MY mother, Mrs OLANIKE FAJEYISAN who passed away on the 9th of May, 2021. We will forever miss you.
My mother was like my elder sister. She had me at a very young age. It took me time to know she was my mum. She related with me like her sister. She guided me in every area of my life and I have never regretted her counsel and advise for once.
It is not how far but how well, I celebrate the life of my good mother. She's like my elder sister and related with me alike. Seeks my advise on virtually every issue and respects my opinion. She tells people "let me ask my daughter first, you know she's a lawyer, she will advise me appropriately". My mother will deliberately avoid discussing certain issues with me if she knows she's at fault because she knows I will always aportion her blames when necessary. She is the only person that I condemn when she's wrong without diluting my words. She is like my sister and sees me alike. No wonder we argue a lot. She will tell me she's not going to come my house again but in a few weeks she will return with food stuff and goodies for the kids. We will continue the love fight from where we stopped! What a mother to miss.
Her every visit to my house, she will recount all her experience in the past weeks and report all those that has offended her. She will sit on the dining table with my husband and jist till she's ready to sleep. She enjoyed his company.
I remember when I was trying to gain admission into the University, my mother went on several trips to Unilag just to secure an admission for me. She made exactly the same trip for my younger ones. She is never tired, she is a rugged woman.
If I tell my mum am desirous of a particular food, she will travel to any lenght to get it. She enjoys to see me happy and also appreciate her effort in getting the food. Though sometimes I complain of the result of her effort atimes. Now I realise, we most times don't cherish what we have the way we should until we loose them.
I will never forget the night she came to my room when I was still living under her roof at our house at Mile 2, She told me to my face that she will never discourage me to marry my to be husband. My mum was being very careful dictating on matters concerning marriage perhaps because her marriage didn't work. She is very skeptical of making same mistakes regarding her children. She said, "Ajoke, I am with you all the way, if you want to marry Babaoba, I will support you without looking back". My mother did support me, the amazing joy I have in my marriage today was because of her undoubted support for me.
She loved my husband and respected him so much. I recall the day my husband reported me to my mother, she called me and was crying on the phone, she will condemn every action of me be it right or wrong as long as it is my husband that complained about me. She was a mother who wanted her daughter to have peace of mind in her marital home. Having a happy marital life today was by the grace of God and for the total support of my mother.
My mom, was a very strong, proud, and caring person. Extremely hardworking. She looked for uniqueness in every individual. She loved everything beautiful and always happy to be known with good things.
I must emphasise that she single handledly took care of her four girl children all by herself with the help of God. She didn't for once was unhappy she had girl children. She was proud of them and did all she could to make them children to be proud of. None of her daughters got pregnant in school, none is a drop out, none has immoral traits or characteristics, all her girls are responsible children. It takes a determined mother to achieve this.
When I sometimes condemn her actions on certain issues, she will say "you know I don't have husband support" that became her mantra for a long time. We always laugh when she tries to do naughty and hide under not having a husband support. She will laugh deep as well. She has gotten away with a lot of things by saying her "no husband support" mantra just to simply justify her actions and inactions towards everything and anything. She was right. She never did!!!
My mum could be very stubborn and try to assert her opinion on issues. When she believes in something, she believes in it totally and will fight tooth and nail to make her point. If you see my mother's unwavering determination to make it, it was for her and her children not to suffer, she wanted us to be relevant in life and amongst family and friends. Abiyamo tooto. My mother hates to be cheated and looked down upon. She will fight tooth and nail to prove her point. Perhaps the reason she is sometimes perceived as stubborn and very firm.
She is very passionate about her Late brother who died same day as her. Even while she was sick and struggling to get well, she took upon herself the burden of caring for him for a whole year at my house with joy. Her death happening on the same day as her brother speaks volume!! Her brother stood as a father figure to us all.
She was born by a Muslim father and a Christian Mother. Mum practiced Christianity but accepted the Muslim doctrine without bias. She attended C.A.C Obadare for a long while and much later RCCG for proximity.
My mother will be greatly missed. My best friend, my older sister, my carer, my confidant, my Mum will be deeply missed.
I take solace in the fact that you have gone to rest and left this sinful world. Till we meet and part no more my dear mother. Adieu
Rest on MAMA Ajoke. Your thoughts will forever be in my heart.
By the way, your twin grand children will miss their grandma that is always dosing in their parlour.
YOUR FIRST DAUGHTER
CHIEF MRS AJOKE OGUNDE