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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge, 97 years old, born on January 1, 1924, and passed away on February 27, 2021. We will remember him forever.


Funeral Program
Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge
1924 - 2021
Thursday June 10, 2021
                3pm: Holy Mass at Pa Ndenge's residence, Big Mankon.
                4:30 pm: Refreshment and Recollection of Pa Ndenge's life.
Friday June 11, 2021
              7:30 am: Removal of corpse from the Bamenda Regional Hospital Mortuary.
              8:30 am: Laying in state at Pa Ndenge's residence.
             11am: Funeral Mass Celebration and burial at the Metropolitan Cathedral
              Mankon.             
             1:30pm: Reception and "Celebration of Life" of Pa Ndenge at his residence.
Sunday June 13, 2021.                     
               8:30am: Thanksgiving Mass at the Cathedral.

September 16, 2021
September 16, 2021
Best Teacher I ever had. A very good man. Makes me proud to be a son of Mankon. I will be happy to see you in heaven, Sir, God willing. May Almighty God grant you eternal life. Bong felieh, Tah.
June 10, 2021
Pa Ndenge,
It's taken me a while and I'm still battling with the fact that you've transitioned into eternity. I have countless vivid memories of you but what stood out to me was your devout dedication and participation in online masses in New Jersey USA. Your profound faith was evident in your tremendous selflessness and generosity. I'll never forget the lavish reception you gave us at your residence in Bamenda, hilariously upon our departure you presented us with a full bag of garri and insisted we take to the USA. Papa at the age of 95 amazingly you had it all as you left us all in awe with such a short but brilliant prayer in December 2019 in Douala. In light of such indelible memories, I have decided not to mourn but rather celebrate you papa. Wishing you eternal rest papa. Go well papa, you will sincerely be missed. 
June 10, 2021
June 10, 2021
Grandpa, you had a heart of an angel! You were a wonderful father, grandfather...to all that came your way. You will forever be missed!
Rest in peace!
June 7, 2021
June 7, 2021
Una is my dear friend from Lourdes and that is how papa came into my life. He was a very gentle and humble man and I can remember hanging around him after mass with Una and other friends. Unlike most fathers at that time, he was witty , funny and one was able to joke with him. He was a present fixture at mass and I could never understand why he felt compelled to come and worship every day because I only went to mass for fear of punishment. I know Una got her smile and playfulness from her DAD. Papa you raised amazing children who are in their own right following in your footsteps by making huge differences in their communities. We thank you for being you and salute you for all the things you did for you community. Papa waka fine and salute mami for us.
June 6, 2021
June 6, 2021
Papa, I can't believe that i will never see you again, you had been a backbone to my family and I, you showed me love not only as a boss but as a father and a friend, you always confineded in me despite being my boss, we shared a lot of things till the last moment. I don't know what I will do without you. I will never hear that call " Gerard come and give my food it good for my health ". I will continue to pray for the almighty God to grant you eternal rest and peace Amen.
       Your son,
              Gemuh Gerard .
May 11, 2021
May 11, 2021
Grandpa always wanted me to be the best. he saw something in me and I could go far in life. Growing up he helped me with reading and writing like a teacher for me. He helped me grow in life and I know I would not be the person I am now without him. I am going to go far in life because I know he believed in me and he always will. He is looking down and all I want to do is make him proud. You will be loved and missed forever Grandpa. Rest in peace.
Josie-Danielle Lum
May 6, 2021
May 6, 2021
Summing up Dad's life, I keep coming back to one thought. Never will you meet a man who faithfully lived his values.
Dad was a teacher of all things. His method was simple. He taught by example. At any stage of my life, when faced with ethical dilemma, after reflection, study or even rationalization, I often find myself coming back to one simple question: what would Dad have done? His character is the foundation of my conscience. He was patient, had an inherent ability to listen, to absorb and to offer a point of view based on quiet, measured wisdom. Dad's teachings are endless and I'll love to share a few.

Dad was strong in body, in spirit and in commitment.

Dad never missed a single day of mass nor his faithful devotion to the Divine Mercy.

Dad never let another man down. He fulfilled every obligation he ever undertook. His word was bond and everyone knew it. I never heard him utter a lie, nor intentionally deceive.

Dad was self made and self reliant. From his education to his teaching career, from his skills in gardening, papa engaged with the world as a man who would be it master.

Dad was proud to be a teacher. He relished the good things of life including writing, travel, food and wine, friends and family.

Dad never made an enemy, not one. While he most surely came across a few people he couldn't countenance, he simply avoided them because he always insisted that violence never solved any problem. He never once hit back another man in anger.

Dad was loyal. His faithfulness to the important people in his life could be seen in the way he steadfastly maintained ties with his childhood friends. From the streets of Bamenda where they grew up, through weddings, christenings, holidays and now wakes and funerals that mark the arc of our lives, Dad could always be counted on to be there.

Dad was never stingy. Though he was a child from a very extensive and complex polygamous home who understood the value of every franc and the importance of saving, the generosity he expressed with his money matches his generosity of spirit.

Dad did everything with moderation. He was responsible to the very end. How many elderly people do you know who can put down their car keys and voluntarily announce that they are no longer fit to drive?

Dad loved a good joke including every imaginable kind of ethic joke. Yet his humour was never mean spirited, nor designed to hurt or humiliate.

Dad adored mum, his kids and especially his grand kids with every bone in his body. His visible affection usually overcame his usual reserve. His unflagging support for our personal development in our various careers and in life created a balance for us that today seems like a lost dream. 

