ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Patricia Lund 72 years old , born on January 13, 1948 and passed away on June 24, 2020. We will remember her forever.

To view a timeline of her life please go to https://app.memorywell.com/story/667/timeline
For authority to add moment(s) to her timeline please contact Bob Lund at BobLund@cox.net.

Posted by Robert Lund on September 30, 2020
We are so sorry to hear that dear Pat has left us. Please accept our deepest condolences. We will miss Pat. She was a great lady.

Anna & Zbig Lechowski
from their message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 17, 2020
I have enjoyed talking with Pat at Friends and Neighbors and other social gatherings where her wit and positive attitude were always apparent.  Pat’s accomplishments, compassion and investment In the lives of others were so evident as witnessed by both students and colleagues in their expressions of heartfelt remembrances.

You were indeed a lucky man to share your life with her and in my limited observation, she was very supportive of you as you both worked to contribute to you community.

Carol Moser
from her message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 10, 2020
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Pat was a very special lady - but you knew that.

Helen & George Spalthoff
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on September 7, 2020
I am so sorry to hear about Pat. You and Anne-Marie must be devastated by your loss. Pat was always a great colleague, a good friend. Whether it was via email or our visits in DC, it was always a pleasure to be in her company and to catch up on what was happening in our lives. She will be deeply missed by so many.

Frank joins me in sending our condolences.

Ruth Tappen
From her message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 4, 2020
Bob, we were so sorry to read in the “Gazette” about your wife’s passing and just wanted you to know that our thoughts are with you at this very sad time. I remember meeting Pat at one of those financial dinners. She and I laughed about trying to limit YOU to only 1 question. I’m sure she was a lovely person and will certainly be missed by many people. 

Please accept our sincerest condolences.

Margaret and Andy Robinson
From their message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 1, 2020
I will always remember Pat from our BYOBs and the summer water aerobics classes she instructed. She was always pleasant and made you feel she was happy to see you.

Vanessa T. Trent
from her condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 25, 2020
Arlene Hansen provided a spiritual gift for Pat's remembrance by the Congregation of Marian Fathers of the Immaculate Conception.
Posted by Robert Lund on August 24, 2020
I will miss: 
- Pat’s laugh.
- Her sharing of knowledge and bringing it down so that a layperson
  would understand. We had many amazing discussions over the
  years.
- Her empathy for people experiencing complex health issues like Bill
  and I were challenged with.
- The many years of fun times on Maui. All the shared sunsets.
- Witnessing such a long term marriage that functioned from a high
  level of love, companionship and mutual respect. Rare in my
  opinion.

Kizia Hana
from her message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on August 22, 2020
It has been a pleasure to know Pat for several years while enjoying the pool, and conservation, following water aerobics class. We laughed, shared and complained about things academic. As well as our time living in upstate New York. She will be missed by many.

Ann Czompo
from her condolence card
Posted by Daryle Brown on August 21, 2020
Pat and I were both TC grads and I had the privilege of working with her at Western CT State University before her retirement. Pat was a wonderful mentor, inspiration and friend. I am so very saddened by her passing. Rest in peace my dear friend.
Posted by Patti Ivry on August 20, 2020
Sincere condolences to Pat’s family. I am so sorry for your loss. She and I worked together at WCSU, in the School of Professional Studies. Pat will be missed by so many of us who knew and respected her. May her memory be a blessing.
Posted by Robert Lund on August 19, 2020
I will miss Pat. We taught together in water aerobics.

June Harding
from her condolence note card 
Posted by Robert Lund on August 15, 2020
I was saddened to hear of Pat's death. She was always very kind and generous to me. She was a great neighbor.

Drew Mulhare
from his note of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on August 14, 2020
We are so sad to lose a friend like Pat. She loved the pool like we do, and we were glad to get to spend time with her there. She was very interesting to talk to and made water aerobics a lot of fun.

Ned & Peggy Mankin
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 13, 2020
We were both shocked and saddened to learn of Pat's passing. She was such a special lady.

