ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Patricia Chukwukelu. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Vivian Champion on June 22, 2021
Your death made me realize that this world is not our own. It can be anyone tomorrow. I have been a bad friend. I have been crying since I received the news of your demise. I feel terribly sad. How and why did I go so far from you my girl. I was not happy with myself for not attending your wedding in 2017 due to some unforeseen circumstances. And that was why I kept my distance since then. We stopped chatting the way we used to, never spoked on the phone afterwards. I called to say sorry and explained why I couldn't make it but deep down, I knew you were not happy cos I was not supposed to miss your big day. That incident breached our friendship, though we always comment on each other's post. Chika my tiwnnie i didn't know you were going to leave so soon. I don't even know what to say. I just wish this news will reverse. I will never forgive myself for staying so far from you my dear friend. I my not have shown it but babygirl I appreciate you in life and in death. You made all my visits in Lagos worth staying and your house is always open to me. I can go on and on. Pls my dear friend forgive me for staying so far. I love you and you will always remain indelible in my heart.
RIP MY DEAREST FRIEND
RIP CHIKA PATRICIA IKWUAGWU CHUKWULE
RIP INNO'S WIFE
RIP MUMMY SONIA AND CHIZOBA
RIP MY ROOMIE IN SECONDARY SCHOOL
RIP MY LAGOS CONNECT
RIP MY TWINNIE
Posted by Vee . on June 22, 2021
Trish,

It feels so surreal to know that you are no more with us.
The news of your demise shook me and truly broke our hearts in the group. To think that we would no longer gist as usual is just something I never imagined would happen at this time.

It really hurts but we believe that God knows why it happened.

I pray that God, who knows the end from the beginning, will strengthen your family and loved ones to bear this painful loss.

Rest in Peace Trish. You will be dearly missed.
Posted by Rezzy Rezzy on June 14, 2021
It's so hard to believe that you have left this world. I received the news of your death with a rude shock and pains in my heart. Going back every now and then to read your last chat on our group and wish you would give us the good news, but here I am writing a tribute to you.



I pray God gives your husband and we your loved ones the fortitude to bear this great loss.
We love u but God loves you most.

Sleep on sweet mama


Posted by Ikwuagwu Rita on June 14, 2021
TRIBUTE TO MY LOVELY SISTER!!!!!

The moment I realized my sister just died, my hands cradled my face, and I frantically cried out on the road while going to the market. Is just as if am dreaming till now, I couldn't believe it is true.
I never thought I'd lose you, but here I am. We have greater plans ahead but now you're gone. I don't know how to cope without you.
I kept asking myself: Why did this happen, and how could this be, someone I spoke to on Monday being 7/06/2021, and you said to me "Nkechi am fine". That was the last word I heard from you.
You had so much to live for, we could all clearly see.
My heart simply dropped and I felt a sharp pain when I heard you are truly gone. My tears fell instantly, screaming for God to take my life in place of yours.
Sometimes it looks as if am going crazy bearing in mind that I won't see you again, I am trying to hold on to keep strong, but it just doesn't feel right. I wished you would come back to life one day.
I was truly lucky to have someone like you in my life.
 A sister, a wife, a mother too, this is the legacy we have from you. For all of us, you gave your best.
Sweet sister I believe you will always be there for us and am very sure you won't let us down.
I will miss our long conversation on phone, your comforting voice and those random moments where we'd mutually rejoice...

  Hmmmm!!!!!! I will never forget Tuesday 8/06/2021, the worst day of my life...........

Adannem! your sisters, mum and dad will forever miss you, you will always remain in our hearts...........
 Rest in peace my beloved sister and best friend. Your kid sis Nkechi loves you so much!!!!!
Posted by Nkiruka Mary on June 14, 2021
Tribute to the best sister in the world.