Dad left no stone unturned in moulding us from zero to hero. Only once did I ever see Dad cry. In 1996, when the cold hands of death snatched mum away from us at the blossoming age of 56, while I knew Dad was torn up inside as we were, his crying ceased long before ours did because he knew it was his responsibility to be a rock for us to lean on.

Dad loved his in laws. He visited my home in Douala whenever he could. He had this special relationship with my husband and was always very happy when they chatted on the phone but more especially when together with the kids we visit Bamenda to spend sometime with him. Then, he enabled us build a life full of joy and belonging.

Dad had a quiet dignity, respecting himself the way he respected others. As he faced his final days, his body ravaged with illness, he occasionally lost his good humour. But he never had one moment of self pity. The day he passed onto eternity, we talked that morning on the phone. I felt some tiredness in his voice but as usual he quickly reassured us that he was okay. Helas!

What I learned from Dad is that life is short and often brutal and the best way to combat that is with a good laugh and an ability to appreciate the small moments of joy, despite any circumstances.

We will miss you Dad. Rest in Peace by Mama's side in the bosom of the LORD

ELIMBI MOUDIO Anne Vianney Ndongwa

Douala, 5th May 2021
April 15, 2021
April 15, 2021
I have been very reluctant to write this tribute simply because I don't believe papa is gone. I still want to pick up my phone and dial his number. I still believe I will call him to order the special garri he used to order for me when he heard I was coming to Cameroon. However, I am beginning to accept reality but it's still like a dream.

For those who only heard about papa and never got closed to him, you missed someone special. Papa was so special in every aspect. I count myself very fortunate to have known a legend like papa. When I talk of a gentleman, a true and genuine human being who saw everyone around him to be equal, papa is that person. When I talk of someone who understood every situation in life and made life easy for everyone around him, papa was that person. I remember my very first vacation when I visited Cameroon. Papa came to visit me at the Bamenda station and papa gave me 5,000 frs cfa. I asked what the money was for.  Papa said I should use the money for my taxi to move around. I refused and asked papa why he would give me money. I said I was coming from America and should be the one to give him money. Papa forced the money into my hands and said: "You don't have a car to take you around. Take this and pay taxi" I don't know of any father or anyone in Cameroon who would even think of giving money to someone coming from America. I could not think of just one.

Papa, your kindness has taken you up to heaven. You were a father who took your children's friends as your children. My father passed away long time ago and when I met you, you replaced him. I miss stopping by to see you at your big Mankon home when I visit Cameroon. I miss you in America more than anything.  You always came in the summer season and spent time with us. Cameroon without you is empty. Summer without you will never be the same. If I could control our destiny, I would have let you live for another 97 years. However, no one can control that. Papa, beg God to forgive all our sins so we will join you in his heavenly kingdom when our turn comes. We are consoled that you are at peace. You body is gone but your spirit and your legacy live on. Thank you papa for teaching us humility. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace.

Justine Fogam.
April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021
I met Mr F.A. Ndenge for the first time in the fifties as a pupil in R C M Mankon (St Joseph School Mankon) where he was my Arithmetic teacher in Standard 6. He was known for his intelligence, integrity and dedication, which he used to prepare many of us for higher education and careers. I remember him then as an outspoken and honest man.

Later on in life I was blessed to work with him in GBHS Bamenda where he was a member of the teaching staff. His fatherly approach to people, devotion to his craft and development of people was very evident and earned him the appellation, “Pa Ndenge “. I was lucky to work with him again in GHS Mankon, where I was Principal at the time, and again, Pa was a pillar in my life, and I benefited a great deal from his wisdom. He was a very caring and understanding person, who took great joy in helping anyone in need. 

Pa Ndenge was a deeply spiritual man. He served for years in the Catholic Men Association Cathedral Parish where he impacted many lives including mine. His impact on society as a whole will be greatly missed .
April 6, 2021
April 6, 2021
       MESSAGE OF CONDOLENCES


   Sorry fills my heart at this sad moment a sorrow that is deep and personal. The news of the untimely death of papa Alphonsius Forngang Ndenge came as a great shock to me. His departure was sudden unexpected and particularly distressing.
   The character of the life he lived might be summed up in a few words he was sincerely, he was earnest ,he was loyal, he was industrious, he was selfsacrificing.
   He delegated me to represent him at the wedding of his daughter Rita Kien Ndenge in London as l was there in London during this occasion. He was very humourous in decorating me with the traditional red feather cap in the Mankon palace representing the Fon of Mankon . He collaborated with me earnestly in Organising the 50th anniversary of the enthroment of Fo S. A. N. Angwafo lll as the Fon of Mankon .
   Papa Ndenge served as the chairman of Mankon Traditional Council MTC very effectively for over a decade. His services as the chairman of the Mankon Traditional Council were tremendous.
   I extend to you family members,my deepest sympathy. I and his many friends and the Mankon Community will miss him. His passing on grieves me Inexpressibly.
   May his gentle soul rest in peace


