ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Merle Enston. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Lisa Ribout on July 16, 2021
Merle was like my second (cooler) mom growing up. Since Lesley and I became glued at the hip through high school, she was often the grown up I would seek out when faced with a hard line my parents were trying to enforce. I lost count of all the times she played mediator between my mom and I! Somehow she could always get me to see the mom side of the story, teaching me a bit of empathy along the way. Maybe I was receptive to her because she kept teenager hours, staying up all night, which to me was just the coolest thing in the world.
She had a talent for dropping a seed that seemed insignificant in the moment somewhere in the back of your mind. As a young woman who knew everything at the time, of course the ideas I had were all mine, and when I would update her, that famous laugh would come out. Through reflection, I now know of all the little revolutions she planted.
I'm grateful that she got to meet my children while she was still in good health. We'd meet at Civic Centre for coffee after she moved back from New York, enjoying a good laugh at all the things my then 2 year old daughter had no fear of eating, like black olives and sushi!
Her laugh is etched into my memory forever, it's the first thing that I think about when I remember her. She lit up the room with it, subsequently igniting joy in anyone around her, no matter their state of mind. (And let's face it, she could wear a hat like no other!)
I'll miss her dearly. I sincerely hope our stars cross paths again. Love you Merle.
Posted by Kelly Enston on July 12, 2021
Here is the zoom invitation to register for the Memorial and get your zoom link if you are unable to attend in person.

Hi there,

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Jul 16, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcvduuvqTkoE90mdFI5VGIGqGlHh_aBRcGf

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Posted by Susan Biggs on July 7, 2021
I have known the Enston family since childhood as Kelly and I went to school and Girl Guides together as well as hung out.
Our parents carpooled us to activities and occasionally dined.
I remember going to The Docs Night Club with Kelly and Merle to Latin dance. Merle was dressed in a tight leopard print dress and had a very funky hair style. She out dressed both Kelly and I. 
As we got older Merle and my Mom would go out to Pickle Barrel Restaurant together for waffles.

Condolences to Ken, Kelly, Leslie and family.
In your grief may you have many happy memories and thoughts of Merle to help you through.

From Bob Biggs and Susan Biggs 
Posted by Fay Achan on July 7, 2021
I cannot begin to tell all the wonderful stories and memories I have of my Aunt Merle. What I will say is that she was one of the most exciting and interesting people to be with. Her sunny and vibrant disposition was infectious and she made it easy to want to be around her, she was always smiling and encouraging.
She was loved and will be missed.
Posted by Lauren Achan Nelson on July 6, 2021
I have always consider auntie Merle my fun aunt she knew how too have fun .
She alway made my day when she showed up in Brooklyn where my company moved to ,just to let me know that she was In NYC. My fondest memories of auntie Merle, she would alway know before anyone where the best Cafe was for pastry/ coffee , she had to have her coffee !!! That was a must before she got the day started 
She loved the street fairs in NYC , ( the sights , the sound, the people , the food )
Discover new places in New York City with aunt Merle is one off my best memories
I will miss my fun aunt

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Posted by Lisa Ribout on July 16, 2021
Merle was like my second (cooler) mom growing up. Since Lesley and I became glued at the hip through high school, she was often the grown up I would seek out when faced with a hard line my parents were trying to enforce. I lost count of all the times she played mediator between my mom and I! Somehow she could always get me to see the mom side of the story, teaching me a bit of empathy along the way. Maybe I was receptive to her because she kept teenager hours, staying up all night, which to me was just the coolest thing in the world.
She had a talent for dropping a seed that seemed insignificant in the moment somewhere in the back of your mind. As a young woman who knew everything at the time, of course the ideas I had were all mine, and when I would update her, that famous laugh would come out. Through reflection, I now know of all the little revolutions she planted.
I'm grateful that she got to meet my children while she was still in good health. We'd meet at Civic Centre for coffee after she moved back from New York, enjoying a good laugh at all the things my then 2 year old daughter had no fear of eating, like black olives and sushi!
Her laugh is etched into my memory forever, it's the first thing that I think about when I remember her. She lit up the room with it, subsequently igniting joy in anyone around her, no matter their state of mind. (And let's face it, she could wear a hat like no other!)
I'll miss her dearly. I sincerely hope our stars cross paths again. Love you Merle.
Posted by Kelly Enston on July 12, 2021
Here is the zoom invitation to register for the Memorial and get your zoom link if you are unable to attend in person.

