This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, matthew james ashby, 33 years old, born on April 20, 1975, and passed away on August 20, 2008. We will remember him forever.
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December 4
December 4
Well its almost Christmas again son another one without you x it's our Anne's funeral today can't believe she's gone poor kids x well as usual the boys have been spoiled again, but hey ho why not, got operation next week, going shopping with kev this week just to get last bits of presents, I would give anything to have you back with us, love and miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 20
October 20
Hi sweetheart things are good here Brandon's shed is done kev put carpet down yesterday, his mates are coming over again this Weekend so that will be fun, they are so funny, the new company have control now those other idiots have now gone so things are going great just waiting for pool table to be delivered for them for up shed, its horrible not having you here to see how well the lads are doing. Love and miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
September 16
September 16
Hi son well Brandon's shed is finished, nothing new here just same old, uncle peter even more frail, auntie June still auntie June, just heard a lovely song about loosening someone and had me having a cry, I miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
August 21
August 21
Sorry son I couldn't write on here yesterday to upsetting, 15years and I can remember were I was what I was doing and every word the police said when they phoned to tell me the tragic news, poor uncle Patrick getting out of bed to comfort me it must of been painful for him, I still see you walking down the back garden with Brandon when you got back from picking him up to come and stay, he still has his moments head wise and I have to explain things to him but its lovely having him living here, I love and miss you so much son but I will love you forever and one day I'll see you again xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
August 20
August 20
Remembering you Today Matt.. 15 Years.. Where does the time go. RIP
July 23
July 23
Hello darling x we are doing good x the lads are doing good x me I'm just me plodding along as usual x have my moments x I do wish you were here for us x love and miss you son always in my thoughts and my heart x love you son love mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
July 2
July 2
Well darling thank you for listening last week x you don't know how much it ment to me x god bless son love you so very much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
June 25
June 25
Hello darling weather beautiful at min , arthritis getting worse , but hey ho nothing can be done, Brandon still Brandon and Taylor still Taylor, playing me up the buggers, uncle Peter getting more fragile bless him, june peter and I went for a lovely meal the other day, nice to sit and chat, well not much else to say at the minute but I love and miss you so very much god bless you darling love always mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
June 4
June 4
Hi son well things are just the same here think about you every day x wish you were with us lovey x love mother xxxxxxxx
April 26
April 26
Hi sweetheart well Brandon had a bit of an accident Sunday while go karting had to have stitches inside and outside of lip got some good bruises his support workers took him hospital but he is ok , Taylor hurt his back but he also is ok, so lonely without you lovey I do miss you so much son, love you to the moon and back xxxxxx
April 20
April 20
Happy 48th Birthday Matt. Hard to believe we left Torc 32 Years ago next month.
Sleep well, Danny x.
Sleep well, Danny x.
April 20
April 20
Happy birthday in heaven my darling son x another birthday without you it just isn't fair that you're not here x love and miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
April 14
April 14
Morning son xxxxxxxx
April 13
April 13
Hi son x well its nearly your birthday x I wish I could turn back time and have things has they were before this nightmare happened x miss you so very much son love you forever and always mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
April 11
April 11
I went to both Stonydelph and Glascote/Torc High with Matthew. I remember him for his hay fever (terrible from memory) and also when he was 'drunk' at Torc once and collapsed (?) from memory. I had only recently moved up to Lancashire several weeks before reading about the sad news in the Tamworth Herald back in 2008. He was living in Eringden as a kid and I vaguely remember his Mum and/or Dad being associated with the local youth club. I'll always remember his big smile and red hair, those freckles of course. RIP Matt, often think of you. Regards, Danny.
