Seven weeks. I was counting. Seven weeks from that night to the day of graduation. I was counting not because I was waiting for my time with Millicent to be over, but because it was an enchanted time when promise seemed to be fulfilled. I would be graduating with honors, having climbed out of the first-semester-probation hole that had diminished my sense of who I was. I had been accepted into a graduate writing program in Massachusetts.I laughed and partied regularly with a group of black students I had taken too long to get to know--and who would become an important part of my life for decades to come. (During those weeks we kept a running count of how many of us were left from the entring class.) And--could it be?--I was falling in love.
Although Millicent was also a senior, she would be returning for an additional semester. So she didn't have to stay after classes were over, but she did. Commencement ceremonies were on a Friday, May 25. After going home to Syracuse for a few days I woud be back in New York a week later to connect with my father, who would be driving me to Boston for my summer job. I told Millicent I would call her when I got to town.
It was many years before I reflected on the significance of that moment. After a brief, magical romance, it was possible that I might simply not call; she would bad-talk me to her friends for a while and then go on with her life. What is more likely, I insist, is that I would call, she would agree to meet me--and then not show up, leaving me to mope and brood for an extended time. But I did call, and she did say she would meet me in Central Park, and she did show up. And we talked and walked like we did, and we made plans. She would come to see me in Boston that summer. I would come to visit back on campus in the fall. During the following academic year, for the months until I could pay off my summer phone bill (her fault),I spent hours calling her collect from the pay phone outside the Amherst Motel where I was living. And the letters flowed back and forth, just like (it seems now) in the old movies.
And it began that June 1 in the park when a fling turned into a future, a moment opening up into a lifetime of possibilities. We were married almost exactly three years later, on May 30 simply because she refused to act out the cliché of a June bride. The closeness of the date may have been one reason we never formally acknowledged the other, earlier occasion. Until three years ago, when I insisted we go to New York for the weekend and take a picnic to Central Park and then surprised her with the explanation. I think it made her happy. Our favorite hotel, becase of a complaint she'd made on a previous trip, upgraded us to a penthouse room we hadn't known existed. We sat on the balcony and drank wine and held hands watching the sun set behind the water towers, out over the Hudson somewhere by the club called Casablanca. In that way we were able to celebrate our 40th anniversary after all, not quite of our marriage but of the life that love had joined together.