ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Patricia McCray 65 years old , born on August 29, 1953 and passed away on January 9, 2019. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Chatelle Bodden on January 25, 2020
I can't believe you have been gone for a year now. We miss you little lady! My tomorrows will never be the same. Continue to rest in peace, beautiful. Your work here on Earth was done. I know you have your wings now and you deserve all the freedom and happiness that goes with being by your Father's side.
I love you Mommy!
Posted by Rasheda Ali on August 29, 2019
Happy Heavenly birthday mom continue to watch over your children. Still can't believe you're not here on earth with us but I know you're with us in spirit love and miss you Rasheda Rest Easy in Paradise
Posted by Chatelle Bodden on August 29, 2019
Happy Birthday Little Lady! I miss you beyond explanation. I love you mommy. Rest easy and continue to watch over us.
Posted by Sheila Singleton Green on January 17, 2019
I am grateful to have had the pleasure of meeting you in Key West where we celebrated Chatelle's wedding and your birthday. As my sister Collette said, "We had a blast!" You immediately captured our hearts with your warm, loving spirit and that infectious smile. So much so, that anytime I spoke with Chatelle and asked how you were doing, it was never how's "your" mom doing, it was always how's "Mom" doing.....what an impression you left on my heart....such a beautiful soul! You truly will be missed but never forgotten. Until we meet again, rest easy Mom!
Posted by Tammy Black on January 15, 2019
To the Family of Pat McCray,
I extend to you my deepest sympathy. It's hard to lose a loved one. Even though we are glad they are in no more pain, it hurts at the thought of never seeing them again here on earth. Precious memories are good, but even that can hurt at first--reminding you she's not here. The good news is that it does get better as time goes on. The precious memories will make you smile instead of cry. May God give all of you a peace that passeth all understanding. God bless all of you in such a way that you will stop and say "I'm feeling blessed!" GOD'S STILL IN CONTROL!
Posted by Collette Singleton on January 11, 2019
Good Morning Ms. Pat. I say that because where you are, there is no more night - just long, beautiful days of well deserved rest. I'm going to miss your beautiful face, electric smile and warm disposition. I consider it a privilege to have gotten to know and love you. We first met in Key West during hurricane Henrietta Jones - gale force winds and rain, warm and tropical. The weather didn't slow us down though - we had a Blast. My sister and I were immediately drawn to your kindness and sincerity. We celebrated Chatelle's wedding and your birthday that weekend - what a great time. One of my favorite memories is the last one we shared in Atlanta when we got into a hilarious discussion about loud colored, silk 2-piece suits - I still laugh about that sometimes. You will be missed, but you left a legacy of love and fond memories that will sustain all of us who knew you, and for that, I am forever grateful.
Posted by James Hawthorne on January 11, 2019
Words cannot say how much this woman meant to me. I will definitely miss all the late night talks and words of inspiration regardless of the circumstances. Thank you for being the best mother, aunt, grandmother, and friend. Your kindness and loving spirit has blessed so many. Can I get you that last Pepsi or Sierra Mist? My love for you is eternal.
Posted by Rasheda Ali on January 10, 2019
I love and will miss you Mom Pat McCray I know you will always be watching over us. From the first time I met you with my best friend Chatelle from CSU you treated me like your Daughter and I loved you for that .May you Rest easy now no more worries or pain you are at peace. You will always be in my thoughts. Gone but never forgotten. Love and miss you Mom♥️♥️
Posted by Valerie Addison on January 10, 2019
I can once again say and testify I had the honor to know a true living Angel...Pat McCRAY...GOD BLESSED US BY UNITING OUR CHILDREN AS HUSBAND AND WIFE,(Justin & Tammee) AND GAVE US PRECIOUS JEWELS (our grandchildren) I LOVE YOU SO MUCH...I Look forward to having our Saturday afternoon talks with a glass of wine, as we promised...You always had your Angel Wings, only a few of us could truly see them...and now YOU HAVE YOUR CROWN,WELL DONE , JEHOVAH's GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT...LOVE YOU MUCH...I 'll talk with you Saturday afternoon...My Beautiful Friend /QUEEN
Posted by Aleasha Stevens on January 10, 2019
I am grateful for the life and legacy of Ms Pat that will continue to shine through life of my best friend, Chatelle. To the family, know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as you celebrate her life and heal from this loss.
Posted by Cassandra Brumfield on January 10, 2019
Pat yöu know i loved yöu i will never forget yöu yöu were beautiful inside an out even though i didnt see yöu often i often thought about yöu how yöu were doing where yöu were yöu were my big sister so fly high butterfly p is for precious a is for the awsome person that yöu were and t is for the teaching that yöu gave us i member when i was a little girl i found a big black po id le i thought it was a horse we drove where i seen it and yöu put it in the car yöu told me it was a dog and yöu laughed and laughed i love yöu my parents adored yöu so rest now my beautiful angel
Posted by Roland McGhee on January 10, 2019
I have always known Pat (Nana) as a supporter and I have known her for at least 30 years. I have never seen her turn anyone away who needed help and I have never seen her judge. Great since of humor, kind and wonderful woman and a lover of Pepsi. She did a wonderful job in helping raise not only my son but her own children as well. She'll be missed.
Posted by Jonathan Swann on January 10, 2019
Even though I didn't get to meet you in person I know your daughter Chatelle and that to me says all I need to know about how wonderful you were and how great of a mother and woman you were. I am praying for each one affected by this loss and I pray God give you all comfort in this time.
Posted by Chatelle Bodden on January 10, 2019
Mommy, you have truly been our hero. Sounds cliche', but you really are the wind beneath our wings. You sacrificed and stayed grounded so your girls and any other child that crossed your path could fly. Well mom, we have done more than fly, we have soared. Thank you for your selfless sacrifice and consistent life lessons. You have been our backbone, our hearts, and our soul. You have worn the hat of mom, dad, sister girl, best friend, and secret keeper. Now it's time to rest your hat and wear your wings. We love you beyond measure. You taught us to lean on God even when we don't understand. So now it's time to live our lessons. We won't say goodbye because we know you are forever with us. We will see you on the other side of the rainbow - we love you today, tomorrow, and forever more! There is no doubt that you were received and the only comments were Job Well Done! Fly high beautiful!