March 15
March 15
Hi darling o love and miss you so much xxxxxx
January 2
January 2
Well son your little man is 21 today so pleased he made it through all that happened to him x I wish you had x love and miss you so very much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
GOD BLESS YOU X
GOD BLESS YOU X
December 28, 2022
December 28, 2022
Hi son well another Christmas been and gone without you x the lads were spoilt as grandkids are x not much to say as usual it's to upsetting x I miss you so much my darling son more than I can say x love you son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
December 3, 2022
December 3, 2022
Hello son well what a few emotional weeks all the Christmas lights and songs remind me of all the Christmases we had together and I miss them so much x I know I keep saying it but Brandon reminds me of you so much he has us in stitches x love you son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
November 6, 2022
November 6, 2022
Went out for lunch with auntie june and uncle Peter yesterday x uncle peter is looking very frail x auntie June got to have another opp on her leg tomorrow x I dread to think how many appointments we have coming up between us lol x lads are ok Taylor started new job has the old place closing down x speak soon darling love and miss you mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 20, 2022
October 20, 2022
Hey up darling x its been a week full of hospital appointments thank God none tomorrow x all ok here lads are well Brandon still keeping us in stitches x things going well with change over x nothing much else but that I miss you and love you so much and I don't have to tell you how much I wish you were here x love always and forever son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
September 29, 2022
September 29, 2022
Hello darling x time is going by so quick the weeks don't last long x can't believe Brandon has been living with us over 12 months x the lads make me laugh when playing on line x loads of new words being shouted out lol x not much else to put apart from the usual and that is I love and miss you so much x love always mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
September 11, 2022
September 11, 2022
Hello my darling son x things are ok here x so many songs on radio this morning that remind me of when you were here with us x just having one of my sad days without you x I love you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
August 20, 2022
August 20, 2022
14 years you were taken from me still dosnt seem that long still hurts so very much x I'll write on here later to upset at the minute x love you son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
July 16, 2022
July 16, 2022
Hi ya son x things going well here x won't be long before Jo takes over Brandon's finances he will be a lot happier when he's got rid of all these idiots that take him for a fool as he is far from it x him and Taylor and the support workers are arranging a paintballing day for them all, there looking forward to it x me I'm just pottering around the house and garden as usual I think the garden looks the best it's ever been x hopefully won't be long before the house is brought x Brandon has his eye on another one on this row to rent out just hope he can get it x you would be so proud of him, he's a lovely chap son x uncle peter is not looking to good he laughs every time when he talks about the time he and Patrick tought you to play crib and you kept beating them x I do miss you so much son, I ask myself why you and not the bastard after birth, I have so much hate inside me towards her,so do the lads, it's hurtful to hear Brandon say he knew she didn't like him, and Taylor don't even go there x well that's my moan over x I love and miss you darling love always mom xxxxxxxx
June 5, 2022
June 5, 2022
Hello my darling x well the jubilee is at an end today x you were 2 when she had her jubilee in 1977 x we haven't done anything x decorating as usual just doing Taylor's room now x then all upstairs done again x not much else going on x I miss you with all my heart x love mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
April 20, 2022
April 20, 2022
Well it's your birthday today again another one without you x I'm feeling sorry for myself today, I miss you so much x if I could talk to you and hold you would be amazing x got Sue's funeral next week so sad x why did he have to take you I will never know x I love you son x miss you more than I can say x love you always and forever xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
April 2, 2022
April 2, 2022
Hello my darling x were all ok x Brandon doing well with his new personal trainers x Taylor still working hard can't believe he's been there over 4yrs and still only 1 night off x if the neurologist gives the ok Brandon maybe able to work with him x it's Sue's funeral on the 26th April x me and uncle Peter are taking aunty june out for a break next week she has been rushed off her feet sorting it all out and her phones never stop x so sad x only the good ones go to soon x hopefully it won't be much longer before the new deputy takes over for Brandon and he should be £50,000 a month better off x love and miss you so very much son x God bless xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
March 21, 2022
March 21, 2022
