Paul Thomas Koehler
  • 55 years old
  • Date of birth: Mar 2, 1959
  • Place of birth:
    Detroit, Michigan, United States
  • Date of passing: Apr 5, 2014
  • Place of passing:
    Milford, Michigan, United States
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust. Psalm 91:1-2

This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved husband, father and grandfather, Paul Koehler, 55.  He was born on March 2, 1959 and passed away suddenly on April 5, 2014.  Paul lived and loved well, and his life touched so many in deeply profound and positive ways. Strong and gentle, Paul's generous spirit and wonderful sense of humor brought joy to everyone who had the privilege to know him. He valued his family above all and loved to spend time with his wife, children, and grandchildren. Although we know he is with his friend and savior Jesus, it's hard to imagine life without him here.  

We would love to hear from you, so please feel free to leave a tribute, story, or picture on this website.

Friends and family may visit at Lynch and Sons Funeral Home in Milford, MI, on Tuesday, April 8, from 5 to 9 pm and Wednesday, April 9, from 4 to 9 pm.  The funeral home is at 404 E. Liberty St, Milford, MI.    

A funeral service will be held at Oak Pointe Church Milford on Thursday, April 10, at 11 am.  Luncheon to follow at the Koehlers' home in Milford.  Oak Pointe Church Milford is located at 1250 South Hill Rd, Milford, MI.  


Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Karen Larson on 5th April 2017

"Ellen - Thinking about you and your family today. I know you still miss Paul so very much. Love, hugs, and kisses, Karen"

This tribute was added by Leona Center on 5th April 2017

"I remember holiday surprises showing up at our door. I know Paul and his little elves were busy sharing the joy of the season. Thank you for always setting a good example and showing us how to love one another."

This tribute was added by Luis Castro on 3rd March 2017

"Dear Paul,

I always remember, when I was staying with you and your Family as an exchange student, seeing you in the morning getting a cup of coffee to start the day, and telling me some jokes, or even after you came home from an early jogging work out, getting a cup of coffee for a fresh wake up.
My prays are always with you and your family Paul.

Luis C."

This tribute was added by Diana Toole on 2nd March 2017

"Dear Paul,

I am afraid that I didn't get to know you well. But I can't help but feel I was well on my way. You were not hard to know because of your kindness and generosity. But maybe I did get to know you well, after all, in the beautiful legacy that you left behind. . . your children. Your two youngest boys, in particular. Kind, generous, witty, intelligent, helpful, pragmatic, Godly. There are many more equally flattering adjectives I could use to describe them, and therefore you and your amazing wife. For many years to come, people on this world will continue to get to know you through that stunning legacy you left. And we are all the better for it. Thank you."

This tribute was added by Alex Silva on 28th February 2017

"I am so sorry to see that Paul passed away.  I worked for him from age 17 to 19 while I was in college.  It was my first real job and he was a tough but fair boss.  In fact what brought me to this site is that I wanted to show my own son my first boss as I was telling him how cool he was. I will never forget him generously giving me an unexpected Christmas bonus at a lunch with the crew. It sure made me feel grown up to get an envelope like the rest of the guys.   I hope that his family can take solice in knowing that he isn't forgotten and that he made an impact on so many."

This tribute was added by Leona Center on 5th April 2016

"Everywhere he went, he brought a smile. As I remember Paul today, I smile because his love for life and joy were so contagious and he would want us to pass it on."

This tribute was added by Regina Olari on 5th April 2016

"Dear Ellen! My heart hurts for you and I wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers today. I pray that you will indulge in some quiet time remembering the great guy Paul was and the wonderful times you had together and the undying memories you made together. God's peace to you! Regina"

This tribute was added by Marie Honka-Jacobs on 2nd March 2016

"Dear Ellen

I think of you often and pray for your healing heart.  I just looked at all 184 pictures on this site and I see what a husband, father and grandfather Paul was.  It is no surprise, from the day we all met at Gesu, he was all goodness.  What a blessing for your family and all the harder to cope with him being gone.  We never know what God has in store for us and one thing I do know is when I surrender to not knowing and trusting Divine Order, I find peace.  I hope you are finding peace.

My love, Marie"

This tribute was added by Luis Castro on 2nd March 2016

"Dear Ellen and Family,
We would always remember the great charisma and enthusiasm from Paul, it will always be in our heart and in our thoughts. His great love remains among us, as always has been. All my love and prays are with all of you.

