could feel your pain when walking with you around trying to get you back on your feet. I could feel your fading voice struggling to sing “If you waka with Maria -you go di boost- you go bend down bend down- you go di boost” Or “Wona see as e di suffer – e di suffer for sika we- any time we di do bad for we sister - we di helep for suffer ei – anytime dem di spoil we name for nothing na we cross we carry’am”. The pain is deep in my heart as I was right there at your side that fateful day when it happened. If there was a way to command the mischievous ailment to leave you, I would have done so. But unfortunately, I was just but a helpless mortal with little faith who stood by and watched my beloved aunty journey to the land of no return to meet grand pa, grand ma, Uncle Antho, aunty Eli, Uncle Lazor, Abams, ED and Eric. However, despite all the drama, I thank you aunty for the love you showed me right to the end. On your sick bed when you could neither speak nor open your eyes for days, but because of your abundant love, you open your eyes immediately you heard my voice. I will forever remember you. I thank you because you taught me how to appreciate, live a simple life and how to stand for the truth no matter the consequences. I thank you for the strength you gave me to withstand the shock of your passing and I know where ever you are, it is a special place meant for special people like you. Remember the last time at Mama Agatha’s house in Limbe when I told you that you name is Mary, and your name sake (Mary the Mother of Jesus our Lord and God) will never abandon you because for more than three decades you walked under trying weather with Her regalia (CWA) without shame or complex honoring, singing, and praising Her? She did not abandon you for sure, for she marked you with the sign of peace on the Feast of Christ the King a very special day to us all. Rest in Peace aunty and enjoy your new home.
Posted by Kevin Nfonsam on 3rd December 2014
Rémé Mary, you have so many nick-names but to us you were our beloved grand mum, grandaunt, mum, aunty, sister, cousin and friend. Rémé Mary touched our lives positively in different ways; was it the words of wisdom we shall miss or her soft, calm collected and gently tone or manner of making us see or do the right thing or the determination or firmness in her resolve to make us better children or was it her faith and communion with Christ which set good examples for us to follow, that we shall miss? Réme Mary, you taught me some real life values that help shaped who I am today. She taught me to appreciate the thought someone has put in giving me a gift than the gift itself. She taught me humility and hard work in order to get what I want. All this is encapsulated in a little anecdote. About 30 years ago, during a summer holidays, one of my siblings and I visited our beloved rémé Mary in Okoyong for the first time. She asked us what we would like to take back to school and I quickly said “Tapioca”. She asked me what that was to which I said “Garri”. A couple of days before our return to school, she woke us up at about 4am in the morning to go to the farm to harvest some cassava to make the “garri” we needed. I didn’t find that funny at the time. However, after some minutes I found myself walking to the farm. After a day’s hard work of harvesting and peeling the Cassava roots, I watched her filled up the basin I had, with cassava. When that was placed on my head It felt like the weight of the world was on me. On our way home, I struggled with that basin of cassava on my head until we reached a river where my wobbling legs couldn’t take it anymore and in a split second, the content of my basin was in the river. With help from the rest we succeeded in salvaging some of the cassava. When we got home I still got a full bag of “Garri” to take to school and I was very happy. On our way back to school I sat in that bus thinking of my “garri” and how hard it to make it. The more I thought of it the more I appreciate what she did before and after. Rémé Mary you were Angel on earth. Rémé Mary I also remember and will miss the times when we all clamp in a room and listen to you and others about the bed time scary stories of Okoyong. Even though, the stories sent fright and chills down my spine, we always wanted to listen to more. That moment of family and togetherness, I will cherish. I will miss that broad smile that was always on your face even in times of distress. Rémé Mary, you have always been there for us all. You were like a rock.You kindness and generosity was immense. Your concern and care for us were second to none. I will cherish the times we spoke “Mbo” on the phone and you will correct and laugh over my grammatical errors. At the end of the day it was fun but you gave me a sense of belonging and made me appreciate my roots. All this came to a crescendo 2 years ago in Buea, during a “hala” where we were dancing “Ewang”. That image of you dancing left an indelible print in my mind. You showed us strength and dignity in sickness. The last time I met you in the Cameroons I watched you with tearful eyes. God saw you getting tired, so He has now put his arms around you and whispered “come to me my child” Your positive footprints on earth will be immortalised by the stories told about you. We loved you but God loves you more. A golden heart stopped beating. God broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best. Even though I am sad that you are gone, I will celebrate your life here on earth. You were a good woman and may your soul rest peacefully in the bosom of the Lord. Good Bye Rémé Mary until we meet again. Unconditional Love Eteki Kevin
Posted by Estella Atekwana on 3rd December 2014
Ma Mary, what a shock to me when I learned of your departure to glory. It was only last month that I was speaking with Flo and asked her how you were doing. You will greatly be missed. You were an exemplary mother and grandmother. I remember the days in Michigan when we would visit and you would be so happy to see my children. You were an incredible pillar of support for Flo and her family. May the beautiful fragrance of love you have left behind continue to be a sweet smelling aroma to your children and grand children. Say hello to Ma Nkwate. Rest in peace until we meet again.
