Mrs Mercy Mofeade Ademodi
MOTHER IS THE NAME OF GOD IN THE LIPS OF CHILDREN
And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord: and great shall be the peace of thy children… Isaiah 54:13
Dear IyeIwa,
Growing up in Lagos, I did not have much interactions with you before I left for the States some 40 odd years ago. What I knew about you, I heard from my father, I.O. Ademodi, the Great. I recall urgent messages being sent to Lagos by your husband, Bam Demodi (Principal) [B.A.] to my father, I.O. for prayers to ensure your survival. All involving pregnancies complications, childbirth near-death experiences and the puerperal period. G> 10P10 Ten kids! Nothing to sniff at. I recall the name Agboola and then, there were twins. A woman never forgets how many babies she bore. These urgent messages would result in our mothers (in accordance with Papa's wishes) trekking us to Bar Beach, Victoria Island via Lejiko, dressed in our white linen to pray for your speedy recoveries. These started before the hurricane of the Bight of Benin, that swept away the Hotels and Casinos on the Beach of Victoria Island. It was prior to the beaching of the whale (eja abubutan) on Victoria Island that fed Lagosians for weeks.
I heard from Papa, IyeIwa mu’we, opoju! Too brilliant for words! I admired your height then. All along, I would ponder, how could this young tall African Amazon be so sick, so many times. I later gained a complete understanding of the phrase and the deeper meaning of the name, "ONIBILABAKE".
At the first clip, you gave a gift of a wonderful daughter to the Erinketa family of Ondo Kingdom, Iwalola. The apple of the eye of B.A.. She in turn married a man (Otunba O'Sheg Oshinowo) who developed God’s Vision for Loving and Caring for his Wife and Children! You gained a son-in-love indeed. My father called your first gift, Iwalewa. When Papa gives you a name, he would not call you by any other name. He calls out sister Iwa delightfully, Iwalewa Omo Eniyan each and every time with relish. How could Papa know how she was going to turn out? Oruko nroni! Needless to say, this name is a testament to you, IyeIwa.
A Princess who married A Prince.
My father's maternal grandmother, a woman 6'2", the tallest woman in Ondo Kingdom (A land of tall women) of that era was the Lobun of Ondo Kingdom, the female monarch in her own right. She placed the crown on her ancestral son, Oba Rufus Adesokeji Aderele, Tewogboye II [ Osamawe of Ondo Kingdom ]. My father's paternal grandmother also reigned as Lobun of Ondo Kingdom. My great grandmothers were both direct descendants of Pupupu, the very first monarch of Ondo Kingdom, a woman, a twin who reigned in her own right. Long story short, Ondo Kingdom began as a sanctuary for the Royal Twins of Oduduwa who would have otherwise been killed as "Ese Omo re e" corrupted into "Osemawe". All Kings of the Kingdom to this day are descendants of her three sons. The third ruling house is now "extinct" due to the absence of male heir.
In the old days, a princess marries a prince of a neighboring Kingdom to seal alliances, the Awujales of Ijebuland or go further south to become the Elewus . All these ancestors are woven into the daily greetings of Princes and Princesses of Ondo Kingdom. A Princess may also marry a prince of another ruling house. The other option is to marry a descendant of Benin King Ozolua, Oba of the Kingdom of Benin 1483 - 1514 via his son, Prince Jomu who left the Benin Palace to settle in Ondo Kingdom. The Jomu (one of the ewerefas) is the only other hereditary title in Ondo Kingdom. Now a days, anything goes. You marry for love or marry anybody you want with parents approval. Iyewa married a Prince.
I visited you at Odo Ayo, Ondo in 2011. I was told you would not recognize me (that's ok, you probably had not seen me in over 45 years). I was told you are unable to speak, you could die any moment now. These brought back memories of childhood and all you had overcome. I walked with the aid of a cane after the long flight from New York, USA and subsequent journey to Ondo. You recognized me and knew who my parents were. You knew my voice though I really never spoke to elders or anyone as a little girl or a young lady. I would just stand against the wall and wait for Papa to pull me closer or ask me questions. You ran circles around me. You then proceeded to show me your push-ups and crunches. Who spiked Mama's glucerna with B-Complex? I did not need to see your NIDDM meds after all. The only thing you asked of me was to thank your God Favored Daughter, sister Iwa for all that she has done for you. You waxed praises upon her and catalogued the depth of her care. Iyewa, I did what you asked of me and I have not stopped expressing your gratitude.
Au reste, frères, que tout ce qui est vrai, tout ce qui est honorable, tout ce qui est juste, tout ce qui est pur, tout ce qui est aimable, tout ce qui mérite l'approbation, ce qui est vertueux et digne de louange, soit l'objet de vos pensées. Philippiens 4:8
In your hands, O Lord, we humbly entrust our Mother, Grandmother, Aunt and Great Grandmother. Deliver, Lord, the soul of Thy handmaid as Thou didst deliver Enoch and Elias from the common death of the world. Deliver, Lord, the soul of Thy handmaid, as Thou didst deliver Abraham from the midst of the Chaldeans. In this life you embraced her with your tender love; deliver her now from every evil and bid her eternal rest.
The old order has passed away: welcome her into paradise, where there will be no sorrow, no weeping or pain, but fullness of peace and joy with your Son and the Holy Spirit forever and ever. Amen. Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May the soul of our faithful departed Mother rest in peace Amen.
We shall all meet again l’ese Jesu. Duo ki Bam Demodi Principal o. Duo ki Agboola o. Duo ki awon Orila e o.
Adedolapo Ademodi Gbogodo
The Apple of the Eye of Isaac O. Ademodi, the Great
Timber, Transport & Shipping Magnate, Oyinbo Onipako, New Jersey, USA
Leyo Ruling House of Ondo Kingdom