ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Ogbuagu Hilary Okam, 83 years old, born on January 15, 1938, and passed away on January 20, 2021. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Obika Nwobi on April 16, 2021
Ogbuagu, words cannot describe this difficult moment. You were very caring, loving, humble, kind, and good at heart and soul. You touched so many lives by your selfless and countless acts of kindness, always giving and never expecting any favors in return. I heard how you helped a host of Oguta folks come to the United States. You called countless times during Sister’s treatment.

I enjoyed your stories about your activities during the Nigerian Civil War. From how some soldiers came to the University of Biafra to pick up a "Frenchman" professor to help translate French arms manuals, to how Colonel Achuzia rushed down to the hotel lobby searching for his service revolver which his young son had been playing with. I also read about your role as a Biafran ambassador. My dad always said "Ike bu ndi ishi Biafran Propaganda".

Ogbuagu, you were and will always be an inspiration to us. You have left a void in the family that will never be filled. While we mourn today, we also take comfort in the fact that your mission on earth has been fulfilled. We thank the Lord for your life and bid you farewell until we meet again.
Posted by Preye Angaye on April 15, 2021
Dr. Okam was a father and a very genuine friend. He took particular interest in the welfare and wellbeing of others. He was such a peace loving individual that I sometimes prayed for more of his type. He would encourage you when things don’t work accordingly and always wanted you to succeed. I will miss you dad and great friend. You lived a life worthy of emulation. Continue to Rest in Peace. Amen.
Posted by Scheherazade Okoro on April 13, 2021
          A Tribute to Ogbuagu Hilary Ikechukwu Okam
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. – Psalm 23:4
We give honor to our brother-in-law and Uncle to our children, whose life was well lived. We were shocked and saddened to learn of his passing. His generosity, love of family are well known. He relished travelling to visit friends and faraway places. He instilled a love of Igbo culture and traditions into his children and many grandchildren. Simple things could make him so happy. He was thrilled when we gave him “Old Spice” cologne for Christmas, or gave him a tour of the “Riverwalk” and the “Alamo” in San Antonio, Texas. Our children fondly remember their Uncle Hilary and always felt comfortable in his presence. 
Having known Hilary back in the old days of New Haven, Connecticut even before our own family was started has allowed us to pass through the years with him. We saw his family grow and prosper as he also sought the perfect place for his children to be raised. Life goes by so quickly we barely have time to see the effects our short lives bring. Let us celebrate his bringing four wonderful children into this world with our sister Ivy. We know they were devoted to him and will miss him dearly. Our family here in Texas shares in your sorrow, our hearts are with you during this difficult time. God will never abandon us during our times of grief, he will always provide us with love and hope. Hilary, we will never forget you !
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” Matthew 5:4
Love Always,
Dr. Clement Adindu and Scheherazade Okoro and Family
Posted by Thelma Mamah on April 10, 2021
My dearest uncle, my number 1. Every time I saw your face, the smile you so readily shared brought me so much joy. That was you; always bringing joy to people around you. Now, I think about the memories that you left me and it still brings me so much joy. Even in death you continue to bring me joy. Thank you so much for being the best uncle one could ever ask for. To say that I will miss you is an understatement. You will always be in my heart. Please give mom a big hug for me and tell her I love her. I love you.

