ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Okpora Oghene, 56 years old, born on May 24, 1964, and passed away on February 10, 2021. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my Uncle Chris


Uncle Chris, Uncle Chris…

It feels like only yesterday I was home from college for Christmas and I saw you, so full of life and full of energy.

Usually not a morning person, I would wake up every morning around 5 am because you would wake up every morning around 5 am. As I heard his boisterous voice chatting and laughing on the phone for hours, I would think to myself, “how is uncle Chris already so awake at this time and I can barely keep my eyes open!?”

You told me stories of how I used to be your “little friend” and how you would drive me around Lagos in my mum’s old Honda. You spoke of your sons with such pride and joy and told me how you couldn’t wait to see them grow. In fact, I remember how excited you were that your family were coming to Lagos for Christmas; you made sure everything was perfect for them, even down to ensuring that the fridge was well stocked with your sons’ favourite sausages.

You fought so bravely that even living under the same roof, I never knew the true extent of your pain. I can only take solace in the fact that now, you feel pain no more.

A devoted father, husband, brother, uncle, and friend, you will be sorely missed dear uncle Chris. Gone too soon, but the Good Lord knows best. Sun re o, sweet uncle, sun re o.

Love,

Tutu, your niece
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Uncle Okpos, as I fondly called you, your journey to the great beyond took me by shock, but as they say, who are we to question God.
I have very fond memories of you, from when you used to visit early mornings, to those Christmas parties at Godwin Okigbo. I also remember those times you promised me Ralph Lauren shirts and would always ensure you came into town with 1 or 2 shirts, making me look fly back then in school.
I just cannot imagine not having you around again, forever!!! Whenever I remember the memories and the fact that I will not see you again, chills run through me.
Who will fill your role? Obviously, no one.
Sleep well, till we meet to part no more.
Yomi Adeloye (your nephew).
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my brother Okporalefe Oghene


There are no words great enough to explain the importance you had in my life not only as a brother but as my best friend, and for me, the day you left was the saddest one of all.

As children, we shared many memories together.

From nursery to boarding school, I remember how we used to laugh at the smallest of things. How we would joke, fight, play and cry. Though everything we did we always did together. Now, I cherish every memory and always smile when I look back. For you, Okporalefe were, through the Grace of God, my brother by chance but my greatest friend by choice and that is a bond that is unbreakable.

As we grew older, I remember how our bond strengthened. We told each other everything. All of our secrets, dreams, and goals. We would spend hours talking to each other; conversations about family, clothes, and music. The love we shared and the similarities we had were remarkable however you as a person were even greater. For the man you became was so kind and generous. All qualities with such rarity that there will forever be an empty space in our hearts.

However, God has called you home and you are in a better place now. I am forever grateful that he gave us you as our brother here on earth. I love you.

May your vibrant soul Rest in Perfect Peace.

Your brother - Ighofose
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my Uncle Okpos


My uncle Okpos was my mother's youngest brother. He was everything, a good father, a wonderful husband, and a loving uncle, and a great friend. Death is inevitable. God saw that you fought this battle, and he took you in his time. I will miss you and would cherish all the times we had together. I can proudly say that I am fortunate I had you as my uncle.
Continue to rest in peace uncle Okpos.

Your niece. Kofs baby as u always called me.

Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my brother.

Okpora was my older brother. Although we did not see regularly as he lived in Warri and I in Lagos, we were only a phone call apart. These calls were short as he did not really care for long telephone conversations.

Okpora was so sociable with a collection of friends from many parts of the country. As a result of these friendships, he knew many states in the country as he traveled to these states in support of his friends.

When you informed us about your illness, we rejected it in God’s name, but were prepared to stand by you and with you to beat it. We did everything humanly possible- I remember all the sleepless nights spent collecting new information on how to beat your illness and sharing it with you. I became the go-to for all possible treatments- from CBD oil to Sour Sop tea, fruit, garden egg leaves, etc.

I am still struggling to come to terms with the fact that you are gone! How can this be true!! We spent Christmas and New Year with you, Onome, your two boys- Chovwe, Toba, and our brother, Tarhe. We all had a wonderful time.

When I read your message on 2nd January that you were on your way to Warri for a few days, my heart sank as something inside of me told me that you should not have gone on that journey and that you also knew that……

I can still hear you singing the song “We lift God’s name higher” during our prayer sessions in the hospital.