Honestly, I write this with a heavy heart. I wish you could somehow look at the downpour of tears from my eyes and come back.
It's really still unbelievable that you're no longer in this cruel world with me. Why can't this whole drama be a dream never come true?
Adanne, you were exactly my sweet sister, mum and friend.
I just wish my too many cries, sleepless nights and earnest yearnings for you could bring you back. If I was even asked to cry the whole year or more to bring you back, I'll definitely do.
Big sis, no amount of words can actually relate my broken heart on this paper.
You are just irreplaceable sister. Now that you're no more, I don't know what would happen to all our future plans, all the rules we planned on breaking together. I don't know who's going to be my big sister. I don't know who I would run to for emotional and financial support. I don't know who I would give my salute to after my youth service.
You were just everything I ever wanted and wished for in a sister and now that you're gone, I'm only going to helplessly miss you and continually love you now and forever.
I love you Adanne
I miss you
Mummy, Daddy and your younger ones misses you
I know and believe you're somewhere somehow watching over us.
Rest in peace Big sister♥️♥️♥️
Posted by Dr Egovin on June 14, 2021
Oh Trish,
  Why????? You did a number on us. I'm still here reading, crying my eyes out and hurting. I sleep thinking about you, I wake up thinking about you. Knowing you are no longer with us in the group, reading our messages and sharing in all our little and big wins is something I haven't come to terms with.
Posted by Ugochukwu Omenkukwu on June 14, 2021
I remember the day we found you on the bus from CMS.
Your husband knew at once that he has met the most woman on earth and a life partner.
You later became a part of the “goofers” bringing with you so much laughter and warmth.
I will never forget Tuesday, the 8th of June 2021 at about 3:00am. It was a panic call from your hubby urgently requesting for platelets. We tried but God knows best.
You have left a big vacuum here that no one can ever fill but I know you are in a better place and will forever be in our hearts.
Posted by Uchee Josie on June 14, 2021
Dear Benny!
The fairest amongst us!

From the first day I met Ugo, I started to hear about you and was curious to meet with you one on one.

You exceeded my expectations on our first meeting with your openness and the way you related with me like we have known for a long time.

I might not have as much memories of you as every other of your friends but I know that I do not regret knowing you.

I might also not be of much help to your children and family but I will always have them in my prayers.

May you find peace at your final destination and please always look out for the family you left behind.

Just know that our hangouts will never be complete without you.
Posted by Diana Umar on June 14, 2021
Benny...
Words fail me.. still speechless..
If only we knew what tomorrow holds..

We could have talked more, we could have laughed more, we could have shared lots of memories together.

How do i get over this knowing fully well you are not coming back. I stare at your daughters and all i see is you.

The love you and my brother shared is like no other...

Rest on dear sister.
May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace Amen.
Posted by Oyin eM on June 13, 2021

Trish…
I have opened this site nothing less than 10 times today but words fail me. Who would have thought? Who would have thought that a group started to lose weight will become a family where we talk about everything and anything over 3 years later. Who would have thought that we would be here writing tributes today instead of dragging random gist and admiring our new baby’s pics.

I will never forget your quiet but sweet personality, sweet mamas is no longer the same. It’s been dark since we heard the sad news. But in all our confusion and anger we choose to trust in God’s perfect will. May he give your husband strength and comfort and keep your children and your family.

Sleep on my friend, my sister, my sweet mama, may perpetual light always shine upon you as you rest in God.

Oyin

Posted by Chukwukelu Esther on June 13, 2021
Benny!!! My heart is so heavy, it still feels unbelievable that you’re no more with us. Words fail me at this point, still can’t find answers to the thousand questions I ask. My only consolation is that you’re in a better place. You meant more than the world to my Brother, you were everything he wanted. You worked so hard to achieve everything you had, you were filled with lots of ideas. Thoughts of the memories we shared keeps replaying in my head. Where do we all start from, who will fill this huge void you left us with. My God!!! Help us sail through this very tough time. You will never be forgotten Benny

Rest Peacefully my darling
Posted by Mercy Ukamaka Ukwuoma on June 13, 2021
I would never in my wildest imaginations think I would be penning a tribute to you so soon. I felt my heart shattered when I heard the news cos never would I have thought in a million years that it would be you. I really cannot articulate my thoughts because I did not expect that I would write this. Your life may have been short but it was impactful. Rest well babe.
Posted by Anthony Ubah on June 13, 2021
Hello Bennie,

It's a great deal of pain writing this. I have spent hours on this page writing and erasing.
You simply left too soon, and without notice. These is a lot to say, and really nothing left to say.
You were my friend, my sister, and an amazing human being. A bright spark. A beauty. A brain. A leader. A winner.
You brought growth and great happiness to Innocent. Now that you are up there, do not abandon what you started. Keep an eye on us.

