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1year and 3 months later

September 16, 2011

You went home 1 year and 3months ago and I miss you so much.  I cannot deal with the fact that you are not here with me any more.  I think of you every day and dream of you every night.  I just want one more day with you Daddy. You were taken away too early. 

I love and miss you so much.

 

 

Christmas Time

December 20, 2010

Daddy, the past 20 days has been a total nightmare for me.  It is nearing Christmas and i don't want to celebrate it without you.  I miss you so much and would give anything to spend one more pain free day with you.  I love you more than anything in this entire world and i always will. 

Special Times

December 1, 2010

Nathan's birthday has come and gone...you weren't there to share with us. We missed you so much that day.  He got a cell phone and motor bike. He would have loved to have shown you how he drives.  He is a bit windgat but he is proud of himself. Just as i am sure you be proud of him.

Brandon's conert has also come and gone and you weren't there.  He looked so cute and proud of himself.  His pants kept falling downs and his hat was broken.  He tried so hard to keep the hat balanced on his head.  You should have seen him. 

Crystal couldn't go to her farewell at Wild Waters, because she is sick.  She is very disappointed because you promised the kids that you will take them to Wild Waters this summer.  It was a sign from you that you will always share in the good time in spirit.  I will take them all there for you.  Crystal starts Jeppe High School for Girls next year.  I am sure you would have been proud of her. 

Nay's granny has also got cancer and the doctors have given her a few weeks to live.  Please be there for Rene and Aunty Yvette and make sure that her gran is okay when she gets to Heaven.  I know what they are going through and it breaks my heart that these special people must suffer so much.  Rene has told me that she misses you too.  Give you a visit if you can.

We all miss you so much.  My life has never been the same without you. 

October 14, 2010

Hello Daddy

Not a day or night goes by that i don't think of you.  Everyone says i am strong but the day you passed away i lost all of that strength.  My life is falling apart and i don't think it can be fixed this time.  I miss you so much it scares me.  I would give anything to be with you again, but i need to think of my kids and carry on, even if it is only for them.  Brandon is going to Grade 1 next year.  I hope you will be standing right next to him, i am sure he will want you there.  Nathan goes to Grade 3, help him to adapt to his  new grade and teacher.  Crystal starts high school!!!  She is getting too big too soon.  I am sure that she wishes you were there with her when she starts her new school.  I am trying to get her into Jeppe High School for Girls, please help me with this.  Twane looks at your pictures in the frame and says "ssshhh"  and puts her finger to her mouth.  It's as if she knows you are sleeping. 

It is just so strange how numb i feel.  The last 4 months have been a blur for me.  My life is empty without you.

I love and and miss you so much.

Please come visit me and let me know you are with me still.

Your Favourite Daughter

Wendy

October 5, 2010

 Daddy, i don't think my eyes have ever cried as many tears since you left me.  Ever since you passed away i tell every one that i am ok, but they see different.  I am not the same since you passed away.  I only realise now that you are gone what an important role you played in my life.  I might not have seen you every day but you played a very important role in my life.  I knew you were always there if I needed you.  I realize now how much i depended on you in everything that i done.  I am driving Wensley's opel now, and my heart aches because i cannot give you a lift somewhere.  If only i was driving before you got so sick, i could have got in the car and taken you to the doctor myself.  I could have done so much more for you.  But i am a selfish person and i will  have to live with that reality for the rest of my life.  I should have taken charge and got you the treatment that you needed. 

Sometimes when i am feeling sad, i get this strange kind of calm over me, as if there absolutely nothing in the world that i worrying me.  I imagine that this calming feeling is you putting your arms around me to let me know that you are still with me, not in body but in spirit and that you are okay and happy.  There are times when my life carries on like normal, i still feel like phoning you to find out how you are doing.  I wish there was a phone in Heaven so that i can phone you once in a while.  I would love to hear your voice again.  You were the only one that could really understand me.

I  miss you so much daddy and i hope that you are looking down on me and smiling sometimes.  

I will try to write to you more often, but remember that if i don't write it doesn't mean that i have forgotten you because i think of you more than any one could ever know.

Your "favorite daughter" can't wait to be with you again.

