ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Phil Hellyer 45 years old , born on June 28, 1975 and passed away on July 9, 2020. 
Phil leaves behind a best friend, wife and soul mate, Linda.  Two step daughters Nicole and Noelle whom he loved.  Many friends and family who loved him deeply, I guess the question would be, who didn't love Phil?
He had a beautiful smile, his hugs were the best and he could always be depended on.  Phil loved to help, he was generous of spirit and had a talent with listening.
 He never met a dog he didn't love, I'm sure our beloved dog Judy was there to greet him.  
Camping, music and the ocean were what made him tick.  Bob Marley was in his soul, the Monterey Jazz Fest a favorite destination and he loved to watch, "A Christmas Story".
Tow truck driver, firefighter, or auto repair shop owner, he always tried to do his best. 
He is loved and will be greatly missed by all. 


  

Posted by Linda D Hellyer on July 26, 2020
Phil was the kindest, most gentle, loving man I have ever met. There is absolutely no words to express the sadness I feel at this time. I know I was one of the luckiest people in the world to get to share life with him. His laugh was something I aimed for, his smile I lived for and I miss his hugs most of all. I love and miss you Phil.
Posted by Victor Leon on July 17, 2020
Phil was one of my true friends. When I found out he was going to run his own shop a few years ago I was very excited for him. He took on the challenge and succeeded. We spent most days talking on the phone about tips and advice on repairs. Truly a remarkable person, husband, father, and friend.  One day we will both be wrenching together. I will never forget him.

I never forgot those taco's we promised to cook once you got better, we will do that once we meet again Phil. I promise.
Posted by Laureen Johnson on July 16, 2020
I have never had the opportunity to meet Phil in person, but I saw how much happiness that he brought to Linda and Noelle and Nicole. I saw how big his heart was when he was pet sitting. I saw how much life you all packed in to the time he had. I cry for you all because I know how much he will be missed. But I know this with all certainty you will meet again. He was such an amazing man and I am truly blessed for knowing him even if it was just on Facebook. You are all in my prayers I love you.
Posted by Angie Ruddell on July 15, 2020
I did not have the chance to meet Phil in person but I am looking forward to the day I get to meet Linda. Phil and Linda are huge fans of my family’s restaurant, Ruddell’s Smokehouse, in Cayucos. I learned of them both and their story from Linda’s blog. She takes so many great photos and has some amazing ones at the smokehouse. It has been a joy to connect with them and watch them make the most of life. I am very grateful for the opportunity to follow along and to share our special food with a special family. We will smoke chicken and salmon in his honor. I lost my dad 2.5 years ago, and I know that there is a special place in heaven for these wonderful men gone too soon. Thank you, Phil, for all of the joy you have brought to the world.
Posted by Paula Watson on July 15, 2020
Phil was the grounding force in all of our adventures....cooking food, driving us safely home, telling us it was time to go home (and it WAS time to go home, LOL!). He was the first example of a 'good' guy I had in my life. The way he loved Linda and treated their relationship was something new to me. I have so many memories of nights filled with laughter, great food, games, music, and good drinks! Sometimes when Kurt and I are serving dinner, we still say 'This ain't no ******** restaurant!' and laugh, loving that memory of Phil. Phil, you will be missed greatly, but you left a big presence, and I know your energy/soul will be with Linda always.
Posted by Kerri Ramirez on July 14, 2020
I can see Phil’s bright smile and relaxed energy. I think of him hanging out in a chair behind the event booth! Laughing and making everything light and fun!
The love between Phil and Linda was always sweet, adventurous, and beautiful.
Phil was strong, courageous, and truly an inspiration.
He will be so missed.
Posted by Linda D Hellyer on July 13, 2020
Love of my life, best friend, soul mate. Phil loved helping others, had a tender heart and a beautiful soul.  He cared and loved me to perfection. I am trying to pull myself together enough to write about him, but my world has fallen apart a bit. I miss you already Phil. He never missed an opportunity to tell Noelle and I that he loved us during his final days. I will continue to feel the warmth of his hugs, the tenderness of his words and the passion of his kisses.

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Posted by Linda D Hellyer on July 26, 2020
Phil was the kindest, most gentle, loving man I have ever met. There is absolutely no words to express the sadness I feel at this time. I know I was one of the luckiest people in the world to get to share life with him. His laugh was something I aimed for, his smile I lived for and I miss his hugs most of all. I love and miss you Phil.
Posted by Victor Leon on July 17, 2020
Phil was one of my true friends. When I found out he was going to run his own shop a few years ago I was very excited for him. He took on the challenge and succeeded. We spent most days talking on the phone about tips and advice on repairs. Truly a remarkable person, husband, father, and friend.  One day we will both be wrenching together. I will never forget him.

