I don't think Mom was concerned about her legacy or how she'll be remembered. Mom was whole. She spent her life loving us and watching us all grow and enjoy life around her. I feel her with me right now. I don't think that's legacy, that's pure love. That's what Mom was all about. 

She was so happy, even during her last, low energy days. Her sense of humor never left her, we were laughing most of time together, which wasn't much different than my previous 44 years with her - I think we laughed more than anything else together. 

Some really humorous and heartwarming moments during her last days were when Dad would rub Mom's bald head.  This "felt like heaven" to her because her hair was starting to grow back and it was really itchy. Watching Dad talk to Mom, making her laugh, giving her kisses, taking care of her - heartwarming and inspirational are understatements.  We'll never forget those moments.

Also, we watched one of her favorite movies a few days before she passed, Death at a Funeral - odd now because of the title, but Mom absolutely loved that kind of dysfunctional, off the wall humor. 

More smiles came when Beth would talk with her and Gabe and Eva would also tell her about their days at summer camp and she would just glow with happiness talking with them. It was amazing to watch. 

During my last moments with her, I sang Bob Marley's Three Little Birds to her several times. I told her the origin of the lyrics and we had a few fun moments laughing about it.

Mom was so cute when she got to Hospice. She had on a red hat (which Dad still has) and a little pink top and the nurses gave her a bath and used an orange-smelling soap and lotion which made her feel so clean and fresh. She described herself as feeling "happy and sparkly" in some of our last conversations, several times.  Matt and I got to spend a lot of time with Mom and Dad during Mom's last 6 weeks or so. We feel so lucky to have spent as much time with her and Dad as we did. That's what she did best and naturally, she gathered love around her, shared it with everyone and she's doing it now still. 

Mom - I know you're watching and listening. I can hear you laughing and loving. I love you. 

Adam