 

Daddy

August 24, 2010

Hello Daddy.  I wish i could make you proud by saying that i am okay and i am coping, but I'm not.  I miss you so much, the days are getting harder for me to get through.  You were always a great part of my  life and now that you are gone, it feels like there is nothing left here for me.  I love you so much daddy, it is hard for me to carry on without you.  I love the kids and Wensley so much so i must try my best to be happy for them.  So much has happened since you left.  I lost a freind, Kevin, he committed suicide.  Strange...never thought he would do that.  Wensley is letting me drive his Opel, a surprise i know.  I hope you can see me when i drive, because you always asked why don't I drive it.  

You were and always will be the best dad in the world.  I miss having you around.  Thank you so much for always being there for me and for all the smiles you put on my face and in my heart.  Thank you so much for being such a great oupa to my kids, i will make sure that each one of them always carry you in their hearts.  Crystal really misses you, she doesn't speak about it, but I can see that she is sad.  Nathan and Brandon come to me and say they miss you lots. Twane is getting big, you would really have a laugh at how big her attitude is.  

I am so sorry for all the hard times I gave you.  I wish that i could turn back time so that i can undo all the hurt and disappointment i caused you.

I hope you are okay and that you are happy.  Please tell mom, Charmaine, Uncle Brian, Ouma and Oupa to each put there arms around you and give you a hug from me.  I wish that I could do it myself.  I would give anything to see you again.  One more day with you is all that i am asking for.  One more time to hear you say i love you my girl.  One more hug.  One more smile. One more of anything, as long as you are here with me.  

I will love you forever and you will live on in my heart for as long as I live.

 

Hey You

August 24, 2010

How time goes by.  We miss you Noel.  I know that Wendy is taking this extremely hard and if there was ever a time I wish you were here it would be now.  Even if for only a minute that you could put your arms around your daughter and let her know it is ok and that you are ok.  Let her know that you are happy to be with your loved ones and that you want her to go on.  She worries me Noley.  Let her know she can go on and live her life and make you proud by being the best mommy to your grand kids.  Send  special butterfly to rest on her shoulder so that she knows you are always near.

Love and miss you.

 

for you and Wendy

August 24, 2010

 If you hear a voice, 

It the middle of the night, 
Saying it'll be all right, 
It will be me.

If you feel a hand, 
Guiding you along, 
When the path seems wrong, 
It will be me.

There is no mountain that I can't climb, 
For you I'd swim through the rivers of time, 
As you go your way, and I go mine, 
A light will shine, and It will be me.

If there is a key that goes to your heart, 
A special part, it will be me. 
If you need a friend, call out to the wind, 
To hold you again, it will be me.

Oh, how the world seems so unfair, 
Creating a love that cannot be shared, 
As you go your way, and I go mine. 
A light will shine And it will be me.

I see ever after, 
There's a place for two, 
In your tears and laughter, 
I'll be there for you.

In the sun and the moon, 
In the land and the sea, 
Look all around you, 
It will be mine.

There is no mountain that I can't climb, 
For you I'd swim through the rivers of time, 
As you go your way, and I go mine, 
A light will shine, and It will be me.

It will be me... it will be me.

Oupa

August 17, 2010

Oupa, I miss you a lot.  You were the complete piece of my heart.  No one can ever fill that place in my heart except for you.  It's harder for me now because I got to understand that you are gone.  I love you a lot.

Noely Poley, thank you for all the good times you gave me.  I just want to say thank you for always being there for me.  Thank you for being the best Oupa any grandchild could ever ask for.

Oupa, I wish so hard that you can be here with us all to show Twane how much fun you brought into our lives.  Twane will always remember you, that I promise you now.  I will always tell her how great you made people feel and I will tell her how much you loved your grandchildren.

Oupa, I will always remember you no matter what.  There's always a big empty place in my heart.  If any one tries to fill it, they wont get very far because no one can ever come close to you.  I miss you terribly and love  you tremendously.  I get tears in my eyes every time I think  you and look at the stuff you bought me.  I start to cry every time I think of you. The times we spent together, the good and sad times we had, no one can ever take that away from me.  I will hold on to those memories forever.

