ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Olufunmilayo Ashamu. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Fehintola Akinduko on February 25, 2021
Mummy, sweet Mummy. Soft spoken and tender heated. You showed me love and were always willing to help. You always had a kind word of encouragement and hope for me. Your lovely and thoughtful gifts to us all always came when we least expected them. Your faith, trust and love for the Lord were indisputable. It was a privilege to know you. Sleep on until our Master returns....
Posted by lekan ipaye on February 25, 2021
My first memory of Aunty Monsurat was in 1964 or 1965 when Oga(her father)told me l was going to meet my aunty who will be returning from England,l was so excited because I never met her and remembered going to Isolo to get bamboo trees and palm fronds to make canopy for the reception.She came and I saw a beautifully made lady with a calm gait and poise with a lovely and infectious smile.She made an impression on me and ever since I have been close to her.
I remembered Papa mi called me sometime in 1973 that we were going to Ibadan to visit her at Omitowoju residence when she gave birth to Biodun,I was excited and came back with the impression that she must be fantastic for Papa mi to visit her in Ibadan.
While I was in school in Oyo I loved going to Ibadan to her where I was introduced to morning prayers and Godly councelling.
She made an impact on me and some of the impactation are still imbued in me.I last spoke with her in August 2020 and as usual it was fulfilling I spoke with her.
She was not only religious but holy and Godly.May she continue to rest in Eternal Bliss
Posted by Titi Ashamu on February 23, 2021
Humm, Mummy, Mummy Ibadan, Mama Jade, Mrs Ashamu??? Humm! Still struggling to believe that you are gone! Soft spoken and quiet. You believed in yourself and had the ability to prioritize your needs. You had a deep love for reading. I remember, way back then, when I would complain about being bored. Your response to my complaint, would be to pick up a book and read! I developed a passion for reading books and solving the puzzles at the back of the newspaper, from watching you. In spite of all our noise making, you would calmly make your point. You were never frazzled. I remember our last lengthy conversation, we both went down the memory lane and you cracked some jokes that made me laugh so hard till tears were just streaming down. Who would have thought that that would be the last conversation that we would have. Humm. You were know for being quiet and calm, so I guess one shouldn’t be surprised that you would leave quietly. Humm, hard to believe you are gone. I still hear your soft voice but I know that it all but a memory. Rest In Peace. Goodnight, Mummy. Goodnight, Mummy Ibadan. Goodnight, Mama Jade. In everything, we give God the glory.
Posted by Wande Ipaye on February 23, 2021
I have found consolation in 1 Thessalonians 4:13. Though she’s my big cousin, throughout her life, she was like a mum to my siblings and I and this includes my husband.

Since her death we have had conversations about her impact on our lives and we all concluded that our Auntmum was godly, wise and fun.

I remember my many summer vacations which I spent with her. Her first impact was showing me the importance of starting the day with prayer. I would never forget the 5am call to prayer bell, God help you if you came to the altar without washing your mouth, she would fish you out.

She loved to read novels, listened to radio all day long, I could remember that small black & white tv.

She was a good listener and would ask for advice no matter how young you are, though a little bit of a worrier, I remembered her asking for my opinion when one of my nieces showed interest in studying abroad, why should that be a concern? The rest is history.

More important than all these, she taught me about how important family was. She made sure I knew the value of family and friendships which must never be taken for granted.

When I came around from the shock of her death, the first thing I said was my Auntmum would like to be buried in Lagos where most of her family is based.
I will miss her very much, rest in peace auntmum.
Posted by Yetunde Adeshile on February 23, 2021
I Remember
I remember all the times you came to visit us in boarding school,
I remember the family holidays at home in Ibadan,
I remember the extra tuition,
I remember the early morning prayers at home in London,
I remember you taught me how to wash dishes etc… in the right order,
I remember (and still have) the bible you gave me as my confirmation gift,
I remember you at my wedding and coming to visit after childbirth,
I remember celebrations and gifts,
I remember your call and prayers on my birthday last year (our last conversation),
Thank you for the memories, I will always remember you ma.
Rest in peace mum.
Love Yetunde Adeshile
Posted by Abayomi Olamide Odebiyi ... on February 23, 2021
[21/02, 21:44] A Olamide Odebiyi Fatodu: I have been postponing writing this tribute in the hope that it will be that it's a bad dream but write I must! Mummy is really gone.