Your niece,
Thelma
Posted by Afamefuna Okoronkwo on April 10, 2021
"To Live is Christ and to die is gain"
(Philippians 1:21)
Though we mourn here on Earth, the death of the righteous is gain to Heaven.
Ogbuagu, you lived a simple, quiet but great life. You impacted so much on us and on mankind. Your legacies will live on.
Sleep well Uncle.
From Prof. Afamefuna Okoronkwo
Posted by Bu Segba on April 9, 2021
"I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" ....Maya Angelou.
Dr Okam was most welcoming and very kind. He mattered because he made you feel like you mattered.
He called my name funny and it still cracks me up whenever I remember it.
You were definitely one of the good ones sir, and our loss on earth is Heavens' gain.
Rest easy knowing how much you were loved and how very much you will be missed. May your memory always be a blessing.... 
Posted by Alexandra Oputa on April 8, 2021
My dear Uncle Hilary,
It was such a shock to hear that you left us. You left us, being the quiet man you were, in your usual quiet way, no fuss, no wahala! I remember how surprised a friend of mine was when I named all the people that you brought here, including us, the Obioras. You were among the first Nigerians to teach at Yale, an Ivy League school, but you never bragged about it! You were and still are a Trail Blazer! I learned so much from you and admired your humility. You loved family and made us all feel special! You had a special name for each of us, mine was “Alex Girl”! You will always have a special place in my heart. I am weeping as I am writing this and will never forget you! No di nke oma, Ogbuagu Ugorochioma Ike nwa madu, as I was told that my great grandmother fondly called you ❤️
Posted by Alexandra Obiora-Oputa on April 7, 2021
My dear Uncle Hilary,
It was such a shock to hear that you left us. You left us, being the quiet man you were, in your usual quiet way, no fuss, no wahala! I remember how surprised a friend of mine was when I named all the people you brought to the United States, including us, the Obioras. You were among the first Nigerians to teach at Yale, an Ivy League school, but you never bragged about it! You were a Trailblazer and posterity will remember you as such!
I learned so much from you and admired your humility. You loved family and made us all feel special! You had a special name for each of us, mine was “Alexy Girl!” You will always have a special place in my heart. I am weeping as I am writing this and will never forget you!
Ogbuagu Ugorochioma
Onye oma ani jiri na eje mba
Ike nwa madu, as I was told my maternal great grandmother fondly called you, nodi nke oma Ezi nwanne m ❤️
Sincerely,
Alexandra Obiora-Oputa
Posted by George Obiora on March 31, 2021
Tribute to Uncle Hilary

Even as a young boy, I knew Professor Hilary Ike Okam was an important person in our household. That relative of my father’s was often mentioned in the same breath as Quinnipiac College - named after a river that runs through the city of New Haven, Connecticut and called “Alma Mater” by several of my siblings.

Though Quinnipiac isn’t as well known as its Ivy League neighbor, Yale, that institution of higher learning is prestigious in its own right and was recommended by Uncle Hilary several decades ago when my dad sought his counsel regarding the higher education of his first child (my sister Ngozi). She went on to study there and blazed a trail that the others would follow to the extent that, at one point, the college paper felt compelled to write about the proliferation of members of a certain family of globetrotters at one of its campuses.

The gentle, accomplished intellectual we called uncle and his better half were mentors, sources of inspiration and shoulders to lean on for others while managing to raise outstanding children of their own. Uncle Hilary and Auntie Ifeoma led the way not just for my family but for quite a few other individuals of Nigerian origin who now call New Haven home. For that, we’ll always be grateful.
Posted by Izunna Uzokwe on March 31, 2021
He was a good and loving family man. He gave so much to society. A magnificent Christain combined with cherished traditional values. You shall be greatly missed. I mourn you.
Ogbuagu Dr Izunna Uzokwe
Posted by Chinaedu Nnani on March 30, 2021
Ogbuagu was a perfect gentleman whose ways were positively infectious. I relished every moment that I spent with him either in Nigeria visiting then at the College of Education or at his homes or even during our many yearly Conventions. He would always call me Bede nkem and I will definitely miss that. Your rich legacy will forever remain. I am saddened that I will miss your wisdom and advise. You will always ask me "umu m kwanu" because my children were regarded as yours too. Take care of them. The Good Lord will receive your gentle soul. Adieu uncle, adieu Ogbuagu. It is well. Crying like we have no faith and no hope will be a disservice to you.
Posted by Okey Obua on March 27, 2021
Ogbuagu Ngakudi! Ogbu na SAP! Brother Ike!!

How does one eulogize such a wonderful person? Words are not enough to express the unique qualities of this great man.