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Posted by Chatelle Bodden on January 25, 2020
I can't believe you have been gone for a year now. We miss you little lady! My tomorrows will never be the same. Continue to rest in peace, beautiful. Your work here on Earth was done. I know you have your wings now and you deserve all the freedom and happiness that goes with being by your Father's side.
I love you Mommy!
Posted by Rasheda Ali on August 29, 2019
Happy Heavenly birthday mom continue to watch over your children. Still can't believe you're not here on earth with us but I know you're with us in spirit love and miss you Rasheda Rest Easy in Paradise
Posted by Chatelle Bodden on August 29, 2019
Happy Birthday Little Lady! I miss you beyond explanation. I love you mommy. Rest easy and continue to watch over us.
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I Don't Do Critters!

Shared by Chatelle Bodden on January 25, 2020
We lived at 1939 Elsmere Dr., Dayton, Ohio - I don't quite remember the apartment number, but I do remember we were on the top floor. What I also remember is that it was later in the evening and as always; Mom, Tammee, and I were laying around watching TV - we spent every evening together. Anyway, as we were all laying around on the couch, we caught a glimpse of something moving really fast across the floor. We quickly realized that there was a mouse in our apartment. We all screamed. My sister and I grabbing onto mom and mom quickly grabbing her phone to call the very special man who would step in and become the only father we knew (Marvin aka Dad). Next thing I knew, mom sprung into action grabbing a gun. I don't know where this gun came from and didn't even know she had one. As we were held hostage on the couch, mom says, "if it runs out again, I'm going to shoot it!" As I think of that now, she was going to have to be one hell of a marksman. I hear my dad yelling at her through the phone, "Pat, you can't shoot a mouse, you live on the top floor and you are going to put a whole in the floor. I'm on my way!" 

It seems like it took forever for my dad to get there, but in Dayton the distance between places is not that great, so at best, it may have taken him 15 minutes. He came prepared. Mouse traps - both traditional with peanut butter, and sticky traps. In less than 30 minutes, my dad, our hero had apprehended the tiny mouse that had held us hostage. 

I think of the lengths and sacrifices you made to ensure we were always safe. Thank you mom and dad for always putting us first. Your fearless heart runs through me every day. Your passion for life and your family will forever live on. I was once told that when you left us, you left the best part of you with us. I know that to be true because I feel you with every decision I make. The compassion my sisters and I have for each other. The love that you taught us will forever be strong and our bond unbreakable. You taught us that family is first. We may not always see eye to eye, but you have an obligation to always be there for one another. That was our final promise to you Mom and I think we are doing pretty good at keeping that promise. And don't worry mom, to this day, we still don't do critters!

I love you yesterday, today, and forever more. 

Kindergarten Walk

Shared by Chatelle Bodden on January 25, 2020

I laugh when I sit and reflect on the time you overslept and was late to pick me up from Kindergarten. You said I knew my way home, so I proceeded to walk my teacher and the entire class to our apartment. I can still hear you laugh as you tell that story. You were so tickled because you said you woke up to the sound of a bunch of kids, jumped up and realized you had overslept. It was ok mom! I knew my way home :) You taught me well. Never walk alone and don't take short cuts. 

Man I really miss those lessons. I love you to the moon and back again. I miss you more today than yesterday.

Bird

Shared by Armywyf1 on January 20, 2019

It has taken me a while to be able to write something here. There are so many things that I want people to know about you. I still talk to you everyday...sometimes just silly stuff..other times i tell you how much I miss you.  I cry sometimes but I am going to be okay. It's just the drive around the corner will never be the same. In our next lives I hope we a paired again, mother and daughter, best friends til the end. I love you so much Bird!