ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our wife, mother, and sister, Nancy Davis. We will remember her forever and are hoping that her caring nature will be an inspiration to others. - Harry, Becky, Steve, Terri, Lisa, Tom, Bill, and Larry

On Saturday, March 13 we held a private funeral service and an intimate gathering to inter her ashes. We thank everyone who was able to attend, share your condolences and stories about Nancy, and to those who watched from home.
For those who are interested in viewing the recording of the funeral service, click on this link: https://youtu.be/7QMDCRJGEUA

Nancy June Davis (nee Polyak) passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on February 18, 2021 at the age of 80. Born December 26, 1940, she was the daughter of Thomas and Alma Polyak.
Nancy is survived by her husband of 48 wonderful years, Harry; her loving children Becky (Ginger Dollar) Davis, Steve (Michelle) Davis, Terri (Jon) Mossman, and Lisa (Steve Williams) Davis; her grandchildren Clay Swan-Davis, Foster Davis, Charlie Mossman, Benny Mossman, and McKinley Davis; her brothers Tom (Georgeen) Polyak, Bill (Joanne) Polyak and Larry (Karen) Polyak. She was preceded in death by her parents Thomas and Alma Polyak and grandchild Oliver Mossman.
While raising her four children, Nancy earned her PhD degree and began a successful business, Consulting Dynamics. Her inspirational thirst for knowledge and life instilled an independent determination in each of her children. As a consultant, she traveled across the U.S. and the world earning high praise in her field where she helped to transcend business culture. Later in her career, she taught graduate courses at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, eventually becoming an administrator and mentor. During this time she co-authored a book, and after her retirement, she authored her memoir, which was published in 2018.
Nancy had a creative and entrepreneurial spirit that drove her desire to learn and grow. This was evident by her many skills that included teaching, quilting, and baking. Her interests included reading, traveling, poker, mahjong, board games, gardening, and dinner with family and friends.
She was a selfless and thoughtful wife, mother, grandmother, sister, and aunt. Her family filled her with pride and joy, and she saw her life with her husband and their children and grandchildren as her greatest accomplishment.
A private funeral mass was held at St. Thomas the Apostle Catholic Church in Naperville.  Seating was limited due to COVID restrictions. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to Hesed House (https://www.hesedhouse.org/); Attn: Development; 659 S. River Street; Aurora, IL 60506.
Posted by Dan Dollar on March 14, 2021
Nancy's death has sadden me. The day Ginger and Becky married was the best day of my life. Each year Becky has shared the Davis news in the Annual Christmas post card. I would hear about the family gatherings and I would ask endless questions about who was there and what did you do? Invariably, I would hear about Nancy. Her commitment to humanity was always the purpose of the Davis family existence. I saw the crossword quilt she made for Becky and Ginger. What an affirmation of love and commitment. Nancy's message is clear; Be good and do good work! She is very much alive in my soul.
Posted by Michael Filippelli on March 13, 2021
The Stonegate Writers Guild will remember Nancy in a most fond manner. Her encouragement as leader encourages us.
Posted by Lois Prebil on March 12, 2021
How sad and shocking to lose Nancy so suddenly! I met Nancy on September 14, 1958. We entered the convent on the same day, both young and still in our teens! Nancy and I grew to be friends and shared in doing many projects, even developing a workbook for incoming new members! And I remember how we typed out songs for the elderly sisters for a sing-along one Christmas. We were typing from old German script and when we sang those songs, we learned that we had gotten some letters wrong when the sisters laughed heartily at what we typed!

I felt so sad when Nancy left the community. Our friendship didn't end there, however; it was the kind of friendship where we could immediately pick up and get Into a deep conversation when we hadn't seen one another for a long time. Of course, I got to meet and love Harry, too, and both Nancy and Harry became Associates with our Congregation. Then the three of us and five or six other sisters were part of a group that met to share meals and prayer almost monthly for several years.

Nancy is the person who encouraged me to go into consulting. Right after she got her degree in Organization Development, she said, "Lois, I think you ought to do this too. It would fit you and your abilities." And I followed her advice! After I got that degree, she coached me through several consulting sessions. Although my direction has been different from hers, I have been consulting for 25 years. I'm so grateful to her because she got me started on this road.

