I was watching this video when a funny story came to my mind about one of the times Phillip dogsat Remus for me. It's one of those interesting, but emblematic stories. It reminds me of how much I relied on him and the wholeheartedness of my trust. Especially when Remus was young, I really didn't trust him with very many people. Remus isn't the sort of dog who easily gives his affection, but you can really see how much he loved Phillip in this clip. He was ridiculously excited when he came in. He still had to be in his pen when we weren't around because he would destroy the apartment (puppy phase).
For this memory, I was in Nashville with Tess and Phillip had come over just for the one night - we left on Saturday morning and were going to come back Sunday evening. This was in November 2018 - about a week or so before Phillip's 17th birthday.
Phillip loved hanging with Remus so he never thought of taking care of him as a chore, but I always tried to make sure he felt like his time was valuable to me - sometimes some spending cash, but I'd always leave one of my credit cards for Phillip to go out and have a bit of fun, whether it was some food in the area or a movie or whatever. I'd usually line up some game I liked on my computer, too, and encourage him to play it.
While Tess and I were wandering Nashville, we got our usual updates from Phillip. He'd always send us photos of Remus (he'd always refer to him as `the pup`) and soothe our neurotic brains to let us know he was okay. A few hours after our first update, Phillip sends us a question (and I'm paraphrasing, not quoting!) `Hey, I'm sure it's nothing but Remus' nose looks a little off. I wonder if he's allergic to something?`. I remember Tess and I looking at each other in confusion. We were at the Nashville Predators game at the time and it was somewhere in the middle of the second period - I think they were playing Edmonton and I was interested in seeing Connor McDavid live so we got tickets on a whim. I texted Phillip back and asked to see pictures. He sent us back photos of Remus' face and oh my goodness; Tess and I almost laughed because Phillip had made it seem like there was maybe a teensy bit of swelling.
Nope. One side of his face was absolutely inflated and he did NOT look even remotely close to okay. I immediately panic a bit and walk out into the corridor to call Phillip. The reception was absolutely horrible and the fact that it was a very loud sporting event didn't make things easier. I called Phillip and told him he'll have to take Remus to the vet. I remember he sounded a bit scared on the phone, but resolute, also. I knew he could do this and he was steeling himself to do so as well. Our vet was thankfully only a few blocks away, but it was something like 3:50 in the afternoon and when I looked up their hours, I saw they closed at 4. I immediately told Phillip to just try and get there as quickly as possible, but in the meantime called the vet to see if they could squeeze us in. They basically told us that yes, but that we had to arrive before 4 as they would lock the doors then.
Phillip was an absolute trooper. He picked Remus up and literally ran him over to the vet. He was still out of breath when he called me again and said that he got there in time and that the vet was taking care of him. The outpouring of gratitude and relief I had in that moment is pretty indescribable. I'm not sure anyone could ask for more from their 16 year old brother.
Remus ended up totally fine, thanks to Phillip (and the vet). He got some Benadryl and Phillip sent us updates about how much his nose was getting better.
There are some silly stories I remember from Phillips' dogsitting adventures. There was one time Remus had stomach troubles and pooped all over our floor. Phillip did his absolute darndest to clean it up (bless him), but we definitely needed a second cleaning. The only time I was ever really reminded that he was still just a kid and not a professional dog & house sitter was when I looked at the dishes and utensils he used and tried to clean for when I got home. I'm sure he thought they were clean, but it always made me laugh when I saw them. He always tried so hard. I never really had the heart to tell him.
This is the story that sticks out the most in my memory, though. It perfectly shows why I could put all of my trust into him and how he never really let me down - believe me, I tried to think of examples and couldn't find any. I hope I told him that often enough that it sunk in.
Thank you Phillip, for being the world's best dogsitter. For loving Remus the way you did. For never disappointing me.
The next little bit has nothing about the story itself, it's just something I want to get out for my future self.
The thing that acutely sticks out to me whenever I remember these dogsitting stories is that I was always on some trip with friends, with Tess or just by myself. Phillip enabled me to go on these adventures, but I didn't have him with me. I didn't share that magic with him until later. I didn't really travel with Phillip until we went to Italy the summer before he went to college. I'm eternally thankful we had that amazing trip together. It was honestly the perfect place to travel with him. It was different, but not so different that it was jarring for him. He was all about creature comforts. He experienced a world that was different, yet not too far from the familiar. The food - I mean, he was picky, but who can say no to bread, cheese, tomatoes, basil and wine? I think of all the places I could've taken him and know Italy was the perfect choice.
We were supposed to take a family trip down to Cancun last spring (March 2020) that I got our family for Christmas, but the world had different plans as COVID cancelled our trip. That made me sad at the time, but the world was in so much disarray that it was almost an afterthought. I think in retrospect I would have risked it for the extra memories. I wish we had even a couple of more years of normal, post-pandemic life together. I would have loved to have shared a brothers trip with Phillip somewhere in the world, with just the two of us. It's not really a regret, though. I'm very lucky in that I don't have many regrets about the time I spent with him. We shared many special moments together. I wouldn't want to trade any memories we made together for a hypothetical. That trip is just a wish that I know I'll never be able to actualize. You can't live a full life that ends at 19, so I know that no matter what I would yearn for more. 9 years separated us, so we really only had a few years together where we could start to have "common interests" and a large swath of it was marred by the pandemic. I like to think we did a lot in those years, despite that.