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Pat Kolar
  • 74 years old
  • Date of birth: Jul 5, 1939
  • Place of birth:
    Chicago, Illinois, United States
  • Date of passing: Mar 29, 2014
  • Place of passing:
    Poway, California, United States
"This site is a celebration of Pat's life. May all of our fond memories of her live on forever"

Welcome to this memorial website created to honor our dearly beloved Pat Kolar. To learn more about Pat's life please click on the "Her LIfe" tab above. Also please join us in celebrating her life through sharing any stories, memories, photos, videos, etc. that you might have. Press on the "gallery" or "stories" tabs above to see or leave a story or photo. Or you can leave a tribute below.

This website will be permanent for all to visit now and revisit in the years to come.

Our grateful thanks to all those who come to this website to help celebrate Pat's life.

The family of Pat Kolar

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 13th July 2017

"Happy Birthday Petey:

We were just looking at the pictures on this memorial website and they bring back fond memories of times spent with you. You can be very proud of the fine family you raised and the many wonderful things you did for others. We hope you are being richly rewarded in your heavenly home. Please say hello to all our family and friends who are there with you.
Mike and Mary"

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 5th July 2017

"Well mom 78 and your running on your skates chasing  your heavenly date ! Happ birthday mom you are truly missed! It was a beautiful day here today!   Which makes this day even more special for your birthday! Simply amazing how now the big picture is behind me and the window in front gets smaller! Faster then we imagine!  All is good here just one day at a time  . trying to keep my dreams alive and wishing for the best!  Grandkids are growing like beans !  There all happy fun loving kids who would enjoy your company and warm heart!  Your the heart and soul that touched every one from just about everywhere!  Happy birthday mom love john."

This tribute was added by heather szeliga on 30th March 2017

"Thinking of you...I love and miss you so much Grandma Pat"

This tribute was added by Becky Cannella on 7th July 2016

"Thinking of you always with love and affection. Happy Birthday my sweet Aunt Pat and may God continue to bless you. All my love."

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 6th July 2016

"Happy Birthday to you Petey:

Wish I could bring you your favorite pie or cake and sing Happy Birthday like we did on your 70th. Nevertheless, you will always be remembered as "the sweetest sister a brother could have".   Your ever loving Bro   Mike"

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 5th July 2016

"happy birthday mom. we now have three beautiful grandkids, who would really enjoy your company and your loving heart a long with your special prayers.        love john"

This tribute was added by jaslyn szeliga on 5th July 2016

"Happy birthday Grandma Pat! I miss you and think of you every day. I know you are up in heaven watching over us all and protecting us. I wish I could talk to you and tell you all about what my life is like now, you would be so proud of all of us and what we have accomplished.. I hope you're dancing and celebrating your special day with all the angels. I love you so much"

This tribute was added by heather szeliga on 5th July 2016

"Happy Birthday Grandma Pat! I miss and love you so much. Wish you were here to meet Ryker and all the little ones, and to listen to your stories, advice, and your goofiness. I know you are watching over all of us and we are lucky to have you as our Angel. ❤ I know you are up there with your dancing shoes celebrating your birthday and every day you are with the Mighty One!"

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 8th May 2016

"happy mothers day mom i miss you and love you so john"

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 2nd April 2016

"Hi Petey:

Two years have passed so quickly...but you are in our memories every bit as strongly as ever. We hope you are enjoying visiting with all of your relatives and well as watching over all of us still here.
We so miss your radiant smile and your positive attitude even in the face of adversity.  Petey, you lived life on your own terms, and we respect your grace and strength.  Our lives were blessed having you for a sister.
We bet that you have inspired more faith in your heavenly neighbors.
We know that you our angel here on Earth can still help us in times of need.

With all our love and admiration,
Mike and Mary"

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 29th March 2016

"i miss you mom and love you .t here's so much going on today that i will let  all the little angels tell you  all the details.i love you mother pray for us all and give us power strength and wisdom to for fill our life's the way they should be lived."

This tribute was added by Rick Riehman on 29th March 2016

"I Praise God for the life of Pat and her faithfulness to the Lord.  She has left an undull able impression on my heart and I will always remember her zeal for the Lord and desire that all would come to faith in Jesus.  Thank you Lord for this wonderful woman and I will look forward to our reunion in heaven.  May the Lord bless the family....."Be though faithful unto death and I will give you the crown of life."  Rev. 2:10"

This tribute was added by Becky Cannella on 6th July 2015

"Happy belated birthday sweet sweet Pat. You were like a second mother to me and I appreciate all the wisdom and advise you  ever gave me. Although we kinda drifted apart, your wise words of wisdom and the love and guidance you gave me did not go asunder.  I carry you and your love deep in my heart, always will.  May you rest in peace and know that you were truly loved. Love you much."

This tribute was added by Holly Szeliga on 5th July 2015

"We miss you, Mom. You are our angel in heaven watching over us from above. Thank you for all your blessings."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Keiser on 5th July 2015

"Thinking of you on your birthday.  You are very much missed."