With all my heart,

Luis Castro"

This tribute was added by Susan Phillips on 2nd March 2016

"With each passing year, may you draw comfort from the Lord and peace in remembering the joy that Paul brought to you and your whole family. His beautiful carpentry work speaks in mute testimony of the excellence in his craft and the compassion in building an accessible wing in the home of our friend's dear mother. God bless all of you!"

This tribute was added by Regina Olari on 2nd March 2016

"Dear Ellen and family!
These special days are hard. I am thinking about you and letting you know that my heart hurts for you. Praying that you will find some peace and comfort today. The missing and the ache is never going away. Hugs to you. Olaris"

This tribute was added by Susan Phillips on 6th April 2015

"Ellen, what an excellent husband you must have had. I only met him a couple of times, but I have heard such glowing reports from two of his past remodeling customers. Both families spoke of his exceptional attention to detail and compassion for them as his team worked on their homes. Everyone that knew him, loved him.

How precious are you and your children to God, Ellen, as you remember him with fondness and live your lives as a family now. You are in my heart and prayers.

God speed."

This tribute was added by Andy Muma on 8th January 2015

"I was so, so sorry to hear the sad news about Paul.  We graduated from CC together and saw each other often at the YMCA in Royal Oak after that (he, of course, leaving when I was just getting there - always the early riser!).
Paul built an awesome deck for my hot tub at my current house many years ago and its as good now as it was when new!  I will think of him whenever looking at it and be sure it stands forever!
While we haven't seen each other in way too long - we talked often over the years (I was his insurance agent for a long time) and discussed family, God, careers and yes - even politics.  Paul and I were a kindred spirit when it came to that.
I can hear him now and will remember always what a fantastic person and friend he was.  Family and God were everything and all else paled in comparison.
What a wonderful way to live!
My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Ellen and the entire family."

This tribute was added by Andy Stevens on 31st December 2014

"I just found out about Paul's passing this week.  I've lived in Texas since 1980 but I grew up with Paul, Ellen as well.  I don't know their children and they don't know me, but I know a Paul they've never met.  Paul, who would one day became a father and Husband and businessman, was once an elementary school and high school student.  From 7th grade through the end of high school he was the always the biggest and the strongest kid in our group of friends.  He always looked 3 years older than the rest of us!  When my own brother passed in February '75 Paul and I worked together at Immaculata H.S. for quite some time as maintenance men.  We were 16 years old, doing a man's job, and doing it right. Paul was as talented as he was kind.  We went to numerous James Taylor concerts, the Beach Boys, summer after summer, we shared many, many happy times.  While time and long distance took us far far apart, I will always remember Paul as the happy giant amongst us, but I will regret not seeing him as grown adults."

This tribute was added by Sandy Foist on 28th October 2014

"Kit and I are deeply saddened to find out that Paul has gone to be with the Lord. For some reason, I decided to look for Paul and Ellen on FB tonight. I found Ellen first, and so enjoyed seeing her and Paul, and their beautiful family, then I looked up Paul, and read what is most saddening to hear. When I saw the photos, of this beautiful family, I once more remembered how loving they are. And to see Paul smile in every photo, was exactly how I remembered him. A man who was kind, genuine, caring, loved God, Jesus, his family, and friends. Paul was most certainly a powerful, loving and genuine human being who will certainly be missed by so many. Ellen, and are all in my prayers. Our Love, and Prayers to all of you, Love, Sandy and Kit Foist"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"I am so sad to hear of Paul's passing. What a shock and how he will be missed. Paul gave and shared so much - always a positive influence, teacher, leader, guide. Thank you for sharing him with us through the years. Now his good works continue on in the lives of those he knew. Love and peace to you all. Sam"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Many years ago, Paul did some work at my bookstore in Detroit. When I paid him, he turned and bought a nice study bible for someone he had engaged in conversation. This is my favorite memory of Paul. Gary C."