I am so sad as we wanted you to live so badly, but God knows best.

You will be sorely missed. Rest in the bosom of Our Lord Jesus Christ my beloved brother.

Your sister,

Frances Omojevwe Oghene

Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my brother

Okpora my beloved brother, it was nothing but a total disbelief and sudden shock when I received the news of your passing. Well, The Almighty and Unquestionable God, knows best; He gives and takes as He pleases.

Wednesday 10 February 2021 was really a sad day for all who knew Chris Okpora Oghene; his passing was one too much to bear. There is no doubt that he was a people's man; nice, jovial, sociable, and never a dull moment with him. He will forever be missed; I pray he finds rest and everlasting peace in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Okpora, continue to sleep the good sleep in the watchful eyes of The Almighty God.

Goodnight (Adieu) my dear beloved brother. May the Lord God comfort us all and his sons be blessed at all times; Amen!

Your sister


Edirin AFOLABI


Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my brother


Okpora, fondly called Okpalefe by our dad, was unique in many ways.

Speaking to him was always easy. I can’t recall ever having an argument with him; he would always say, “Jife, you know I no get problem!” and that statement couldn’t be truer! Every time we spoke on the phone, he would answer in a cheery tone asking, “Jife! How na?”; his upbeat optimism contagious to all who knew him.

You see, Okpora had a special knack for getting along with everyone he crossed paths with; his relaxed and casual style made him easy to get along with. The very young and old were comfortable with him and it is no wonder he had numerous and diverse friends. Each time I called him, he was either with a friend or going to meet a friend and I was always in awe by how he managed to know and to get along with so many people.

I watched with surprise and pride how he made everyone, from his healthcare providers to the support staff, comfortable in his company. I was even more amazed when he recently, in his usual fashion, introduced himself to my Parish priest at the end of a Sunday Mass before I had the chance to introduce them. I had already told my Priest about him and he was happy they connected as they struck up a long conversation. That was Okpora for you- friendly and fearless!

Okpora was courageous, strong, and full of energy. He was always on the move, even as he took his treatment. In the last months he spent with me in Lagos, I wondered how he managed to stay so upbeat, crisscrossing the chaotic streets of Lagos despite my attempts to slow him down. It dawned on me that he thrived on been on the move, and so he was until the very end.

He fought his illness with determination, strength, and grace. Okpora was full of life and wanted to live so badly. We wanted him to live so desperately. At quiet times, he would remind me about his young family- his two boys -Chovwe and Toba, whom he loved so much, and his lovely wife aka “baby”. I would usually hear him very early in the mornings talking to them as they got ready for school and saw how he would do anything for his family.

Okpora, I pray that Chovwe and Toba grow up to achieve your dreams for them. I pray that Onome is able to find comfort in the bosom of the Lord. We prayed and hoped for divine healing, but in the end, we resign ourselves to our Faith that teaches us that Our Lord has the final say! He is the king of kings and Lord of Lords!

May Our Lord who knows the beginning and the end, have mercy on you and grant you eternal rest, Amen. Adieu, Okpora as you Rest in perfect Peace.

Your sister,


Jife
Posted by Edoja Odibo on February 24, 2021
Okposbaba!!! There is no boring time with you, you were a good man, very caring, full of life, bubbling, very sociable and popular too. Thank you for the time we spent together, I remember with fond memories the parties, the travels, the laughs, the good times, the ups and the downs, the fights we had, The love we shared. Okposbaba I love you my Brother, if only I had told you more often. You will be greatly missed my Brother.
You will forever live in my heart. Rest In Perfect Peace Brother.
Posted by Jones Onoriose on February 22, 2021
Okpos.!!! . My Okpooossss Beleke.. Today , heaven is celebrating the entrance of good hearted man , a happy camper , a generous man, and a truely devoted friend. The radio was playing our song and I was doing our shoulder dance to that song ... just before I got the call you passed .. I screamed Okpos Beleke! Why? right then I knew you were in Peace, happy and dancing to heaven. Acuna Matata ! Part of the circle of life !...you came , you saw and won Big time! whenever your story is being told it will be that you did not have an oil well but whatever you had you shared and touched everyone beautifully!.. Your generosity is second to None.. I pray the almighty God Comfort your family and trust me Bro your memory is great in my heart and i shall never forget all the fun we shared ! Until we see to depart no more , May your loving soul Rest in perfect Peace. Adieu!
Posted by Sarah Mekwuye on February 21, 2021
My heart is heavy as I write this tribute and words cannot describe this difficult moment. He touched so many lives by his selfless and countless acts of kindness, always giving and never expecting any favours in return.
Since he passed away, things have not been the same.We didn’t get to say goodbye, but now all we can do is cry and remember the memories we made. I remember, when ever i would talk to him and he was always energetic, he would speak so fast and his words were sometimes hard to understand, but it was always very nice talking to him. He was loud, outgoing and the life of the party. There was never a dull moment when he was around. He might not be alive in human body but he is still alive in our hearts. Death has robbed us our best, but it has not extinguished the light. The fire will continue burning forever.
Rest in paradise Uncle.
Love,
Sarah your niece
Posted by J'navi Oghene on February 21, 2021
Death, be not proud


Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so;
For those whom thou think’st thou dost overthrow
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul’s delivery.
Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell,
And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell’st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally
And death shall be no more; Death, thou
shalt die.

- John Donne.


Kpora has conquered death.

Rest on Big Bro.



Posted by EsseOghene Mgbeke on February 17, 2021
GONE TOO SOON!

So many questions. Why did you go? Could you have fought a little harder?
Okpora was my big brother we didn’t see or talk too often it feels like it has been forever but the times that we did,he always had a way about him he could just pick up like no time had passed. When you come from a family as big as ours you definitely need a sibling like Okpora he could get along with any and every one and almost never held a grudge.
I remember how he will come to our house and announce his arrival even before he got to the door calling out our names very loudly, anyone who knew him knows he had a loud voice and spoke really fast sounded like he was excited and in a hurry. When he called your name his voice was always high pitched like he was “hailing” you, It was so funny.
When I first introduced my now husband to him he quickly took to him and he soon started calling him by his middle name always so loudly and fondly like he had known him for ages. I found it so hilarious how he never called his name once he will call out repeatedly KESTER! KESTER! KESTER!each time with a smile before finally asking how nah?
He teased me a lot after I had my daughter like baby sister now had a baby whenever he saw the kids he never failed to tickle,giggle and make them laugh he was so good with kids I am so glad he got to have his boys howbeit for a short time and so sad that he wouldn’t be here to watch them grow, I hope they are reminded how much he loved them.
Life gives us no warning, reminding us that the pleasures of this earth are fleeting. It is my prayer that you are at peace and in a better place. You will be greatly missed brother, our family will never be the same we will cherish our memories of you.
Rest peacefully.
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 17, 2021
Tribute to my brother, Okpora.

Where do I even start? I`m yet to fully process what has just befallen us. This feels surreal, like a terrible nightmare!
"Okotie", as you would fondly call me. I can still hear your voice.
Death has never come this close, not even with daddy`s passing many years ago. You were a big part of my life. Whenever I was with you and everywhere we went together, you would always introduce me to your friends and everyone that was around you. All of my close friends knew who Okpora was; Tarhe`s big brother. You always wanted me around you and there was never a dull moment whenever we were together. So lively, even when I was coming to see you at the hospital. You stayed strong in spite of the painful medical procedures. I prayed, and I was hopeful.
"How Paris", was the first text message you sent me when I was away. You always stayed in touch.
Okpora Oghene you lived life to the fullest. You eventually got married and had two beautiful children.
I take solace in the fact that you`re at peace and free from the pain.
To live in the hearts of those we love is not to die. A thousand words would not bring you back, I know this because I have tried; neither will all the tears, I know this because I`m still crying, still grieving.
Okpora Oghene, never to be forgotten. You are going to live in our hearts and in our minds forever.
Till we meet again, continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord.
Adieu, big brother.
Posted by Laura Oghene Mekwuye on February 16, 2021
Tribute by Ogbonnaya Onuoha Agbaeze
Met Kpora through my Late Cousin Victor Abaeze over 25 years ago. Kpora was more of a Brother than a Friend, for he was comfortable in my Village, Item in Abia State and made friends with a lot of people from my Place.
Kpora was always there for his Friends and will always be at any occasion connected to his pals even if it meant spending days out of his base or making long journeys to be there.
Will really miss your wise words to me especially whenever I am going through tough or emotional times. Goodbye my Friend, my Arsenal Brother. May your Soul Rest In Lord.
Posted by Kwame Alex-Eyitene on February 15, 2021
Okpozue cannot believe you have passed onto eternal glory. May the almighty give your wife, children, loved ones and entire family the strength and fortitude to bear this loss. I’ll forever remember the fun times we all had during our time in London. May your soul rest in eternal peace. RIP ✝️
Posted by Laura Oghene Mekwuye on February 13, 2021
A Tribute by Gborokins.

