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Pat Shanks
  • 66 years old
  • Date of birth: Apr 19, 1946
  • Place of birth:
    Huntington, West Virginia, United States
  • Date of passing: Jun 2, 2012
  • Place of passing:
    Luray, Virginia, United States
The Mountains are calling, and I must go - John Muir.

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Pat Shanks, 66, born on April 19, 1946 and passed away on June 2, 2012. We will remember her forever.

A public Memorial Life Celebration will be held at the Lion's Shelter at Lake Arrowhead in Luray, Virginia on July 1, 2012 from 2p-4pm.  All friends, family and community are welcome to attend to celebrate her generous spirit, love of nature and pride in family and community. 

Private family service to be held at 10am on Sunday, July 1st.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 2nd June 2017

"Today is a sad day. However, I am so glad to have been Pat's friend and treasure the memories."

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 2nd June 2017

"Five years gone and I still reach for the phone to call you for all the big and little things.  I know you are always there and your voice is in my head guiding me. Love you, Ma!  ❤️"

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 19th April 2017

"Happy Birthday Pat. I've been thinking about you and so many wonderful memories. I was Blessed to be your friend. Miss you. God Bless."

This tribute was added by mike shanks on 19th April 2017

"Hi Mom__     HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!     I Hope Your Having A Great^Blessed^Pleasant^ Happy Birthday Today Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!        I LOVE YOU ALOT MOM!!!!!!!!!    Amelia Also Says (Meow___Happy Birthday Mom!!!!!!       Amelia And I Hope You Have A Great Happy Birthday Today Mom!!!!!!!!       With Lots Of Love From Mike&Amelia!!(Meow!!!)___"

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 2nd June 2016

"It's been four years since I last saw your face.  In some ways, it's like time has flown.  Kids grow up, we've moved, found new loves, added new friends and pets, remodeled and gardened and so many things you would have thrilled at and joined in.  I miss your words of wisdom, your quiet and comforting presence, knowing you are often the first person I think about calling when things happen (good or bad), and you aren't there still catches me off guard.  I look for you every time I'm in the woods, knowing you are there, somewhere just out of my sight.  I love you, ma.  Always will."

This tribute was added by Mike Shanks on 8th May 2016

"Hello Mom!!!    Good Morning!!!!     Happy Mother's Day!!!!!!!                     Amelia Says Hello Also (Meow!!!!)...                      We Both Wish You A Great, Wonderful, Excellent, And A Very Blessed Mother's Day Today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   Love, Mike&Amelia.."

This tribute was added by Mike Shanks on 19th April 2016

"Hi Mom,   HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!     Amelia Says Happy Birthday Also!!!!   (((MEOW!!!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM!!!!))).............                  Amelia And I Miss You ALOT!!!!                 I Am Always Thinking Of You And The Joy You Brought Myself, Amelia, And My Friends When You Visited!!!!!!!           I Hope You Had A Wonderful, Excellent, Great, Nice, And A Very Super Blessed Happy Birthday In Heaven Today Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!          I LOVE YOU ALOT MOM!!!   LOVE, MIKE AND AMELIA!!!!!"

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 19th April 2016

"Dear Pat,
Happy Birthday. I will always miss you but I am grateful for the memories. I have three kids over the summer...a "camp" like yours. We always make trips to the mountains and I feel like I'm  walking with you. The kids love it and try to identify birds, butterflies, flowers, etc. All of this is a result of your love for the mountains and our mountain trips after I moved back to Virginia. I had forgotten how much fun we had in the WV mountains as kids with your parents and sisters. Again, thanks for the memories. Love, Nancy"

This tribute was added by Thomas Shanks on 29th March 2016

"You popped into my head today, so far I've been awake for 22 hours pulling guard duty and I couldn't help but think back to the times you would tell me "A growing young man needs his sleep."
    It's been 4 years since I've seen you and through all my hard headed teenage years in the past, I would give anything just to spend another Christmas, Birthday, Nature Walk or just to flat out talk to you again, to tell you about all the adventures I've been on since I enlisted and that I hope I'm making you proud.
   I miss you dearly Grandma Pat and I hold tight to the memories,
                 Love always,

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 2nd June 2015

"It's been 3 years since I last saw your face.  There isn't a day that goes by that I don't have a moment where I think, "What would Mom do or what would Mom say...".  It's been a hard road but we"re making it through.  Emma turns 18 today.  She's beautiful and smart and a lot like you - strong, practical and an advocate for th downtrodden and misunderstood.  You'd be so very proud.  And even though you are not with me, I feel your spirit in the plants I tend, the trees and mountains surrounding me, the peace and serenity when I am home with my family.  Love you always, J"

This tribute was added by Shari Arehart on 2nd June 2015

"I never met Pat but I know of the love that she produced through her family.  She must have been a wonderful, caring and loving soul that gave of herself unconditionally.  My thoughts will be with all of you."

