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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Olaitan Oke. We will remember her forever.
Posted by ADEOLA OLADIPO on October 18, 2021
Mummy Laitan Oke,Our beautiful easy going Mama.with heavy heart we received the sad news of your death.Who are we to question God?You will be greatly missed in the Society and the elderly ministry. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace.May God comfort all your children,grand children,society and ministry and your extended family.Goodnight mummy.
Posted by Abdulwahab Matepo on October 16, 2021
The first time I met Mama Oke was in July 1978. She was the Senior Personnel Officer at the P. & T. Training Centre, Oshodi Lagos and I had brought an application for employment as an Office Messenger. She asked me a couple of questions and instructed that I be employed.

For the next 35 years of my civil service career and not withstanding the fact that I moved from Lagos to Maiduguri, to Sokoto, Osogbo and back to Lagos, she remained my mentor.

In fact, she has been a part of my life for the last 43 years, guiding my steps and offering motherly support. To my wife, she was a mother-in-law and Grandma to my children. She was the only person who could enter my house and inspect everywhere to make sure that my family and I were okay. My biological mother wouldn't have done that in her lifetime!

I would attribute her interest in my affairs to her progressive mind. She was prepared to assist anyone who showed signs of moving forward and developing himself.
However, earning her support required that one's personal aspirations were also matched with hard work and the preparedness to regularly run multiple errands without complaints.

With her passing on, I have become a complete orphan.

May her soul rest in perfect peace. Amen

(Abdulwahab Matepo, Asst. Postmaster-General Rtd.)
Posted by Adetokunbo Agbesanwa on October 15, 2021
Rest in Perfect peace !
Posted by Philip Oke on October 14, 2021
My Mother – In the End She Did it her Way
My mother, mummy, mom, IyaJebu, Iyedede, GranmaLuton, young grandmum, mama, mama Wale, was small, tiny yet tall and mighty. She came across tough on the outside, however soft and loving on the inside with a heart of gold. She was dedicated and faithful to her family and friends alike. Even at 80 plus, carried herself with the poise, youthful exuberance, and the energy of a 30yr old. She was feisty, tough, fair in judgement, loyal, dependable, hard-working, honourable, regal, beautiful (inside and outside), decent, a leader, loving and a very rare gem of a mother you could count on at any time. She was a people person who loved hosting, loved a good party and if you don’t want her to grace your occasion, you better not invite her as she would be there! I would sometimes lock horns with her, when I feel she was exerting herself, get frustrated with her for thinking she is in her mid-30s and for refusing to slow down. Each time we had discussions around slowing down, she would tell me as the head of the SS Tobun descendant, she was duty bound, and she owed it to her late father to fulfil his wishes. My mother was so vivacious, so full of life, full of zest, she had integrity, was no push over, as she had a mind of her own, God fearing, she had a heart of gold, she impacted everyone she came across positively. She lit up every room she walked into; she had a presence which belied her small, tiny frame. I could never find enough superlatives to describe her and her impact on my life. Her belief in my abilities and her support was unwavering, even when I felt an issue was insurmountable, she had this knack of making you achieve what you thought was impossible. She instilled in me the benefits of hard work and dogged steely determination.
Sharp with a witty mind – She not only remembered all her Children’s birthday, but also all her grandchildren, she never forgot to send cards and presents for each. She even coined a nickname for each one of them! Until her illness, she was as sharp as ever, she would follow up on anything you had mentioned was on your mind, it did not matter how flippant or how mundane! How did the meeting go, how was your first day in your new role?
Family and friends meant a lot to my mother, she could never say no and would go that extra mile. She was always full of confidence and instilled that positive disposition into those around her as she always had a pragmatic advice and solution to most issues. Growing up in GRA Ikeja, my parents both working as civil servants, our house (2-bed Flat at the time} was a conveyor belt and a constant hub of relatives (relatives from both sides}, passing through and staying with us. How she did it back then and managed the home without any fuss, I honestly don’t know!
Frugal, however with a penchant and taste for the finer things in life - She loved fine dining, travelling (in style – she would tell us don’t even think about buying economy class ticket for me), and was a classy dresser - fashionista, she knew her worth. Her belief and her Faith in God was unquestionable – No matter how tedious or boring, the children would often reach out to her for advice and she would always proffer wise words of encouragement. She would always tell me not to settle for second best and not to fear, whatever I ask God for, it is done! Such was her infectious positive and spiritual energy. She was so fearless!
She would give the modern-day feminists a good run for their money, as her toughness and uncompromising demeanour in a male dominated Federal Civil Service was legendary. Her professionalism and dedication shone through, she was never fazed by any challenges she encountered in her 35yr career at the Federal Ministry of communication, where she rose to the post of Senior Assistant Postmaster General at NIPOST, GPO Marina.
The grandkids knew to comport themselves whenever she is around on holidays. She would not tolerate bad behaviour, tardiness, or indolence. They knew she was not your typical elderly easy-going grandma – yet she would spoil them and reward them with cookies, sweets and chocolates, just like any grandma. She loved each of them uniquely and each one was special to her.
My heart was always heavy at the end of her holidays with us, her presence was larger than life – I knew like clockwork 6weeks to her departure – let the shopping commence, each day she would sneakily travel around London from one shop to the next, returning with bags of items she had purchased on her travels. Her bedroom would be filled up to the brim with items she had bought as gifts for her friends and family in Nigeria. My living room would resemble the scene of a bomb blast in the days leading up to her travelling, with suitcases ready to go to Nigeria. I would typically ask her (days leading to her travelling back to Nigeria) each night before, “mom, what are your plans for tomorrow”? Her answer was always, “Just staying home, might just pop out to the local Tescos” I would constantly berate her by asking her, “how many of your age mates would go round with this amount of luggage”? However, she would get back home, and cook, my friends would often wonder where she gets her energy! Even post 80, she would write me a list of the meat parts to get her from the butchers, and she would work her magic. I have watched her cook several times – sad to say her stew is unique in its taste, as I was never able to master it. No other cooking comes close! No one has been able to replicate her cooking.
I remember at the height of the pandemic, I called her in Nigeria to plead with her to stay home, and also that this virus was particularly unforgiving to people of a particular age group. She told me bluntly, “Ehn awon arugbo ni yen now” That is for those old people and she was not one of them! I was speechless.
I am heart broken and in pain at her transition, and her passing has left a void incredibly hard to fill, I am however comforted in the belief that she is in a better place and with the angels. They say Angels sometimes walk on this planet; I truly believed my mother was one of them. She was special. She was amazing, one I am proud to call my mother. In the end Mother, you did it your way!
Till we meet to part no more, Rest Well Mom. You will forever live on in our hearts. Your light will shine forever.
Your Loving Son “Papa my Papa” as you fondly called me.
- Wole Oke