Peace!

Rest on!

Posted by chinenye Okafor on June 13, 2021
Dear Benny,

8th June 2021, is Indeed a Black Tuesday for me
Just on my way home I received a call that you are dead.
It was hard for me to believe till now I can't still believe you are no more, I remember the last conversation with you on 28th May when you told me you are fine and we laughed over baby bouncing in your tummy.

I can't believe that my birthday will be the last day  I have to see you Benny, Death Why

Seriously your death has left me thinking so much, life without God is meaningless and nothing.

May your soul continue to rest in peace Benny Amen

What a World
My prayers will forever be with you ❤
Posted by Sandra O. Shuaib on June 13, 2021
Dear Patricia,

Look how distance just drifted us apart and we became less close and all the recent memories we would have shared never happened, Its really a sad moment for me, my dear friend.
I pray you find rest in the bossom of the Lord. You will be greatly missed Trish.
Posted by Dr Egovin on June 13, 2021
Dear Trish,
It seems surreal that I am writing you a tribute. Never in my wildest imagination did thoughts of you leaving so soon come up. We waited to hear the good news from you for two days. After day 2, Temi went on FBI mode and that was when we learnt that you were gone. When Oyin sent me the messages that night, I felt anger, intense anger, then pain. The pain came like a dark cloud and enveloped me during the coming days. I tried to walk back and read up our recent conversations and events that led to your final moments. I imagined the fear and loneliness you may have felt when you were slipping to the other side. I imagined you fighting and giving it your best shot but it wasn't to be. I cherish all the wonderful memories we created as one big family. You were beautiful and kind and you will be sorely missed by all.
The group has been eerie quiet, the girls are scared and sad. The sharp knife of your short life cut us deep. Your passing is a rude reminder that nobody gets out of here alive.
 I pray God gives your family the grace to carry on. I pray he gives your husband the wisdom and strength to raise your girls. I pray God comforts and guides him in his weakest moments. Your memories will live on, Trish.
 
 Fare thee well, my Sister, my friend!!!!


Docky.
Posted by Ukeme Chukwuemeka on June 13, 2021
I was not ready to say goodbye.
The new of your death broke my heart. I will remember you at every moment as you were an exceptional person,farewell dear Benny.
Posted by Obumkaneme Cynthia on June 13, 2021
Hmmmm Benny!!!

I still find it hard to believe this , I am so speechless .

Like I am writing a tribute to you?
Howwww ☹️☹️
But God knows best!!

You're in a better place watching over us.

This is me saying Congratulations on the arrival of your bundle of Joy & also for a life well lived ..

Words fail me Benny, words fail me .

May your beautiful soul find Rest ❤️❤️.
Posted by Samefamily Haven on June 13, 2021
Mummy Sonia, mummy Sonia, mama Soso. Am stock at my feet, can't enter my apartment. I was expecting Sonia's younger one to Samefamily Haven care center. Am speechless, just tears rolling. No no no no no no no no no no no is all I can say. Continue staying bless with the Lord. My name sake. Your ideas lives on. God is your life. From mummy creche, Samefamily Haven care center.
Posted by Sandra Ugwu on June 13, 2021
Dear Benny,

Your death came as a huge shock to us, we never bargained for this. I kept on wishing these could all dreams.

I can't stop thinking about the memories we shared together. You were a true friend and a sister to me. I called you ogom nwanyi, oh death!!

Who do I call when I need a sisterly advice? Who do I call to plan an event with? It's really hard to type a tribute for you Benny. I pray we all come out strong of this.

I pray that God grant us the fortitude to bear this great loss.

Sleep well my dear friend. We will forever miss you ❤
Posted by Uchechukwu Ugwu on June 13, 2021
I was just calling to hear baby and mom ok and my friend (Your Hubby) said baby ok but my wife is still recovering. I prayed but God knew why He called you back.

You have being such a wonderful person and my wife confidante. Your love for my family is second to none and you have always been there.