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 5th July 2015

"happy birth day mom we love you and miss you xoxoxo."

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 5th July 2015

"Hi Petey:

On the 76th anniversary of your birth I hope you have a grand celebration like the song from the Music Man   " 76 Trombones"

Seventy-six trombones led the big parade
With a hundred and ten cornets close at hand.
They were followed by rows and rows of the finest
virtuosos, the cream of ev'ry famous band.

Seventy-six trombones caught the morning sun
With a hundred and ten cornets right behind
There were more than a thousand reeds
Springing up like weeds
There were horns of ev'ry shape and kind.

There were copper bottom tympani in horse platoons
Thundering, thundering all along the way.
Double bell euphoniums and big bassoons,
Each bassoon having its big, fat say!

There were fifty mounted cannon in the battery
Thundering, thundering louder than before
Clarinets of ev'ry size
And trumpeters who'd improvise
A full octave higher than the score!

Love   Mike and Mary"

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 10th May 2015

"hi mom,its amazing how time fly's and life is a mystery,i truly miss you with all my love, I think plenty of us together with great memories. Hayley is expecting her first child in Aug. Justina is also in Oct. Great grand ma again and yes I guess ill be grandpa john and grandma holly. Oh crazy is it but such a beautiful thing.,Joe and I don't communicate at all or just cant find time  I guess..I am praying next year to stop driving my semi and retire from driving and live a healthier life doing some thing else to make ends meet. I drove by white castle the other day and yes had a relapse of us three me you and Joe munching on those sliders so many memories to have at a great value in my life that will be never ending. I wish you a happy mothers day and I only imagine how things are in your new palace. I love  you mom ."

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 29th March 2015

"Hi Petey:

One year has past and I miss you very much. I so fondly recall  our phone calls and reminiscing about our childhood days and all the different Lithuanian meals that Mom made for us. I hope you and Mom and Dad and all our relatives and friends in heaven are having a great time celebrating the first anniversary of your arrival in God's paradise.

Your brother Mike"

This tribute was added by Holly Szeliga on 29th March 2015

"Thinking of you today, Mom. Missing your voice, your chuckle and your prayers. I know you are watching over us from heaven. I love you. XO"

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 29th March 2015

"My dearest sister Petey,
Thinking of you fondly on the one year anniversary of your travel to heaven.  I miss your love and unconditional support.  I know that you are our angel watching over us, and I hope you don't mind the frequent requests for assistance in daily living issues.  I imagine that you are free from the physical constraints you dealt with so gracefully in your life.  I thank God for sending you into my life, and I cherish all we shared.
With much love and appreciation,

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 1st December 2014

"Always thinking about you Grandma Pat. You are in my mind and on my family's daily and you would be so proud of how far we have made it. I know whenever I feel a little bit of hope that in those few moments where something is wrong I know I have the best angel watching over the Szeliga's to keep us safe. We miss you and we Love you.

-Hayley Szeliga"

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 11th July 2014

"Your birthday brought to mind may fond memories. I just wrote a story and placed it in the stories section of this website. I hope others will read is a true story that shows what a miracle worker you really were.

Love Your Bro

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 5th July 2014

"happy birthday today, I miss you mom, as I have mention to others  saying that you are the most perfect example of the only one i know for sure  that was lifted and taken to haven..showing your love for the lord will grow on others and soon  follow your steps to the greatest place. Many, many people miss you and think about you and know you are in their hearts. love john"

This tribute was added by mary gudjones on 5th July 2014

"My dearest Petey,

We were supposed to be wildly celebrating your 75th birthday today.  I know that you're doing that in Heaven in a big way.  I hope the cake and ice cream are exceptional.

I often wonder why God decided to take his special light home too soon--only He has the answer and the need.  I desperately miss your insight and your incredibly warm hugs of affection.  Missing your love on this special day.

Love and hugs,

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 25th April 2014

"In the gallery/photo section of this website  is a copy of the sympathy card the family of Pat Kolar received from the staff at Villa Monte Vista. We are most grateful for the excellent care, compassion, friendship and love that they provided to Pat."

This tribute was added by jaslyn szeliga on 13th April 2014

"Grandma Pat, there isn't a day where I don't think of you. I will always remember you for your quick and witty sense of humor, amazing faith in The Lord, and the love you had for everyone and everything. I'm so blessed to have you as my grandmother, you have made such a wonderful and positive impact in so many peoples' lives and touched their hearts. You were always so positive and loving, and your love for helping others has been passed down to me, and it motivates me to better in life because I want to make you proud. I know you are now watching over me and I am so happy that you are finally home where you belong. I miss you so much Grandma Pat, and I look forward to the day we meet again. I love you so so much."

This tribute was added by Michael Gudjones on 11th April 2014

"This is a tribute from Mike Gudjones, Petey’s only sibling  and Mary Gudjones, her sister-in-law.

