Patricia Boughton Palmer
  • 82 years old
  • Date of birth: Dec 30, 1932
  • Place of birth:
    New Jersey, United States
  • Date of passing: Dec 24, 2015
An astonishing truth: Focused awareness and attention to feelings without judgment is always transforming – and always in a positive direction.

This memorial website was created in memory of Patricia Palmer. You are invited to share thoughts, stores, and pictures here.

A celebration of Patricia’s life was held at the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) in Tucson on Saturday, February 13th, 2016. The memorial celebration was live streamed and recorded and can be viewed on the Gallery page of this web site (in the video section).

You can download the Memorial Program here. 

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be sent to the Hekademos Foundation’s Patricia Palmer Memorial Scholarship Fund so that Patricia’s healing programs will continue to reach those most in need. Click to participate in the Patricia Palmer Memorial Scholarship Fund.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Els Beekman on 29th December 2017

"For ever in my heart

This tribute was added by David Palmer on 24th December 2017

"Thinking of you today Mom, 2 years since you traveled onto your next destination.  Thinking of you lots and loving you more than ever!  xoxox  David."

This tribute was added by Edie Sabetay-Wilcox on 30th December 2016

"Happy birthday today, Patricia! Wherever you are! I often think about you. You will be forever missed."

This tribute was added by David Sadker on 16th February 2016

"I met Patricia in Tucson just a few years ago, and was honored to facilitate Courage & Renewal work with her and her colleagues. Together we explored the unseen landscape, with her courage as inspiration. A beautiful life; a beautiful soul."

This tribute was added by Deborah Knox on 16th February 2016

"Thank you to all the family members and friends who were with us on February 13th to share the blessings of Patricia's life on us all.  What a remarkable woman, I fell so graced by her presence which will stay with me always."

This tribute was added by Timen Schut on 13th February 2016

"Patricia, I am grateful that you have been my trainer/teacher in the Hekademos program. Learning from your inner and ancient wisdom and humor was great. You represented a vital, healing and intentional way to go in life and that with your deep believe in healthy transformational processes is for me like a landmark on my personal path."

This tribute was added by Rhonda Marcus on 11th February 2016

"I met Pat in 1982 as a student at SUNY Brockport. She was my therapist for 3 years. I was honored to have kept in contact with Pat since 1985 (the year I graduated). I have known Pat for more than 30 years. She has left a lasting impression on my life. She truly was the best therapist that I have ever had. I will always love you Pat."

This tribute was added by Ruth Hyde on 11th February 2016

"I knew Pat when she lived in Brockport. I was delighted to see her when we were both attending the Koprivshitsa Festival in Bulgaria. She was serving in the Peace Corps there."

This tribute was added by Jaap van der Pol on 7th February 2016

"I will always remember Patricia’s inner wisdom, here unconditional acceptance and her love . She is an important model for me as a practitioner in the mind body medicine work ."

This tribute was added by Patty Borges-Madden on 3rd February 2016

"Pat, you helped me to change my life.  My breath was just taken away when I looked you up and found your obituary.  Your attention and love and belief in healing helped me become who I a today.  Thank you."

This tribute was added by Femke Wessels on 30th January 2016

"Dear Patricia, I can hardly imagine that you will not be teaching anymore in the Hekademos programme. That we have to miss your presence, your huge knowledge, your smiles, your humor, your warmth, your kind words that supported me and so many others, your jokes, your …
But I’m so grateful that you learned me how to go to my ‘’memorybank’’ (the word you used in the program), to experience the beautiful moments again, to remember your voice and your words. Thank you so much Patricia, for helping and supporting me, in my personal and professional life, for your beautiful lectures, for sharing all your wisdom. Love Femke"

This tribute was added by Els Beekman on 26th January 2016

"My dearest, lovely Patricia, you will be always in my heart, being a part of my inner wisdom. I am so grateful to have met you in Bergplaas, Tuscon and Spa; it was lovely to be and work with you and to share my concerns and joys in life. You brought joy, and will be doing that for ever and ever. Hope to see you once somewhere."

This tribute was added by Edie Sabetay-Wilcox on 18th January 2016

"I will light a candle for, Patricia.
I only knew you for the whole of three months! However, you made a deep impression within me. It's not length of time that matters but the depth of connection and quality involved.
I'm deeply saddened by your passing although I know that there are probably few people as equipped to handle this 'passing' as knowledgeably and elegantly as you are.
I have walked 'your' labyrinth twice this week, all the time thanking you for going through the process of having it made. The rare coolness of a Tucson mid day on my back, the distant din of traffic and the notion that everything and everyone have their brief moment of enlightenment within the universe, filling my mind.
I will miss your wise words, your presence and strength."

This tribute was added by gisella wessels on 12th January 2016

"Dear Patricia,
What a beautiful teacher you have been. I am very grateful to have had the chance to meet you on courses at Bergplaas, Tucson and Belgium. Special moments. The power of mind body work, caring wisdom, graceful attitude and good laughter is what you brought into my life, I will cherish that forever. Adieu, till we meet again."

This tribute was added by Del Jones on 7th January 2016

"You are forever deep in my heart, Patricia.  We did not know each many years, but the few we did, our friendship was precious and deep.
Thank you for being part of OMG'ers (Oh My Goddesses), Elder Circles and being a blessing to my life."

This tribute was added by Ray Kemp on 6th January 2016

"My wife, Jan Smedley, and I met Patricia at our local Quaker meeting.  She invited us to her Mind/Body seminar and we both found her/it to be an ongoing catalyst for our ability to deal with our personal trauma, our capacity to support others dealing with life threatening or impending death and an accelerated openness for growth and change--- And always in a positive direction."

This tribute was added by esther schilder on 6th January 2016

"I met Patricia in the summer of 2014 during a retreat led by the Hekademos Foundation. She became for me a role model of a woman who kew how to grow old gracefully. Calm and full of energy at the same time. She had such a beautiful voice. I am grateful to have met her."

This tribute was added by Mandy Diephuis on 6th January 2016

"Dear Patricia,
We met at Bergplaas in South Africa. You were such a special lady, strong, calm and caring. You gave me very good advice during councelling sessions, which I will cherish and follow for the rest of my life. With your help I became a stronger person. I will light a candle for you here in the Netherlands and you will be in my heart forever.
Love Mandy"

This tribute was added by Anina Meiring on 6th January 2016

"Dearest Patricia you will always be in my hart. I have learned so many things from you through the Hekademos programme. I still see you walking under the African sun. What a honour to know you and to have experienced your wisdom. I will light a candle for you here in South Africa, while hearing your kind voice around me. I salute you!"

This tribute was added by David McNair on 5th January 2016

"Pat was a fantastic leader at our Habitat affiliate in Rochester, NY.  Great at selecting and interaction with the families.  Great at calming difficult situations, a real peacemaker.  Great team builder, and organizer.  Fun to know and work with.  One of the people you really remember in life.  i'm deeply sorry she is gone."

This tribute was added by Lucienne Kelfkens on 4th January 2016

"We were fortunate to meet Patricia with Barbara in our home in Cape Town. What struck us was her youth, her level of energy and dedication to life and ongoing growth. My husband Sizwe joined her and the group for a week long journey in the Karoo and appreciated her honesty and open mindedness. We are blessed that we have known her. Love Lucienne & Sizwe"

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David Palmer
Jennifer Dohr
Peter Nassar
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