It's difficult to say goodbye this early and I pray that Innocent and the kids would be strong to over come this heavy loss.

Who will give me ofada rice and special meals I enjoy from you any time I visited. May the good Lord grant you eternal rest and protect all your loved ones you left behind.

Engr. Uchechukwu Ugwu
Posted by Jane Anugwara on June 13, 2021
Words fail me, but what can I say?
The news of your demise was a shocker,
God knows best. Sleep on dearie....
Posted by CHIDALU UBAH on June 13, 2021
Oh Benny!!!!
Your passing is still a shock that I can not get over. That was the first news that woke me up that morning. It didn't make sense to me, and it still does not, but what can I say, God knows best. This is definitely a void that can not be filled, but there is comfort in knowing that your beautiful daughters remain a constant reminder of your short but beautiful presence on earth and your legacy lives on. They have a wonderful father and I know that he would raise them to be as strong and loving as their beautiful mother.

Eternal rest grant unto Benny, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

Rest on Benny in the bossoms of the Lord!!!
Posted by Esther Fagbemi on June 13, 2021
Dear Tricia,
I remember you as a strong, focused and determined lady. You were a woman with a quiet and gentle spirit. You always met and exceeded your goals. You will be greatly missed, because you added color to life.

Our angel, keep watching over your kids, husband, family and friends. Rest on beautiful soul, your light will never go out.
Posted by chuks obi on June 13, 2021
Benny... The news of your demise is indeed overwhelming. I don't even know where to begin with penning this tribute... words wouldn't describe the pain and shock. E no suppose be like this.. You're such a sweet soul.. you will be dearly missed. May your soul rest in peace.
Posted by ABIMBOLA OLUGBILE on June 13, 2021



It's so surreal to be writing this, I keep wishing it's all a dream. Though you're done from our sight, your memories live on. I will keep cherishing the wonderful moments we had. Heaven as gained an Angel.

Rest in peace Trish.

  
Posted by Kosiso Nwankwor on June 13, 2021
Benny: Always assertive, never caught unfresh, you always knew what you wanted. It causes great pain to know that you have left us; and too soon, oh come on. You were a leader, an organiser, a go-getter, it is hard to believe you are not here anymore. I know that you are in a better place. I hope for strength and resilience on your family. I know that wherever you are, you are watching over all your people. Rest in the bosom of the Lord Benny.
Posted by Frances Osadebe on June 13, 2021
Dear Benny, you were a really beautiful soul, made everyone around you comfortable, always happy.

I still can not believe this, I am still unable to process it.

You will never be forgotten.
Rest well Benny...
Posted by Bolaji Dosa on June 13, 2021
I was hoping this was a bad dream. Rest on Trish you are greatly missed. Sweet Mamas Association is no longer the same without you.
Posted by Ifeanyichukwu Xavier Nwan... on June 13, 2021
It's so hard believing this reality especially because I was at your house about a month ago and you were hale and hearty.
At the end of the day, all we have is moments in this life..let's live, love and laugh.
RIP Patricia Chukwukelu

Posted by Chikeluba Akumuo on June 13, 2021
Still in grief about your demise but reality check dawn on me that it is a debt we all owe and must pay either now or later..whichever time it would be.
Just rest in peace Benny, because it is also certain that your time is up on earth and we can not question God because everything that happens to us always have the mark of God on it as Christians.
You would be missed by all especially your husby nd kids but they would be fine by God's grace...
Amen!

RIP nwunye Xzibit! (as I fondly call your husby)

Xzibit take heart but also take charge.
GOD IS INVOLVED!!!
Posted by Precious Gafar on June 13, 2021
Oh dear Trish. I am yet to face the harsh reality that you're no longer with us. You'll be greatly missed, your jokes, your laughter and your words of encouragement. Rip dearest Trish, may your soul find eternal rest.
Posted by Obiora Onyiaorah on June 13, 2021
Words fail me at this present time. But i trust that the lord consoles the family you left behind. May your soul Rest In Peace.
Posted by Chinenye Agina on June 13, 2021
Trish dear, you were really a rare gem. A friend turned sister and a confidant.