Vic and Jeanne Trapani
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 12, 2020
May you find peace & love in the memories of your beloved wife, friend + partner. 

With our love, sympathy & prayers for your loss of our dear friend Pat.

Jerry & jean Howell
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 10, 2020
my heart remains full of sorrow for you and your family with Pat's passing. She and I were a good team leading the Tuesday - Thursday water exercise program. She taught me so much. Her sudden passing, on the road to recovery, still leaves me numb. My prayers to you all, and may many fond memories last a lifetime.

Karen Salisbury
from her condolence card 
Posted by Robert Lund on August 9, 2020
We will remember Pat as an intelligent caring woman with a dry sense of humor. Conservations with Pat were always interesting. She will be very much missed at our future Wine & Dine gatherings.

Ray and Carol Jakobovits
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 6, 2020
We will truly miss her.

Alan & Mitzi Balma
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 5, 2020
We are so saddened at learning of Pat's passing. I thoroughly enjoyed gabbing with Pat at the aerobics classes, Friends & Neighbors, and other Ford's Colony activities. Pat was a delightful person and she will be missed greatly.

Know that she will be in my prayers, as well as you and your family

Marge & Bill Loscalzo
from their condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on August 3, 2020
Eileen & Ed Mandable provided a spiritual gift for Pat's remembrance by the Montfort Community of Missionaries. 
Posted by Vanessa Trent on August 3, 2020
I knew Pat and Bob from Ford’s Colony. Looking at Pat’s picture collage gave me the big picture of her life that I knew nothing of previously. I wish I had known Pat prior to her and Bob’s move to Ford’s Colony. She had a life well lived. Previously I had told Bob what always attracted me about Pat was her smile and how genuinely you felt that she was happy to see you. She will be missed and water aerobics will not be the same without her.
Posted by Robert Lund on August 2, 2020
We are so saddened to learn of Pat's passing. She was so genuine in her interest in people. We always appreciated her sincere interest in our big dogs, too! Last night some us on Luffness New raised a toast to her at our weekly cul-de-sac-socially-distanced outside happy hour. Many of us were part of the Fourth Saturday BYOB. I toasted using Diet Coke in memory of Pat. We will all miss her, too.

Margaret Ann & Ron Martin
from their condolence note card
Posted by Gerard Holwell on August 1, 2020
A few reminiscences from Jean Holwell about my friend Pat:
I met Pat in 1965 when we were freshmen @ Russell Sage, but we didn’t become friends until sophomore year. I believe we were introduced by Selma Kelly Reinovsky, whom I knew from several classes we shared freshman year.
I loved Pat’s sharp wit, her hearty laugh & her wry sense of humor. With most of our close friends being elementary ed. majors, Pat & I often commiserated over our perception that she (as a nursing major - - affectionately known as “Nursie Wonder”) & I (as a history major), seemed to have more work to do than they did. In our junior & senior year Pat had a huge number of nursing papers to do & I was constantly adding to my shoe box full of notecards for 100+ page research papers. Meanwhile, our el. ed. Pals were busy making paper snakes in “methods” class for a kiddie art project. Over the years, “paper snakes” became something Pat & I laughed about, even if it might have slightly annoyed those el. ed. majors.
   When we graduated, Jerry & I appreciated that Pat & Bob made the trip to Long Island for our August wedding. And we were always grateful for their hospitality over the years when we visited them in Poughkeepsie & much later in Williamsburg.
It was our privilege, & my mother’s delight, to babysit Anne-Marie as a toddler while Pat & Bob attended a family wedding on LI. It was then that the devoted “dog people,” the Lunds, met & were charmed by our sweet, gentle & super-friendly cat, Clawdine. For years afterward, Pat & Anne-Marie would ask about our feline friend whenever they saw us.
Our daughter honed her beginning swimming skills in the Lund’s pool at their James St. house. And, I will always remember a visit to the Lunds when we took a “field trip” to an art show - - @ Greenhaven State Prison! A few years ago, when we “recycled” the landscape we bought there by donating it to a church “Chinese Auction,” the people who won it loved the provenance that it was painted by a convicted murderer! Pat always was a great tour guide with an interesting itinerary for every visit.
Jerry & I, w/ Amanda, our daughter, were some of the crazy people who braved an ice storm to attend Anne-Marie’s wedding. We were honored to have been invited & to have gotten home safely!
I will miss those long conversations w/ Pat on history, politics, medicine, teaching (she at the college level & I in a high school), family & friends. We didn’t see each other often, but each time we got together it was as if we’d never been apart.
It has been such a blessing for the 5 couples - - the Lunds, the Fowlers, the Schmidts, the Reinovskys & us - - to get together occasionally. The last time on beautiful Green Bay w/ all of us present was extra-special & so poignant.
Posted by Robert Lund on July 31, 2020
I will miss Pat. She was a great asset to the Water Aerobics Interest Group.