                Prof/Sir Ben Fru Wara
April 5, 2021
April 5, 2021
Papa, you were such a wonderful Dad. Gone to meet Mama. You showed us so much love when we visited you in Bamenda, l shall always remain grateful.
God needed you back home, cause you had completed your assignment here on earth.
Keep resting Papa, untill we meet to part no more. Bamenda shall never be the same again.
No more Black beans and Potatoes.
It is well with your soul.
Rest in peace Papa.
March 30, 2021
March 30, 2021
Papa you have fought a good fight, you have finished the race, you have kept the faith. May the good Lord keep you by his bosom. Thank you Papa and greet mammy Ndenge, brother Jude and your friend and brother papa Nkamsi. Papa I am so happy that when you needed the St Joseph fabric to decorate the church we ran helter skelter and succeeded in granting your wish. Today I know St. Joseph has held your hand and you are basking in the glory of our Lord. Adieu Papa. Rest in perfect peace.
Your daughter Gina Nkamsi Akene
March 29, 2021
March 29, 2021
Papa, mixed thoughts fill my mind as I ponder over Your transition to glory. I remain thankful to God that none of my thoughts are of Confusion, Anger, Bitterness, Regret, I am only missing you greatly. I celebrate and thank God for your exemplary life, your impact on thousands of Cameroonians. Your memories will always live on.

My greatest Coach, father, friend, confidante. My Mankon encycopedia and archives. Interestingly you acted as our mom, when she left to her heavenly home. I will miss the precious moments we spent together. Papa you had a special charisma of turning my sad moments to laughter. Who will ask again "Jacinta what do you need to cook? I miss your special meals, what you want? Maa'ami where have you been? I have been worried about you. "Boorh na how, you no go call me? " Even at your age, you saw my missed calls without glasses. What an Amazing grace.

I have never had someone who just loved having me around always. Papa you spoiled us, even at our age you will still go to the travel agency to send some food from Bda. What a rare father!

You had prepared to meet with your creator and heavenly Father. You knew your time was up, after a ripeful age of 97 And you put things in order.

Father I am astonished by your unique, pure, giving and sacrificial love for people. Your words will continue to echo in my heart " Jacinta If I go me now, no problem. I am happy I have seen you again" . You gave books to your little girl Cecilia, as a "Souvenir from Grandpa" She says will keep them in Remembrance of you. Death did not take you like a thief, you were ever ready for the Master JESUS CHRIST to take you to your heavenly mansion. O death where is thy stink?

A wise, honest, truthful and a pious man. Lover of peace. Papa you fought a good fight and finished your race on earth. Those who truly encountered you, will want to be like You. Papa your memories will never fade. May your soul Rest in Perfect Peace.

#Jacinta, (Maa'ami)
March 20, 2021
March 20, 2021
Papa has been one I had always admired. A simple and an exemplary man. His life on earth should be as a guide to us behind. May your soul rest in the peaceful bosom of the Lord.
March 18, 2021
March 18, 2021
I met with Papa Ndenge for the very first time some time about the mid 1979 when he was in the process of handing over his very beautiful daughter in marriage to an illustrious son and prince of the Mambuh-Mankon chiefdom; our icon in the family-first Mankonian to become a medical doctor.
Then I became very very close to Papa Ndenge as that beautiful daughter of his, mothered and nurtured me including a couple of us teenagers in that large family at the time from teenage hood to maturity.
I loved Pa Ndenge from the manner he conducted himself around the Mankon community. He was always the smiling person and never never associated himself with anger regardless of the circumstance, same with the wife, late Mama Agnes Mary Ndenge.
I saw an exemplary couple in my life. They were so loving, caring and kind in nature. Papa Ndenge has left behind a great and rich admirable legacy in the academia and in the Mankon community. Your good manners Papa, will never escape my memory. You were an object of admiration, you were a role model, your were an icon worth reckoning with. You have done the best things during your entire life time an ideal person should.
Rest in the Lord's bosom in absolute peace.
We shall all enjoy your smiles again some day and will never miss them as we do today again.
Adieu Papa.
Augustine Kondje Tanikvu Azufor.
March 17, 2021
March 17, 2021
I met Pa. Ndenge and the family through my late Uncle and Auntie Mr. & Mrs. Charles Nforbin. My Uncle and the wife were Pa. & Ma Ndenge's colleagues teaching at the Big Mankon Catholic Primary School in the 70s.
Every Sunday after church service Pa & Ma Ndenge will warmly invite my family to their home for breakfast or lunch.
In the 80s, I met Una and Sister Rel Ndenge here in New York where we bonded again. Pa visited from Cameroon many times and as always, he brought that warm smile, love and welcomes all Una's friends.
Pa Ndenge was an inspirational person who touched many lives educationally, traditionally, culturally and most importantly he was a staunch catholic and so are his children.

Pa, we will miss you and may your gentle soul rest in peace.

To the Ndenge's family, our sincere condolences and may God grant you the strength to handle and recover from the loss of Pa and carry on with his Legacy.
March 17, 2021
March 17, 2021
Papa lived a blessed exemplary life, raising a beautiful family and providing an atmosphere of love, joy and a fear of God. That is how his beautiful daughter, my loving friend and sister Una, came into my life. Together with Una I stopped at home many times from Lourdes and was always welcomed by Mama and Papa's beautiful, warm and gentle smile and I felt like a daughter.

Papa along with Una and her loving family, visited us in Connecticut in 2004, and many times after that. I particularly remembered that his first encounter with my husband and mother-in-law was so comfortable as if he had always known them. My husband always enjoyed meeting and conversing with him. He was the ever loving father I remembered in our Lourdes days. We spent some memorable time together, which I cherish. He gave us advice and shared many wisdom. His laughter and beautiful smile was always present (Una carries this smile and my sister refers to Una as "laughing eyes".

