Posted by Margaret Markham-Costigan on June 12, 2021
My first born child, you never really knew your own worth. I will miss your joyful laugh, your kindness, your compassion, and your love for all those souls who you felt compelled to help. The light went out in your eyes when your Daddy, your hero, left this world. You battled your illness with courage and humour until the very end. I love you Son and will miss you forever.
Posted by Jaemi Costigan on May 30, 2021
My dad was my hero. I love him more than anything in this world. He was the only one who could calm me when I was anxious.
I miss him. My heart hurts more than it ever has before. The pain makes it hard to breathe.
My daddy. My broken daddy. I love you. I'm so sorry you were so sad. I'm so sorry you were so unwell. I will make you proud.
Posted by Marlin Parabakaran on May 29, 2021
I first met Michael when I went for a preview of the course that he was organising (which I subsequently signed up for). He struck me as a person who was genuinely interested in helping others reach their potential. During the course and the following training sessions, Michael proved himself to be a great coach, mentor, motivator, friend and big brother. Hard when he needed to be and also kind and full of empathy when the situation warranted it. I can never repay him for guiding me to find clarity in the darkest times of my life, and also the importance of focus, in what I needed to do. I will always remember his words of wisdom, his "Botak by choice" joke, his loving, warm and fun personality. He (and Michelle's) commitment and dedication (always giving more than what we paid for when we signed up for the course) to help us be the best versions of ourselves will always be remembered and cherished, and I am so glad that our paths crossed. Wished we kept in touch more over the last few years while you were in Australia. Anyway, the first lesson you taught me was acceptance. I'm sure many of us will struggle to accept that you have left us to be with our Creator but we will eventually accept that everything happens for a reason and for our benefit. (I can almost hear your voice saying it now...). Rest well sifu, till we meet again.
Posted by Derrick Lim on May 28, 2021
Michael, met you 2 months ago and although we had limited time to get to know each other but you are very kind and helpful. Thanks for everything.
You are gone from our sight, but never from our hearts. May your soul rest in peace.

(from Winnie & Derrick)
Posted by Joan Liung Miao Shan on May 28, 2021
I first met Michael many years ago when I was still in high school. My most vivid memory of him from then was during Michelle and his wedding, where he belted out, in Mandarin, ‘The Moon Represents My Heart’, or Yue Liang Dai Biao Wo De Xin. I think it made us all smile and laugh.

On the few occasions we met each other through the years, mainly during festivities like Christmas or Chinese New Year, he would often be the one who lightens the mood by cracking jokes, which were made even funnier with his loud booming voice and different voice impressions. He called me “Shanny!” and always did so in his most enthused voice. It made me smile. When I was younger, he also gave good, warm hugs when we said goodbye. More recently, my father shared with me how Michael had selflessly offered his liver to my Uncle in a time of need. Lying in the hospital ready for surgery, it was however not meant to be. Later on, in his eulogy at my Uncle’s funeral, he said, “No matter what the risk might have been; I would not have hesitated…I consider it a privilege to give.” Such is Michael’s compassion and courage, a rare sacrificial love.

Although we only had limited opportunities for interaction, I know how much the 3 of them, Michelle, Michael and Grace, loved each other. I hear it in Michelle and Grace’s voice every time they speak about Michael to me, and see it on their faces. The both of them are affected deeply by Michael’s death. The Costigans in Australia are too. I offer my deepest condolences to all of you during this challenging time. You have lost someone very special. May the loving memories you shared bring you peace and strength.

I see the love, support and care that has poured in for Michelle and Grace in the past few days, from Michelle’s sisters and aunt and Michael’s family in Australia. Reading through the many WhatsApp messages coming in from all of you, I also had the chance to discover the many lives Michael has impacted positively, through his life coaching programs and in Australia to end domestic violence.

Michael - Your warmth and love lives on through Grace and Michelle, the Costigans, and the many lives you have impacted. May you rest in love and peace <3
Posted by Michelle Lim-Costigan on May 27, 2021
Michael and I often joked that we should write a Book about our journey together, because of the many experiences we’ve shared, that most couples may not have experienced in an entire lifetime together.
In the last 17 years as a couple, we have been through many ups and downs, but each time, we always came back together.

Lau Kung, YOU ARE RIGHT … we do have many beautiful memories together! And I thank you for your love and belief in us, no matter what!

WO AI NI Lau Kung ❤️
Posted by Michelle Lim-Costigan on May 27, 2021
My Papa is a handsome, kind, funny, loving, caring, fun and MOST AMAZING person in this whole world.
I will keep him close to my heart and will miss him forever.

(From Grace-Xian Lim-Costigan, 11yo daughter)

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