Dear Ola Ike-Ibekie, I’m still trying to come to terms with your demise. . . I remember when we first met in 2016. You worked at diamond bank then and you came to the house/office with account opening forms.
I wore a yellow dress with Peter Pan collar and that dress immediately caught your attention. You asked if I made it and I responded in the affirmative. You were really excited and went on to tell me how perfect the collar was. We became buddies instantly and you even started looking for school uniform jobs for me at your children’s school. There and then I realized I could actually bid for school uniform jobs.
Few weeks later you started visiting during your break, sometimes you’ll just stop by from work to check on my husband and I. The day I visited your house I was in awe. From the gate house you showed me mannequins of different sizes, gender and color. I asked why you had so many of them and you weren’t sewing and I asked why you were with the bank.
When you took me inside and showed me different sewing machines and foreign pattern illustration text books, I was so excited. I knew instantly that fashion was your main dream. You said you would resign from the bank one day (soon) and face your passion (fashion). I said but you can do both and you said you would need to focus.
At every opportunity you had you came over to my place, admired the clothes I made, corrected me where necessary.
Then in January 2018 you resigned from your bank job. You called me and were so excited to break the news of your resignation and said you can now face your fashion dream.
To resign from a banking job to face something else, you must really have the zeal for it. I was really happy you followed your heart and congratulated you. Before I knew you had come over to my place be we gisted all afternoon
You rented a place almost immediately for your fashion business and started furnishing. I visited and was wowed. You did it with so much passion. Whenever I felt like it I’ll go over to yours and gist, take pictures, and you’ll show me one or two stuff. I always had questions you were always ready to answer.
Whenever you felt like talking or ranting too you’ll come over to my place as it was just a stone throw from yours. Sometimes you’ll come and help me iron customers clothes without me even asking.
Or was it the times I came over to Sew Naija so I’ll use your plus size mannequin to taken pictures of my plus size clients clothes cos all my mannequins were smaller sizes.
You celebrated all my WINS like they were yours, no matter how small. Even when I thought it wasn’t big enough to celebrate you carried my matter on your head.
You were full of ideas. Lucrative ideas. Whenever I called for advise or a suggestion you always came to the rescue. Sometimes I’ll just stop by your place to admire your kiddies collection. The love and dedication you put into making kiddies wears was exceptional.
When I relocated to lagos it was really hard for you. I wished I could stay but life happens. We never lost touch. We never lost communication. We may not chat everyday but whenever either of us calls we’ll speak for almost an hour and catch up on all the juicy gist.
You made me intentional about my health. You made me buy my Kenwood food processor and juice extractor because of how you convinced me it’ll make my life easy. You convinced me to buy that juice extractor the day I told you my husband was under the weather. You said we should take freshly made juice everyday and we would have less hospital trips.
I looked for it and found the exact one you recommended. Even when you were fighting for your own life, you still made out time to check on your friends and give them health advise and even follow up to be sure they’re doing it right. You always carried everyone’s matter on your head not minding your own state of health.
On our Tailorstalk inner circle group we even nicknamed you “Mamalawo” because you had the natural/herbal solution for every ailment. For running stomach you had natural remedy, for headache for pimples/breakouts. You had all manner of leaves and vegetables growing in your compound to treat everything.
Your meal plan was great. You had the healthiest meals, everything raw and fresh from your farm, prepared without our regular spices.
You never stopped asking us to reduce or cut down completely on regular seasoning cubes and artificial flavors. I learnt so much from you concerning my health. We even begged you to start a lifestyle blog on healthy living which you were going to consider.
On your birthday in May, you made everyone of us in the Tailorstalk inner circle do a video recording of themselves wishing you a happy birthday. I thought it was a crazy idea initially but then it became fun when we started sending in videos. Those are beautiful memories I would cherish all my life.
I can go on and on but I’m drained. We never expected this. We had plans. We were so excited about your recovery and how we were going to dance at your thanksgiving but heaven had other plans.
I lost my dad to breast cancer in this same month, 6 years ago. I believed you would come out of this and show that illness that you could overcome.
If there was one person I strongly believed would beat cancer, it was you Ola. It was you. Your faith was so strong we couldn’t think otherwise.
You were the liveliest of all my friends. Very lovable. You always had a contrary opinion on issues. When everyone is going left Ola would go right. I’ll just say tohr, is it not Ola but then when we look from your point of view you always had a valid point.
My head aches, my heart is heavy. The tears won’t stop flowing but in all, I take consolation in the fact that you knew God and you had completely submitted to his will.
I’m glad I was able to pay you a visit in august. I’m not sure I would have been able to forgive myself if I didn’t make out time. I was hopeful to see you again next weekend and then we got this very sad news. . Rest on dear Ola. You were a true friend. Rest easy. Rest well. You’re free from pain and agony. The fashion industry lost one of it’s best. We lost you but heaven gained an angel.
I wish you could see this. But I’m glad I let you know how much I loved you while you were still with us.
May God comfort your beautiful family you left behind