Okpora Chris Oghene.... A death too many

My UCE Senior Barrister Eterhisan Oputu described Kpora as he is fondly called as - effervescent and ebullient and I can't agree less. Kpora was so so full of life and will never be caught worrying about tomorrow.

Kpora is a people's man. Nice, jovial, neat, social, vivacious and intelligent. If you are close to Kpora, you will agree with me that he is indeed a brainpower. Kpora knows something about everything. From geography to pure science, humanities to politics and places, our man can never disappoint you. Tell him to name the Newcastle team that almost won the EPL in 1995/96 season for example and you will be shocked.

One cool Sunday evening over room temperature glasses of wine, I wanted to test Kpora's acclaimed intelligence by his close friends and I asked him about Scandinavian countries but before I could add a jack, he was telling me the cultural, linguistics and historical ties that linked Sweden, Denmark and Norway together. Mr Kpora was fun to be with. His knowledge of world history is legendary. He remembers events with accurate dates.

He was of a privileged background who entered our great citadel of learning - Urhobo College Effurun at age 9. After UCE he went to the United Kingdom where he willingly hosted warri boys visiting London. On one occasion, about 7 years ago, I asked him how it was working in London. Kpora pulled his designers glasses from his eyes and touched me lightly saying the following words.... 'Gborokins, I nor ever work for London. I dey get funds from home steady. Infact na me dey sort people out'.

Kpora was never a proud person despite his cool background. He detest imperious people and will never give an undue credence to a rich or privileged person. He will not fail to tell anyone that smart intelligent people don't necessarily make money in life. It's Grace he would emphasize.

I remember an encounter with him in 1990 in broad Street Lagos as I was searching for job opportunities after NYSC. Kpora was well dressed in a sharp trendy complete suit. I was so proud and happy to be around him. I told him he has arrived and he laughed.....

'Gborokins, nothing o. This Lagos is unnecessary false life. It's just packaging. You better pass many people you see with heavy suits'. He gave me lunch money which was his last dough in his wallet and removed the tie on his neck and gave it to me. 'Guy when u go any interview, wear white shirt with this Pierre Cardin tie and if the interviewer na guy man when know weti dey, you go get the job'.

Kpora has a unique way of giving anyone encouragement. He was never envious of anyone - infact he will sing praises of anyone that is doing great. But there was a caveat - never attempt being over bearing. He will tear you apart with words.

Kpora is a man around town and knows every big happening guy. If kpora does not know you, it means you are not a near top person.
Kpora is very sociable with a special dress sense. Be it t-shirts, trousers, shorts, shoes, belts, wrist watches etc whatever he adorns, it should be a brand name. The Kpora I know will never compromise quality.

He did not marry early but never had any regrets. He loved and protected his beautiful wife the way you would want your son in-law to be. He adores his two sons unconditionally. Matter of factly, seeing Kpora with his sons in church, you would want to have children after 50 years. His boys were always well dressed in the best of garments. He enjoys lifting them in his broad shoulders. He loved the Catholic faith and was on several occasions member of annual harvest committee.

Kpora loves football and Arsenal fc was his favorite team. He was very passionate about Arsenal to a level where he stopped seeing their live games. Ask him why and he will quickly tell you that he wants to live long. He likes to keep fit and will never skip his early morning brisk walk around Bendel Estate where he lived.

Kpora was a very generous person and will not hesitate to give a friend his last dime. He loves his alma mater - UCE and never stops recalling the good old secondary school days. He loved his friends and he was a man one can trust.