I reconnected with Oyepate in 2008 after having not seen her since 1983 when I left FGGC Oyo. Since then I was enfolded again in Mummy's bosom. She always had a kind word, great counsel and encouraging words of wisdom especially having married late. Hmmm! Mummy was wise, gentle , kind, peaceful ,always accepting; generous. A classy lady with a dignified mien; an epitome of humilty. You wouldnt know Mummy came from old money or was the wife of a pioneer. She was humble and meek!

My wedding present from her was beautiful. What about a whole bag of clothes for my son when he came, which he used for years! Was it her prayers or even her gifts of lovely prayer books or loving corrections when I needed it. Ah oga o! All through the C19 period I would call on her and we would talk. When she saw my broadcast about selling food items she was very supportive. No wonder I just had this unsettling feeling for about 2 weeks before I heard. In fact I passed by the house about 2 days after and I wanted to stop but thought better because I knew how particular she was about social distancing.

My joy and comfort lies in the knowledge that Mummy is with the LORD now. So we will meet one day. Abiyamo tòòtò , Mama Rèrè. Iya Oninuire o digba. Oku eniti aa ma pari ija fun emi ati Oyepate ta ba ja! Odaaro Mama wa. E ba mi ki Iya mi Adebisi o. Odàaro Mummy. May your beautiful soul rest in peace. I miss your smile and gentle ways.

Sis. Jadesola, Oyèpate, Abiodun, Nike , Esther, Kemi,Yemyem ,Oyebimpe( my Ijebujesha Iyale), Samuel and Tola ... OLUWA AA diyin mu L'ORUKO JESU. Eyin wòn aa dara L'ORUKO JESU. Gbogbo aniyan Mummy lori enikankan ni OLORUN Aa muse L'ORUKO JESU. The LORD will uphold us all in JESUS'S NAME.
[21/02, 21:49] A Olamide Odebiyi Fatodu: From OLUWABUKUNMI

Grandma, I will miss your welcoming hugs and love. I love you. Thank you for being a blessing always to me.

Goodbye Grandma. I want to sing for you, " OLUWA E tobi E tobi o, E tobi! Ko seni tale fi sakawe RE o. E tobi OLUWA. " Nigbogbo ona Ese. Nigbogbo ona Ese O BABA!"

Love from Buks Fatodu
Posted by Rukayat Salami on February 22, 2021
Posted on behalf of Morayo Salami ( nee Jinadu).

My dear sister,
We were like twins growing up. We attended the same primary and secondary school ( St Patrick’s and Queens College Lagos).
We were always dressing the same in our and co. We supported each other raising our children. When we lost our siblings, we became even closer and you used to call me to check up on me often. I won’t say much but Allah knows best. I will really miss you. Rest In Peace my sister.

Morayo.
Posted by Adetola Sadoh on February 22, 2021
I have pondered on what to say about my Big Mummy, Mummy Ibadan because there are too many nice memories to share.
Is it our trips to Ibadan or your various visit to Lagos or your gentle nature.
My Mum and mummy Ibadan were like five and Six.My mum and her sister carried their gist culture all the way from Nitel days to whatsapp.
I admire Mummy Ibadan's leadership role in the family,very calm and always smiling.she and my Mum despite sharing different faith in religion share prayers together. She will send her pastors to Lagos to pray for my mum and us the kids.During landmark exams they both fast and pray together .
I look forward to receiving my gifts eagerly when mummy comes from Ibadan especially the best Elubo.I can never forget her package of clothes sent to me when I was going to start my first work plus words of wisdom and prayers.
Mummy Ibadan death was one too many after the family has lost two of their siblings earlier four months apart.
I cannot believe I will no longer see my beautiful, lovely and kind aunty again.
Your footprint is too large to fill. who is going to coordinate and deligate duties now in the family. Mummy left a good legacy in the family,and my consolation is my Ten lovely cousins who in their various ways have bits of my aunty.
God will console and protect the entire family members she left behind.
My Dearest Aunty,Imode ibefun,Omo afi abebe Joye,sun re o.