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Posted by ADEOLA OLADIPO on October 18, 2021
Mummy Laitan Oke,Our beautiful easy going Mama.with heavy heart we received the sad news of your death.Who are we to question God?You will be greatly missed in the Society and the elderly ministry. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace.May God comfort all your children,grand children,society and ministry and your extended family.Goodnight mummy.
Posted by Abdulwahab Matepo on October 16, 2021
The first time I met Mama Oke was in July 1978. She was the Senior Personnel Officer at the P. & T. Training Centre, Oshodi Lagos and I had brought an application for employment as an Office Messenger. She asked me a couple of questions and instructed that I be employed.

For the next 35 years of my civil service career and not withstanding the fact that I moved from Lagos to Maiduguri, to Sokoto, Osogbo and back to Lagos, she remained my mentor.

In fact, she has been a part of my life for the last 43 years, guiding my steps and offering motherly support. To my wife, she was a mother-in-law and Grandma to my children. She was the only person who could enter my house and inspect everywhere to make sure that my family and I were okay. My biological mother wouldn't have done that in her lifetime!

I would attribute her interest in my affairs to her progressive mind. She was prepared to assist anyone who showed signs of moving forward and developing himself.
However, earning her support required that one's personal aspirations were also matched with hard work and the preparedness to regularly run multiple errands without complaints.

With her passing on, I have become a complete orphan.

May her soul rest in perfect peace. Amen

(Abdulwahab Matepo, Asst. Postmaster-General Rtd.)
Posted by Adetokunbo Agbesanwa on October 15, 2021
Rest in Perfect peace !
her Life

Biography of Olaitan Olubola Oke


Early Life

Olaitan Olubola OKE was born on the 31st January 1939 to the Tobun Royal Family of Epe (ltungbehin Quarters) to the late Pa Sebolatan Yesufu Tobun (aka Baba Onike or Baba Elepo) and the late Madam Eniyamoke Tobun of Imupa Quarters, Ijebu Ode. Her Father was a Civil Servant in the Colonial Administration under British Colonial Rule. He later became a petroleum dealer – hence the nick name (Baba Elepo). Olaitan’s mother was a petty trader.

Olaitan was the first child of her parents, her father was a polygamist and was blessed with many children. As a first child of many, she was never pampered, ultimately she had to be responsible from a very age. This factor and more, shaped her into the formidable and strong-willed person she was until her call to glory.

Early Education

Pa Tobun, placed a huge emphasis on education and as a result, ensured Olaitan attended the best schools. She began her elementary school at Eleja Methodist Primary School Apapa Road Lagos, and later completed her elementary education at Yaba Methodist Primary School (now Hoares Memorial Church) Sabo. She continued her Secondary Education at the prestigious Anglican Girls Grammar School Ijebu Ode.



Early Career

She worked briefly at the then Post and Telecommunications (latterly known as NIPOST), before proceeding to the UK to further her studies in 1962. Whilst in the UK she also worked for the Post Office whilst studying for her diploma.

Family

In 1964 she got married to her husband, the late Engineer (High Chief) Peter Boboye in the UK. Their marriage is blessed with many children and grandchildren. She later returned to Nigeria with her husband, she resumed her career at the Civil Service with the Nigerian Post Office (NIPOST) – under the Ministry of Communications. Here she had a successful and fulfilling career. She served across various roles within the Ministry – Director of Personnel and retired as the Snr Assistant Post Master General at the General Post Office (GPO) in Marina Lagos.

She is a member of the Archbishop Vining Memorial Cathedral Church, belonged to several societies – Christian Morning Star Society, Elderly Society and the Women of Grace group.

She is fiercely independent, a hard worker, a great cook, an avid traveller, a fashionista with a very elegant dress sense that belied her advanced age. She was loyal and very dependable, she would never promise and not deliver. She loved her family and friends unconditionally, with all her heart, and was so much loved by those who had the pleasure of getting close to her. Family and friends were always of paramount importance, with her boundless energy she approached every day with renewed vigour, nothing could ever keep her down.

Good night our dearest mother, sister, aunty, friend, cousin and grandmother.

We shall meet again to part no more. Rest Well. Amen.



She would be sorely missed.

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