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"I will always cherish the memories of backpacking with the 4H group. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family now. It is still amazing how you and Paul could step up to the challenge of backpacking with a 6 month old baby. What a great influence that had on all of us. It proved to all of us that the greater the challenges in life, the greater the rewards. Rick and Jane"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"The world will never be the same because of the beautiful difference Paul's life has made. We are so grateful and blessed that we knew Paul. What an amazing gift he made to our children and other young people of his time, talents, and treasures. They all carry what they learned in challenge with them into adulthood in many different ways. And what an amazing father and husband he was. When I think of Paul, I think 'Heaven Treasures' and the lyrics 'Make My Life a Prayer to You" He truly lived his faith. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family. Suzanne and John"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Be assured that our sadness and sense of loss is none compared to yours. Why are we so sad then? Paul has touched our lives in so many ways that we will never forget the funny and mischievous ways he had! We will miss him! With deepest sympathy, John, Regina, Luke ,Katya and Benjamin"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"You are in our prayers. Words cannot express the sadness I feel about this. May God give you strength and courage to press on. We love you and all who Paul touched with his life were impacted forever. This world has lost a truly great man. The Florida Sawchuks JD and Alana"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Dear Koehler family,
I was so sorry to hear that Paul passed away. I was a student leader for Wilderness 43 and 44, and was so lucky to have gotten to work on the same expeditions as Paul. He's kind of a wilderness legend - many, many stories about how he always wakes up early and water boiling before the others are even awake, how he's the only parents of a student to become a (great) staff member, and it goes on. So I guess I just wanted to let you know how much Paul means to the Wilderness family, and that we're thinking of y'all. Paul's wilderness family has always got your back, just like he had ours. Much love and many prayers, Reilly"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Ellen and family, Your terrible loss keeps you in our hearts and prayers. Paul serves as a reminder to all of us to live in such a full and loving way to have no regrets should we be taken suddenly from this earth. He continue to be a role model in death as well as in his life. He was a special guys and will not be forgotten. Love and hugs to all, Mary Jo and Jim"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Dear Koehler family,
Our hearts are heavy with news of your loss. Paul was such an inspirational and dedicated man with inner strength and know-how that is rare today. Some of my fondest memories growing up are of vacationing with you all and the Novaras. Paul's love of the outdoor have been a big factor in motivating me to get my family out camping and exploring nature. He will be sorely missed; we take comfort knowing his faith was so evident in how he conducted himself in life, and hope in the same hope that does not disappoint. Mike
Paul was a truly wonderful man whom I had both the pleasure and privilege of knowing. I continue to pray for you all, so very sorry that you have to lose him so early. May the richness of your memories and his legacy be a comfort and a strength for you in the  days to come. Love you all, Helen"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"Words cannot express the sorrow we feel with you for your loss of Paul. He always seemed a giant to me growing up as a child. His warmth and charm and wit were wonderful characteristics which he passed on to his wonderful children and grandchildren. Your husband, father, and grandfather was a rare man who could get the job done right the first time. I am blessed to have known such a fine man and to know such a fine family. May God hold you all in the palm of His peaceful hand. Peace and grace, Nick, Eriny & David Sawchuk"

This tribute was added by Ben Koehler on 13th May 2014

"I am so incredibly sorry to receive this news and I thank you for letting me know.  In my almost 7 years of working at the Arb and Gardens, working with your family stands out as one of my fondest memories. What you have written about Paul on his memorial page are all things that I have felt in my limited time knowing him. I admired him as a father to your lovely boys and the two of you as a couple. Paul was always very warm and had a genuine friendliness whenever he was volunteering for Shakespeare in the Arb. I could tell that he valued giving back and modeling that service ethic for the boys.

I can only imagine how difficult his passing is for your family and I hope you will take comfort in one another and your many beautiful memories of him as a partner, father and wonderful human being. I am so very sorry for your loss and send love to all of you.

May peace be with you and your family, Ellen.


This tribute was added by Rob Bradley on 11th May 2014

"Ellen,  I will always have the memories of Paul's internal and external  joy.  He loved life, he loved people and more than anything he loved his family.  I was glad to have known Paul and I am a better person because of him.  I will cherish the time I spent with him and the memories.  I will never forget his beautiful smile!  It makes me happy just thinking of him.  My heart goes out to you and your family."