My parents also knew and liked Papa Ndenge and the entire family. My mother recounted fondly her respect for Papa Ndenge especially as she remembered being a student of Mama Ndenge in "Big Mankon". She is grateful for all she learned from Mama which she carried throughout her life.

Papa set a great example for all to learn and follow. He lived a good life, and has now gone to rest. Papa is dearly missed. May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace.
I pray for comfort to the entire family.
March 16, 2021
March 16, 2021
             A Tribute to Pa Forngang Aphonsus Ndenge

     It’s true that we all are sojourners in this beautiful world where the duration is a mystery of God Almighty. At the appointed minute, a personal invitation is served on the concerned for eternity by the heavenly jingle bells, whose symphony is an anaesthesia to eternity, the melting pot where all earthly challenges and headaches are consumed to give everlasting life in joy, happiness, freedom, glory, and praises to God Almighty.

     Mr. Chairman M.T.C.(Mankon Traditional Council) and Nkum Kwifor, we knew that you had to retire to your Creator, but you hid it from us. Your sudden exit is heartbreaking and caused disaster, panic, and confusion. You forgot to hand in your handing over notes. Where is the Encylopedia of the Mankon Culture and Tradition, what about the Mankon Museum which you worked tirelessly for its realisation, the preparation of the Annual Royal Calendar of activities: Pilgrimages to the Palace of Alankie for the Fon to go and commune with the Mankon Ancestors to lavish on the Mankon people; peace and prosperity, growth of the population through fertility, good yield of crops, protection from any epidemic, abundant heavenly blessings, the Annual Royal Dance (Abengfor), and many other burning issues.

     Yes, you have finished the Traditional and Cultural Festivals marking the exit of Fon Ndefru III, the 50th Anniversary of the ascension of Fon Angwafo III S.A.N., to the Mankon throne on April 4th, 1959, the voluminous file on the creation of the over 70 quarter councils by the Mankon Traditional Council, several land disputes/arbitrations, disenclavement of many quarters in Mankon, the supply of potable water, construction of bridges and culverts, Fundraising by M.T.C. for more development projects in Mankon, etc. You did much but much is still to be done, but... You were on retirement, but not yet tired because you remained a consultant and researcher in Mankon culture and tradition, teacher training, and rural signs.

     As M.T.C. chairman you represented the Fon and we accompanied the Fon on missions to brotherly Fondoms for various ceremonies, the enthronement of new Fons, cultural, traditional and other festivals. We equally accompanied to him to many places such as Buea, Limbe, Mutengene, Tiko, Douala, Yaounde, Banwa, Bandjoun, Dschang, etc. for Mankon Cultural and Development Association (MACUDA) cultural and traditional festivals. To ensure hitch-free missions, they were minisciously prepared and always registered the expected results: resounding success.

     Mr. Chairman of M.T.C., your age, notwithstanding, you were energetic, performant, indefatigable, and up to the task. You were kind, friendly, generous, fatherly, humorous, and a good mixer with people of all ages and social strata. Your doors were ever ajar to all and sundry.
Mr. Chairman, I served you as your personal assistant very diligently and without reservation. On this note, may therefore I request you to do me a favour by constantly interceding for those you have left behind: your dear family, your friends, and Mankon Fondom, for peace, love, unity, and abundant blessings from God Almighty to reign amongst them.

     Finally, we want to tell Pa A.F. Ndenge, Nkum Kwifor, that we love you and will miss you forever! You have been a great gift and a wonderful asset to Mankon Fondom and the state of Cameroon. We have to thank God and accept His verdict as final and unquestionable. Mr. Chairman, as you negotiate the last turn into the land of glory and perfection, we pray God Almighty in whom you invested all your life, loved, served, and worshipped, that in His infinite love and mercy, should be gracious and merciful to you and grant you perfect peaceful rest in His Everlasting Kingdom.
Mr. Chairman of M.T.C., my mentor fare ye well - R.I.P.
              Sanjou-Tadzong Abel Ndeh
              Adviser to M.T.C.
March 15, 2021
March 15, 2021
I was never fortunate to meet Pa Ndenge while he was alive. However, I met the daughter, sister Rel Ndenge in Yaounde in the early 80,s and also met another daughter, Una in the mid 80,s in New York. Being lucky to meet these nice sisters and the way they carry their selves over the years, could testify the type of person Pa Ndenge was. I believe Pa Ndenge was a very peaceful and respectful. We thank God for his long life on Earth. I extend my heartfelt condolences to the entire family. May Pa Ndenge,s soul rest in perfect peace with the Lord.
March 14, 2021
March 14, 2021
I met Una in 1974 in Girls School, Mankon and we quickly became friends. Her house was next door to our school, so I would sometimes go home with her for ‘long break’.
When Mamie or Pa happened to be home from work when I dropped by, they always welcomed me warmly and would ask about my own parents. Although the little girl in me assumed it was normal for all parents to know each other, that was not the case here.
I later learned from my mom, Mamie Chilla, that she actually had a special bond with the Ndenges because Mamie Ndenge was her ‘small’ in college, back in the day in Nigeria.
And so I knew to be on my best behavior whenever I was around Mamie and Pa Ndenge.
Growing up, I ran into them everywhere within the Big Mankon vicinity - in church, in the streets, at their home when I visited Una, and sometimes in school. I always received the same warm acknowledgment from them.
I so admired this God-fearing, humble and hard working couple; my friend’s parents, my mother’s ‘small’.
The years have gone by and today, Pa has returned to his maker. Yes, Big Mankon will be empty and strange without Pa, but I know there is joy in heaven, for Pa is home; reunited with Mamie and all those who transitioned before him.
May the family Pa has left behind be comforted in the knowledge that he is now resting in the Lord.