With Sincere Sympathy

Noreen Bowen
from her condolence card
Posted by Robert Lund on July 30, 2020
Pat was an amazing woman whom I had privilege of knowing through the Ladies Lunch group.

Val Vanzetta
from her condolence card
Posted by Frank-Ruth Tappen on July 28, 2020
Pat and I taught senior level nursing courses together at Mt. St. Mary College in Newburgh NY. We always had a good time together: Pat never ran out of stories and could find the humor in almost anything that came up. We shared many a laugh as we helped launch our students in their nursing careers. I will miss sharing stories with her.
Posted by Ann Czompo on July 27, 2020
I have known Pat for several years while enjoying the swimming pool in Ford's Colony, and conversations following water aerobics classes. We shared, laughed, and complained about things academic (I taught at SUNY Cortland for 25 years), as well as our time living in Upstate New York (through long, cold and snowy winters). I will miss hearing about her activities, places she visited, and people in her life. She will be missed by many.
Posted by Robert Lund on July 21, 2020
Pat was a wonderful leader for water aerobics. She will be missed especially her diplomacy.

Prayers,

Brenda Beebe Duncan
from her condolence card 
Posted by Claudia Kirk on July 21, 2020
I only met Pat a few times, but I just looked through her timeline, and what a full life she led. I am sorry you don't have more time to enjoy with her in retirement. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Posted by Robert Lund on July 20, 2020
July 19, 2020

so sorry for your loss. She was a true force of nature. Her joy was infectious as was her awesome sense of humor. She will be sorely missed by us all. I remember stories about Holly the collie so much fun

Mimi Braniff
Classmate

From https://www.legacy.com/obituaries
Posted by E. Pat Geraci on July 20, 2020
To Bob and Anne-Marie,
Pat was a colleague and friend while we were both working at WCSU. She was the consummate professional at all times but she was also a hell of a lot of fun to work with! One of my fondest memories of her was her referring to herself as the "Wicked Witch riding her broom" when she had the unfortunate occasion where she needed to hold a student accountable for their less-than-stellar performance. In the event someone else in the department found themselves in a similar situation, she would kindly offer to "lend us her broom"! Fortunately, Pat was such an excellent teacher she only needed to use the broom on very RARE occasions!
Pat will be missed by her family, her former students, her colleagues and friends, myself included! May she rest in peace on the big cruise ship in the sky!
Love,
Pat Geraci
Posted by Robert Lund on July 18, 2020
July 17, 2020

I was a student of Dr. Lunds at Western Connecticut State University, Graduating class 1997. My name is Beth Schoenmann-Ayoub. I will never forget the kindness Dr. Lund showed me many times as a student nurse. She was one of the smartest individuals I have ever had the honor to get to know. Her words of encouragement will forever echo in my heart. I can only hope that I honor her memory by passing on her kindness to others.