Posted by Rukayat Salami on February 22, 2021
For my dear aunty,

This has been so difficult to write. To be honest I haven’t come to terms with it.

When I think of you I wonder how you were able to raise my 10 cousins so lovingly and yet your persona was so calm. Your voice so soft. Never agitated. I guess patience was your God given strength.

I will cherish my childhood memories of vacations at Ring road Ibadan. Being woken up to pray with the family albeit being Muslim, I credit you for the knowledge I have of biblical verses and teachings.

My mom is really heartbroken. So protective of her sister as if she was the older one. She will miss your frequent calls and long conversations. Her fellow Queens College Old girls’ and sister/ confidant but we are comforted by our faith in Almighty Allah. He is ever faithful. We thank Him and count our blessings.

You have done so well as a mom. Successful children and grandkids with a couple bagging first class degrees...what more could anyone ask for? For it’s not about the years in one’s life but the life in one’s years.

Adieu my dearest Aunty Funlayo. Aya Ashamu, Omo Jinadu Ogunmade. Sun re o!

Your niece, Rukayat Salami
Posted by Matthew Ojaruwedia on February 22, 2021
Your aura was captivating and your smile encouraging. With the softest voice you correct and give wise counsels. You would encourage me after every sermon I preached with you in attendance. Thank you living an exemplary Christian life Grandma.
We know you’re with Jesus in heaven. Rest on Grandma.
Matthew & Temilade Ojaruwedia
Posted by OYETAYO ASHAMU on February 22, 2021
It's been over 10 hours thinking of what to write,so many memories I am grateful for, we spent quality time at ring road while on holiday, we had all the time to play but you still won't joke with extra lessons! I will never forget how you accomodated a lesson teacher all because of us, we would complain and fabricate all sort of stories yet you maintained all play and no work!!
I remember how I visited you each time you came to your family house (Ipaye) in Mushin...in your gentle voice you will ask bawo lo se de bi (how did u get here)..I followed u everywhere in that compound till you were ready to go back home...You taught me how to make Restitution as a child. Many years down the line it was a our Sunday school topic..you should have seen me in action that day.Thank you for all you gave Mummy. .Forever in our hearts,sleep on Mum!

Posted by Temitope Ashamu on February 22, 2021
A few days before you left us, I had the urge to call you. However, I kept procastinating because I believed we had more time together. Now you are gone. Oh the loss and regrets. This is our consolation though, you have gone to be with your Lord. Good night Mum.
Posted by Morayo Adelowo on February 22, 2021
So glad we had the opportunity as a family to have a rapport with you grandma.......barely a month to your demise! You were so welcoming and receptive.
Like you knew your time was near.......
May your beautiful soul continue to rest in perfect peace
                              THE ADELOWOS.

