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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Peter Alexander van der Hoeven, 33 years old, born on April 20, 1977, and passed away on July 28, 2010. We will remember him forever.
July 28, 2015
July 28, 2015
Peter, your friend sent me this message. Thought you might like it:
Hi Barbara, Peter was a good friend of mine, I am the one who tattooed him. He was to me a constant friend, we spent many hours together, one on one, talking and jabbering, we talked about life, ambition, joy, and many other wonderful things. Mostly we sat and laughed for many hours, it was a time in which we allowed ourselves just to enjoy life taking the serious away. In the many hours that we spent together, sometimes 10-12 hrs at a time I will mention what stood out about Pete the most, is that he never no matter what anyone had done to him or whatever situation he was in or had been in, never once did he have anything negative to say about anyone.
He was a man of his word who always held the people around him in great esteem - his name as we established one night means 'great,great'-- he would always find the positive in view and we would always laugh together about the irony of life. Before his death I skyped with him and nothing had changed, still we smiled and laughed about the same stupid things. As an inspiration, it is such that every time I think of him a smile comes over my face, heaven knows I miss him like crazy as I can only imagine you do. You must be a wonderful person, a son does not grow with the giving of so much love unless he learns it from somewhere, my guess is his love for you was his teacher as well. He always looked to the light side of life and lived a very full and happy place with everyone. He nurtured and maintained relationships with very beautiful people. He inspires me every day to be happy and to always see past the tough times to know that I'm always in a better place.
July 27, 2015
July 27, 2015
5 years now my brother. Your boy is beautiful, but I'm sure you're watching over him, so I know that you already know that. Still miss you man. Rest easy brother.
May 19, 2015
May 19, 2015
Peter, your beautiful Razz went to sleep. She had got gastric dilatation/a twisted stomach, which results in death within hours of the initial signs of "the bloat". She lasted overnight, it seems, and was up and about and walking until they took her into surgery the next day. She could not be saved. RIP, my son, RIP Raz.
May 10, 2014
May 10, 2014
My fourth Mother's day without you, Peter. I have the last gift you gave me, a white vase with purple irises. The irises are no longer, of course, just like you, but I have the vase.
April 19, 2014
April 19, 2014
Easter is the demonstration of God that life is essentially spiritual and timeless. ~Charles M. Crowe
I wish you were here, Peter, and not just in spirit. Mother.
December 24, 2013
December 24, 2013
To live in the hearts of those we love is never to die. (Thomas Campbell). Our fourth Christmas without, Peter. Mother
November 1, 2013
November 1, 2013
Your brother's birthday today, Peter. The fourth without you. Three of your birthdays without you. Mother.
November 1, 2013
November 1, 2013
Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed, and very dear.
  Mother
September 28, 2013
September 28, 2013
The Dockers got into the Grand Final, Peter, but they lost. I kept thinking of you and how you used to enjoy watching the footy with your friends. Wish you were here, so many things are happening. I know you would have been the first person to get yourself an iPad. I might even have bought you one. I did for Andrew. It would have helped with your business. God Bless, Peter, RIP. Mother
September 1, 2013
September 1, 2013
Life brings tears, smiles and memories - the tears dry, the smiles fade, but the memories live on forever."
Thinking of you, Peter, because you never got to meet your son. You never forgot Father's Day or Mother's Day, although I did not want you to make a thing of it. Even though your father would not remember you now, you would have rung him. I still have the last card you gave me.
July 28, 2013
July 28, 2013
Hey Peter. 

Can't believe it's been 3 years. Miss you god son xxx

Frankie
July 28, 2013
July 28, 2013
Pete, can't believe it's been almost 3 years to the hour that I got that phone call. Miss you so much, cous. Feels like just yesterday.
Love you, cous. Rest in peace xoxox
July 27, 2013
July 27, 2013
Although you are not here, Peter, you are always here with me in spirit and in my heart. Not a day goes by that I do not think about you. I will always remember you. Rest in Peace, my son.
Mum and Dad (although he does not remember much any longer, even where we live.)
July 27, 2013
July 27, 2013
Although we do not know the exact day or time you passed, Peter, we were there in spirit, Andrew and I. This is my blood pressure on 28 July. I am sure at the moment you passed it was highest.
Systolic Diastolic Heart Rate
July29 123 90 101 went back down
July28 217 114 103 I wish I knew the exact time
July28 147 100 147 Racing heart
July28 196 103 87
July28 187 100 97
July27 166 91 85
July 27, 2013
July 27, 2013
I thought I was going to die, my heart was racing, so I kept taking my readings. How was I to know you were in trouble? We thought you were doing fine. Pity, your father accidentally pressed the button and deleted the readings before I could note the exact time; I got only the dates. Would have told us the exact time you died.
God Bless. Mother
May 11, 2013
May 11, 2013
My third Mother's Day without you, Peter. You never forgot. If you could not visit you rang.
Rest in Peace,my son.
Mother
April 21, 2013
April 21, 2013
Happy Birthday my beautiful nephew.  You are always in my heart. Love from Auntie Joanie.
April 20, 2013
April 20, 2013
Happy birthday brother. Still loved, still missed, still thinking that you should still be here.
April 20, 2013
April 20, 2013
Happy birthday, sweet cous <3 
We're all missing you. Everyone's over here for mum's afghani bday feast tonight - you would've loved it.
Love you lots, cous! Xoxox
April 19, 2013
April 19, 2013
REMEMBER ME

To the living, I am gone
To the sorrowful, I will never return
To the angry, I was cheated
But to the happy, I am at peace
And to the faithful, I have never left