Rest in the Lord dear Uncle. Still can’t process that you are gone from us but we thank God for the wonderful times and the length of time He loaned you to us. You are such a giving person. The vacuum you left will be difficult to fill but we rest, assured that you are with the Lord.
Everybody’s daddy! Never seen you angry, ever! So gentle and caring. Once in a while you will call me to say “okeynwamiss, I hope you guys are well.” You will always conclude with “ Take care of the little ones inu na.”
We will keep the love and care you showed us, the value of family you expressed and the strength of your character. We will build on it and continue to love ourselves and keep umu mma nine together. I know you will like that uncle.
Good bye Onyeokei. Be with God till we meet again.
We will always remember and love you dearly.
Adieu.
Posted by Wilfred Anane on March 26, 2021
The Great Doc!!! You are fondly missed by me....I remember how we joked everytime you visited Nigeria and I will forever miss you sir! You lived a fulfilled life and God has taken u where He belongs!
 I miss how you called me Black MC...
   Adieu Sir
Posted by Ijeoma Okam on March 26, 2021
Daddy the Daddy, Ogbuagu , Madam Reg as you will fondly call me, when I spoke to you the day you arrived Oguta, We laughed and chatted on my coming down to visit you, little did I know that, it was our last conversation. You were a great man, the best Uncle anyone would ask for and the fact that we both shared the similar habit of playing with our belly buttons made you more special. I remember our trips to Port Harcourt Club, I will miss you dearly. You lived a good, gentle and happy life. Will miss you greatly...: Send my love to my Mummy as you both enjoy paradise in the Lord's Bosom, sleep well till we meet again. Ogbuagu Nga'kudi.

Your niece
Ijeoma Olisekwu
Posted by Oby Ochijeh on March 26, 2021
Uncle, I still can’t believe I’m writing a tribute because of your passing. Words cannot describe this difficult moment, but if this is the last time I get to say goodbye then I will do so knowing that I consider myself blessed to have lived this life as your niece.
Uncle, your death came to us as a shock and as you sit in the arms of the Lord, your family and friends mourn your death.
I still wake up everyday hoping this is a dream, and it hurts knowing you’re gone forever.
I guess this is my final goodbye since we never got the chance to do so. Rest In Peace Uncle, We will definitely miss you.
We thank the Lord for your well spent life and bid farewell until we meet again. You’re gone but not forgotten Uncle IKE.
Your Niece
Oby girl
Posted by Ifeoma Ferguson on March 26, 2021
Ogbuagu, like we will fondly and respectfully greet you. You were quite a gentleman. You hold family close and never ceased to show that in your relationship with our family. I remember all the times you and Ogbuefi spent with us and how Camille will snuggle around you all the time. She does not know you have gone to be with our savior but I am sure she is wondering where you are because she has not seen you in over a year. Ogbuagu may your gentle soul Rest In Peace.
Posted by Nneka Okam on March 16, 2021
My Dearest, kindest, most loving, Daddy; It was only 57 days ago I heard your voice and only 77 days ago I dropped you off at the airport. I was so happy to see you happy to go to Nigeria. Had I known, I would never have let you go. I would give anything to bring you back even for 10 minutes. I love you so much. I miss you so dearly. Every day I miss our evening drives together listening to your favorite....Johnny Cash. You’re so kind and so giving.

Hil my man! Ngakudi!! Ogbu na SAP, Oyi’m, My guy, onye nke m, Ike nwa mmadu!! All the names I would call you all at once and you would respond “amam na- ima”. 

Thank you. Thank you for everything. I would choose you as my dad over and over again. You’re one of a kind, an incredible soul. Heaven & I have gained an angel and with that, I take solace.

May God bless you and grant you eternal peace. Amen. Because you live in our hearts and memories forever, you could never die.