Hello my darling x well another good one joing you son x sue was taken from us early sunday morning x keep her safe with the rest of the family there with you x love you son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
March 10, 2022
March 10, 2022
Hi son x sorry it's been so long writing to you x been decorating Brandon's room and parts of the house x his gym has come for up top of garden can't wait for it to be put up he will love it x he's got all his weights and bench and that ready to put in there x got a few interviews today to do with him for a new pa has Daniel has had to stop work which is a shame has they got on so well x Taylor still working hard x that bitch just needs to leave him alone but has she is a narcissistic that will never happen shame she dosnt overdose do the world a massive favour x miss you so much my darling son x love you forever and always x mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
January 23, 2022
January 23, 2022
Hi son x well things are going well x Brandon a bit frustrated with the treasure who looks after his money x he's a bit slow doing things for Brandon x god I hate losing the people I love fed up of crying x that's enough of that or I will start again x well just doing finishing touches to hall stairs and landing carpet has been fitted its looking good x off to tip in a bit get rid of some rubbish then pop garden centre x Brandon's got a new chap that takes him golf and gym or just out for the day doing stuff worth every penny he was a nurse dealing with people with head injuries so he is well suited for him x he worrys about kylah and how she is doing x he's such a caring person just like you x I wish you were here with us I miss you so much love always and forever son x love mother xxxxxxxx
January 11, 2022
January 11, 2022
Hi son x well Brandon is now a man x I can't believe he's 20 x seems like only yesterday that the little bugger was in nappys x he misses you so much x its amazing how much he can remember x love and miss you so very much son x you would be so proud of him xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
December 9, 2021
December 9, 2021
Hi son x Brandon doing great looking after me x he now is living here x been doing some more wrapping x going to redecorate all through after Christmas give it a nice freshen up everywhere new hall stairs and landing carpet x new carpet for Brandon's room and new bed x Taylor's bed coming next week xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
December 3, 2021
December 3, 2021
Hi son x well mandy came over this week x haven't seen her for a while x she has been really Ill x she hasn't changed still funny x zuise liked her lol x still putting decorations up outside I'll get them finished this weekend x Brandon helped with your tree x and put you Christmas picture on the tree x I don't think he will be going home anytime soon lol x but with all the people that deal with him coming here I can understand better what he goes through now x I love you son and miss you so much xxxxxxxx
November 30, 2021
November 30, 2021
Hi ya darling x soon be Christmas again x another one without you x Brandon doing outside lights x he wants to go to town lol x we will see depends how mad is mad x poor kylah such a shame that cunt doesn't want her back at all and she has the bastard nerve to call me x I bet Charlie is ecstatic because she hates poor kylah x that fucking so called friend has a lot to answer to x that poor kid in care is all her fault x it breaks my heart thinking of her in there or even anywhere that's not family x the town is talking about the bitch because they can see through all her lies and the self pity they know shes a narcissistic nutter x I hate her so much x well moan over for now x love and miss you so much son x love mother xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
November 14, 2021
November 14, 2021
Hello my darling son x Brandon is still here and its lovely x having cancer removed on wed x hope it hasn't spread to far x Brandon has started using some of the words you used to say x makes me piss x he's great company not just for me but also for Taylor x got millie's ashes next to yours so your both together again x can't write for a min getting upset and I won't be able to see x love you so much xxxxxx miss you so much xx mother xxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 27, 2021
October 27, 2021
Hi sweetheart x took millie to be cremated today x it was so hard leaving her there o just wanted to pick her back up and bring her back home x fetching her ashes tomorrow and she will be home with us again x Brandon bless him was so upset he carried her in from the vets and put her on her sofa so she had a last night on there has she hasn't been able to get up on it for a couple of yrs x and she was in to much pain to pick up x and he was up and down all night to kiss her x Taylor put her in the car this morning because she was so bloody heavy x I can't wait to get her back it's so strange without her x even zuise isn't himself x I'm glad she is with you now x love you and miss you so much son x love you always and for everyone x mother xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 26, 2021
October 26, 2021
Hello sweetheart x well it's a very sad day today x got to say goodbye to millie moo x to say she has been a comfort x loyal loving dog x and you found her for me x Brandon is coming with me x Taylor brought her some meat home x it's time to let her go I've been selfish keeping her with me x so wait for her as she passes over the rainbow bridge later I am going to miss her so much x love and miss you son so very much x love always and forever mom xxxxxxxx