Hi there,

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Jul 16, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcvduuvqTkoE90mdFI5VGIGqGlHh_aBRcGf

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Posted by Susan Biggs on July 7, 2021
I have known the Enston family since childhood as Kelly and I went to school and Girl Guides together as well as hung out.
Our parents carpooled us to activities and occasionally dined.
I remember going to The Docs Night Club with Kelly and Merle to Latin dance. Merle was dressed in a tight leopard print dress and had a very funky hair style. She out dressed both Kelly and I. 
As we got older Merle and my Mom would go out to Pickle Barrel Restaurant together for waffles.

Condolences to Ken, Kelly, Leslie and family.
In your grief may you have many happy memories and thoughts of Merle to help you through.

From Bob Biggs and Susan Biggs 
her Life

Merle and Eckankar

Sometime in the 1990s Merle joined Eckankar, a relatively new religion that appears to be a synthesis of others along with its own new ideas. It uses music to a large degree and like ancient religions, including early Christianity, it emphasizes the importance of dreams. It is a firm supporter of reincarnation.

Merle became an active member of their Toronto chapter and made a number of trips to Minneapolis, Minnesota, where they hold their conferences. She always came home happy.

Throughout her last years, I used to wonder at her ability to accept the suffering being imposed on her by rheumatoid arthritis and its accompanying lung disease, diabetes, and Alzheimer's. She almost never complained about her lot. But I'm convinced that a lot of that patience and endurance came from Eckankar.

Merle's Life

Merle Kathleen Enston, was born Merle Kathleen Kelly on July 18, 1941 in Trinidad and Tobago. I met her on September 12, 1969, my birthday. Years later examining her old passports, we discovered that she left Trinidad for Canada on September 12, 1967, exactly two years earlier. It seems that we were intended to meet. After a long troubling illness that began with the diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis in 2010, then Alzheimer's in 2015, we had to part again, after 52 years, on June 22, 2021, 4:05 pm.

Merle was cremated, as per her wishes. Besides myself, her vibrant and adventuresome spirit will be remembered and loved by daughters Natalie, Kelly, and Lesley, and many others. A small family memorial will be held shortly.

Merle and New York

The tribute of our niece Lauren where she comments on her aunt's skill at finding the best pastry and coffee outlets, reminded me of her lifelong attachment to New York City and Brooklyn, for that is where most of her coffee/pastry and hidden away restaurants were to be found.

This was apparent from the beginning. Her Trinidad passport shows her leaving for Canada on Sept 12/1967, but she didn't arrive until Sept 20. Where was she in those 8 days? - in New York according to her brother Carlisle Kelly - her first ever visit to that city.

Once I met Merle, I quickly learned that my chief competitor for her love was New York.

When I had only known her for a few months, on a trip to New York she managed to get a job. We exchanged letters, me trying to get her back. Finally I persuaded her to make a trip up to Toronto. But it was a short visit and I soon had to drive her to the airport, feeling pessimistic that I would ever see her again.

But when I got home, she called me, still at the airport. A US immigration rep interviewing her suspected that she was returning to a job that she didn't have a visa for, and refused to let her on the plane. When I returned to the airport to pick her up she wasn't very happy, and I respected her mood, but secretly I was elated.

I've crossed that border many times myself since, and I've had difficulty sometimes with the  immigration people, but I always remind myself that it was one of them who brought Merle back to me.

Recent stories

Mom's Favorite Song

Shared by Kelly Enston on July 6, 2021
I always remember when Lesley and I were kids growing up, our mom used to sing "Summertime". She taught Lesley and I to sing it, and we used to sing it together among many other songs. It turns out that even before Lesley and I were born, according to our Dad (Ken), it was her favorite song. She used to sing it in the car when they went out for drives. 

Here is a link to one version of Summertime - Louis Armstrong and Ella Fitzgerald her favorite song