Love,
Adaeze Nneka Okam
Posted by Mimi Achebe on March 9, 2021
My Dear Daddy,
Words cannot express how I feel, how pained l am. I cannot imagine not seeing you again soon, not hearing your voice, not seeking your advice. I pray God to keep your precious soul and give us all the fortitude to bear this loss.
I cherish the time we had with you, all you taught me, all your love, all your care, all your humility, your humor and your brilliant mind. I delight in everything I inherited from you and hope that my children are lucky enough to inherit them too. I pray and I believe that I will see you again in the presence of our Lord and what a wonderful day that would be. I look forward to that day with Joy in my heart. I love you, Daddy. Be in Comfort and Peace till we meet again. Love, Mimi

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Posted by Obika Nwobi on April 16, 2021
Ogbuagu, words cannot describe this difficult moment. You were very caring, loving, humble, kind, and good at heart and soul. You touched so many lives by your selfless and countless acts of kindness, always giving and never expecting any favors in return. I heard how you helped a host of Oguta folks come to the United States. You called countless times during Sister’s treatment.

I enjoyed your stories about your activities during the Nigerian Civil War. From how some soldiers came to the University of Biafra to pick up a "Frenchman" professor to help translate French arms manuals, to how Colonel Achuzia rushed down to the hotel lobby searching for his service revolver which his young son had been playing with. I also read about your role as a Biafran ambassador. My dad always said "Ike bu ndi ishi Biafran Propaganda".

Ogbuagu, you were and will always be an inspiration to us. You have left a void in the family that will never be filled. While we mourn today, we also take comfort in the fact that your mission on earth has been fulfilled. We thank the Lord for your life and bid you farewell until we meet again.
Posted by Preye Angaye on April 15, 2021
Dr. Okam was a father and a very genuine friend. He took particular interest in the welfare and wellbeing of others. He was such a peace loving individual that I sometimes prayed for more of his type. He would encourage you when things don’t work accordingly and always wanted you to succeed. I will miss you dad and great friend. You lived a life worthy of emulation. Continue to Rest in Peace. Amen.
Posted by Scheherazade Okoro on April 13, 2021
          A Tribute to Ogbuagu Hilary Ikechukwu Okam
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. – Psalm 23:4
We give honor to our brother-in-law and Uncle to our children, whose life was well lived. We were shocked and saddened to learn of his passing. His generosity, love of family are well known. He relished travelling to visit friends and faraway places. He instilled a love of Igbo culture and traditions into his children and many grandchildren. Simple things could make him so happy. He was thrilled when we gave him “Old Spice” cologne for Christmas, or gave him a tour of the “Riverwalk” and the “Alamo” in San Antonio, Texas. Our children fondly remember their Uncle Hilary and always felt comfortable in his presence. 
Having known Hilary back in the old days of New Haven, Connecticut even before our own family was started has allowed us to pass through the years with him. We saw his family grow and prosper as he also sought the perfect place for his children to be raised. Life goes by so quickly we barely have time to see the effects our short lives bring. Let us celebrate his bringing four wonderful children into this world with our sister Ivy. We know they were devoted to him and will miss him dearly. Our family here in Texas shares in your sorrow, our hearts are with you during this difficult time. God will never abandon us during our times of grief, he will always provide us with love and hope. Hilary, we will never forget you !
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” Matthew 5:4
Love Always,
Dr. Clement Adindu and Scheherazade Okoro and Family
his Life

Biography

Ogbuagu Dr. Hilary Hypolite Ikechukwu Okam was born to the Late Hyacinth Hewson Irona Okam Okonya Nsoro of Umundanike Orisha kindred, Umundanike Royal Village Oguta and Late Josephine Ogonim Okwuosha Onisa of Uzu Ozeke Ozor kindred of Umuayata Village Oguta.