Posted by Ethel Elad on 2nd December 2014
"Grama Mary as I called you. you were the best aunt and mother any one could ask for. you will truly be missed by all. i still feel like is a dream but i know i have to accept what has happened and i believe you are resting with our creator. Grama Mary i know you are watching over us from above and and your spirit still is with us. we love you dearly but i know God loves you more. May your gentle soul rest in peace and we will meet again . love you always Esuma"
Posted by Jomia Pefok on 2nd December 2014
Grandma Mary you were the best grandmother anyone could ask for. You were always there for you grandchildren no matter what. You made sure Afang, Darren, and I always ate well before yourself. You would wake up early in the morning to get me dressed for school and take me to the bus stop to make sure I caught the bus no matter the day. All of these memorizes plus more are why you would be greatly missed and love. R.I.P. Grandma Mary
Posted by Landry Nfonsam on 2nd December 2014
We will forever miss you “Reme Mary”. In every sense, you were a mother to us all, a kind and entertaining soul, a devoted Christian and a faithful servant of God. Your beautiful smile will be forever missed and memories of your open arms of embrace and generosity will forever stay with us. I still remember your words of encouragement that have impacted me in so many ways. I remember how much you loved life, your love for music; you and I would exchange cassette tapes and I remember how your face would light-up each time you listened to “Don Williams.” We will continue to celebrate your life. We will continue to hold fast to those indelible memories of goodness your life represented. You passed-on in Christ and it’s my belief you are in a better place. Adieu “Reme Mary” and Godspeed till me meet again.
Posted by Afang Pefok on 2nd December 2014
Grandma Mary was one of the people that enjoyed life the greatest. I miss her even though I know she is in peace. To her last days she would dance and enjoy her music. She liked her quiet, she would tell me "Stop making noise" when I was younger, and still did until she left us to go to a better place. May her soul Rest In Peace.
Posted by Banyuga Pefok on 2nd December 2014
While we may weep and mourn for Grandma Mary's departure, we are consoled and comforted by our indelible memories of our beloved mother and grandmother. How can I ever forget her love of music and dancing, her gentle manner with all children, her due diligence in reaching out to everyone whenever she gets a chance and, most of all, her passion for the church. We'll miss you much, but we can rest assured that you are in great hands with the Lord.
Posted by Nkie Florence Forsac on 2nd December 2014
Mama Maria Mama Maria you were a great mother, grandmother, sister, auntie and friend, a wonderful child of God. Your soul was kind and gentle and even in your death, you showed dignity and a quiet strength. Your entire life was a testimony of your great love and kindness for us. Everyone who knew you loved and respected you and all of our lives were made better because God gave you to us. Mama Maria had a great capacity for loving all who came in contact with her. Her words were sweet and her heart was generous. She never left a bitter taste in anyone's mouth. She was as the Proverbs woman in scripture whose children arise to call her blessed. Mama Maria loved and cared for her grandchildren with all that she had to give. She referred to Darren as her "first grandson" and she was so devoted to him. When he was a child she would run around the house for hours trying to get him to eat. She regularly attended his parent-teacher conferences and volunteered in his class when needed. Because of her dedication to Darren, she won the PARENT OF THE YEAR award and got to go on a Christmas shopping trip. Darren was honored to have you as his grandmother. When Jomia came along, Mama Maria had her hands full. There were early morning fights about which school clothes he would wear. She had to run after him to get him to eat lunch. At dinner, Jomia would often refuse to eat, but at 12 midnight he would knock on Grandma's bedroom door asking for food. Grandma would get up and feed him with joy. Mama Maria named Ekumu after her uncle and she always noted that 'he will be alright in the future'. She treated him with great respect even though he was a child. My husband would jokingly say that I was an 'absentee mom'. With Mama Maria standing in for me, I always took comfort in knowing that my sons were in great hands. At Mama Maria's last visit, roles were reversed. Jomia, now 17, was in charge of her meals. He made sure that she ate and assisted with her feedings. Ekumu, now 14, was in charge of her bathroom needs. They sang together while walking to the bathroom. Grandma would say a warm "thank you" each time. Even in her time of sickness, Mama made life easier for me. She provided the opportunity for her grandsons to take care of her. She prepared them for my turn. Mama Maria gave so much without ever asking for anything in return. Her life was one of deep humility. Every now and then she come to for medications and she would say "Flo, I beg when you reach for office, look whether you see some my blood pressure medicine, na only small remain." She was so unselfish, only asking for what she absolutely needed and always meeting the needs of others. She never wanted to be a bother to anyone and she never was. Mama Maria, you carried me all the time. You were my biggest motivator and taught me to be responsible and to have a vision and sense of direction at an early age. I remember how you always put others first. When Grandpa Dominic was ill, you delayed coming to the U.S. so that you could take care of him and be by his side until his last days. You taught me true commitment to family, friends