Juliette Chilla Wangia.
March 11, 2021
March 11, 2021
If you can keep your head when all about you 
  Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, 
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
  But make allowance for their doubting too; 
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
  Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
  And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; 
  If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim; 
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
  And treat those two impostors just the same; 
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
  Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
  And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
  And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
  And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
  To serve your turn long after they are gone, 
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
  Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, 
  Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
  If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
  With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, 
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, 
  And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

March 11, 2021
March 11, 2021
Dear Papa,
You will be surely missed.
May your soul transition in peace.
We love and miss you but your memories and spirit is with us forever.
March 9, 2021
March 9, 2021
Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge, departed to Eternity on Saturday 27/02/2021, at the Bamenda Regional Hospital, at the ripe age of 97!

Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge had lived a full and blissful life. He has deeply influenced the lives of multiple generations. He was a teacher, agronomist, community leader, adviser, mentor, writer, researcher, guardian of Mankon tradition, father, grandfather, great grandfather, and family head. Many of his students remember his great sense of humour, as well as the rigour and passion with which he dealt his class lessons.

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September 16, 2021
September 16, 2021
Best Teacher I ever had. A very good man. Makes me proud to be a son of Mankon. I will be happy to see you in heaven, Sir, God willing. May Almighty God grant you eternal life. Bong felieh, Tah.
June 10, 2021
Pa Ndenge,
It's taken me a while and I'm still battling with the fact that you've transitioned into eternity. I have countless vivid memories of you but what stood out to me was your devout dedication and participation in online masses in New Jersey USA. Your profound faith was evident in your tremendous selflessness and generosity. I'll never forget the lavish reception you gave us at your residence in Bamenda, hilariously upon our departure you presented us with a full bag of garri and insisted we take to the USA. Papa at the age of 95 amazingly you had it all as you left us all in awe with such a short but brilliant prayer in December 2019 in Douala. In light of such indelible memories, I have decided not to mourn but rather celebrate you papa. Wishing you eternal rest papa. Go well papa, you will sincerely be missed. 
His Life

BIOGRAPHY OF Papa FORNGANG ALPHONSUS NDENGE

June 5, 2021
Papa FORNGANG ALPHONSUS NDENGE was born in 1924 at Alamatu, Mankon. His parents were Tatah Che Frederick Ndenge and Nimo Andze. He was born into one of the largest families in Mankon at the time, his father being married to ten wives. His father was an influential businessman, who traded gun powder, tobacco, cloth, kolanuts, pigs and goats between Mankon and the Mbouda region, and between Mankon and Nigeria; in fact, he was the first to introduce pigs in Mankon from Mbouda. His father was also the first to introduce coffee planting in Mankon. Nimo Andze died when Papa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge was only about two years old. Papa was handed over to one of his step-mothers, Nimo Kien, who was childless.

Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge spent his early life in the village, for the most part babysitting his siblings, and hunting. In 1935, the Catholic Mission project of opening a primary school in Bafut was abandoned; Ntambeng in Mankon, that was virgin territory, became the preferred site. The area had never had a school before then, and most parents were skeptical about the benefits a school would bring to them. All children above five years of age were invited for enrollment. Thus it was that, at age eleven, Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge showed up on the opening date at the new school premises. Pa and two of his quarter friends (late Pa Atanga of Mile 8 Mankon, and Pa Sylvester Tibuiy) were outrightly rejected on grounds that they were a lot older than the majority of the enrolled kids; they were considered too old for school! They left the premises, happy to be free, and went playing and hunting around the bush track that led to the school. It so happened that a certain teacher who was on his way to school, and who happened to be friends with one of Pa’s playmates, after listening to their excuse for not being in school, marched them back to the Ntambeng school premises. They watched him in a close discussion with probably the school headmaster, and then he came back and ordered them to join the others in the Infants One Class.

School was quite a different experience from life in the village. The school was designed as a boarding school, and all pupils slept in make-shift dormitories. This was necessary so that the kids who came over from neighbouring Bafut should not feel abandoned to themselves. The pupils participated actively in the construction of houses for the teachers, and other structures. At an early age, pupils were assigned tasks of responsibility, for example taking turns to guard and clean the teachers’ houses when the teachers went back to their families at weekends. The teachers were Nigerian-trained, and included Pa Clement Donga from Bafut, Pa Ako from Bagangu, and Pa Paul Muforza from Nkwen.

Pa was one of the track and field athletes selected to represent his Ntambeng village school during the Empire Day festivities (Queen Elizabeth I’s Jubilee) that held at Up-Station, which then was the main town and administrative centre. After march-past, games were usually organized in which the different schools of the area competed against one other, and for which shields, and cash prizes were offered. Pa took his position on the line when his track event was called. Pa was overwhelmed at seeing such a “large” crowd, in contrast to his village school setting. He knew he carried the reputation of his school in his feet and was determined to meet the challenge. At the sound of the pistol being fired in the air, the runners took off. Pa took all he had in his feet to catch up with the main group of runners. The excited crowd that had lined the track kept cheering and trying to race along too.Somewhere along the line, the crowd ran into the track, cutting off Pa and a few other runners.Pa got lost in the crowd and spent a good part of the rest of the day trying to locate his school members, with whom he would have to travel back to Ntambeng.