I never forgot those taco's we promised to cook once you got better, we will do that once we meet again Phil. I promise.
Posted by Laureen Johnson on July 16, 2020
I have never had the opportunity to meet Phil in person, but I saw how much happiness that he brought to Linda and Noelle and Nicole. I saw how big his heart was when he was pet sitting. I saw how much life you all packed in to the time he had. I cry for you all because I know how much he will be missed. But I know this with all certainty you will meet again. He was such an amazing man and I am truly blessed for knowing him even if it was just on Facebook. You are all in my prayers I love you.
his Life

Phil's Auto Repair

Phil could do anything he set his mind to.  He had pride in his work and he loved cars.  Before he was diagnosed with Brain Cancer, he had a repair shop on DLI.  I love his smile in this photo, he had a great love of life and it showed in everything he did.
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Serendipity

Shared by Janet Flink on July 17, 2020
Linda and I connected on Facebook through my niece a few years ago.  I admired her photos and her free spirit.  My husband Russ and I both started following Linda and then Phil, marveling at the car photos and the ocean scenes, but we never met in person. 
Fast forward to 2019, I’m finishing an out of town project in Gualala, a tiny coastal town in Northern California.  I decide to leave early and make the 2hour drive home.  Just as I pull onto Highway One, a car goes by.  I know that car, I’ve seen photos of it... I think - that’s Phil & Linda!  What are they doing here in this remote town?  I follow them into a parking lot and we finally meet in person.  
After much astonishment at such a chance encounter, we decide to stop at my friends house then go mushroom hunting.  Phil and Dibby bond instantly and we all just marvel at the serendipity of life.  We have had many happy visits since, with Phil and Russ supporting each other on their cancer journeys.  We will forever treasure the gift of love offered by Phil and Linda.  Rest In Peace dear Phil.

Holly Hocks and my Garden

Shared by Linda D Hellyer on July 17, 2020
When we moved into our apartment, we knew that this would be our last home together.  Phil and I would talk about everything and we tried to make our living space cheerful and full of love.  I worked on a garden for privacy and peace.  It gave us both.  Phil and I grilled out back there, I loved gardening and the flowers brought us joy.  I would show my new buds or an insect I saw with him, he always humored me.  I wanted to show him the garden in the last few days, but he couldn't move from the bed.  I took this video, but his vision had gotten so bad he never got to see the video.  After he passed away the nurse sent our friends Candice and Michelle, Noelle and myself out to the garden to gather flowers.  We cut the most beautiful flowers and she placed them around him.  He had my Holly Hocks in his hand. He was just as handsome as ever and that sight gave me just a little tiny bit of peace at that moment.  I will miss you forever Phil.  I have many wonderful memories, they are carrying me through what we knew would be a hard transition for me.  I love you Philly.

Cooking

Shared by Linda D Hellyer on July 17, 2020
Phil was the cook in our family.  He loved to cook, the kitchen was his and I stayed a bit fluffy around the waist due to this.  We loved to share our meals together.  Food was central in our house.  I rarely cooked and he preferred to be in the kitchen or at the grill.  This morning I'm looking at the kitchen and feeling an overwhelming sadness. Breakfast was our favorite meal and we made a point to spend time with each morning, just talking.  The last few months we got into a routine at 6:00 pm, to eat dinner and watch the Flintstones together, we loved that time together.  As Phil got closer to departing, he asked to watch the Flintstones all the time.  I think it reminded him of our dinner times.  We just stopped and spent time with each other. During the four years that he has been going through this, if he was feeling good, he was cooking.  I could see that his health was getting worse when he was not in the kitchen anymore.  We would laugh hard and loud over some of my attempts at cooking.  After he wasn't able to get out of bed anymore, he would coach me from bed in how to prepare meals.  My sister began getting us "Sun Basket" meals and they came with everything you needed to prepare meals. Phil loved these meals and looked forward to them coming.  I started to enjoy cooking, esp. because it gave him such pleasure.  Phil never forgot to say thank you, I'm proud of you or that was so good.  I think he was proud of me, he seemed to glow that I was trying so hard.  I am very sure he is with me each time I'm in the kitchen.  I miss you Phil.