Posted by Lanre nee Oluokun on February 21, 2021
My heart is full of emotion at the loss of our sweet Mummy, Mrs Ashamu who lived a selfless & very fulfilled life. I spoke to her on 13 Dec 2020, my brother was out at work , however, my mother & my son spoke with her not realising we wouldn’t get the chance again. But I did send her a Christmas text and asked her to wish Biodun a happy birthday. Really, I am blessed to have known her back then when I was a little girl sitting on her lap in England, and I recall those visits she made to see our family in Oremeji Ibadan, my younger sister had the privilege of staying over with her family in Ringroad. But more kindness was to come & many years later in 1986 when I was coming back as an adult to England, she offered me a place to stay in their home in Pleshey Rd London. This was where I stayed until I found my footing & where I met other nice ppl like Auntie Funmi Orelaja, Monsura Sunmonu, Doyin Oki, Titi, Yetunde, etc. All Mummy’s children have loved me as siblings. On my wedding day & birthday, they stood by me & supported me in a way I can never forget - Biodun herself being my bridesmaid. Nike also visited us in London with cash gifts including a lovely electronic device to relieve my mother’s arthritis. In Jan 2020, after many yrs , a surprise meeting occurred when I met Ishola on the same flight to Nigeria , this prompted Mummy to visit us in Ibadan where she saw my mother at the dining table. They embraced joyfully as they hadn’t seen each other in a long time & I had come to take my mother to USA, she also saw my younger sister. We never thought that would be our last time together. My mother is saddened at the news because they were together at primary school in Lagos with others like Mrs Kuku, etc. Yes, I could go on & on, but I must take a pause now and say ‘Sleep on Sweet Mummy, Rest peacefully until we meet at Jesus feet, ‘Amen. Much Love, Lanre nee Oluokun.
Posted by Kafilat Araoye on February 21, 2021
TRIBUTE
We give God the glory for the life of Mummy Ibadan as we her nieces and nephews call her. She was very beautiful inside and out. As a young girl I used to be very proud to introduce her to my friends because of her beauty and calm demeanour. She played a major role in my life in University, from her wise counsel to her visits to me in School. Her place was home as I ran there whenever I was tired of the Campus or when I was on short vacation. She was always very warm,caring and generous. In fact there was no time I went back to School without plenty provision and money. Likewise, she never visited me in school empty handed. We both shared a passion for reading, so I used to spend my leisure time at her place reading her old magazines. Hmmm too many fond memories of a sweet mother. I can attest to the fact that she was a very loving and dedicated mother to her children and a role model of a virtuous woman. I pray God will grant her soul eternal rest. I also pray God continues to bless her children, grandchildren, family and loved ones she left behind. Amen.
Posted by Gloria Abiodun Ayoola on February 21, 2021
My Tribute to mum
My mother, my friend, my confidant. So gentle, a very good listener and ever ready to proffer solutions to everyone’s challenge. It’s so difficult to accept the fact that you have left us.  I lived my life as if you will be there forever.  I did not imbibe some of the lessons you were trying to teach me as you were there all the time to do things for all of us. Now you are gone, I shall be following in your footsteps. You were always available to organize things for us, you would ask me to send a shopping list to you to bring food items for me whenever you were coming to Lagos. You always showered us with gifts including the grandchildren. You lived a selfless life for your children, grandchildren and others. You put God first in everything and you taught me the fear of the Lord. In fact, you introduced myself and my husband to New Covenant Church when you insisted, we must go for marriage counselling sessions there before we got married. You wanted us to build our marriage on a solid foundation. We found love and fellowship at New Covenant Church and today, not only are we members of the church, my husband is a Reverend in New Covenant Church.
Mum you were there for us all at every stage of our lives. You did the same for your grandchildren and others. You were there to share our joy and also the sad times. Mum, you gave up your vibrant career in submission to your husband and dedicated your life to your family and the service of God.  You lived to serve others and to put smiles on people’s faces. You were a giver. Even when you did not have much, you were still willing to share what you had. You are a living proof of what God can do in a life that is totally dependent on Him.
Mum you were a very loyal wife. Very loyal to a fault, we sometimes thought you were too soft. You taught us perseverance. You were gentle but still a disciplinarian. You taught us to love others and this was a constant prayer point in our home. You upheld Christian standards in our home. You taught us to love all irrespective of race, background or status. You were a solution provider. You made other people’s problems your concern whether you were asked or not. You were sensitive to the needs of others. You were so selfless. You lived to serve others and to make things happen for others. You were always available to all your grandchildren. You made sure they never lacked. Every grandchild was celebrated by mum on their birthdays and graduation even nursery school graduation! You remembered everyone’s birthday and you would always call and pray for us on our birthdays! Graduation outfit for the grandchildren (top to toe) was your business. We never had to budget for graduation outfit for any of our children as it was taken care of by grandma. You made Christmas a delight for all of us and the grandchildren. You always had something for everyone.
I remember when I called in December to say that I will be spending Christmas with you, I mentioned that I had not received my salary for some time and that I will not have much to contribute this Christmas. Mum said in her usual manner, who is asking anything from you. Everything is set, just come and celebrate with me. Little did I know that was my last time. My last moments with you were so memorable. You prayed for me every morning, we prayed together in the evenings and slept on the same bed. Mum was a natural event planner she was organized and will leave nothing undone. Whenever there was a task at hand, she had her paper and pen ready and will start listing out all she that needed to be done. She will then start ticking as they are done. This is what we call project management today. Mum was a programme manager to the core!
Mum, you had a way of knowing what I was going through at any point in time and you were always available to render assistance even without being asked for it. What selfless love. I pray that one day, I will be like mum, so caring, so selfless and so full of love for everyone. You sacrificed everything for us. You were so sensitive and so detailed. You were the one that even helped me to identify my husband’s favourite food. You paid attention to everyone. There was nothing in your possession that you could not part with if anyone needed it.  Your door was always open to all. I can go on and on… Mummy, why did you have to leave now? I have so many questions, so much that we still wanted to do for you but I am comforted in knowing that you lived a satisfied and fulfilled life. Your loss is so painful for us. We all miss you. I miss your motherly love and care, your support for my family and your grandchildren. How I wish you will come back if only for a couple of years but God knows best. I am comforted knowing that you are resting in the bosom of the Lord. Our loss is heaven’s gain. Looking back in retrospect, I noticed in January (the month you passed) that each time I called you, you were always impatient, saying you were either reading your bible, having a devotional or praying. I was not sensitive. Instead, I was upset and I thought, it was so difficult to talk to mum these days. Now I understand better. That was your way of saying goodbye. I pray that one day, we shall meet again.
Adieu mum, sleep on, till we meet again.
Forever in my heart
Biodun Ayoola