In 1937, a new and bigger Catholic school was opened in Big Mankon, that would include Standard I, Standard II, Standard III and Standard IV classes. As the Ntambeng school was not yet ready to open the higher section after Infants II, Pa and other pupils who graduated from Ntambeng were transferred to Big Mankon. Pa was thus part of the pioneer batches of both Catholic School Ntambeng and RCM School Mankon. The Catholics encouraged all their pupils in Government School Up-Station to switch and fill the first three classes in Big Mankon. Here too, the pupils participated actively in putting up school buildings and setting out the layout. Pa was a good football player in his school days, a gift he passed on to all his sons.

The school in Big Mankon went up to only Standard IV. So, in 1941, Pa Forngang went over to Njinikom where he graduated from Standard Six in 1942. The journey to and from Njinikom was done on foot; raw foodstuff was the main head-load. There too in Njinikom, the pupils had to build their individual huts where they slept and cooked for themselves. Upon graduation, Pa was appointed to teach Class One.

In 1944, Pa was selected to be part of the pioneer team to start the Grade 3 Teacher’s Training program in Njinikom. In 1947, he was posted to teach in Catholic School Bali, together with his future wife’s stepbrother, Barnabas Forsuh. Then came 1948, when Pa got posted to Akum as Headmaster of the Catholic school.

Pa got married in December of 1950 to wife Lum Agnes of blessed memory, who had just returned from training in Nigeria as a teacher. The year after, Pa was admitted into Teacher Training College Kumba where he obtained the Grade Two Certificate in 1952. He was afterwards posted to Banso where he taught from 1952 to 1954. Pa talked often of the strong influence the culture of the Banso had on him.

For one year, in 1955, the Rural Education Training College in Bambili, an affiliate to the Department of Agriculture of the University of Ibadan (present day CCAST Bambili campus), was home to Pa Forngang Ndenge. From there, he and his wife were posted to Catholic School Big Mankon, where he spent the next nine years. In Mankon, Pa was known to be a disciplinarian of a higher order; one who never spared the rod. His interest in the school farm and school fish-pond was more of a dedication. You could also see him at the centre of singing lessons and working tirelessly to train the school band players. Meanwhile, as was the custom, three years after graduating from the Rural Education Training College in Bambili, Pa automatically obtained the Grade I Teacher Training Certificate, on account of his performance on the field, his overall training and his years of service.

While at Big Mankon, Pa wrote an exam, organized by Government to select teachers, including those from the private sector, for a one-year course on education in London. Pa was the lone Catholic teacher in his area who passed, and who was selected. Unfortunately, Pa’s employers never got to inform him in time for him to join the others (Presbyterians, Baptists, etc) in London.

In his constant quest for knowledge, Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge was one of the seven selected pioneer students of the newly created ENS Bambili school in 1966, whose principal was late Sylvester Dioh.

In 1970, Pa was sent to teach at the Bambui Teacher Training College, which had just been transferred from Njinikom. It is on record that Pa personally mapped and carved out the beautiful grass lawns we now see at the Bambui Major Seminary.

With the decision to open a Major Seminary in Bambui in 1973, the Bambui Teacher Training College was transferred to Tatum. Pa, with a big family of eight children at the time, was not comfortable with the idea of moving to Tatum, which was still very rural and isolated. Pa could not understand why most of the much younger teachers who had just graduated from ENS were being posted to Bamenda Town rather than being sent to such rural areas like Tatum. When attempts to have his transfer reversed by the Catholic Mission were turned down, Pa turned his attention to the government. During the mid-term break in Tatum, Pa rushed to Yaounde to file his application to join the Public Service. Thanks to the help of his former classmate (Vice-Minister Luma) who was in the Ministry of Education in Yaounde, his application into the Public Service was granted immediately, in 1973. Government postings had already been made, but the Ministry was still able to find a place in September for Pa at Lycée Polyvalente de Bonabéri (Douala) that had just been setup by Canada. Pa was to replace a teacher who had failed to show up at the school. Unfortunately, that teacher suddenly finally showed up, and with good excuse. Pa was then told to wait for the next year’s postings.

Pa returned to Tatum to round up the year. He finished his class program, and then resigned as a Catholic Mission teacher.

In 1974, Pa Forngang Ndenge was posted to Government Grammar School Mamfe, and was welcomed by Pa Ako Arrey, the Principal. Pa Forngang’s family stayed behind in Mankon. In Mamfe, he worked tirelessly and with dedication. His students remember him well for his jokes and unique teaching style. After class, you would usually find him wearing a straw hat to beat the Mamfe sun, holding a spade in one hand, pacing the virgin school land, counting his steps as he made measurements of distances that separated specific locations, he dug to plant trees or shrubs. His activities on campus sort of mused both staff and students. Yet, Pa went about his daily field routine (-even on weekends) quietly and unperturbed, just murmuring to himself as he counted the paces. Here he would plant a line of coconut trees, there he would plant a line of orange trees, over there some shrubs, and so on. He traced out grass lawns too. It did not take long for the students to come up with a nickname for Pa. For the rest of his stay in Mamfe, Pa was fondly called “Boxer”, as the horse character in George Orwell’s novel, Animal Farm, that worked voluntarily and tirelessly without complaining and with the firm conviction that its efforts were contributing ultimately to the success of the revolution. Today those trees Pa planted are still there, and the school yard is a real beauty.