Thank you for you have done for me, for helping mom raise me, for being the best grandfather in the entire world.  

I miss you lots.

Your favourite granddaughter,

Crystal

My Dad

July 30, 2010

 I cannot seem to say goodbye to Dad.  He was always a bright part of my life.  I have tried to tell myself that dad wanted to be with mom and that he is happy now, but that doesn't help me to say goodbye.  I remember when dad was in hospital, towards the end, before he got really bad, he would always ask me to scratch his back.  He really  loved it when i scratch his back.  If i could have him back i would scratch his back forever.  The one night, I complained to Wensley that my dad doesn't call for me, he only calls for others.  The very next night, he turned to me, and said "I love you my girl".  I was so happy when he said those words to me.  Those were the clearest words he said while he was still  in hospital.  I will remember the sound of his voice and look on his forever.  I had him transferred to the Hospice in Benoni, because he kept telling me that he wanted to go back to Benoni, on the 29th June.  When i got there that morning he looked so beautiful.  He was talking.....IN AFRIKAANS!!! And for those who knew him, knows he doesn't talk afrikaans fluently.  He speaking as if he was born afrikaans.  He flirted with the female doctor and kept apologizing because he didn't have his teeth in.  He even smiled when i told him his doctor was a good looking female.  We laughed and joked with him that day.  He even said he wanted vokken vokken custard.  Making custard will always be very hard for me to do.  He had his favorite food for lunch that day.  He had mash and beef and custard for dessert.  When i left he i really thought he would be okay.  I got back at about 8pm and spent the night there with him, because when he heard that I could stay, he said "dit sal lekker wees".  So i slept next to his bed on the lazy boy couch.  He then started deteriorating.  When i got the call on the 30th June, I got to the hospice just in time.  He waited for me.  I told him i love him and went to fetch my cell phone to arrange for someone to watch my kids, but when i got back my dad was gone.  I wasn't there with him when he passed on.  Every day since then has been a roller coaster ride of emotions for me.  He was my life and now that he is gone my life doesn't seem worthwhile.  If it were not for my kids, i would go and be with my dad in the blink of an eye.  Since that night there has always been a beautiful image sight in the sky.  Either the clouds look beautiful with the sun shining through them, or the moon just seems to shine.  I would like to think that it's my dad that sending me a message that he's ok and happy.  But even still, I miss him so much.  

A month Ago

July 30, 2010

A month has passed since you left.  I don't know how I made it his far without you. Life doesn't seem worthwhile since you're gone.  I would give anything to be with you daddy.  It's not fair that you had to be taken from me.  I still had so much that I wanted to tell you and so much that I never got the chance to apologize for. 

My Farewell to you Noley Poley

July 26, 2010

Noel has been a part of my life for 33 years so to stand here and say farewell without crying would be impossible so bear with me.

 

Following what Willy and Rene have had to say I just want to share with you a bit of my time with Noel.

 

For those of you that knew Noel well you will know that the one thing Noel was passionate about was God.  If I ever think about the conversations we had about God I realise that I always felt a sense of peace afterwards.  He had an amazing way of sharing The Lord with me and I always felt how much he loved God.

 

Noel was a big part of my life when I first came to the Lord and some of my fondest memories of him would have to be our Friday Night YP meetings.  He took over from Pastor Willy as the YP leader and if I tell you we gave him a hard time that would be an understatement.  At that time Mayfair Baptist did not have a church.  We were using EP Baumann or Brixton Primary school for our meetings and in spite of that we witnessed many young people accept the Lord at those meetings.  Noel was never to busy to stop and listen if one of us needed him.  He was never to busy to drive the extra kilometres if it meant one of us had to be picked up or dropped off.  I recall how many Friday Nights he would drop my boyfriend off last just so that we had extra time together.  Noel was a sucker for young love!!!  In those days we used to drive a really old Hi Ace that without fail would break down when we needed it the most.  It was so bad that we used to sing ‘Trust in The Lord and don’t despair’ just to keep the Hi Ace going.  Eventually I think the Hi Ace (or God) got tired of that song because it turned out that if we started singing the song the Hi Ace would break down.  I used to tease Noel and the minute I got into the Hi Ace I would start singing the song and he would turn around and say “Yvette! I am warning you if this car breaks down I will make you walk home’  Needless to say he never made me walk but he did make me push it more than once.

