There are many things I think of when I think about Preston: Sitting on our front porch, sitting on our back porch, walking in Utah, walking in Montana, walking in the Outerbanks, walking in Norfolk, walking in Ridgefield, CT, reading books to the boys while they sat on his lap, singing together during Christmas, Thanksgiving, and every single time we got together.. but the one object that ties every one of those memories together are Pistachios. Preston loved his pistachios. On his last visit here to Norfolk, he sat on the bar in our kitchen and would eat handfuls at a time. I never knew it was possible for someone to eat so many pistachios in one setting, and I had to do a medical search to make sure it was not harmful. There is no overdosing Pistachios, just like there was no overdosing of his love, his patience, and his welcome arms.
I came into this family thinking and feeling as if I was an outsider.. Preston never ever made me feel that way. It was almost 9 years to this day when I met Preston, Ann, Carol and Scott in Norfolk, VA for the first time at Jonathan's wetting down ceremony. Preston and Ann immediately made me feel as part of the family. We spoke about everything and anything - we had the commonality that he raised his children overseas, as I grew up overseas because my father's job at IBM; music, philosophy, children, and health insurance. Never once did he make me feel as if I should not be with Jonathan, and instead, he constantly told me how grateful he was that Jonathan and I met and married. I constantly thanked him for raising such a wonderful and amazing son, and he thanked me for making Jonathan happy.
I regret not having more time to share more songs, more trips, more games and more stories. But I am so grateful for the moments we have had together.
So, besides pistachios, I will remember Preston as a person who embodied a quote by Fred Rogers:
"As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has- or ever will have- something inside that is unique to all time. It's our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression."
Preston always managed to make each of us feel special and unique.
May you live in all of us, and may we make you proud.