Pa got transferred to work in the Education Office in Bamenda in 1976. He was sent to start GTTC Atuakum, which was later transferred to Nkwen. There too, Pa’s Biology students labelled him with the nickname “Pa Hashish”. Following government’s suspension of the Teacher Training Program, Pa was transferred to GBHS Bamenda, Ntamulung where, for 2 years, he taught Biology. His nickname in Ntamulung was “Pa Baiyo”. When the Teacher Training Program was re-started some years later, Pa was sent back to GTTC Bamenda, where he taught until 1996, and then retired from teaching for good.

Two of the school books Pa wrote were titled “Science for the Beginner”, and “A Simplified Guide to Classroom Teaching”.

Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge, the Culture Man.

Pa’s first contact with the Mankon Palace came when Fon Ndefru III crowned him successor to his grandfather (Tatah Forngang), who had a seat in the Palace, while Pa was attending primary school (Infants 2 Class) in Ntambeng in 1936.He was too young to handle matters of succession, and his own father was charged with holding the seat for him, until he would be of age to handle things for himself.

In 1948, when a United Nations delegation came to Bamenda to see for themselves the condition of the Trustee Territories, Pa who was Headmaster at the time in Akum, was sent by the local elites to collect camwood from the Mankon Palace for the welcoming ceremony. Fon Ndefru III discovered, through this encounter, that Pa could be of great service to him.So, from that time onwards, the Fon often had Pa come to the Palace to see him. At the death of Fon Ndefru III in 1958, with all the princes gathered around in mourning, one elderly Pa of the Palace asked Pa Forngang to go immediately bring along the present Fon Angwafor III, the pretext being that he wanted to send the prince on a personal errand. When Pa Forngang brought the prince, the latter was snatched and taken away to be prepared as successor to his late father. The next Fon in line, enthroned as Angwafor III, counted too on Pa’s diligence and trustworthiness.The Fon often requested Pa’s services and technical advice on some specific issues concerning Mankon. As a teacher, Pa developed a passion for in-depth research on the history and culture of the Mankon people. He went on to write a couple of publications and books to this effect. Three of his books are: “Mankon Royal Dynasty and its Legends”, “The Treasure of the Mankon Kingdom”, and “Mankon, the History of a People”. Anthropologists and university lecturers often consulted him on issues concerning the Mankon culture and history.

For over twenty years, Pa was the pioneer Chairman of the Mankon Traditional Council (MTC). He was very instrumental in the organization of certain big events in Mankon, like the “Nukwi” (- a feast in commemoration of the previous Fon by the present Fon) and the 50th Anniversary celebration of the enthronement of the present Fon, Angwafor III. Pa spearheaded the project of setting up the Mankon Museum at the Palace, in association with a certain Italian lady researcher. He documented most of the artifacts, writing down the history behind them. He traced and sketched the line of all the Fons that have ruled over Mankon, giving dates and each one’s history.

Pa designed and set up the present structure of Quarters and the election of Quarterheads in Mankon based on their fervent dedication to local development and the ideals of the Fondom, rather than merely being a son of the soil.

Pa was usually among the team of ambassadors the Palace sent out to other Fondoms to represent the Mankon people. He made official announcements during traditional ceremonies in the Palace. He has a handful of TV interviews and presentations on the culture of the Mankon people.

Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge and the Church.

Our father lived and died as a dedicated Catholic Christian. He made it a habit of attending daily mass, and was part of his local Christian Community, St Martin. At home, he spent close to an hour each morning after morning mass, and before breakfast, meditating and praying. He was very discreet in his works of charity towards the community. Every day, at three o’clock, he would be saying Divine Mercy prayers.

Pa was a member of the St Joseph’s Catholic Men’s Association (CMA), Cathedral Parish. Even as age caught up with him, he struggled to attend their meetings. Sometimes the members collectively visited him at home. He went to all lengths to get, from Douala, his own piece of their new CMA uniform and CMA wrapper fabric to decorate the church on the group Patron Saint’s feast day, St. Joseph. Pa was also a patron of some church choirs.

Whenever he visited his children overseas in the USA or Europe, Pa found great pleasure in visiting religious sites like churches, pilgrim centres and libraries. A good part of his return-home luggage was mainly books on religion; he would wrestle with his children over the issue of costly extra-kilos on the flight, but always won in the end.

Pa was involved in the allocation of land to the Church (Catholic, Presbyterian Missions) in Mankon, serving often as a go-between between the Fon of Mankon and the Church. The case of the present Small Mankon Catholic Church location is worthy of note.

Pa Forngang Alphonsus Ndenge’s Health & General Issues.

Pa was a very social person. He was an active member of traditional, quarter, church, and other social groups. Many a young couple came to seek his advice on this or that problem they were facing. He reached out often to the needy but remained very discreet about that. He stayed on top of trying to solve family problems, and continuously interacted with family members. He found pleasure in his interactions with the grandchildren especially.

For most of Pa’s life, he never ever took seriously ill, probably since he played football a lot, and his Raleigh bicycle was the main means of displacement around, in his early teaching days. He used to ride from Kumbo town to Wainama just to hang out with friends, and then ride all the way back. Pa’s eyesight was good, on average. However, during his last few years, there was a noticeable degradation in his ability to read small print, which made him get reading glasses.

His appetite remained excellent from birth to death. He loved good food, especially meat, which he ate copiously in all forms (roasted, boiled, smoked), yet he never developed gout. At old age, he developed a particular liking for roasted pork meat harvested from young, tender piglets. He loved palm wine and took alcohol with moderation. He loathed the cigarette, tobacco. His teeth remained all in place, white and strong.