This tribute was added by Lynn Moon on 12th April 2014

"I, too like Leona Center, have been thinking that it has been one week since we got the horrific news that Paul passed away.  My thoughts have been with Ellen and her unimaginable grief.  I say brief prayers for her throughout the day that the Lord would give her strength to take only the next step.  
Mark T. posted Paul and Ellen dancing at the snow ball.  Paul looks serious, serious in leading, holding and protecting his wife; Ellen's face is beaming. After 35 years of marriage, she is beaming at him! Paul and Ellen together - a beaming light for Christ and all that is good. Nothing was a sacrifice when they were helping others, which was a constant.
We will never see Paul's earthly light again and that is maddeningly sad and grievous. We have the promise that we will be reunited with him in Heaven.  This is the beauty of Christ, that even in death, we will live; and spend an eternity, with Him, in a beautiful place with no sorrow.  Ellen, may the peace of Christ be with you. . ."

This tribute was added by Leona Center on 12th April 2014

"It's been a week since we received the shocking and unbelievable  news of the loss of everyone's friend, Paul.  I don't exactly know how to phrase my thoughts, but Paul was the perfect example of a person who was like a candle, lighting candles for others, creating LOTS of light every where he'd go.  Sometimes you wonder,  can one person make a difference, but knowing Paul, takes any doubt away.  We continue to grieve this horrific loss in our lives, but the world is a better place, we are better people, because Paul Koehler crossed our path."

This tribute was added by Diana Toole on 11th April 2014

"Gary and I were remembering last year's Pride and Prejudice tech day, when at the end of the day we realized that we still needed a "piano. . ."  Gary's reaction was "You need a what?" Paul merely said, "I have an idea." He and Gary grabbed some wood, and 10 minutes later, we had a piano!"

This tribute was added by Luis Castro on 11th April 2014

"Dear Koehler Family,

All my prays from me and my family are with you. Paul was an inspirational man, he had a great attitude and courage for the things to overcome with, his great leadership made every journey very significant. During my stay in Michigan, I had the opportunity to know the Koehler's as my host Family, something that I m very thankful. As well they made me be part of all their activities, outdoor activities with the Koehler's were amazing. Im so thankful with Paul and Ellen for all what they did, and I learned a lot from them, Paul being a great father, and Ellen taking care of everything in detail. They really made me feel as being in home, and to be part of their family. Im sure Paul would continue his journey from a better place, and the only one who knows better why this things happens on this ways, is God.

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."
Rom 15:13

With all my love to the Koehler's,

Luis Castro"

This tribute was added by Bret Moon on 10th April 2014

"I thank our Father in Heaven for men like Mr. Koehler.  His example as a man of God was very influential to me in my formative years.  If I had to define a great man I would say this only and without hesitation; Paul Koehler.  My prayers are with my dear friends, the Koehler family.  May God watch over you and keep you!"

This tribute was added by Kevin Gourley on 10th April 2014

"The people you always remember are those who are kind,compassionate and loving.They remain in your heart and memory.Paul is this sort of person.I say is because I know that Paul is still living in the spirit of eternal life in Jesus.I look forward to the day when we see him again and am certain that his spirit will remain with all who knew and loved him."

This tribute was added by Liz Arbogast Barr on 10th April 2014

"I remember at Gesu, Paul's long, straight blond hair was the envy of all the kids. And when Paul fell in love with Ellen, everyone began to envy her!  Young as they were, like Romeo and Juliet, it was clear to everyone how much they loved each other.  

Now, in a plot twist (as in the famed tale) Romeo goes on to heaven before his Juliet.  But, those of us who have also loved Ellen can thank heaven that there is a great difference in this real-life love story. Because unlike Romeo and Juliet, Paul and Ellen lived and loved together many years and created a beautiful family together, each one's heart and soul sprinkled with the very best of Paul--his true love of nature, his honesty and genuine kindness. And we thank heaven for them as well.

Dear Ellen, my prayers and love are with you and yours as you grieve your loss and celebrate his life and your love.  

“When he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun.”
― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet"

This tribute was added by Colleen Wolford on 9th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family, it's been a long time since we've been in touch, but you and Paul have left indelible imprints on our lives.  So full of fun and adventure based on your faith and your family, and you were the first to make the trip to visit us in Vermont!  So shocked and saddened to hear this news.  Praying God gives you strength and grace.  Love, Colleen (O'Gieblyn) Wolford"

This tribute was added by Kim Marcus on 9th April 2014

"Ellen, Bree, Seth and Sam,

Don and I are shocked and saddened by your loss of Paul.  We remember him with love."