I cannot speak, but I can listen
I cannot be seen, but I can be heard

So as you stand upon the shore
Gazing at the beautiful sea, remember me
As you look in awe at a mighty forest
And its grand majesty, remember me
April 4, 2013
April 4, 2013
The third Easter since you went, Peter. It does not get any easier.
I still cannot accept that I am here, and you are not. Rest in Peace, my child.
Mother.
March 20, 2013
March 20, 2013
To lose someone you love is to alter your life forever..
The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes..
This hole in your heart is the shape of the one you lost –
No one else can fit it.
Jeanette Winterson
February 21, 2013
February 21, 2013
Your son will be two years old on the 24th, Peter. You should be here. Mother.
January 26, 2013
January 26, 2013
Where are you Peter? It's getting worse as time goes by, as I realize that you are never coming through the door again.
You used to love Australia Day, and I took you to the fireworks whenever I could. I know, after you grew up, you used to go with your friends too.
Your mother misses you, Peter.
December 30, 2012
December 30, 2012
They say "people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime". Never for a minute did I think you would be with us for a season only. But one thing I know, Peter, is the reason you came here, you made everyone’s lives a little richer, and we will miss you the rest of our lives.
December 26, 2012
December 26, 2012
What's happening, Peter?
Your mother is missing you terribly. Why, why, why, is what I still keep asking myself.
December 20, 2012
December 20, 2012
I always think, Peter, no one was watching your back when it most mattered. I will keep asking myself for the rest of my life what if...? You subconsciously tried to contact me and Andrew at the time, but I did not connect my unrest with you being in deep trouble. I will go to my grave cursing myself for this.
December 19, 2012
December 19, 2012
"Three Christmases since you went, Peter, and I miss you every day, every turn I take at home. They say people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Never for a minute did I think you would be with us for so few seasons. But one thing I know, Peter, is the reason you came here: you made everyone’s lives a little richer, and we will miss you the rest of our lives. Mother
October 14, 2012
October 14, 2012
I still keep asking myself - and I'll forever keep asking myself - "How can my son be gone?" Peter. How could you have gone, so soon and so suddenly, and before your mother?
September 2, 2012
September 2, 2012
Your third father's day, Peter, and you weren't here. But, I think you let us know you were here in spirit because we felt cold, in spite of the heater and warm rugs.
Rest in Peace and God Bless, Peter.
September 2, 2012
September 2, 2012
I thought of you today,but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday,and the days before that too.
I think of you in silence,I often speak your name.
All I have are memories and a picture in a frame.
Your memory is a keepsake from which I’ll never part,
God has you in his arms…I have you in my heart.
Mother
September 2, 2012
September 2, 2012
Peter, Janis Moore posted this little poem on her Facebook page. You were shocked and told me about it when her daughter, Barbara was murdered by her boyfriend about ten years ago. Who would have thought that Janis would contact me again - because you were gone too! 
I do not know if this would make any difference, Peter - Rest in Peace and God Bless. I will never forget you.
August 9, 2012
August 9, 2012
Peter, apart from the first morning after you passed, when I heard you, I had never had any contact. But, this morning, I dreamt of you, looking exactly like you do in your guitar picture. You wanted citrus juice and soup, which I was preparing for you. Then you were sitting right in front of me, and when I grabbed your hand thinking you were alive, you disappeared. Your mother misses you.
July 29, 2012
July 29, 2012
Pete. I can't believe it's been two years. Miss you so dearly my friend.
June 28, 2012
June 28, 2012
Penny had an idyllic life.She was the most gentle cat.Razz would give her hell,tip her box over,shove her,but she would only smack him with her closed paw.She never hurt anyone.She was stiff and still, but when I called her name, she opened her eyes and kicked her legs. She went a few minutes later. She was more obedient that any dog, always came running when I called her, wherever she was
June 28, 2012
June 28, 2012
PENNY,my beautiful baby girl, just passed away. 22 yrs 1990 - 28 July 2010 exactly 23 months to the day since you went away. She was your cat; you brought her home in your shirt, starving and cold from being dumped in the Crestwood Estate culverts. She is the closest link I had with you that I have lost. She never grew up – she was always a kitten and proved animals make a wonderful world.
May 13, 2012
May 13, 2012
Mothers' Day, and I'm missing you every step of the way, Peter. 
I'll come and see you in the afternoon.
Rest in peace.
Mother.
April 28, 2012
April 28, 2012
Gone for 21 months and two birthdays now, Peter.
God Bless.
           Mother
April 20, 2012
April 20, 2012
Always missed.
My thoughts are with the family on this day.
April 20, 2012
April 20, 2012
Thank you, Matthew. Nice of you to remember.
I just came home from attending the birthday of one my granddaughter's friends, and it is also Jodie delieu's birthday today. She was a school friend of Peter's.
April 20, 2012
April 20, 2012
Hope you are happy Peter, nearly thirty people visited your website over the last two days. Quite a few people still think of you, and Birthdays, Easter and Christmas they seem to do the most. Lisa has also reopened your Facebook page. Mother
April 19, 2012
April 19, 2012
Happy Birthday Peter! You were an awesome cousin.
xoxox

Still missing you.
February 1, 2012
February 1, 2012
1 1/2 years, Peter, and it still seems like yesterday that I got that call at 1 am on 29/7/2010. I sometimes wonder, Peter, if any of your friends think of you or if they have forgotten. I hope not, because I know you lived for your friends.
I will thiink of you everyday, Peter, until the end of my days. God Bless and Rest in Peace.
Mother.
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