Thank you for being full of love and concern for others. Our group will never remain the same without you

I can't believe I'm saying good bye to you but it is what it is.

Keep resting sis. I love you dearly
Posted by Chukwuemeka Ukenye on June 13, 2021
Words alone cannot describe the shock, anger and pain I feel with the news of your demise but God knows best. Rest in perfect peace.
Posted by Ifezue Chukwunnamdi on June 13, 2021
Benny it's so unbelievable that we'll be here writing tributes to you, there is nothing that is invincible for a soul as spirited as you, yet you bowed down to death to honour God and his will.

You will be forever remembered.

Rest in peace.
Posted by Ime Killi on June 13, 2021
Where do I begin from? What do I write? I am still so numb at the fact that you're no longer here with us. I wake up everyday thinking about you and wishing someone will come and tell me it's all a lie.

Trish oh Trish how do we just move on without you? You had the most beautiful soul. I will miss all your funny yabbing on the group. I will miss all the laughter we shared on the group. Thank you for sharing your wonderful personality with me. I will hold it in my heart and treasure it forever.

May your soul find eternal rest and may God console your family and your beautiful children.

Rest in peace sis


Love,
Jazzy





Posted by Innocent Chukwukelu on June 13, 2021
Sweetie!!! It is difficult putting this tribute together. I never imagined in my lifetime I would pen a tribute to you.

I replay the events leading to your death very often. I try to understand the pains you had to go through. I try to imagine how you felt at the point you asked for a pen to write me a note. You wrote that you loved me and I should take care of your mum and siblings.

You didn't stop there, you also told the Nurse before you passed on that you loved me and I should take care of the kids. How do I manage this herculian task?

My heart is heavy with fear, the uncertainty the future holds without you is so scary. The anxiety attacks, where do I begin from?

The questions are so much that I really wish this was not my reality.

I have been consoled and asked to find the strength to carry on. I will try to do this by God's grace and the fact that I have to take care of Sonia and Chizoba. If you could see this, I also would like to inform you that Chizoba would bear your name Patricia. She turns out to have your same blood type. Your legacy will be carried on!

I will be strong just because you would want me to be. How do i fill the void your passing has created? We have spend the last 8years doing everything together. We have spent our 4 years of marital life building together. We planned to make a trip to the villa this year, but you had to go in a bodybag. It is painful, I honestly don't even believe all this but I know you are in a better place.

I take solace in the hope that you are up there watching over us. You will be missed forever. Till we meet to part no more.

I and the kids love you!!!

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Posted by Vivian Champion on June 22, 2021
Your death made me realize that this world is not our own. It can be anyone tomorrow. I have been a bad friend. I have been crying since I received the news of your demise. I feel terribly sad. How and why did I go so far from you my girl. I was not happy with myself for not attending your wedding in 2017 due to some unforeseen circumstances. And that was why I kept my distance since then. We stopped chatting the way we used to, never spoked on the phone afterwards. I called to say sorry and explained why I couldn't make it but deep down, I knew you were not happy cos I was not supposed to miss your big day. That incident breached our friendship, though we always comment on each other's post. Chika my tiwnnie i didn't know you were going to leave so soon. I don't even know what to say. I just wish this news will reverse. I will never forgive myself for staying so far from you my dear friend. I my not have shown it but babygirl I appreciate you in life and in death. You made all my visits in Lagos worth staying and your house is always open to me. I can go on and on. Pls my dear friend forgive me for staying so far. I love you and you will always remain indelible in my heart.
RIP MY DEAREST FRIEND
RIP CHIKA PATRICIA IKWUAGWU CHUKWULE
RIP INNO'S WIFE
RIP MUMMY SONIA AND CHIZOBA
RIP MY ROOMIE IN SECONDARY SCHOOL
RIP MY LAGOS CONNECT
RIP MY TWINNIE
Posted by Vee . on June 22, 2021
Trish,

It feels so surreal to know that you are no more with us.
The news of your demise shook me and truly broke our hearts in the group. To think that we would no longer gist as usual is just something I never imagined would happen at this time.

It really hurts but we believe that God knows why it happened.

I pray that God, who knows the end from the beginning, will strengthen your family and loved ones to bear this painful loss.