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Posted by Fehintola Akinduko on February 25, 2021
Mummy, sweet Mummy. Soft spoken and tender heated. You showed me love and were always willing to help. You always had a kind word of encouragement and hope for me. Your lovely and thoughtful gifts to us all always came when we least expected them. Your faith, trust and love for the Lord were indisputable. It was a privilege to know you. Sleep on until our Master returns....
Posted by lekan ipaye on February 25, 2021
My first memory of Aunty Monsurat was in 1964 or 1965 when Oga(her father)told me l was going to meet my aunty who will be returning from England,l was so excited because I never met her and remembered going to Isolo to get bamboo trees and palm fronds to make canopy for the reception.She came and I saw a beautifully made lady with a calm gait and poise with a lovely and infectious smile.She made an impression on me and ever since I have been close to her.
I remembered Papa mi called me sometime in 1973 that we were going to Ibadan to visit her at Omitowoju residence when she gave birth to Biodun,I was excited and came back with the impression that she must be fantastic for Papa mi to visit her in Ibadan.
While I was in school in Oyo I loved going to Ibadan to her where I was introduced to morning prayers and Godly councelling.
She made an impact on me and some of the impactation are still imbued in me.I last spoke with her in August 2020 and as usual it was fulfilling I spoke with her.
She was not only religious but holy and Godly.May she continue to rest in Eternal Bliss
Posted by Titi Ashamu on February 23, 2021
Humm, Mummy, Mummy Ibadan, Mama Jade, Mrs Ashamu??? Humm! Still struggling to believe that you are gone! Soft spoken and quiet. You believed in yourself and had the ability to prioritize your needs. You had a deep love for reading. I remember, way back then, when I would complain about being bored. Your response to my complaint, would be to pick up a book and read! I developed a passion for reading books and solving the puzzles at the back of the newspaper, from watching you. In spite of all our noise making, you would calmly make your point. You were never frazzled. I remember our last lengthy conversation, we both went down the memory lane and you cracked some jokes that made me laugh so hard till tears were just streaming down. Who would have thought that that would be the last conversation that we would have. Humm. You were know for being quiet and calm, so I guess one shouldn’t be surprised that you would leave quietly. Humm, hard to believe you are gone. I still hear your soft voice but I know that it all but a memory. Rest In Peace. Goodnight, Mummy. Goodnight, Mummy Ibadan. Goodnight, Mama Jade. In everything, we give God the glory.
her Life
Olufunmilayo Abike Ashamu (Nee Jinadu) was born to Mr. Yinusa Jinadu and Alhaja Wulaimot Jinadu on 21st of July 1942.
She attended St Patrick's Primary School, Queens College and Kingston College London (Now Kingston University)
She worked as a Company secretary, being a fellow of the Institute of Chartered Secretaries and Administrators, United Kingdom.
In 1965, she married the Late Chief E.O Ashamu and together they had 10 children.
Olufunmilayo Ashamu was a devout Christian. She was an active member of the New Covenant Church Onireke, Ibadan
She went home to her maker on the 24th of January 2021 and is survived by her siblings, children and grandchildren.
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