Beth Schoenmann-Ayoub
Student

Poughkeepsie Journal & Danbury News Times Obituary Memory
Posted by Robert Lund on July 18, 2020
July 17, 2020 - To the Family and Friends of Dr. Patricia Lund,

I remember Dr. Lund as a strong instructor. I loved clinical with her. She had knowledge far beyond what words can explain. Dr. Lund had the ability to see the kindness in others. Dr. Lund was kind herself. I wish that the world can see some of the kindness in each other the way Dr. Lund presented to all of us even those who were less deserving of that kindness. I am so sorry for the loss of Dr. Patricia Lund. The world is a bit darker without you. Sincerely, Mary Rose Beauvais, RN, BSN

Mary Rose Beauvais
Student

Poughkeepsie Journal & Danbury News Times Obituary Memory
Posted by Robert Lund on July 18, 2020
Dear Bob and Anne-Marie,

My heart goes out to you with your loss of Pat. She has been in my prayers since her January diagnosis, and her memory will surely stay in my heart. I am grateful for such a genuine friend. She is loved and will be missed. May your treasured memories, and knowing those her friends hold, sustain you in your grief.

With love and sympathy,

Pat McCartney
from her condolence card
Posted by Brenda Bass on July 17, 2020
Pat,
You are missed! We've been friends since Bob and you retired to Ford's Colony. We shared many good times: our monthly wine and dine outings with your favorite always being Le Yaca, water aerobics, Ford's Colony clubs and numerous good conversations. We seemed to be able to talk about most any topic; we especially enjoyed conversations about all our travels to interesting parts of the world and about the younger generation: your nieces and nephews whom you loved dearly and my grandchildren. We miss your smile, your conversations and most of all we miss your friendship. Rest in peace, dear friend. Brenda and Carl Bass
Posted by Robert Lund on July 17, 2020
Mike & I are so very sorry that Pat lost her valiant fight to recover from a most difficult surgery. You worked so very hard to support her. We are so glad that you were able to see her in recent days.

I will miss Pat's straight-forward and sensible manner and her very sound advice. I always knew I could trust what she said and use her input to guide my own actions. That is a very rare quality.

We know how much you will miss her and we want you to know we share in your sorrow.

Pat & Mike Collmeyer
from their condolence card
Posted by Noreen Bowen on July 16, 2020
I met Pat at the Ford’s Colony Water Aerobics/Exercise sessions held at the Swim and Tennis Pool in 2012. During these sessions, I always enjoyed hearing stories about her professional career and the wonderful trips she and Bob took.
For the last few years she took on the responsibility of organizing the group with sign-in sheets, recruiting volunteers to help with the end-of-the season pot-luck brunch and as a leader of the Tuesday, Thursday sessions. She also attended the Activities Committee meetings and wrote the blurb for the Talk of the Colony each month.
In February, after Pat advised the volunteer Water Aerobics leaders that she would not be able to participate this summer, I took over Pat’s responsibilities. Under her able direction via a series of emails and the help of the other leaders, the Water Aerobics/Exercise program continues at Ford’s Colony.
I am saddened by Pat’s death and will miss her smiling face, her stories and her guidance.
Posted by Mandy Baldridge on July 15, 2020
Dear Bob and Anne-Marie
As so many others have said Pat always had a welcoming smile. It was a pleasure to work with her on the neighborhood party. She clearly was comfortable with organizing. We enjoyed seeing you both at Friend's and Neighbors and Pat always had a kind word. She will be missed in the neighborhood and Jim and I send our condolences to you both!
Mandy & Jim Baldridge
Posted by Marge Loscalzo on July 15, 2020
I first was introduced to Pat at a Ford's Colony Friends and Neighbors meeting. My first impression was -- What a smile!

Most of my memories of Pat are from water aerobics. That smile and laughter never quit. Her willingness to take charge when needed so the group wouldn't be disappointed was always appreciated. 

Pat was obviously an accomplished professional but she was also quite a lovely lady.

Rest in peace Pat. You were taken from us way too soon.

Marge Loscalzo
Posted by Robert Lund on July 14, 2020
Pat was a wonderful women and we count it a blessing that we knew her as friend for so many years.