This tribute was added by Mary Spix on 9th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family,
We are all so sorry for your loss. Please know you are in our prayers. We will miss Paul's gentle ways and beautiful smile. Hugs to all of you."

This tribute was added by laura fifelski on 9th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family,  We are all so sad and shocked to hear about Paul.  We just couldn't believe it!  Know that we have been praying for you all, and that God will give you so much comfort and peace through this season.  We "lean not to our own understanding," and we ultimately have to say, "I trust you, Father".  May you feel His presence, love, peace and comfort.  What I know of Paul, he totally lived his life to the fullest and gave God glory in all he did.  What a man of God! He has left a great inheritance for you and your family,(and friends)! May the joy of the Lord be your strength!! With all our love and prayers, The Fifelski Family"

This tribute was added by Bart Reed on 9th April 2014

"Ellen and family, our hearts break. Kym, Sarah, Samantha, and I are out of state right now. Times like this remind us truly that we were not made for such pain. We grieve with you and your family, and trust and know that Paul has returned home to His saviour. Our prayers are with you and the family - Bart, Kymberly, Sarah, and Samantha"

This tribute was added by Susan Richman on 8th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and Noah,
I was so saddened to get word this evening from a fellow APUSH online student about your husband / father's passing on so suddenly and unexpectedly. I'm so sorry for this great loss, and reading the very very touching story of Paul's wonderful life, I gained such a feel for who he was as a person-- a *remarkable* and very *loving* and dedicated family man. May God strengthen you in this time of sorrow, may all your many friends and your large extended family be a sure support to you. May Paul's memory always be for a blessing, and bring out the best in each of you as you each move, gradually, forward into your lives knowing that Paul's life will always be a part of who each of you are. My thoughts are with everyone in the family.

With sympathy,
Susan Richman"

This tribute was added by julie wenstrup on 8th April 2014

"Ellen, I will always remember Paul as such a nice, kindhearted guy and from all the tributes here it's  obvious he never changed. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family."

This tribute was added by Barbara Starosciak on 8th April 2014

"I am so sorry to hear about this. I know there will be a big hole in the homeschooling community in Michigan. The Koehler family were a blessing to all. May God comfort you with His Spirit and the knowledge that Paul is with Him. You will see him again some day."

This tribute was added by Clarice Winkler on 8th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family, I'm so sorry to hear of Paul's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Paul"

This tribute was added by Dianne Fisher on 8th April 2014

"Ellen and Family-
Although I haven't seen you for years, I remember your family from our time together at ROMC.  I was always impressed that you always seemed to have so much fun together.  My heart is heavy with your loss
but remember, you can't lose something if you know where it is.  Your knowledge that you will be with Paul again and for all eternity will hopefully get you all thru this difficult time.  Please accept my sympathy and know that many are praying for comfort for you."

This tribute was added by Karen Larson on 8th April 2014

"I am incredibly saddened by the loss of Paul Koehler. The world has truly lost one of the “good guys.” Paul generously shared his time and resources.  He and Ellen led the 4H Challenge Club when my sons, Seth and Ian, were teens. The group emphasized outdoor activities, including camping, backpacking, canoeing, rock-climbing, caving, and hiking. I always felt that my sons were in excellent hands, even during participation in “dangerous” activities – Paul always stressed that safety came first. The group not only engaged in outdoor trips; Ellen and Paul strove to have the club function as a cohesive whole. Paul and Ellen led many team-building exercises that were fun and brought the kids together. They opened their home for the meetings and usually drove two cars to the outdoor destinations, putting countless miles on their vehicles. Paul also shouldered more than his fair share of the weight when backpacking. If one of the kids struggled with a backpack, Paul would carry some of his or her load (also an apt metaphor for Paul’s personality in general).  
Paul was a wonderful father and doting grandfather. He also nurtured many more children and young people by contributing his time, experience, and energy to the fortunate kids, like mine, who were welcomed to share his skills, talents, and love for the wilderness.  I feel extremely honored to have known Paul. The world has a gaping hole from where his presence radiated."

This tribute was added by Michel Léger on 8th April 2014

"SO sad to know Paul is gone! He was a great example of a quiet, strong man with a big heart. I know he will be missed mightily by his family, and his place will never be filled. But he will remain in the hearts of those who love him, and even in the hearts of those who, like me, knew him long ago for a short while, but felt the impact of his goodness on our lives. Ellen, you are in my thoughts and prayers."