He started having health challenges late last year. He got the right treatment and we were all glad he was ok. He even flaunted his nice family recent photographs on social media and we were all happy for him. Sadly, yesterday, Wednesday mid week, news filtered in that our man could not make it. This is one death too many. May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

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Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my Uncle Chris


Uncle Chris, Uncle Chris…

It feels like only yesterday I was home from college for Christmas and I saw you, so full of life and full of energy.

Usually not a morning person, I would wake up every morning around 5 am because you would wake up every morning around 5 am. As I heard his boisterous voice chatting and laughing on the phone for hours, I would think to myself, “how is uncle Chris already so awake at this time and I can barely keep my eyes open!?”

You told me stories of how I used to be your “little friend” and how you would drive me around Lagos in my mum’s old Honda. You spoke of your sons with such pride and joy and told me how you couldn’t wait to see them grow. In fact, I remember how excited you were that your family were coming to Lagos for Christmas; you made sure everything was perfect for them, even down to ensuring that the fridge was well stocked with your sons’ favourite sausages.

You fought so bravely that even living under the same roof, I never knew the true extent of your pain. I can only take solace in the fact that now, you feel pain no more.

A devoted father, husband, brother, uncle, and friend, you will be sorely missed dear uncle Chris. Gone too soon, but the Good Lord knows best. Sun re o, sweet uncle, sun re o.

Love,

Tutu, your niece
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Uncle Okpos, as I fondly called you, your journey to the great beyond took me by shock, but as they say, who are we to question God.
I have very fond memories of you, from when you used to visit early mornings, to those Christmas parties at Godwin Okigbo. I also remember those times you promised me Ralph Lauren shirts and would always ensure you came into town with 1 or 2 shirts, making me look fly back then in school.
I just cannot imagine not having you around again, forever!!! Whenever I remember the memories and the fact that I will not see you again, chills run through me.
Who will fill your role? Obviously, no one.
Sleep well, till we meet to part no more.
Yomi Adeloye (your nephew).
Posted by Tarhe Oghene on February 25, 2021
Tribute to my brother Okporalefe Oghene


There are no words great enough to explain the importance you had in my life not only as a brother but as my best friend, and for me, the day you left was the saddest one of all.

As children, we shared many memories together.

From nursery to boarding school, I remember how we used to laugh at the smallest of things. How we would joke, fight, play and cry. Though everything we did we always did together. Now, I cherish every memory and always smile when I look back. For you, Okporalefe were, through the Grace of God, my brother by chance but my greatest friend by choice and that is a bond that is unbreakable.

As we grew older, I remember how our bond strengthened. We told each other everything. All of our secrets, dreams, and goals. We would spend hours talking to each other; conversations about family, clothes, and music. The love we shared and the similarities we had were remarkable however you as a person were even greater. For the man you became was so kind and generous. All qualities with such rarity that there will forever be an empty space in our hearts.

However, God has called you home and you are in a better place now. I am forever grateful that he gave us you as our brother here on earth. I love you.

May your vibrant soul Rest in Perfect Peace.

Your brother - Ighofose
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The life of Okpora Chris Oghene

Mr Okporalefe Chris Oghene was born on the 24th day of May 1964 at the Island Maternity Hospital, Lagos Island, Lagos State, to the late Chief Vincent Amiteyekpa Oghene and Mrs Wawe Oghene.

Okporalefe, commonly known as Okpora and Chris, started his early education at Corona nursery school, Lagos. He went on to Uwvie nursery School, Effurun, Warri, Delta state to complete his primary education when his parents moved from Lagos to warri. 

Okpora went on to pursue his secondary education at Urhobo College (1975-) and Denstone College, Uttoxeter, Staffordhire, UK. At Denstone College, he played rugby and soccer. He obtained certification in business and entrepreneurship. Until his death, he worked as an entrepreneur.

On 1 May 2015 Okpora married Onome. They are blessed with two children- Chowve (aged 5) and Toba (aged 4) who Okpora loved so much. 

Okpora lived life doing what he enjoyed in the company of his diverse and numerou s friends.

Until his death, he was an active and proud member of the Harvest committee at his church, Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church, 60 Airport Road, Effurun, Warri.

Mr Okporalefe Chris Oghene passed away on Wednesday, February 10th 2021 after a brief illness.

May Our Lord have mercy on him and grant him eternal rest, Amen.
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