This tribute was added by Phyllis Davis on 20th April 2015

"Happy birthday Pat, you were an inspiration sent from above, Your mannerism and demeanor tells me how passionate your were.  Your unconditional love for your children and others has left a lasting impression in this life. I know You are with your Father in heaven May Your Soul Rest In Peace. You have taught me a lot!!"

This tribute was added by Francesca Shanks on 19th April 2015

"Happy birthday... miss you so much Grandma Pat. <3"

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 19th April 2015

"Happy Birthday my friend. We all miss your kindness, humor and wisdom. I always think of you on this day and also think of you when I see the mountains."

This tribute was added by mike shanks on 19th April 2015

"Hello Mom,  Good Morning!!!      I Would Like To Wish You A Nice, Great, Wonderful, Excellent, And Super Blessed Happy Birthday Today!!!      You Were Super Nice To All Of My Friends!!!!!  And, I Would Like To Thank You For That!!!!    They All Love You Alot!!!!!!!!        Amelia Says "Meow!!!!"  (Happy Birthday Mom!!!!  From Amelia!!!!     She Really Misses You Alot Mom!!!!!!    I Remember All Of The Funny Moments We Had Together!!!!    Have A Blessed Day Mom!!!!     Love,Mike"

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 2nd June 2014

"The pictures of Pat with her children and in the mountains are wonderful. They say so much about her love and passion. She was remarkable and will continue to be in the hearts of those of us who loved her."

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 21st April 2014

"When we lived in Winchester, VA, Pat and I always celebrated our birthdays with a meal at Jolly Jack's a popular drive-in at the time. The menu was always the same, a cheeseburger, fries and the best (in our opinion) chocolate milkshake in the world. I'm so glad we friends and I do miss Pat."

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 2nd June 2013

"This past year has been a long and winding road - one that required several stops and changes in course. I always feel your presence and know you are enjoying the journey.  Emma turns 16 today, and I know your absence is felt keenly by her but the lessons you imparted on her remain and she is a testament to the power of Granny Tough every day!  Miss and love you, Ma.   Love, Jennie"

This tribute was added by Gail Seibel on 2nd June 2013

"Too many memories to capture one.  She was my oldest sister and
my mentor.  I will miss her forever."

This tribute was added by Kim Breeden on 21st April 2013

"On the day you were born the angels came,
To send a blessing in his name
A blessing for all to know
That would help so many as they grow
Someone to do his earthly deeds
To touch the lives of those in need
Happy Birthday, My Blessing, I miss you"

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 19th April 2013

"Missing you everyday. You'd be proud of the work Jack has put into the gardens on the patio. Spring is here and they will shout with glory and greenery! Happy birthday!  I love you."

This tribute was added by Geoff Shanks on 19th April 2013

"Happy Birthday Mom. You are so deeply missed and we will love you always. Thinking of you on this special day.

Love always,


This tribute was added by Nana Vargas on 26th August 2012

"Sorry to hear that she has passed..the shanks were like my second family ..I was one of there fresh air fund kids who spent wonderful summer with the prayers go out to the family..she will never be forgotten"

This tribute was added by Gail Seibel on 29th June 2012

"Pat is in a place of all understanding and love. My oldest sister
taught me much about sharing with others what one would otherwise
never have. She loved her gardens and shared that emotion with me.
She is forever in my heart."

This tribute was added by paige adams on 12th June 2012

"I never had the pleasure of meeting Pat, but I know how wonderful she was through my sister Wendy Aspinall who became very close to Pat.  I am so very sorry for her tragic loss and I know she will be greatly missed by all who loved her.....In our hearts forever."

This tribute was added by Chris Andronico-Trageser on 10th June 2012

"Thinking of Pat and how she imparted love and humor to her family. My heartfelt sympathy to Jenn and those closest to Pat; I know she was a rock for many."

This tribute was added by George Shanks on 9th June 2012

"I've seen fire and I've seen rain.
I've seen sunny days that I thought would never end.
I've seen lonely times when I could not find a friend.
But I always thought that I'd see you again."

This tribute was added by Jane Hensley on 9th June 2012

"I meet her by Jenn..she was a supportive mother and grandmother.She was a strong woman and they will miss her dearly. Our lives passed again when she was my father nurses at Lifecare. We had to go with comfort care for him and again she was so supportive and explained to me the way it was best for him and for our family..She was a angel that I passed twice in my life."

This tribute was added by Susan Veramessa on 9th June 2012

"Pat you have been my friend and co-worker for 3 years.  You set the true example of sacrifice and caring and unselfish love by how you lived your life.  I'm honored to have known you and to be able to call you friend.  We at Life Care will miss you terribly."

This tribute was added by Francesca Shanks on 9th June 2012

"" Words can't express how much I miss my Grandma. She was always the best grandma, always wanted to be with her. She helped mold me into who I am today. She taught me so much. She always had such a big heart. She inspired me to become a nurse and help people as she always did. I cherish all the memories."Live well,Love Much,Laugh often." All these she did so well.  I Love you Grandma Pat!""