As I read all the loving stories from Nancy's family and friends, I again feel deeply the pain of her loss. Dear Harry, Becky, Terri, Steve and Lisa, and grandchildren, and Nancy's dear brothers, I can't imagine your pain. I am so very grateful that Nancy was part of my life and now I celebrate with you all of her life that was so well lived!
Posted by Beth Hykes on March 2, 2021
I loved Aunt Nancy. We spent so many fun Easters at her house when my brothers and sister and I were young. I remember that she would make sure the kids were all set up for "the kids table" for Easter dinner after we had run around together with our cousins in her big back yard. You could always count on a fresh plate of her amazing sugar cookies with homemade frosting at any Holiday. What I will miss most about her is the way she listened to you, so attentively with her warm smile. I feel lucky to have been talking with her recently and was able to listen to her cheerful outlook on whatever she was doing. I'll miss you Aunt Nancy.
Posted by Joanna Helm on February 27, 2021
I was deeply sadden to hear of Nancy's passing. I feel so blessed to have had her in my life. She was a true example of a Franciscan woman for me. I am glad I was able to be on the last three associate zoom calls with her. Her memory will continue to inspire me. Harry and the family are in my prayers. Rest in peace, Nancy. Well done good and faithful servant!
Posted by Bruce Mabee on February 27, 2021
Nancy was a good, lively and courageous person. Her drive was obvious--to make each place and organization good for the people it affected. If you did something that was less than honorable, she confronted it--clearly and open to discussion.

I knew Nancy from the Organization Development Network of Chicago, where she was a president and active contributor. I also knew her from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, where she was a challenging teacher and leader.