Tom and Marybeth Thompson
from their condolence card
Posted by Anne-Marie Lund on July 14, 2020
Dear Anne-Marie,

I am so sorry for your loss - please give my sincere condolences to your father as well.

Your mother wrote a loving and helpful note to me after [son-in-law] John Moore's death - I have treasured and saved it.

I am thinking of you both at this sad time - and I hope that memories of happier times will sustain you.

Sincerely,
Margaret Nichols
from her condolence card
Posted by Anne-Marie Lund on July 14, 2020
Anne-Marie

All who knew and loved your Mom share in your sorrow. You and your Dad are in our thoughts and prayers.

Love,
Jean and Jerry Howell
from their condolence card
Posted by Anne-Marie Lund on July 13, 2020
Dear Bob and Anne-Marie,
We wanted to extend our deepest sympathy to you, both.
We have many happy memories of Anne-Marie and Eric going back and forth to each other's homes on James Street. Eric always said:
"Mrs. Lund makes the best mac and cheese."
Sometimes it's the 'smallest' memories that endear someone to us.
Peace and Love to you both.

The Hedinger Family
from their condolence note left on the Poughkeepsie Journal Legacy site

Yes, Eric, she really did make the best mac and cheese. - AML
Posted by Patricia Thomas on July 10, 2020
Rest in peace, dear Pat. Your days of illness are over. Remembering your infectious laugh, silliness riding our swim noodles in water aerobics, and always looking for an excuse to have lunch at Le Yaca. Even though you were facing major surgery you took the time to give me guidance on a career path in nursing for Elizabeth - no matter the circumstances you were always there for a friend. Lastly, the courage you showed when loved ones could not be with you during surgery and the long VCU stay. I hope you felt the warmth of all our positive thoughts to comfort you. 
You will be missed.
Posted by Anne-Marie Lund on July 9, 2020
With loving thoughts to comfort you during this time of sorrow.

from the note accompanying the flowers sent by the Nursing Department Faculty and Staff at Western Connecticut State University
Posted by Marti Porter on July 8, 2020
It is hard to sum Pat up concisely. She was a professor of mine and my advisor in graduate school and was stellar at both. Always encouraging, guiding me and watching my back – I felt I had a true advocate in my corner. After my graduation, our relationship transitioned to friend and colleague. When I was losing my mother and going through a divorce at the same time, I had a sympathetic ear and a great sounding board. After remarrying, she was the voice of experience and a calming influence when I was labeled with “advanced maternal age” as I had my 2 kids in my early 40’s. Her laugh was contagious and her smile like sunshine. And I feel blessed to have known her for nearly 40 years.
Posted by Tom Thompson on July 8, 2020
I have two distinct memories I'd like to share about Pat:

l) Water Aerobics where we met years ago. Over the years, she assumed more responsibility for the summer WA program and would send out the necessary email updates. One particular day, I, leading the class that morning, announced that I had received an email from "Pitzel" with important information. People looked puzzled. I said,"You don't know Pitzel? Of course, you do." They continued to be puzzled and I suggested they turn and ask Pat." "Who's he talking about?" they asked. "Me," said Pat dryly, "It's what he calls me because of my email address, 'Pzlund.'" She had a sense of humor which became one more bond between us.

2) Summer Breeze concerts: My wife, Marybeth, and I often attended and tried to be early so that we could sit in the shade of the big tree on Market Square but no matter how early we showed up, inevitably there were two chairs parked right in the middle of the street and on them, backs to us, would be Pat and Bob, each engrossed in their respective books. We never could arrive before they did so I finally accused them of swinging by early in the morning just to drop off their chairs in the middle of the street!

We Irish sometimes say when someone dies, "We hardly knew ye," our way of saying that as much as we knew you, we didn't know you enough.