This tribute was added by Lynn Moon on 8th April 2014

"Dear Ellen, as long as I live, I will always see Paul by your side.  I can't imagine him not there.  You cherished your love for one another and let it show for all the world to see.  As a couple, you two were always so happy together & content; as parents & friends - kind, compassionate, loving, joyous and generous to all you came across, an inspiration to everyone.  He will always live in your heart; your children and grandchildren will always remind you of him, he is with you still.  My dear friend, Paul's wife - you, and your family, are in my prayers for comfort & strength in this incredibly sad, grievous time.  The expression, "only the good die young", certainly applies to Paul. One of the finest men I know, that we all know.   You will treasure him for the rest of your life, and have a happy reunion in Heaven, in just a moment. May the Lord bless you and keep you.  I love you, Lynn"

This tribute was added by Bridget Kramer on 8th April 2014

"Ellen~ Kit and I  cannot express the sorrow we feel at the loss of Paul. We were fortunate to have had him in our lives from our Gesu days through the present. Just last week Kit and Paul were at their second home (Lowes) searching for some "thingamajig" and catching up on work and family. We are truly disheartened by Paul's passing. May the  remarkable love that you had for each other somehow help to comfort you in the days to come. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  Love, Kit and Bridget"

This tribute was added by Tierney Ohly on 8th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family ~ Sending our prayers that our Heavenly Father will ease the pain of your great loss.  We are so very sorry to hear of Paul's passing. Paul was the Best Dancer Ever!  Just amazing!  Psalm 91 is such a beautiful passage -- our hearts go out to you. May our Heavenly Father comfort you and give you peace in the days ahead. Love to you, The Ohly Family."

This tribute was added by Pat Christie on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and Family,
We were saddened to hear about Paul's passing, but know that the strength and love that you all share will get you through this difficult time and that your faith will sustain you.
Pat and Mike Christie"

This tribute was added by Ruby Duffield on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen;  Although we haven't seen each other in years -- I think my boys were in grade school and they're now 18 and 22 -- my heart is very heavy with the news of Paul's passing.  Deepest condolences to you and your family.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Thinking of you with warm memories..."

This tribute was added by Susan Phillips on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen, Ben, Noah, Bree, and Seth, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. What a kind and generous man, and how much he will be missed. May God comfort your hearts and bless you tremendously. With love from your sister in Christ,
Susan Phillips"

This tribute was added by Cindy Winter on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family, though it has been many years since we've seen each other, it feels like it was just yesterday that our families spent so much time together at Covenant Alliance Church and at each other's homes when our children were young (and so were we!). We can't begin to express our sadness at Paul's passing, but we look forward to seeing him in Glory! Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love, John and Cindy Winter"

This tribute was added by Maureen Rosette on 7th April 2014

"Ellen, so sorry for your loss. Praying for you, your family and all who were touched by Paul's spirit. May God keep you in his light and love at this very difficult time."

This tribute was added by Gerardo Ascheri on 7th April 2014

"Ellen, I just heard the sad news about Paul's passing.  Please receive my deepest sympathy for you and your children, please tell Ben and Noah I will keep them and you in my thoughts."

This tribute was added by Paul Baunhofer on 7th April 2014

"Ellen, I was shocked and stunned when I heard the news. He was one of my favorite people and I knew the first day  worked with him in the 70's that he was someone special. May God's presence be with you during time."

This tribute was added by Marie Honka-Jacobs on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen, I am heartbroken for you and your family.  I have not seen you in many years but remember all the times we had as young kids growing up.  It is something that forms the foundation of who you are and you and Paul were an important part of my life.  I remember when you started dating and how perfect you were together.  I remember your wedding and the joy of that moment.  I was on that famous canoe trip Paul Hassett mentioned...what memories of fun times.  I remember the last time I saw you and Paul at the Gesu reunion and how complete you were, your marriage, your children, your happiness.  What a blessed and beautiful life you shared.  Paul was a special person with a kindness in his heart from a very early age.  He was strong and gentle and I know he was loved deeply by many.  He left a legacy by his love.  Your strength in your faith and the love of your family will support you in your pain and loss.  My love, Marie"

This tribute was added by Janet McAuliffe on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen, Ben, Noah, Bree, and Seth, I am so saddened to know of your great loss.   I've always admired the wonderful things I heard about your Father through Ellen.  I especially appreciated Paul's love of family and his love of nature.  So many of his activities involved both.  I loved hearing about your camping, hiking, canoeing and many other outdoor adventures.  
I will always remember and appreciate Paul's kindness and patience when I visited your home with my dog and she growled and barked at everyone all through our dinner.
You are all close to my heart during this difficult time.  I am certain that when you are in the beauty of nature you will always feel him close to you."

