ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Patrick Lipe, 66 years old, born on January 27, 1955, and passed away on February 16, 2021. We will remember him forever.

In lieu of flowers, we're asking for donations to CalCASA, which advocates on behalf of children in the foster system, in his memory. Please see the memorial fundraiser below for more details.

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Memorial event information:

Please RSVP here: http://evite.me/vspVtc5e4j

We'll be hosting a Zoom Memorial + a small in person gathering at Henry Griffen Park in La Mesa, CA on March 17th, St. Patrick's Day, at 4:30pm PST. We're asking for anyone who wants to say a few words to record a 15-30 second video and upload it to our Drop Box account. We'll show your video at the memorial. Please upload videos before 3/14 or your video may not be included. We will be keeping everyone muted during the memorial so please make sure to send in a video if you want to share some words about Pat.

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Zoom meeting: Memorial for Patrick Lipe
Time: Mar 17, 2021 4:30 PM Pacific Time (US and Canada)

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Posted by Bill Lipe on March 15, 2021
It's true that Pat bounced around a lot as a child. And I didn't live with him as his brother for most of our childhoods. But, we had this strong bond, which kept us in touch over the years and became more than brothers, we were true friends. It was easy, Pat was a great guy. And I'll miss him. My life was fuller and enriched with him in it.

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Posted by Bill Lipe on March 15, 2021
It's true that Pat bounced around a lot as a child. And I didn't live with him as his brother for most of our childhoods. But, we had this strong bond, which kept us in touch over the years and became more than brothers, we were true friends. It was easy, Pat was a great guy. And I'll miss him. My life was fuller and enriched with him in it.
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Patrick Lipe

Patrick Lipe, 66, died on February 16, 2021 of heart failure. He owned and operated many restaurants and a Catering business, The Catering Group, over the course of his 46 year career in the restaurant industry. Most recently, he owned and managed The Wrap Shack restaurants in Santee and Rancho San Diego with his wife Jenny. He graduated from San Diego State University in 1980 with a Bachelor’s degree in Accounting. He was an accountant who could cook, a joke he made frequently.

He was known very much for his witty sense of humor; his quick puns and jokes would send everyone howling with laughter, or rolling their eyes. Pat grew up in the foster care system. He bounced around to no less than 13 different foster homes until the age of 16. At 16 he found a home with the Martins, a loving family in the Bay Area, and was there until he turned 18. He didn’t have much love in his life in his early years, but claims that team sports, specifically basketball and football, saved him and gave him a sense of community that he never got in his home life. He often told a story about Ronald Reagan (pre-public office) visiting his high school and tossing him a football for a photo op. After high school, Pat attended Cañada College in the Bay Area before transferring to San Diego State University. It was there that he started teaching ballroom dancing which ignited his love for all kinds of dancing. In college, he worked at restaurants, managed a local night club, Diego’s, and spent years climbing the ladder at Soup Exchange before setting off on his own business venture, The Catering Group, starting as most entrepreneurs do, in his own garage.

Patrick built several successful restaurant businesses over the decades. He owned Dad’s, Dad’s Cafe, and Dad’s Cafe and Steakhouse, all located in Poway, and Dad’s Firehouse Pizza in Carmel Mountain Ranch. He owned and operated The Cafe which fed Poway Unified School District’s staff and catered a multitude of events for the school district including Rancho Bernardo High School’s symphonic orchestra and band events, Poway High’s football lunches, the annual pancake breakfasts, and many, many more. His children teasingly called him the Mayor of Carmel Mountain Ranch because he catered many friend’s wedding receptions, parties, and funerals, and anytime they would go out to eat he would always get stopped by someone to say hello and how much they loved his food. Pat’s was most cherished treasure were his three children, Trista, Trevin and Tanner. He and his first wife Deena shared countless happy hours throughout their childhood and teen years in bleachers and theaters watching them perform. He was their advocate, confidante and forever loving father. Pat spent countless hours volunteering as a coach and sponsor with CMR Little League.

Patrick had an amazing second act in life. Even though he was a successful business owner and had three loving children, he was still missing something. Then he met Jenny Button, and his life was completely changed forever. Jenny and Pat married at Garrett Memorial Chapel at the Finger Lakes in Keuka, NY on Wednesday, July 12, 2017 with all their children and family present.

Pat loved life. He knew how to appreciate the little things and make the most out of any situation. He was scrappy, a fighter, and he hustled to get himself off the path that most unloved foster care kids are set on. He made something out of nothing and was successful in a way that many never are. He gave the best advice about life, could make a joke out of anything. He was a father figure to many of his employees and was always willing to teach those that wanted to learn. He was loved so much by so many, and will be missed more than words can express.

Patrick Lipe is survived by his wife, Jenny Lipe, his three children, Trista, Trevin and Tanner, and his three step children, Ryan, Maddie, and Abby. He is also survived by his siblings, Bill, Mark, Lee and Loretta, and his first wife and children’s mother, Deena Pastore. His Wrap Shack restaurants are still open and operated by Jenny and his children.

A COVID appropriate memorial will be hosted in person and over Zoom on March 17, 2021, St. Patrick’s Day at 4:30pm at Harry Griffin Park Ampitheater in La Mesa, CA. Those who wish to donate to a memorial fund that will be matched and donated to CalCASA, which advocates on behalf of children in the foster system, may do so at the link below. https://www.gofundme.com/f/memorial-for-patrick-lipe.
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Touching Memorial Tribute from Anthony Grimm

Shared by Trista Lipe on April 2, 2021
Thank you Anthony for donating your time and efforts to put this together. 

Memories of Pat

Shared by Tere Rich on March 16, 2021
He was our dear friend & next door neighbor. Our youngest son, Dylan became fast friends with his sons Trevin & Tanner. Pat coached the T-Ball games that the kids played on. He was also the driving force behind our neighborhood Softball team which he aptly named the(e) Walden Wackers. We went from the last place team to the first place team because of Pat’s coaching. With our team players like Pat, Deena, Tom, Chris, Scott, & Kim, we were almost always the 1st place team in the league. We all had a lot of fun playing softball while the kids played in the nearby playground. We went to concerts @ the Q, Wine Tasting, & had lots of neighborhood parties. Pat was the caterer for a couple of our milestone birthdays. One lesson learned after a concert was to never serve subpar hot chocolate to Pat because he will spit it out twice! Pat: Thank you for all the memories that we shared. We will never forget you!! Love, John & Tere

Great friend to grow up with

Shared by Julie Eastman on March 16, 2021
Pat moved in 2 doors away, when he joined the Martin Family. I believe Pat was 15 and I was 13. We became instant friends.  He was like a big brother and always looked out for me. Pat was always funny and kind and loved to play practical jokes. We stayed friends over the years. In 1980 my Brother Carl and I visited and stayed with Pat, it was a fun visit. Pat and I were able to get together in 2012 for a visit.  My memories of Pat will always make me smile - my prayers to all of his friends and family