So, Pat, for all the summer water aerobics, for all the Summer Breeze concerts, for all the encounters here and there throughout the years, as much as we knew ye, "we hardly knew ye."
Posted by Robert Lund on July 8, 2020
Sending thoughts of peace and good memories on your unimaginable loss. Pat was a very special person, and will be greatly missed. I loved her laugh and sense of humor!

In loving memory of someone very special.

Patty & Chuck Thomas
from their condolence card

Posted by Joanne Frank on July 7, 2020
Dear Bob and Anne-Marie,
Steve and I remember meeting Pat (and Bob) at the Crowley’s for dinner when we first moved to Ford’s Colony. We bonded right away, since Pat and I were both Brooklyn girls. We even hoped to plan a Brooklyn themed party with egg creams, Yoo-hoo and other food related items and activities from our childhood. Sorry we never did pull it off! I enjoyed planning our Gold Island Party in 2015 with Pat and others. I have fond memories of lots of laughs at water aerobics. While we didn’t see each other often I remember neighborhood parties, good food and a wonderful neighbor. Pat will be missed by us all. 
Love and Peace,
Joanne and Steve
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Posted by Robert Lund on September 30, 2020
We are so sorry to hear that dear Pat has left us. Please accept our deepest condolences. We will miss Pat. She was a great lady.

Anna & Zbig Lechowski
from their message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 17, 2020
I have enjoyed talking with Pat at Friends and Neighbors and other social gatherings where her wit and positive attitude were always apparent.  Pat’s accomplishments, compassion and investment In the lives of others were so evident as witnessed by both students and colleagues in their expressions of heartfelt remembrances.

You were indeed a lucky man to share your life with her and in my limited observation, she was very supportive of you as you both worked to contribute to you community.

Carol Moser
from her message of condolence
Posted by Robert Lund on September 10, 2020
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Pat was a very special lady - but you knew that.

Helen & George Spalthoff
from their condolence card
her Life

Pat dies June 24, 2020 & ten preceding days

June 24 Pat died suddenly and unexpectedly before I arrived for my visit with her.Unexpectedly largely due the preceding ten days which raised our expectations for a complete recovery eventually after a lot of hard work at physical therapy and reconditioning over many weeks and possibly months.

On the 19th of June after a few busy and increasingly positive days, late in the day during a Thunderstorm, Pat was transferred to the Hospital for Extended Recovery in Norfolk, VA. This is a 35-bed hospital specifically designed for patients with medically complex needs who need to stay in an acute care setting on average of three to four weeks. Though located within Sentara Norfolk General Hospital, the Hospital for Extended Recovery is a separate health facility. The proximity to and affiliation with Sentara, assures that if needs change, the benefits of a Level 1 Trauma Center are easily accessible.

This took place after a few days where Pat demonstrated every increasing ability to breath on her own.  From two sets of two hours sessions Pat advanced to two sets of four hours, then the following day two sets of six hours, then a twelve-hour session and on the 18th an over fifteen-hour session.  But for sleeping Pat was still getting pressure assist from a ventilator overnight.  

I was allowed to be with Pat again in the ICU on the 19th, for the first time in a week, until the transport team arrived to take her to Hospital for Extended Recovery.  

On the 20th I returned from visiting with Pat just before dinner. I found her alert and focused on recovering when not napping.

Before I left from my visit on the 21st, she had been breathing on her own, without any ventilator assistance for a bit over twenty-nine hours.  Pat was clearly tired but nothing like she was during earlier multi hour sessions of breathing on her own. Everything seemed to be going well.

While, probably still several weeks away I started the process of connecting the discharge team/person at the Hospital for Extended Recovery with the appropriate people at the Williamsburg Landing re: transition to their rehab facility.  I also provided the Williamsburg Landing folks with a sense of where Pat was in her recovery.  

The 22nd was very similar, i.e. a second day of breathing completely on her own as I kept Pat company and occasionally did small things that made Pat more comfortable, e.g. moistening her mouth and/or lips.

I was told by Pat’s nurse during my visit on the 23rd that as she had been breathing without any ventilator assistance for over 72 hours (3 days) she was considered weaned from the ventilator.