He was born on the 15th of January 1938. Ogbuagu Ike Okam lived with his cousin, the late Paul Uzokwe in Port Harcourt as a young boy until he completed his secondary education. He attended elementary education at Onitsha and secondary education at Stella Maris College Port Harcourt, graduating in 1956. He proceeded to Shanahan Teacher Training College Orlu and completed his course in 1958. He taught briefly at Stella Maris College Port Harcourt in 1959. By September 1960 he began at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, U.N.N, as one of the pioneer undergraduates. In 1963, he graduated with honors in English language. While teaching briefly at Aquinas Secondary School, Osu Mbano, he earned the prestigious U.N.E.S.C.O. fellowship and proceeded to the University of Bordeaux in France, for a Doctorate Degree in Linguistics and Comparative Literature. On his return to Nigeria, he was recruited by his alma mater, U.N.N, as the Head of Department of Languages.  Not long after that, the Nigerian Biafran War ensued. For Biafra, he was Chairman of the News Talk Committee (the Biafran Propaganda network) that enlightened Biafrans on the true position of the war with the popular voice of Okoko Ndem. He held this position until his final assignment as the Biafran Representative to Gabon. In May 1968, he was part of the Biafran delegation that attended the Kampala Peace Talk, "One of the world's failed attempts to forge peace between Nigeria and Biafra".

At the end of the Civil War, stationed in Gabon, he was offered positions at Harvard and Yale Universities in the USA. He accepted the offer from Yale. He left Gabon to assume a position teaching at Yale University as a Professor of Linguistics and Comparative Literature. He got married to his heartthrob Barrister Arret Ifeoma Okam at St. Mary Church, New Haven, Connecticut, USA on December 26th, 1970. They were blessed with four children, Mimi, Obinna, Nnamdi and Adaeze, who are all successful in their fields of endeavor. In 1979, he returned to Nigeria and settled in Port Harcourt where he lectured at the University of Education for many years.

Ogbuagu Ike Okam was a devout Christian, a Roman Catholic. He was a member of St. Michael's group of the Catholic Men's Organization of Sacred Heart Parish Oguta.

He was a celebrated member of the prestigious and highest title in Oguta - The Igbu Society Title of "Ogbu Agu". He became 'Ogbuagu Ngakudi' in 1987.

He was also an Oririnzere, member of the Royal Cabinet of Oguta.

He lived an exemplary Christian life of honesty, justice and love. He lived a lively social life as a member of the prestigious Port-Harcourt Club.

We ask God to Grant Him Eternal Rest In His Bosom.

May his gentle soul rest in Peace. Amen.

Dr. Uche C. Okam
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Shared by Chinyere Ihuoma on April 13, 2021
Uncle Ike,
My uncle, my friend, my daddy, my number 1. You were so many things wrapped in one. The joy you shared was contagious. Your smile made the room radiate. You loved us all equally, nobody can dispute this.
Words are not enough to say how I feel however I take consolation in the fact that you lived a good life and that you were a good man (a very rear one). I know that you are resting in the bosom of our Lord.
Send my love to Oyoyo and give her a very big hug on my behalf.
You will forever be missed dear uncle.
Rest on until we meet to part no more.
Your Niece
Chinyere Ihuoma(nee okam) 

Adieu Uncle

Shared by Okey Obua on March 21, 2021
Ogbuagu Ngakudi! Ogbu na SAP! Brother Ike!!

How does one eulogize such a wonderful person? Words are not enough to express the unique qualities ofthis great man. 

Rest in the Lord dear Uncle. Still can’t process that you are gone from us but we thank God for the wonderful times and the length of time He loaned you to us. You are such a giving person. The vacuum you left will be difficult to fill but we rest, assured that you are with the Lord.
Everybody’s daddy! Never seen you angry, ever! So gentle and caring. Once in a while you will call me to say “okeynwamiss, I hope you guys are well.” You will always conclude with “ Take care of the little ones inu na.” 
We will keep the love and care you showed us, the value of family you expressed and the strength of your character. We will build on it and continue to love ourselves and keep umu mma nine together. I know you will like that uncle. 
Good bye Onyeokei. Be with God till we meet again. 
We will always remember and love you dearly. 
Adieu.