First of all let us tell you how very proud we are of you.  You had a significant number of factors working against you early in life but you showed great perseverance and determination in overcoming these obstacles and creating a meaningful life which positively impacted many others.

You left quite a legacy ……..

* You raised two wonderful sons who you can be very proud of ….plus your large extended family, many of whose lives you have directly or indirectly affected.

* You have been a shining example for others regarding how you handled your disability and your loss of independent living at the early age of 62 when your health condition put you in a nursing home. You knew at that point that you would have to remain in a nursing home for the rest of your life. A very difficult situation considering your mind was sharp but your body wasn‘t . Many people put in a similar situation would not have handled this as well as you did. Many would have just given up, or become very depressed, angry, highly irritable, resentful and critical. But not you. Through all of this you managed to keep a positive attitude, a fine sense of humor, a charitable nature, a sincere interest in helping others, and self motivation to find activities to keep your mind active and help pass the many waking hours in your bed.

* Your strong faith in the Lord. You helped so many people with your prayers and the example you set for others as a lover of the Lord.  So many staff members at Villa Monte Vista will forever remember how you helped them through prayer. Your compassion and counsel for them and their day to day problems was a reflection of the Lord through you.

We are so sad that you had to leave us so soon, but so happy that you are now free of all your physical limitations and are enjoying reuniting with all you family and friends in Heaven.  

We love you, love you, love you !"

This tribute was added by Tim Driscoll on 8th April 2014

"Wow, Pat was like a Mom to me as well!!!  She is definitely a great sister in Christ, as well as a mentor in my case, as well as to several others I'm sure. I'm selfishly sad that I may not get to see her for a while, but I rejoice knowing that she is alive and well in the hands of our great Savior even as I write. I can only imagine the joy that she must be experiencing now!  I can't wait to see you again Pat.  Love, your brother, Tim"

This tribute was added by Patty Birkenbach on 5th April 2014

"Pat loved the Lord and was such an inspiration to all the staff at VMV. We were so blessed by her smiles, jokes, positive attitude and prayers. She cared about the well-being of the staff no matter what department you worked in. Pat will be missed by all and has left a legacy to all that knew her. Thank you Pat for choosing our facility for your home, we were all blessed by you and know you will be always be remembered."

This tribute was added by brigid murphy on 4th April 2014

"I only knew Pat through her brother Mike and sister in law Mary but looking at her life story I see a person with tremendous perseverance and with a smile that is an inspiration to all.    God speed your trip to Heaven."

This tribute was added by Rick Riehman on 4th April 2014

"Our sister in Christ was a light that burned brightly for the Lord.  Her heart unselfishly gave to all who came across her path.  She demonstrated the love of her Savior and was a friend to all.  She always took the time to listen, encourage and pray.  Pat leaves a legacy in my heart of kindness, goodness, faithfulness and love.  I will miss you sister and look forward to the day when we will share again in heaven.  She has fought the good fight, finished the race and kept the faith. She has received her crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge has awarded her in heaven....."

This tribute was added by Becky Cannella on 3rd April 2014

"I can't tell you how sad I am to hear of Pat's passing, I have known her since I was a little girl, she and my mom were best friends and she was like a second mother to me and my brothers. She was truly blessed and will be greatly missed.  My deepest sympathy to her family, take solace in knowing she is with God now but will live in all of our hearts forever."

This tribute was added by heather szeliga on 2nd April 2014

"I am so blessed to have you as my grandmother and guardian angel.
You were such an inspiration to every one around you and touched many people's lives; you motivate me to do better with mine. I will always remember your heart warming smile and your laugh, your hugs and kisses, the stories you shared, and your undeniable love for our Father and passion for people. I can not wait to see you again, Grandma Pat. Go dancing for me up there. =]
'Love ya a whole bunch' <3"

This tribute was added by Steve Sefcik on 2nd April 2014

"You were many people's second mom including mine. Love you.."

This tribute was added by Justina Szeliga-Lee on 1st April 2014

"My memories of you Grandma Pat are nothing but warm and uplifting. Growing up, you always made us smile and laugh. I'm still wondering if you really had those pets hiding under your bed....My Dad definitely has your sense of humor! I am so thankful for that and to have such an amazing Father; an extension of an amazing woman. I am grateful to have had the times we shared together and feel honored to know you and that you blessed so many people at VMV. Your life held so much purpose. I know your Spirit is still with us all and that we will all see you again with our Creator. To a kind healer, artist, and loving soul, I love you so much Grandma Pat."

This tribute was added by Sharon Keiser on 31st March 2014

"So my birthday twin has been summoned up to a higher heavenly place.  I certainly will miss her funny comments on my Facebook which I know she loved to peruse and keep in touch with friends.  Rest in Peace Pat."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Keiser on 31st March 2014

"I will always have good memories of our visits together and the nice times we had at family gatherings.  Such a good-hearted lady.  I will miss you."

This tribute was added by Joseph Baiocco on 30th March 2014

"I'll see you again, Mom."

This tribute was added by john szeliga on 30th March 2014

"I love you mom."

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