Pingxin and Zhengyu’s first child, Weizhi (nickname: Zaozao), was born in February 2013, followed by his little brother, Yafei (nickname: Gaogao), in March 2016, via VBAC, a very brave / risky endeavor. She was dedicated to her children. She managed to “do it all” by being very loving and organized. She took kids to library, playgrounds, museum and zoos. Zaozao’s weekends are always well planned, with playdates and fun trips around the Bay Area. Friends and neighbors who have kids of similar age often happily tag along. She carried her big diaper bag around, which magically stored everything that you can think of: change clothes, snacks, fruits, diapers, lollipops (for fussy little ones). To fellow mothers, she was resourceful and willing to help. She had endless ideas for kids’ recipes, activities, breastfeeding tips, etc. To her friends and family, she was this positive, strong and very thoughtful person, whom we could always count on.
It is important for a mom to be a good cook and Pingxin surely was. She loved to experiment with food and recreated a lot of her hometown classics. Friends lined up at her house for her smelly tofu or rice noodles. For Zaozao’s first birthday party, she made an organic, low-sugar and yet delicious cheesecake that made the little person very happy. Zaozao was not a big fan of milk and he was picky with food at certain age. Pingxin would try all she could think of, and was sincerely happy if she managed to feed him just one more ounce of milk, or one more bite of food.
As Zaozao started daycare and she had more of her free time, she was willing to pivot her life and career further towards kids’ education and future. In the past two years, she was studying for the teacher’s certificate. Her dream was to be accompanying both kids even when she is at work. She had one more subject left, History. She was still studying the night before she left us.
他们的第一个小宝贝,何为之,小名早早,生于2013年2月。弟弟亚飞,小名高高,生于2016年3月。早早出生时,历经艰难还是不得已剖腹产。生高高的时候,她四处查资料,想尝试顺产。生老大的医院不支持,她又联系了别的医生,尽管OB说过她骨盆不大只有50%的成功率,最后还是顺产成功了。她自己开玩笑说这是”这辈子到现在最牛掰的成就”。她也跟我说过,想自然顺产是给以后拼老三留条后路。她总是对未来充满憧憬。我们都以为未来还很长,还有无数可能,万万也不可能想到她的时间竟然在这里戛然而止。
所有人都知道,平心是个好妈妈。孩子们所有的大小事情,她都仔细琢磨认真安排,所有的事情都做到最好。小时候早早喝奶不好,平心会想尽办法,用勺用杯子用吸管甚至听说注射器都用上了,就是为了孩子多喝一口奶。为了给早早挑选幼儿园,她看遍了附近的所有的幼儿园,每家幼儿园都仔细询问,和老师聊,向其他家长打听。有孩子的父母都喜欢跟着早早家玩,因为平心总是有好多好主意。一块儿去阿拉斯加坐邮轮,她提前几家询价比优惠,给大家订好票,查好上船前哪里买尿布买水,备齐了孩子各种药膏,还带着几副对讲机方便几家人联系。每年樱桃成熟季节,她组织大家摘樱桃,提前了解今年哪些品种好吃,哪几家农场有而且人不多,甚至到了农场,还会把园子里树上果子都尝一尝,告诉小伙伴们哪颗树上最好吃。平心对生活有满满的热情和无尽的规划,她的这份热情,也能让身边人深深地感受到,有她的地方,总是感到温暖放心。太多的朋友得到过她的帮助,我们都习惯了有平心当主心骨。关于她的回忆里满满的都是幸福和快乐,老天一定也妒忌我们身边有这么善良能干,能给身边人带来欢乐的人。
过去两年,平心一直在准备教师资格证的考试。她想去教小朋友,这样工作的同时,也能陪伴在早早和高高左右,伴随着他们的成长。她虽达到了学术的顶峰,有无尽的才华。但她所要的,只是从容持家,相夫教子的生活,心甘情愿地辅佐丈夫的事业,为孩子们的未来铺路。