October 21, 2021
October 21, 2021
Hi sweetheart x still waiting for appointment to come through from hospital to have cancer on hand to be removed and have lump in neck drained x Brandon been still here bless him x have lots of people in and out to see him x don't think millie will be here for Christmas she is getting really bad now I'm just being selfish hoping she will last forever x uncle peter is looking so frail and old now bless him x he julie and Sarah went to take flowers to sandra's grave Tues and Sarah noticed that on aunt Pat's stone date of death was wrong it said 24/ 12/ 2021 not 2020 x so there replacing it free of charge x the cemetery can't believe no one had noticed it has it has to be checked by 6 people x took the lads Christmas shopping at Bister village got there main prezzys x so just stocking fillers to buy x well that's all for now son x as always love and miss you so so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 2, 2021
October 2, 2021
Hello my darling x if I needed you with me more than any other time it's now x love and miss you so very much xxxxxxxx
September 19, 2021
September 19, 2021
Hi sweetheart x well things are just plodding along x heard from poor kylah she is so sad being in a child's home and I feel so sad for her and miss her so much x that fucking thing has a lot to answer for why couldn't she just let things alone but then she wouldn't of been happy not that she ever is x the bitch even said the day after she had Taylor arrested that she loves a bit of drama that's not what a normal person would call drama x hateful malicious vindictive evil yes x typical narcissistic person x Brandon still here bless him x met some of the people that work with him x there nice ladys x and are helping him along x he's still pissed off with his treasure lol x but maybe once he's met him properly he will change his mind x well not much else to tell you apart from the usual and that is how much I miss and love you son xxxxxxxx mother xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
August 20, 2021
August 20, 2021
Well its 13 years ago son that you were taken from us x it dosnt seem that long as I can remember every word of what I was told that tragic day when God took you away x I miss you not being here and having a laugh x and you certainly did that x miss you so much Matthew x love you forever and always x love morher xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
August 9, 2021
August 9, 2021
Hi ya sweetheart x sitting here thinking about when I had to come to Gloucester and identify you x that bitch said she had been moaning and carrying on saying you were at home when in fact you were gone and once again because it wasn't all about her she couldn't even come near you or look at you she couldn't even say goodbye x I do so miss you my beautiful son x love you so much xxxxxxxx
August 8, 2021
August 8, 2021
Hi son x Brandon is just so disgusted with her and Charlie x he's never liked her x and what Charlie has told him about herself he's just disgusted and her mother knows about it x I can't help but think about poor kylah but I had to make her go back that night or her life would of been made more of a misery that it already is still upsets me though x and the recording I have of her blaming Charlie for kylah being here was her fault well she had a good month to get things right with kylah while Charlie was here but no typical narcissistic blame everyone but themselves x it was her that threw her out x well weather is horrible wanted to get out in the garden but that's not going to happen now x Taylor's other cat died Tuesday night she was hit by a car x it never rains but it pours for the poor lad x Brandon was supposed to be away this week but its been cancelled x he's not that bothered x love and miss you so much son x love you always and forever x love mother xxxxxxxxxxxxx
July 22, 2021
July 22, 2021
Well she has excelled herself this time x what an absolute bitch x how could she do this to her own son x well Taylor said I used to hate her now I just wish her dead x and as usual what she didn't know she made up x my god I'm disgusted with Charlie she will be pregnant before long having seen the pictures she poses for these men and that bitch knows about them x I know I keep saying I wish you were still here but I'm pleased that she can't harm you like she has Taylor x Brandon is over tomorrow x wait till I tell him Charlie has also accused him of rapping kylah x kylah did call her a liar and said she said no such thing x but Charlie is just like her mother x drinking taking coke smoking weed x well what did I expect with them having that has a mother x I know you got into some scrapes but they were nothing to the grief that bitches has caused x all for the pleasure of her own entertainment sick bastard x she must have a very sad life to inflict so much shit on others x she is the worst form of a narcissistic person ive read about x apart from all this were ok x but I do miss you so very much my darling son x love mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
June 25, 2021
June 25, 2021