She made lives better, and I miss her presence in this world.
Posted by Lucille Krippel on February 26, 2021
I come from the same early neighborhood as Nancy -enjoyed the pictures. Our lives came together again in the Associate Program but more importantly when I served as President of Joliet Catholic Academy, Nancy was a "Life Saver" for me both as a personal consultant & as Vice-president of the Board of Education. She is a brillant, insightful, loving & Franciscan woman. I will always be grateful for her presence in my life. May she now enjoy the peace of God! Again, thanks for the history & pictures & songs too
My love, prayers & sympathy for all the family, Sr. Lou Krippel
Posted by Julie Benesh on February 26, 2021
I met Nancy through the Organization Development Network of Chicago. Through her example she inspired me to go to Fielding to get my own PhD. After i graduated she referred me to what became my current position at the Chicago School where I was honored to become her colleague as Organizational Leadership faculty. She was a wonderful mentor to so many of us, both colleagues and literally hundreds of dissertation students. Her legacy lives on in them.
Posted by Susan Darlington on February 25, 2021
My husband, Larry and I, are remembering wonderful times with Nancy and Harry through our CFM friendship. There was the Danube River cruise in 2005, after they visited Nancy’s ancestral home in Europe. In 2008, we shared a vacation in Costa Rica. We also hosted the Davises at our former Florida condo and at our summer residence in NH. We last saw Nancy and Harry as their houseguests 3 summers ago when we visited the Chicago area from Texas, where we’ve retired. Nancy was smart, funny and faithful. She is an angel now among them!
Posted by Mary Agnes Cross on February 25, 2021
Nancy was very good to me. She and Harry saw that I got to the Associate Day of Reflection. She was a good model of St Francis and a real good leader of the Associates. 
Sr. Mary Agnes Cross
Posted by Roberta NAEGELE on February 25, 2021
My experience of Nancy and Harry began in what we called Misseo groups where sisters and associates of St. Francis met. We met at their home and they met with us. What a talented vibrant person. I found her to be in a class of her own, yet humble in the presence of her many talents. Over the years I was awed by her great generosity to our community. She worked hard to help us learn about what our associate program was about, and gave time to even direct it. Thank you, Nancy. Your generosity, heartfelt concern were certainly selfless gifts for which we are ever grateful. 
Posted by Helen McMahon on February 24, 2021
Don and I have known Nancy for over 40 years, and have many wonderful memories of being together at St. Cletus events with our children, and spending time together in CFM.  We were shocked and so sad to learn of her sudden and unexpected death. We will always remember her wisdom, insightful thoughts, and sharing of her many talents. God bless Nancy and her beautiful family that she loved so much. 
Posted by Margaret O'Brien on February 24, 2021
My late husband, Jim, and I have known and admired Nancy for the past 40 years, since I first spoke to her about joining CFM. Through it all, we've known Nancy's intelligence, compassion, enthusiasm, accomplishments, humor, outstanding character and good cheer. We will all miss her more than words can express. Enjoy your heavenly reward, dear Nancy, and we'll see you on the other side!
Posted by MARILYN MORE on February 24, 2021
Beyond shock is hardly enough to say. My memories go way back. She and I were next in age during our convent days. We departed that lifestyle on the same day and spent many years finding a new way of life. I was a bridesmaid in their wedding and she was in mine. Of course that was many years ago but every year I got a Christmas card keeping me updated on her family. Some where I have pictures of her children when they were small and some weddings. My sympathy really goes out to you Harry because you met so much to her. Prayers
Posted by Dorothy Nesbit on February 24, 2021
Nancy was a wonderful sister in Francis...I was very much moved by her devotion and spirituality. Her labors on behalf of the associates will never be forgotten.
Posted by Sister Thadine Kaminski.O... on February 24, 2021
Thank you Nancy...I have know you a long time and it was always good to see you. You always made people feel special.
You are in prayer. Rest in peace.
Posted by Gloria Miskevics on February 24, 2021
I never met Nancy, but am a friend/co-worker to Lisa. I was impacted by Nancy's kindheartedness when she made handmade face masks for my entire family at the beginning of the pandemic. I was deeply touched she would do this for us. My family and I will always be grateful for her kindness and for helping to keep my family safe. Our condolences to the Davis family.
Posted by Linda Nylen on February 24, 2021
John and I were so shocked and saddened to hear of Nancy's passing. 
We have known Nancy and Harry for the past 40 years through our CFM group.  We have many wonderful memories from those years having shared so much of our lives. Nancy was truly an inspiration for so many reasons.  Her kindness, intelligence and spirituality will always be remembered.  We will miss her and cherish all those memories. Our thoughts and prayers are with Harry and their family. 
Posted by Henry Simon on February 24, 2021
Nancy, it’s been a l-o-n-g time since we have said hello in Joliet. But I don’t believe that death ends a relationship. So when we hopefully meet again in heaven, I suspect that I will have one step up on you, because I now have your picture to identify you among all the angels. And to the rest of family and friends, especially brother Tom!, you will all have to move over, and let me get in the long line that is constantly congratulating you, Nancy, for making it into heaven, pulling a few of us in with you!!! God bless everyone, Hank Simon
Posted by Cheryl Slabozeski on February 22, 2021
I am very sorry to hear about my cousin Nancy's passing. She was a kind and giving person.
Posted by maria kump-faren on February 22, 2021
Larry and I are saddened by your loss on your only Sister, Wife and Mother.
We did not know Nancy very well, but I sure appreciated her brochure that she had given to us when visiting our homeland in Yugoslavia where my parents lived. She also made sure that we were invited when her brother Larry and his family came so that we became more acquainted as he lives out of town.

So please accept our deepest condolences.
Maria and Larry
Posted by Thomas Polyak on February 21, 2021
It is said that the good die young... Nancy is proof that at least some of the good ones last till their 80
Posted by David Kump on February 21, 2021
Loved Nancy, loved her writing. Love all these tributes and photos. Absolutely love the photo of Nancy with my mother. Two great writers together now.
Posted by Timothy Kump on February 21, 2021
I was very saddened to learn about cousin Nancy passing away. She was such a kind person and will be greatly missed by all of us.

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Posted by Dan Dollar on March 14, 2021
Nancy's death has sadden me. The day Ginger and Becky married was the best day of my life. Each year Becky has shared the Davis news in the Annual Christmas post card. I would hear about the family gatherings and I would ask endless questions about who was there and what did you do? Invariably, I would hear about Nancy. Her commitment to humanity was always the purpose of the Davis family existence. I saw the crossword quilt she made for Becky and Ginger. What an affirmation of love and commitment. Nancy's message is clear; Be good and do good work! She is very much alive in my soul.
Posted by Michael Filippelli on March 13, 2021
The Stonegate Writers Guild will remember Nancy in a most fond manner. Her encouragement as leader encourages us.
Posted by Lois Prebil on March 12, 2021
How sad and shocking to lose Nancy so suddenly! I met Nancy on September 14, 1958. We entered the convent on the same day, both young and still in our teens! Nancy and I grew to be friends and shared in doing many projects, even developing a workbook for incoming new members! And I remember how we typed out songs for the elderly sisters for a sing-along one Christmas. We were typing from old German script and when we sang those songs, we learned that we had gotten some letters wrong when the sisters laughed heartily at what we typed!