Also, her tracheostomy tube was replaced with a slight smaller one and a separate speaking diaphragm attachment was added.   The diaphragm attachment required more effort when breathing but allowed Pat to talk OK for the first time in weeks. 

Pat also got a breathing (exhalation) exercise device.  That she used in sets of ten exhalations four times a day.  The exercise was to help her further strengthen muscles she uses when breathing and coughing. 

I asked Pat’s nurse about Pat’s care plan.  And we got a very good explanation of things coming up, including some advice about modest things Pat could do while still in bed, independent of official physical therapy.  Briefly it was pumping and rotating her feet (i.e. working her ankles and attached muscles).  Also, trying to lift her feet and with my assistance flex her knees and lift her legs or try to.  Pat did the foot exercise several times while I was there.  As we talked about appropriate clothes the nurse advised that real socks and shoes were desired for physical therapy, i.e. better than the hospital grippy socks.  Once I got home, I gathered the shoes & socks for my visit the following day.

Just before I left Pat & I went downstairs to x-ray for a speech therapy evaluation, which Pat failed.  It was a test of the muscles used when swallowing to direct things to the stomach and avoid the lungs.  It was explained that failure at this point was frequent for patients on a ventilator as long as Pat had been.  There are exercises to help strengthen those muscles, which Pat was to be started on later that evening or the following day, i.e. the 24th.

I found it easier today to engage Pat with greeting cards as we discussed who they were from and Pat could verbally react to them.  We went through ten, i.e. had looked at all the cards sent in May and up to the 8th of June.  Nineteen more and Pat would have had a chance to enjoy all the cards received so far.  

But that was not to be. 

Recent stories

A memory from "cousin" Arlene (Zirkel) Hansen

Shared by Robert Lund on August 25, 2020
I have fond memories of when I was younger and my parents took my brother and I to visit the "Zirkels"in Poughkeepsie.

The most current memory is when you both welcomed me into your home so that I could see my son Kyle play baseball in Virginia.  You both graciously got a room so that we could cheer Kyle on, which turned out to be the hottest day of the year. On our drive to and from the airport, we got to reminisce of years gone by and catch up on the present.

Thank you for generous hospitality.

Arlene Hansen
from her letter of condolence 

Strength beyond words

Shared by Jennifer El-Sherif on August 24, 2020
I have known Pat all my life.  She was one of my mothers (Charen El-Sherif) closest friends.  Pat was always cheerful and a positive presence.  Pat was an unwavering beacon of strength for my brother and I when first my mom was sick, then my father.  She helped me understand their illnesses, and their strengths and weaknesses.  Pat provided advice, support, guidance, friendship, love, expertise and so much more to many throughout her lifetime.  Her smile, presence and words of experience will be missed by many.  I am very saddened at her passing.  The world has lost a wonderful woman.

Jennifer El-Sherif

My Dear Friend Pat

Shared by Louise Schmidt on July 1, 2020
  Pat and I have been friends for 60 years. We met at the bus stop our first day of 7th grade. Pat's dad, "Handsome Bob", had been transferred by IBM to Poughkeepsie, N.Y. during the summer. 
  My mother called us "Mutt and Jeff"--Pat being so tall and me being so short. Every day after school we would walk the neighborhood pushing my younger brother in a baby carriage and accompanied by our dog. We talked for hours. Tent caterpillars were rampant then and I had rippled sole shoes. Pat loved to tell the story of my "caterpillar shoes" and how I could never kill the caterpillars because they crawled into the ripples.
  "Handsome Bob" took us to the IBM Country Club for our first live Rock N Roll concert. Neither of us were very good at dancing, but we had a great time being there together.
  We both attended Russell Sage College and made a wider circle of friends during our freshman year. Over the years, we added husbands, children, homes, degrees, and jobs but neither of us forgot our friendship. We weren't in regular contact, but our bond forged the first day in the 7th grade matured into a life-long friendship.