Rest in Peace Trish. You will be dearly missed.
Posted by Rezzy Rezzy on June 14, 2021
It's so hard to believe that you have left this world. I received the news of your death with a rude shock and pains in my heart. Going back every now and then to read your last chat on our group and wish you would give us the good news, but here I am writing a tribute to you.



I pray God gives your husband and we your loved ones the fortitude to bear this great loss.
We love u but God loves you most.

Sleep on sweet mama


Recent stories

De Soul Centre

Shared by Anthony Ubah on June 13, 2021
We all sat in for a drink and some grilled fish at De Soul Centre in Lagos. It was with you, Innocent, Uche, and his wife Sandra. This was in March, and I was about to leave Lagos for good. Knowing I will not be doing this hangout with the bunch in a while, I played host on the evening. 

Now everything about that evening has a new meaning to me. I will come back to that.

2013, at the prime of our youth, a budding stage of our careers, Innocent and I shared an apartment. Although we had been schoolmates, played basketball together and hung out together, I got a deeper insight into Innocent Chukwukelu, his true essence, and your undeniable positive impact on who he is today. He is a great man, and fate should have been kinder to him by preserving you on earth even for a day longer.

The first time we met was in a cramped bus in Ijesha, Lagos. While innocent carried the rusty gas cylinder we just bought for the apartment, I followed with the tabletop gas cooker.This was 2 months after we moved into the apartment. He sat next to you, while I sat by the window. We looked like we were back from digging trenches along Adeshina street. Innocent, donning his ever-reliable "Rocha, John Rocha" T-shirt, patterned with dust and rust, and with dusty feet, while I...(shall not mention my appearance on the day. I was worse). This was after a long sweaty day of repairs, and household shopping.

Although being quite reserved and a bite size sensitive, Innocent struck a conversation with the light bulb in the back seat with us. Seconds before you alighted with your sister, whom you had seated on your thigh through the trip, Innocent whipped out his phone to ask for your number. He handed over to you, his dim screened Nokia 1100, a contraption held together by 2 rubber bands. To my surprise, you obliged with a smile, passing over your your Blackberry Bold flagship. A second of pride from you would have cost us the beautiful moments that you have us. 

You never stressed Innocent at all. A few calls and a date later and Innocent said to me, "I never knew I'll be privileged to date a Girl like this".

I had the pleasure of living in the same house with you and Innocent. 1001 dates and awesome moments later, you handed Innocent the palm wine, and next I was giving a toast as the best man telling this story.

I watched you both grow as a couple. Your relationship with Innocent was so close and beautiful that we "the Goofers" cheekily morphed your name into a verb 'benny', meaning, to be bound or confiscated by a woman.
While we felt you made Innocent less crazy, and more scarce from the pack, being 'bennied' became a keyword we used for friendly banter amongst us. This remained unbeknown to you and Innocent until that day in March.

We soon realized that we all wanted to be 'bennied'. I guess we grew older and wiser. It was a secret code among the boys, and we used it for years.

Only a few urged me more than you and Urch to get into a relationship and get 'bennied'. While Uche would hitch me to any female who crosses the streets, you would without judgement, in that calm charisma, smile, and encourage me to never relent. 


I thought that final night at De soul Center was about me. I knew I will miss everyone, and so I wanted to have us sit and talk. That was the first time we broke the code 'benny' to you. I could see the blush on your yellow face, I guess you didn't know you were so much of an influence and an inspiration to us all. We all talked about everything that night, our lives in Lagos so far, our mistakes, losses and winnings. Opened up on some pending issues and ironed out a few creases.

I was wrong. That night in March had nothing to do with me. It was about you all along. At the end of the evening, when I told you our next meeting must be in a better place, I didn't mean heaven, I meant Canada. I guess you misunderstood me. 
Oddly this all happened at a place called De "Soul" Centre. Little did we know that your beautiful soul will be harvested by God.

You were a bright spark to us all, and you have a special place in our hearts.

We love you Benny
Shared by Oluwabusayomi Makinde on June 13, 2021
Your exit is very painful and shocking..  May God be with your family and give strength to carry on..
Rest on Trish.. You will be greatly missed..