I felt so sad when Nancy left the community. Our friendship didn't end there, however; it was the kind of friendship where we could immediately pick up and get Into a deep conversation when we hadn't seen one another for a long time. Of course, I got to meet and love Harry, too, and both Nancy and Harry became Associates with our Congregation. Then the three of us and five or six other sisters were part of a group that met to share meals and prayer almost monthly for several years.

Nancy is the person who encouraged me to go into consulting. Right after she got her degree in Organization Development, she said, "Lois, I think you ought to do this too. It would fit you and your abilities." And I followed her advice! After I got that degree, she coached me through several consulting sessions. Although my direction has been different from hers, I have been consulting for 25 years. I'm so grateful to her because she got me started on this road.

As I read all the loving stories from Nancy's family and friends, I again feel deeply the pain of her loss. Dear Harry, Becky, Terri, Steve and Lisa, and grandchildren, and Nancy's dear brothers, I can't imagine your pain. I am so very grateful that Nancy was part of my life and now I celebrate with you all of her life that was so well lived!
her Life

Nancy through the years, put together for her 70th Birthday

This photo montage that was put together for Mom's 70th Birthday a little over 10 years ago. She had reshared this video with family this December as she was approaching her 80th Birthday. We had some lovely conversations about the photos, the music, and how the quality of the video would be much better today.
She has had many more memories since this was put together. View the gallery for more recent photos and additional photos that are being posted by friends and family.

Nancy's own words from her memoir, A Habit of Service:

"...Harry entered my life when I had resolved that I could survive, live comfortably, and be content on my own. That my call to be a woman of service would continue and I would be fulfilled. I am forever blessed that we met, fell in love, and had the courage and commitment to marry.
My brothers three, each uniquely affectionate and loving, along with their wives, bring me great family joy. My own family, my husband, my son, Steve, and my three daughters, Becky, Terri, and Lisa, with their life-committed partners, are genuinely caring for family and me. My four grandchildren, Clay, Foster, Charlie, and Benny, fill my senior years with delight and playfulness.
I cherished my convent years. I grew into womanhood, I grew as a woman of service, I grew so I am able to love freely and fully. My continued association with the Sisters of Saint Francis of Mary Immaculate keeps me rooted in what is important - living Franciscan values in and through the Gospel...
...May women of service today find their call and their way of being in the world so that we continue to love and serve others."
Nancy Davis
A Habit of Service

Dr. Nancy Davis

When Nancy received her PhD at the age of 60, I was able to attend the ceremony in Santa Barbara, California.  I filmed her going up on stage, receiving her diploma and her acceptance speech.  I was one proud little brother. I am still searching my archives for that video... - Larry
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My Memories of my Sister Nancy by Bill Polyak

Shared by Joanne Polyak on February 24, 2021
My sister Nancy would have wanted us all to celebrate her life. 

It made me smile to envision her being greeted by those that had passed before her; our mother, our father, our aunts and uncles, Chet and Mabel Davis, her friends, family members and so many others. 

I cannot possibly cover all of the emotions I feel. Allow me to offer just a few....

Nancy helped raise me early on, when our mother was not feeling well. In a sense, she became my second mother. She was only 10 years old when I was a baby and we bonded. Her nurturing ways grew, helping out when she could. 

When she went into the Convent, I was only seven years old. We were not allowed to see or speak with her for a year. I couldn’t understand why they would not allow me to see or talk with my sister. I cried nearly every day for that year. 

Around 1959, I saw the movie Journey to the Center of the Earth, starring Pat Boone. Nancy loved the music of Pat Boone, especially the song, “Love Letters in the Sand”. The movie had a great impact on me, an impressionable little guy. While she was in the Convent, I wrote her a child’s babbling’s on how Pat Boone became separated from his peers and lost in the caverns of an Icelandic volcano. I expressed how concerned I was that he was lost, but to my relief, finally reunited. She wrote back, “Billy, once you receive my letter, I’m confident Mr. Boone is now back with his family, happy and safe. I’m sure he would be very happy to know you cared. Love, Your Sister, Nancy.” 