 

I watched how Noel grew in the Lord to the point that he decided to give up his job and join the ministry full time.  At that stage Betsy and I were living with Willy and I know what a tough time that was for them as a couple.  Betsy was unsure about the ministry full time – I think she had watched how tough it was for Willy – and she did not want to do it full time.  I believe Noel was torn between his love for her and his calling in the church and for a long while he battled it out spiritually.  I remember many conversations that the three of us had and many nights Noel left us with a heavy heart and Betsy spent many hours talking to me about her reasons for not wanting Noel to be a full time minister.  A lot of her points were valid and in the end Noel realised that he could serve The Lord just as well by being the husband and father God expected him to be.

 

Noel and Betsy got married and I was her bridesmaid and when I got married Noel and her were best man and bridesmaid at my wedding.  Our friendship remained strong throughout the years and we shared the joys of our children growing up together and spending many weekends together as a family.  When I got divorced I believed that Noel and Betsy would fade away as we were no longer family but they both proved me wrong.  Although we were not as close as we were before we remained in touch.  If there was ever a time I needed a shoulder to cry on or they needed help with anything we always knew it was a matter of a phone call and we were always there for one another.

 

When Betsy took ill Noel called me to tell me she had asked to see me.  My heart broke when I saw my friend lying in that hospital and to see Noel and Wendy as stressed as what they were.  It was that night that Betsy asked me to promise that if anything happened to her I would make sure Noel and Wendy were ok.

 

It was a sad day for us when we buried Betsy in 2004 and although Noel appeared to be handling it well I knew differently.  There were many days that I spoke to him and all I would ever hear is how much he missed her.  I know that Noel used to Ask God to fetch him because he felt that he could not go on without her.  He went through a very rough patch for a long while and we had many conversations where Noel would ask the inevitable ‘why me’ questions.  It was my turn to be the strong one for him and remind him where we had come from and what we had been taught.  There were times that we had heated arguments about God but we always ended up with an understanding between us that no matter what we were going through God was still and always would be in control of our lives.

 

When Noel took ill a while ago the last thing I though of was that in just over a month I would be standing here at his funeral.  Noel has finally got his wish.  He has gone home to his heavenly father and his wife.  I had the pleasure of spending the last day that Noel was conscious with him.  We had such a wonderful day and although for some strange reason he only spoke Afrikaans and had the audacity to swear at me, it was such a blessing to stand at his side and see him smile at us.  He was happy that his mom was there that day and it was such a special moment when he looked up and said   ‘hey there’s my mom’ and turned to her so that she could hold him.  I think Noel knew that his time was close because he gave each of us that were there a special little piece of him.

 

So now I stand at your funeral to say my farewells to you and I just want to say in  closing that You and Betsy can rest assured that I take my duties as Wendy’s god mother to heart and she will always have me to turn to. I will be there to the best of my ability to ensure that your daughter and your grand children are always ok and will do my best to always let your grandchildren know what a special Oupa you were and just how much you loved them.

 

Noley Poley you were such a special person and I am going to miss you terribly.  Thank you for all the memories and for never losing sight of who you were and what we were taught. 

Rest in Peace now till we meet again

 

 

 

 

a great man

July 26, 2010

 Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things we can go through, No words can express what we are all feeling right now and I’m sure only time can help us accept the fact that Noels physical being has left us.

 Today I want to pay a tribute to my uncle Noel one of the greatest men alive. A man who meant the world to me. If you knew my uncle you would know that he was not without his problems. But you know how you have that one person in your family that everyone loves and respects that was him. 

 

  As most of you may know my uncle was a very proud man. To his friends, family and colleagues he was a very kind person and was always ready to help. He always had a solution to every problem and had his ways of making things simple.

 He hardly ever asked anybody for help but he was a very generous man, and he never wanted to be acknowledged for anything he did. When he helped he simply helped. 

