Tribute to Peter
Good afternoon,
I’d like to start off by thanking Fr. Gregory for celebrating the Mass, family and friends for helping us in preparing for today and Ray, Ruth and Edlyn for providing the music and songs at the mass.
Dear Family and Friends,
On behalf of our family, thank you for attending today to celebrate the life and memories of my Dad, Peter, and thank you for the many condolence calls, and tributes posted on Dad’s memorial website. Our family takes great comfort in the memories and how he was so well liked and respected by all he knew.
On January tenth, just two weeks after he passed, Dad & Mum would have celebrated their sixty-sixth wedding anniversary.
Certainly a legacy of love, a strong relationship, family values and traditions he left Terry, Sandy and I, his grandchildren Ryan, Amanda, Sean and Jeremy, and great grandchild Olivia.
In the days after Dad’s passing, and reading some of the tributes that many of you posted, I thought about what I could say that would honor his life. The thoughts of this song, while not the full one, will hopefully give a perspective of his life from my eyes…
A Tinker, A Tailor, A Soldier, A Sailor…
A Tinker – In my mind a Thinker, as in thought process, as opposed to tinkering with things. While Dad was a great sportsman and competed in soccer, snooker, table tennis and darts, he was also a great intellect. He had a wide perspective on the world and life. He read the newspaper from cover to cover every day, in thirst of knowledge and awareness, always engaging in conversation with anyone, and at any level. While strong in his own opinions, he was a listener and respectful of other points of view, eager to debate, or lend insight and advice. Faith was one of Dad’s key cornerstones in life. Always believing in a higher purpose, teachings of the church, setting his moral compass around it, and offering us the guidance and support as we grew up.
A Tailor –Dad enjoyed working with his hands, whether it was major projects around the house, fixing his cars, and the many repairs that he knew nothing about, but challenged himself to learn and accomplish. Family life was another cornerstone for Dad. Like a tailor, he crafted a family life for us that had all the fun things as we grew up – picnics, camping, fishing, social events, or just hanging out with friends at the club. On the more serious side, he instilled moral values, the importance of education, and reaching our potential to be the very best that we could be, no matter what it was. The most enjoyable times for him, were at family get-togethers surrounded by all of us, enjoying a good meal, and of course a drink or two!
A Soldier – Dad’s plight to help and fight for family and friends was one of his passions. Much like a soldier, he was selfless and sacrificed much when it came to family. Everything he did was in defending our future, to provide the best possible outcome. When it came to friends and people in need, he was the first to offer help, whether it was assistance to immigrate to Canada, or open up his home to give newcomers a start in making a new life here.
His largest challenge in life was with his health. He battled through dislocating his shoulder in his 50s, a heart attack and bypass surgery in his 60s, and then falling and breaking his hip in his early 70s. His final battle for the past eight years was with dementia, and that was one he lost.
Through all of this, Dad marched on and never sat still. Always trying to self-heal and not burden, or worry us …. a soldier indeed.
A Sailor – Dad was born in Dar-Es-Salaam, Tanzania, in East Africa. His mother passed away early in his life and he spent most of his childhood in Goa, India. At the age of seventeen, he moved back to Tanzania where he met Mum, married, and Terry and Sandy were born. He then moved the family to Nairobi, Kenya, where I was born. As a Sales Manager, he travelled the lonely and treacherous roads between Kenya, Tanzania & Uganda, often all night, so he could get to his business meeting the next morning. As political turmoil came to East Africa in the early 70s, Dad made a brave decision to give up all and move us to a more stable future in England. A couple of years later he realized that this was not our final destiny, and made another brave move to relocate us to Canada. When I look back at this, I think of a poster we have in our home, that shows a picture of a ship out at sea in a turbulent storm. The quote by Magellan goes like this …
“The sea is dangerous and its storms terrible, but these obstacles have never been sufficient reason to remain at shore … unlike the mediocre, intrepid spirits seek victory over those things that seem impossible. It is with an iron will that they embark on the most dangerous of all endeavors ... to meet the shadowy future and without fear, conquer the unknown”.
Dad was truly a sailor.
Dad had fallen in November, broke his hip bone, and was on pain medication which left him sedated for much of the time. A few days before he passed, I had a special moment with him that I would like to share. As I was sitting with him this one evening, he started rubbing his wrists and would not stop. Not knowing why he was doing this, I held his hands and tried to calm him. Well…that got him to push back, and become more alert… as if to say I’m not done yet… I still have some fight in me. The pushing back turned into what I would say was a dance, holding my hands and waving, almost to the music that was playing in the background. In those few minutes looking into his eyes told the whole story. I saw in him, what I’ve seen all my life … a man and a father who never gave up, determined as ever to march on and conquer life’s challenges. A man who stood Tall, Strong and Proud, but yet was Gentle and Humble, Serious but Playful, Worldly and Confident, but also Caring and Unassuming. That evening, his loving smile and quiet nod said ... “don’t worry… I’ll be ok.”
Dad … you are my hero, a hero to our entire family, and many of your friends.
You are now our angel, and will forever continue to inspire and guide us with your presence.
Thank You!