In high school, I shared with her my book of poems I had written. Something deeply touched her, tears rolling down her cheeks, as she silently read my poem entitled “I Walk Alone in the Lonely Woods”. All she could say, as she looked up at me was, “This is so beautiful”. 

During her stay in the Convent, we always looked forward to visiting her on Sundays, when it was allowed. But, things were changing. When she was around 30 years old, she came home to visit. I was outside washing my car. Something wasn’t right. Her head was down and she had a forlorn look on her face. I said, “Are you okay Sis?” She didn’t respond. A few more moments passed, I put down the sponge, looked directly at her caringly and said, “Nancy, what’s wrong?” She just looked at me unable to say what age felt. Finally, I said, “Wouldn’t you be happier with a husband and children?” Then, the tears began to flow. I knew I hit a deep down feeling of being torn between duty and change. Shortly thereafter, she resigned from the Convent to begin a new life’s journey. 

She allowed me to meet some or she told me about her dating prospects, looking for any initial nay or yay’s I could provide. 

At her wedding to Harry in 1973, she demanded that my band play at their wedding. Looking back, the 8 piece band including a brass section, was loud, brash and probably very inappropriate...a far cry from polkas and waltzes. But still, this is what she wanted. 

In 1997, I had a medical procedure done in downtown Chicago. She stayed with me that night, until my surgeon released me. She always said, “I’ll always be there for you, Bill.” 

When she was in the process of earning her PhD and dissertation, I sent her a reassuring note in so many words saying that everyone was behind her on this. I wrote, “Don’t quit, YOU CAN DO THIS!” She later said that she would often look at my note right above her for encouragement when she said the process was overbearing. 

I always remember the great times and fabulous dinners she and Harry would host at their homes in LaGrange, Chicago and Aurora. My only regret moving to California was no longer being in close proximity to her. The reassurance was in knowing we would visit each other as often as we could. On the Tuesday before she passed, we talked about her coming out to visit us in California in April, to continue celebrating her 80th and other milestone family birthdays. 

I felt the unconditional love as long as I can remember. A part of me died with her. I couldn’t have asked for a more loving sister. 


Mom, the ultimate Grandmother

Shared by Terri Mossman on February 26, 2021
As you can tell by all the pictures, Mom was a very devoted loving grandmother who was always excited to spend time with her grandchildren. She offered to help care for our two boys when my husband and I went back to work. As a result of this, she has been able to help raise the boys since birth (being there at the hospital, visiting, weekly care, and all the times they "babysat").
On average from Charlie being 12 weeks to Benny being 4 years old, she would spend 2-3 full days each week either at our house or theirs giving the grandchildren tons of love, attention, and care for their basic needs. Dad would often join her when she came to our house. You may have heard stories about the boys from Mom and Dad based on all the time they spent caring for them. We know we are truly fortunate for our children to have been in the care of our amazing parents and learn similar values and trust.
For Charlie, our firstborn, there was a journal where I had asked Mom to keep records of each day. This journal is now a tremendous keepsake for our family as it shows how much of herself she poured into the care for Charlie.
The picture attached is an excerpt from one of the days in the journal. You can see where the handwriting shifts from mine to my mother's cursive. She would always write in cursive, Charlie now at 12 is getting better at reading her cursive writing. Here are some of her comments specifically from that day: "He welcomed me today with giggles and raspberries. I am thrilled to be part of his life in this ongoing way."

Terri Davis Mossman - daughter of Nancy

Wedding Dress

Shared by Terri Mossman on February 24, 2021
You may have heard Mom share the story of her wedding dress, including the story in her memoir. Mom wore the same wedding dress in 1973 as her mother did in 1940, she added length and new lace. Then when it was time for me to get married, there wasn't any dress shopping. The only wedding dress that was ever tried on was Mom's/Grandma's. Mom and I worked together with a dressmaker to alter the dress to fit and modernize the style. That experience was a lot of fun with multiple dress fittings and collaborations on what we could do to keep its beauty and traditional elegance. I was extremely fortunate to be able to wear this gorgeous "something borrowed" wedding dress in 2004. 
Mom did mention in her memoir, "I believe it could uphold another wedding, maybe even in twenty years." 
A picture of the photo frame that has all three of us each on our wedding day in the same gown is under the Gallery Photo section.
Terri Davis Mossman - daughter of Nancy