This tribute was added by Kim Breeden on 8th June 2012

"" For the 17 years I have known Pat, she has always had a smile, kind word, and most gracious heart.  Pat was such an inspiration to be around, and her presence was like "of an angel". She was a special friend to me,  and I'll cherish every memory I have of our time together. My heart goes out to the family for this tragic loss.  May the sunshine she left, always shine in our lives."

This tribute was added by Tyra Olsen Berger on 8th June 2012

"Pat was a beautiful caring person who will be greatly missed. I would like to thank Granny Tough for sharing her love of the outdoors with my children. Thank you for raising a wonderful daughter that I am proud to say is one of my best friends. The reason people love her so much is because of the way that you raised her."

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 7th June 2012

"In 1964 Pat & I took a bus to New York City. We spent a week with my classmate from college's family. The New York World Fair was open and Lita's father got us priority tickets. No wait for the venues. Others were in line for hour, us for minutes. We also went to Coney Island, rode the roller coaster, toured NYC, ate our first Chinese food and saw the ocean for the first time. Great fun!"

This tribute was added by Reese Dillon on 7th June 2012

"I only knew Pat through the example she set for her daughter, Jenn.  The two years that I was privileged to spend with Jenn showed me that she came from a source of love and strength.  My true heartfelt condolences to Jenn and her family.  May you celebrate your mother's life through her example in the years to come."

This tribute was added by Dakota Rice on 7th June 2012

"The main time I spent with Granny Tough was one day when my mom and Jenn went to the craft fair. It was a fun day and we fed horses and found a praying mantis. I'm going to miss her."

This tribute was added by kim dellinger on 7th June 2012

"Thank you Pat for teaching our children the beauty of nature and how to be kind to Mother Earth.
All our love,
Kim, JJ and Hayden"

This tribute was added by John Michael Schott on 7th June 2012

"I was not fortunate enough to meet Pat, but I know she was a wonderful woman who raised a funny, loving, kind daughter.  She touched many lives, and I know she will be missed."

This tribute was added by Donna Miller on 7th June 2012

"Pat welcomed me into her family as Jenn & I began our lives after college.  Her humor, wisdom, and listening ear on countless visits to her home made Pat almost a "mom-away-from-home" that year. You inspired many people in many ways."

This tribute was added by Vonda Rice on 7th June 2012

"You are my dear friend's lovely mother, a friend to me and a step-grandma to my children.  We have shared wonderful Thanksgivings together and outings to the wilderness and horses.  She had a quick wit, loving and warm heart and was so patient and giving.  We will surely miss this wonderful treasure of a mom."

This tribute was added by Keri Shanks on 7th June 2012

"While I only had a few opportunities to really get to know Pat, she was always kind to me. I know through Andrew's family that she has always been a kind, caring and loving person.  She will be missed dearly.  The times I was able to spend with her, whether for a good occasion or a bad one, she was always bright and positive."

This tribute was added by Mike Shanks on 7th June 2012

"" In memory of our mother... i will really miss her laughs, her kind words,  my friends will also really miss her alot also!!~~~   they have gotten to really know her both as a friend and a super nice person!!~~~~~~~~    she will always be looking at us from above.................   It's So Hard to want to believe she is gone!~~~~~~~~~~~~"

This tribute was added by Nancy Kincaid on 6th June 2012

"Pat has been my friend since the 10th grade. Years and life experiences never changed her. She remained kind, loving, generous and funny. Pat shared her love, talents and wisdom with so many. Those of us who shared Pat's life were truly blessed and we will carry her in our heart always."

This tribute was added by Melynda Martin on 6th June 2012

"I would just like to say that I have loved Pat every since I was a little girl.  She was a great woman and was so giving.  She helped my mom and my family in so many ways and I will never forget the kind of friend she was to my mom.  To her family if you need anything I am here for you."

This tribute was added by Tanya Tong on 6th June 2012

"Sending lots of love and celebrating her life and honoring her words of wisdom about kindness, hard work and loving family and friends."

This tribute was added by Daniel & Jean Vogler on 6th June 2012

"We became family and friends via the marriage of our daughter, Sarah, and Geoff about a year ago.  Pat was poised, charming, and one of the most giving of humans.  It was fun, but humbling, to be around her. Her departure from this world leaves a big hole for many of us. Let us fill the hole with great memories and honor her through following the great life-lessons she taught."

This tribute was added by Jennifer Shanks Pray on 5th June 2012

"In memory of our mother, whose loss we cannot even comprehend at this time, we dedicate this webpage to the celebration of a lifetime of sage wisdom, quiet perseverence, passionate advocacy and unconditional love. It is truly amazing how many lives you have touched and how many spirits you have nurtured - you have taught us to "Be kind, Work hard,  and Love well.""

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