This tribute was added by Dee Williams on 7th April 2014

"We all know what a super person Paul was. My sadness is for the family he left behind who will miss all the love he gave you all. May happy family memories sustain you always.
My favorite picture posted this past year was Ellen and Paul hiking down a path with Noah and Ben on their backs and the two boys reaching out, smiling and touching each other. A small example of the adventures and love in your family. I rejoice knowing you have a deep faith."

This tribute was added by Lynn Dils on 7th April 2014

"I am so saddened and sorry to hear of your loss.  Keeping you in my heart and prayers and hoping you will always have a wonderful memory in your hearts and minds to bring smiles in times to come."

This tribute was added by Regina Olari on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and family! We are so shocked and grief-stricken by Paul's death. When we heard the sad news, we were stunned, but also immediately recalled Paul's love and passion for life and all that God had given him. Katja fondly remembered him pulling her pigtails (she'll wear them in honor of him at the funeral), Luke and Benjamin recalled the swords that Paul made for them and the endless sword fights that followed. We recalled the adventure of paddling in the dark to Kensington for the DSO concert, the bon fires, and so many more moments where Paul touched our lives. He will not forgotten in the Olari household. May God hold you and your family in the palm of HIs hand in this difficult time. We love you."

This tribute was added by Don Schoener on 7th April 2014

"I'll always remember the great job Paul did for us on Margareta street in Detroit. He did some cabinet/counter top work and I think helped install a dishwasher. Never had a problem. Great work look at all that fun you will have up there with the best flawless equipment!! To Paul's family remember him well and never forget his love for you all."

This tribute was added by Kim Dennis on 7th April 2014

"Dear Ellen and Family, I'm so, so sorry. May you feel the love and support of your entire community who grieve alongside you, and most of all the comfort that only Jesus can bring."

This tribute was added by betty almaraz on 7th April 2014

"Ellen, dear friend it was a great blessing to me when I met you and your precious family.  The love and passion for God and family that you and Paul shared is a great inspiration to many.  I pray that God will comfort you and your family.  Love, Betty"

This tribute was added by Tim Murphy on 7th April 2014

"I am very sorry to hear about Paul's passing. We were Gesu buddies back in the day, spending a lot of time together playing sports, goofing off and just being boys. I enjoyed seeing what Paul had been doing the past few years, via FB. My condolences to the Koehler family during this difficult time."

This tribute was added by terri umlor on 7th April 2014

"I just can’t believe it . The world has lost someone who was truly making a difference with everyone he met . His family has lost a father that truly believed in putting everything he had into raising his children and what an amazing family they have . His friends have lost a man that you could trust with anything , who believed in the goodness in each and every one of us , and taught us by example how to be humble and present , confident and not boastful , compassionate  with purpose and a plan and with love and respect for everyone despite our shortcomings. Paul was one of the greatest men I had ever known and a man that you truly felt blessed to call a friend .
Terry Umlor, friend and fellow 4-H leader"

This tribute was added by Paul Hassett on 7th April 2014

"Ellen, to you and your family I send my thoughts and love. Even though our lives have taken us in different directions, you and Paul were very much a part of who I am and my life. The friendships forged years ago have a history and strength that surpasses time. do you remember canoeing and camping one particular time when we all got lost in the dark. Riding in the black Falcon after skiing at Pine Knob. I will always look back fondly when I think of you and Paul. I'm sure your faith will help you get through the terrible sorrow of Paul's passing."

This tribute was added by Sharon Peterson on 7th April 2014

"My heart is heavy and I am so saddened to learn of Paul's passing.
My thoughts and prayers are with the Koehler family during this very difficult time. I just saw him Friday and he had his regular smile when he greeted me. He will be missed so much. He was a regular at the Y and always had such a great spirit. May God surround his family with his love and strength and help them through this time of sorrow."

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