 

 He was the one who took care of my grandparents and made sure they had a roof over their heads and that they wanted for nothing, I know just how much my gran is going to miss the Son who never left her side.

And Granny although he is no longer physically at your side he now sits up there in heaven with Oupa and Uncle Brian watching over you. He will always be nearby just talk and he will hear you.

 He was so pleasant to be around and always knew how to have a good time.

 My uncle wore glasses and had a big belly, and my sister always referred to him as father Christmas  and father xmas we loved you so much.

 My fondest memories from my childhood have him in it. My uncle was the eldest of seven boys, so he was the leader of the family.

 He loved to walk just like his dad and walked everywhere he could. 

 

 When I was growing up I used to spend so much time with him Aunty Betsy and Wendy. We all used to have so much fun together; His house was always filled with laughter and people. The four of us would have so much fun at home or going on holiday together.

 I remember Uncle Noel, Wendy and my self playing in the garden of their house one day, we were trying to find Wendy’s tortoise and this darn tortoise would just not show us where he was, the three of us were on our knees together looking for it. I can still hear his keys jingling every move he made he use to clip them on to his side. We found the tortoise eventually and when wendy picked it up he weed in her hand. Boy was that funny.

 

 Wendy reminded me just the other day of FREDDY, Uncle Noel would always and I mean always carry a Freddy comb in his sock to fix his hair. When we were younger he often use to pull Freddy out and sting us with it, I can picture now in my mind that smile and giggle every time he got one of us with Freddy.

 When the movie dirty dancing came out he would sit with us and watch the whole movie every time and at the end of the movie he knew he had to do the lift with us, and boy did he have to lift us all, Wendy first, then Rene then Jonathan and over and over again. I think that was the reason he had the strong arms that he did. We would giggle in excitement every time we got up in the air.

 My uncle could dance in his younger days, well at least from what I remember. Aunty betsy and uncle noel threw the best new years parties and I remember every one was there, ask my uncle to Jive and jive he would. Wendy often use to stand on her dads toes and he would dance around with her like that.

 He loved his grandchildren so much and would give anything just to make them smile, Ronald Crystal Nathan Brandon and Twane, I know you are going to miss your oupa very much, never ever forget just how much he loved you all. Crystal Oupa was so proud of you and he use to tell me all the time that you were going to be a doctor, the only facrie that would walk around in the white coat. I know he would want each of you to always try your best in everything you do and most importantly he would want you to do it with God at your side.

Wendy – your dad loved you more than he loved anything else in this world, he had so many dreams and hopes for you. I can’t begin to tell you how many times your dad expressed to me and to others just how much he loved you.

Remember when you use to squash the bees and the day the bee stung you on your hand, do you remember just how worried your dad was.

Wendy use to polish uncles noels shoes for work and for some reason she would polish the bottom of his shoes, he would slip often because of the polish under his shoes but not once did he ever ask her not to do it. he would put the shoes on again and hope he would not fall again.

Wend You and I have spent a lot of time since your dad got so sick together at the hospital, running errands doing what needed to be done, and I know just how many times you cried and said “nay how do I make it up to my dad all the wrong I did over the years all I want is a chance to say Daddy I am sorry” and all I could say was “be there for him now hold him and tell him you are sorry and love him” and now I have realized that there is a way that you can make it up to him and that is “ Lead your Children and your self to God and love your kids as much as he loved you” that my God sister is what would make your dad eternally happy.

The passing of Noel Facrie is going to one of the hardest for me personally and for many of you sitting here today. Take his memory and let it live on just the way he tried so hard to live and that was through GOD.

 He showed strength until the end and still had some enlightening and funny words for us words I am sure my mom Gran and Wendy would not want me to repeat.

Let’s be happy that he has finally gone home to our creator and is free of all pain physical and emotional. 

God saw you getting tired A cure was not to be, So He put His arms around you, and whispered, "Come To Me.

"With tearful eyes we watched you and saw you fade away. Although we loved you dearly, we could not make you stay.Many times we thought of you, many times we've cried, If love alone could save you, you never would have died. A golden heart stopped beating, your tender hands at rest, God took you home to prove to us He only takes the best.

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