Pa’s first major health crisis came in June 2016, when he complained of progressive tiredness and unexplained weakness. After multiple consultations in three local hospital centres in Bamenda, Pa was referred to Shishong Catholic Hospital Cardiac Centre. There, the diagnosis was a heart problem, a failing heart. Pa urgently needed a pacemaker. Pa’s children responded immediately. Thanks to God, the dexterity, the care of Doctor Cabral and the hospital staff of the Shishong Cardiac Centre, the operation went successfully well. There we found Pa, just a couple of days after the operation, in top form, joking and laughing, with a sling he wore that held the bent left arm close to the chest; which arm position he had to maintain for the next three months.

Pa also took a lot of local teas and herbs, some of which he massaged his legs and feet with, after his morning bath. When asked why he had so many bottles of different traditional medicines on his table, he usually jokingly would reply that, his being in good health means that at least one of them is working, though he might not know which one in particular.

Pa had a condition called Essential tremors, which as the name implies, causes different body part to shake.His trembling hands worsened during the last decade. In spite of this, he would insist to hold the cup himself while drinking his tea or water. Alzheimer was never the cause. His hearing too dropped slightly, but he heard well at close range. Pa’s mental state and his reasoning faculty remained sharp throughout his life. He still participated and directed family meetings. He still reasoned and debated issues logically. He could still recite his school-day poems and would quote you dates in his narratives without blinking. He remembered names of his teachers, his school mates, and colleagues. He remembered historical dates. Yes, he was a living library!

During his regular medical checkups at the hospital, it was thought that Pa was developing diabetes. A blood sugar tester/monitor was got for him. His blood sugar level was on average okay, after proper techniques were instituted to measure his glucose levels.Pa caught a nasty cold about two weeks before his death, and practically came out of it. That was one of the rare occasions when he completely lost his appetite! We knew then that it was serious business, so we stepped up the controls and monitoring: daily routines of temperature, blood pressure and blood sugar measurements. His vital signs were okay, but Pa had to be controlled for almost an hour each time before he could have a bite of any food.

On the afternoon of Saturday, February 27th, 2021, Pa complained of severe tiredness. An elderly neighbour with a gifted eye, Ma Sophie Atang, who visited him that afternoon, called for the priest who came straightaway and administered the Sacrament of Extreme Unction (“Last Oil”) to Pa, who also passed his confession and received the Sacrament of Holy Communion. He was tired, but walked by himself to meet the priest, participated actively in the prayers, and even chatted light-heartedly with the priest. Afterwards, Pa had a light meal, and then went to bed to rest. One of Pa’s step-sisters who happened to visit Pa that afternoon, related to us after Pa died, that Pa had told her that he was feeling his time was up, and that she should pray for him; that she would probably not see him again.

Later on in the evening, Pa’s daughter, Mrs. Immaculate Formambuh visited him, and vital signs were checked again around about 6 pm, with the readings being okay. Pa continued to complain of extreme tiredness and so his daughter offered to take him to the hospital but he down-played the event citing that there would be no doctors at the premise during the evening hours anyways. She then helped pa to bed and before going to her home, promised to check on him the following day.At about 11:15 pm, Pa walked out of his room and sat on his favorite parlour chair, and told Gerard, his trusted help and driver (who usually slept next door to Pa) to accompany him to the toilet. After helping him in the bathroom, Gerard only then noticed that Pa was sweating and slumping over, getting weaker, so he panicked and called Mrs. Formambuh who advised that he should take Pa to the hospital, and she would meet them there. Gerard then sought the assistance of Fru, another of Pa’s children in the house, and they both struggled and put Pa into his jeep, which they drove to the Bamenda Regional Hospital that Saturday night. Pa arrived at the emergency section of the hospital, and was met by his daughter, Mrs. Immaculate Formambuh and a few minutes later, around 11:55pm, Pa passed. Pa took everyone by surprise. We had not paid enough attention to the details that he had been giving to us about his imminent death. However, one thing for sure, Pa had his wish granted: to die peacefully, without enduring pain and suffering to himself or to his entourage.

Pa lost his wife on May 22, 1986, and never got remarried. Together, they had nine children, five boys and four girls. Pa’s seventh child (John) passed on a few hours after birth, in 1965. He Lost his first grandchild, Funiba Ndenge-Che in 2001. Pa buried his first son, Niba Jude Thaddeus Ndenge in 2017. Pa was proud of his several grandchildren and great-grandchildren. He lived a simple, but full and fruitful life. We thank God for his long life; 97 years on earth!

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  1. The news of Pa Ndenges demise hit me like a rock when I first saw it on Facebook. He was no ordinary man and he was a household name to the entire mankon fondom not excluding those who were fortunate enough to interact with him. His smile was infectious, his footsteps were gentle and majestic, his presence was reassuring, his wisdom was far beyond and the way he intereacted with different generations could hardly go unnoticed by onlookers. He was a broker of peace and role model to many.  My mum passed away 26.06.2020 and before her demise she visited Pa Ndenge on my behalf. At the end of the visit Pa had this to say to my late mum" Mami tell Chi to pass by when he visits home. A child like him needs acknowledgement and encouragement"  Pa Ndenges demise has reignited the feeling of how futile life could be and the emptiness and nothingness of life itself. However, I am grateful for Pa Ndenge, his accomplishment and the life he lived to the fullest. He is now with his creator. The heavens are surely celebrating the arrival of an angel. Adieu Pa Ndenge of Big Mankon. 

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