ForeverMissed
Menda Carol Reeves Strickland relocated to heaven on May 15, 2021, surrounded by her family.         

Menda was born on December 4, 1945 to Bessie O’Briant Reeves  and Newman Lee Reeves of Durham, North Carolina. She was a 1964 graduate of Durham High School.  After graduation, she devoted her life to the care of her four daughters and husband of 56 years, Edwin Randall Strickland.  Menda was known for her kind heart; always giving to those less fortunate. She enjoyed playing with her grandchildren and children at their home away from home at Kerr Lake. Family always came first for Menda and she loved nothing more than making them laugh with her light hearted amusement (or antics).  

Menda is survived by her husband, Edwin, her daughters; Wendi Strickland Austin (Alan), Amy Renee Stickland of the home, Tami Strickland Brock (Alan), Sandy Kaye Shaw (Ryan),  and grandchildren; Calan Austin, Carli Austin, Parker Brock, Collin Brock, River Shaw, Raelyn Shaw and Great Granddaughter, Lilli Gill. She was preceded in death by her parents and brother, Kenneth Reeves. 

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in Menda’s name to:
www.hopereins.org, click here or 
www.jdrf.com, click here

Visitation will be from 12:00-1:00pm on Tuesday, May 18th and services held at 1:00pm at Grove Park Chapel located at 605 Sherron Rd, Durham, NC 27703.
Posted by William Stanton on May 19, 2021
Rest in Peace, Menda.  Thank you for being so kind.
Posted by Allison Chappell on May 18, 2021
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet mom. What an amazing family she created, with so many wonderful memories. She certainly always made me feel like family. I know you will miss her terribly. Much love to you all.
Posted by Carol Holder on May 18, 2021
Menda was a great neighbor. She was like an older sister to us. She was a planner! I remember staying with the girls when Ed and Menda were leaving to go to the hospital for the birth of their newest baby girl. She came in the kitchen and she had all of the instructions for me written out for the care of the girls. When Wendi married Alan at Grove Park Chapel, Menda had all of the instructions written out in the kitchen for all of us reception helpers. Planning is great, but most of all, she loved her family!
Posted by Miranda Maynard on May 18, 2021
My sincerest sympathies are with you during this difficult time. Hearing you talk about your mother she sounded so wonderful, full of strength and goodness. I see those same qualities in you Wendi. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Posted by Mike Reeves on May 17, 2021
My Aunt Menda was the hardest working, loving , caring person I know and was always helping other people. The younger days of my life are all filled with memories of being with Menda and my cousins. Menda was always there for me to give me advise on the do's and the don'ts of life. from the children's church at Bethesda when Wendi and I were 5 to Joes Motel at White Lake, from being there at the Hargrave Military Ball to my high school graduation.. no matter what her schedule was she was always there for me and I will terrible miss her. I am forever grateful and honored to have had her in my life .. love ya!!
Posted by Bonnie Teasley on May 17, 2021
Our friendship started when we were 11 years old. We were next door neighbors. At this age, everyone always wanted to be the oldest, Menda was 3 weeks older than me and she got the biggest joy out of that for years..until we got older. There are so many memories that I could share. But the ones that we enjoyed in our latter years are mostly reminiscing of when we were younger. We had the best times jumping boards, dancing, waking to school and jumping on the rocks to cross the creeks. I would love to go over her house to visit. Her mother Nannie was a joy to be around, always making sure we had a good time. My prayers are with Ed and their family. She loved everyone so much. I’m so glad that I got to be her friend for so long and I hope y’all find comfort in the memories with her like I will.
Posted by Carli Austin on May 17, 2021
Your wonderful, loving, and beautiful spirit will forever live on. Thank you Mema for keeping me so close to your heart so that you will forever be in mine. I love you so much, my guardian angel!
Posted by Reneau Samuel on May 17, 2021
What an awesome friend! Our 30 years of memories are such a special part of my life. I will miss you and love you!  My prayers are with the family. 
Posted by Ruby McDaniel on May 17, 2021
I was very honored to know this beautiful lady. I saw the way she treated everyone around me and respected her. She had a lovely sense of humor and know that she raised kind young ladies. She was loved.
Posted by Charon Hatley-Morris on May 17, 2021
To the best cook ever you will truly be missed. My prayers are with the family. Please take care of each other.

Posted by Mary Brock on May 17, 2021
Menda was always right in the middle of the fun and was such a warm, loving person that made everyone feel welcome. I have many happy memories of her and she will be missed by all who were lucky enough to know her!
Posted by Dedra Mercer on May 17, 2021
Such a special lady that was loved each and everyday by her daughters. So sorry for your loss. Menda will truly be missed. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Posted by Penny Merritt Merritt on May 17, 2021
Thank you Menda for your kindness to me and my daughter April. Thank you for your example. You are a true blessing to this world and it was an honor to have known you. My love, thoughts and prayers are with your family, especially your girls.
Posted by Alan Austin on May 16, 2021
Thank you for all your memories you gave me. You will truly be missed. I love you Memma.
Posted by Jennifer Smith on May 16, 2021
You were a huge part of my life! I will miss you until I see you again. Thank you for loving me and treating me like family. You were an angel before you became an angel!!:
Posted by Michelle Elliott on May 16, 2021
There are so many sweet and happy memories of Menda. Going to White Lake, Cheerleading Camp, playing cards with Mom and Dad. I always loved coming over to y’all’s house!  She was so kind, sweet and funny! She was also such a wonderful friend to my mom. If Menda was involved you were definitely going to laugh and smile. She is greatly loved and will be missed by all of us who had the privilege of knowing her. Sending thoughts and prayers to your family. So thankful for the hope we have in Christ and this is only a temporary goodbye.
Posted by Jo Anne and Elmo Yancey on May 16, 2021
We will always remember the laughs we shared when we all went out to dinner! 
Posted by Jamie Slaughter on May 16, 2021
I have so many fond memories of Menda. Growing up she treated me like one of her own daughters.  She was a very special lady and will be truly missed.  Praying for all of the family during this difficult time.  I love you all! 
Posted by Tami Brock on May 16, 2021
You left the best legacy of all... A legacy of love! Love you always mama!

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Posted by William Stanton on May 19, 2021
Rest in Peace, Menda.  Thank you for being so kind.
Posted by Allison Chappell on May 18, 2021
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet mom. What an amazing family she created, with so many wonderful memories. She certainly always made me feel like family. I know you will miss her terribly. Much love to you all.
Posted by Carol Holder on May 18, 2021
Menda was a great neighbor. She was like an older sister to us. She was a planner! I remember staying with the girls when Ed and Menda were leaving to go to the hospital for the birth of their newest baby girl. She came in the kitchen and she had all of the instructions for me written out for the care of the girls. When Wendi married Alan at Grove Park Chapel, Menda had all of the instructions written out in the kitchen for all of us reception helpers. Planning is great, but most of all, she loved her family!
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Shared by Sharon Gooch on May 17, 2021
Menda will live on in every daughter, grandchild and great grandchild, all family and friends. She had a way of making you feel at home around her. Praying that all the sweet memories will sustain you until you meet her again.
Shared by April Lemons on May 16, 2021
I have so many fond memories of Menda. She was always welcoming and kind...and hilarious. I enjoyed a lake trip, cheerleader sleepovers, and many fun times at Menda's. Recently, I enjoyed seeing Menda in my neighborhood on several Halloweens.  She was also so kind to my mom during a really difficult time.  Her smile, laugh, hugs, and kindness will always be remembered. She was such a bright light.