Hi sweetheart well such a lot gone on after 7 yrs of not seeing the girls Charlie came down and refused to go home then the police turned up a couple of months later with kylah x what the hell x well Charlie didn't like kylah being here so went back to her moms my god Matthew shes turned out just like her mother she's feral x and then she was filmed kicking the hell out of kylah the police have seen it and were showing there Sargent x poor kylah dosnt know if she's coming or going x one minute her mom is all over her wanting to see her and then let's her down poor kid talk about not being wanted, Charlie controls her mother and what happens at home x my god I dread to think what you would say if you were here x Brandon said she's a nutter and always has been x we always said that those girls would never be right because they were not given the love and attention and affection when they were little she has screwed them up what was it you always said there just cash machines to her x got some days out planned when little man comes over witch won't be long its been a week since was last here lol x love and miss you so very much x love always and forever mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
May 13, 2021
May 13, 2021
Hi darling x thought you should know how much of a help Brandon is to me x just like you he cares about his nan and dose so much to help me especially heavy garden stuff x nothing is to much for him if it helps me x wish you were here to see the caring x thoughtful x loving x funny young man he is x just like you x you would be so proud of him x love and miss you so much my darling son x love you for ever and always mother xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
April 21, 2021
April 21, 2021
Hi my darling son x sorry I didn't wish you happy birthday yesterday x to upset x so belatedly birthday wishes x oh god I do miss you and wish you were here with us x Brandon been over last 2 weeks we talk about you so much x its amazing what he remembers x Charlie is doing good x we are all meeting at cemetery next Monday to scatter aunt Pat's ashes now we can get in x poor bugger has been at your uncle Peter's since her funeral x love and miss you so much it hurts even after all these years x love you darling love mother
April 3, 2021
April 3, 2021
Hi darling x well Charlie's adamant she won't go back up home x social worker's have listened to her and I don't know what will happen poor kids x well little man should be coming over soon can't wait to see him x he's still got Christmas presents to open x he's been messaging to see how we are bless him x well apart from all this with Charlie nothing much else going on here x wish you were here with us son x miss you so much x love forever and always mom xxxxxxxxx
March 29, 2021
March 29, 2021
Hi sweetheart x well what can I say Charlie came down in a right state x she sent me a message saying she didn't want to be on this earth anymore x frightened me x phoned her social worker but she wasn't there so phoned police and asked there advice x they said to keep her here x her social worker was more worried about kylah being taken to her grandads with the covid rules x the police came and spoke to her x oh my god I couldn't believe what I was hearing x and they said again to keep her here x and just waiting on social services to see what is being done and if she will go home x at the minute she won't x God son I could do with you here x love and miss you so much xxxxxxxxxxx
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December 4
December 4
Well its almost Christmas again son another one without you x it's our Anne's funeral today can't believe she's gone poor kids x well as usual the boys have been spoiled again, but hey ho why not, got operation next week, going shopping with kev this week just to get last bits of presents, I would give anything to have you back with us, love and miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
October 20
October 20
Hi sweetheart things are good here Brandon's shed is done kev put carpet down yesterday, his mates are coming over again this Weekend so that will be fun, they are so funny, the new company have control now those other idiots have now gone so things are going great just waiting for pool table to be delivered for them for up shed, its horrible not having you here to see how well the lads are doing. Love and miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
September 16
September 16
Hi son well Brandon's shed is finished, nothing new here just same old, uncle peter even more frail, auntie June still auntie June, just heard a lovely song about loosening someone and had me having a cry, I miss you so much son xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Millie moo getting on now son xxxx


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matthews poem that was read at his funeral by paula perkins
October 4, 2010
LONELINESS
LONELINESS IS A STATE OF MIND
ISOLATION, BOREDOM,ALONE
SAT IN A ROOM ALL ON MY OWN
NOTHING TO DO BUT LISTERN TO SILENCE
DEEP IN THOUGHT LOOKING FOR GUIDANCE
YOU LISTERN AND LISTERN, THERE'S NOTHING TO DO
THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN A VOICE BREAKS THROUGH
IT ASKS ME WHAT DO YOU DO
I'M SAT HERE SAT ALONE LOOKING FOR YOU
IF YOU LOOK HARD ENOUGH , YOU MITE SEE ME
BUT STILL YOULL WONDER WHAT I BE
I WAS ALONE ! I LOOK AND I CANT FIND
YOU WONT FIND ME HERE I'M IN YOUR MIND
NOW I HAVE FOUND WHERE I SHOULD BE
AT PEACE AND REST IN HARMONY