and community and this lesson has blessed my life. Mama Maria we will miss you facial expressions, your laughter, your dancing, your singing and your sound advice. You were my buffer and my counselor in chief. Over the years you never gave one bad word of advice. At times when I was leaving Cameroon, I would say "My money finish oh mami. You would say "Na whati, waker fine. Salute my picken them." Mama was friends with my friends in the U.S. and Cameroon. When they visited, it was often to see her, not me. She had a bright smile and good word for everyone and no one left her table hungry. Mr. Wakan referred to her as Cameroonian American Mother of the Year. She was indeed that and so much more. Mama Maria If I could have 10% of your humility, I will be a great woman If I could have 10% of your love for your fellow man, I will be a great woman If I could have 10% of your respect for people, I will be a great woman If I could have 10% of your peace-loving nature, I will be a great woman If I could have 10% of your quiet strength, I will be a great woman If I could have 10% of your love for God and the church, I will enter the gates of heaven. God is on your side and this I know for sure. You left us and returned to him on Christ the King day. Thanks for giving me life. Nkie Forsac-Pefok
Posted by Anne Limona-Forsac on 1st December 2014
Reme Mary, It is extremely difficult to come to terms with your passing but God saw you getting tired , put his arms around you, and broke our hearts just to show he only takes the best. I agree with my sisters and brothers that the greatest lesson you taught us was not to focus on the little hiccups in life, but to grab it by the wheel and live every single day to the fullest. We all can only hope to lead a life as selfless, God fearing, and all the while smiling like you did. You were the definition of a gentle spirit and for that, we thank God for letting you enrich our lives with your presence. You are at his right hand now so please intercede for the rest of us. I was just telling Grand soeur the other that every time I cook oatmeal for the girls, I think about you (which is pretty much every other day) and how you use to make it for Darin. As a Johnny just come, I did not understand why someone would choose to eat something that really did not look that appetizing but you and Darin loved it I will throw my little snarky comments about how horrid it looked and possibly tasted, and you would quietly asked me if you were forcing me to eat or look at it. I am proud to say I love it today too. Know you are in our hearts although your physical body is no longer with us. I love you my dear Reme Mary. Epaks
Posted by Yvonne Ewongkem on 1st December 2014
My dearest mother Maria, Mary, Reme Mary, your passing away is the greatest shock of my life. you were my everything. I do not know what I am going to do without you. My heart bleed. I cannot believe I will not hear your voice anymore. Life doesn't seem the same since you went to your next and best home. I gave you all the troubles when I was little but you stood by me and make me the woman I am today. You thought me all the good principles in life and I am very grateful. As a child, I saw all your struggles but you were selfless. You gave up things in life to make someone else happy. A golden heart you had. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to take care of you in your last month's on earth. I cherished the eating, dancing, talking, and praising God together. These memories will forever remain in my heart. You went too soon. I cannot question God for he knows best. All I ask for you is to watch over us and direct us to the right path till we meet again. Saying goodbye is difficult. Love you and will always love you. RIP Mami Your loving daughter Yvonne
Posted by Ivo Nfonsam on 1st December 2014
My Aunt, Reme Mary, was a fun, beautiful, kind, understanding and generous person who passed away too soon. She was a strong person and this strength shone through during her fight with her illness. Even though she was in tremendous pain she always remained strong and never wanted attention focused on her illness. She wanted everyone to continue on with their lives and was more concerned with how we were doing and if we were happy. My greatest memories of my Aunt are how hard working she was and her love for the entire family and her friends. Thank you Mami for everything you did for our family and friends over the years. We couldn't have asked for a better mother and role model. I love you so much and wish that we had more time together. I will cherish all of the great memories that we had while you were with us. You will be missed by all and your memory will live in us all forever. I pray that your gentle soul rests peacefully in the lord, until we meet again. I will end with the following quotations from William Shakespeare: “The good is oft interred with their bones” And also, “Cowards die many times before their deaths; the valiant never taste of death but once”. Bye bye Reme Mary. Your Beloved Son Ivo Epad
Posted by Alliance Lipenja on 1st December 2014
My dear reme Mary, Your untimely passing was very devastating for me. The love you showed me throughout my life will never be forgotten. You were a mother to me and also my first teacher in primary school. I am who I am today because of the life lessons you taught me early in my life. While I’m struggling to come to terms with your departure, I know that you will always be in my heart. I know that my thoughts are echoed by many others that were equally touched by your unconditional love and kindness. All of the tributes being left by those you touched are a testament to your ever lasting legacy. Thank you for all the love and care you bestowed upon me. May your soul rest in eternal peace. Your Numbisie

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