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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Professor Mary Kolawole, 71 years old, born on March 10, 1949, and passed away on February 16, 2021.

She is survived by her loving husband, Professor Deboye Kolawole, daughter Folake Taylor, son Temiloluwa Kolawole, son-in-law Layi Taylor, daughter-in-law Tosin Kolawole, granddaughter Mojolaoluwa Jordan Taylor. She also left behind many sisters and brothers, nieces and nephews, cousins, her step-mom, and many sons and daughters that she “adopted” into the family. 

We will remember her forever.


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HOME-GOING CELEBRATION 

March 10th:
• Prof (Mrs) Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole’s Birthday & Celebration of a fulfilled Life.
• Praise Worship Service at Private Residence in GRA, Ilorin, Kwara State @ 12pm
• Neighbourhood evangelism all day

March 11th:
• Neighbourhood evangelism continued
• Wake Keep/Commendation/Testimonies at UMCA Chapel of Redemption, Gaa Akanbi, Ilorin, Kwara State @ 4pm

March 12th: 
• Burial Ceremony at Private Residence in Oko, Kwara State @ 12 noon
• Followed by thanksgiving service at First ECWA Church, Oko-Irese


Streaming will be available via YouTube and Zoom, @ www.memkolawole.com    

February 27, 2021
February 27, 2021
My Tribute to EBUN ODEYIOLA KOLAWOLE.
  Ebun, my friend and holidaymate in our secondary school days.
   I remember with nostalgia our holidays at Isale-Eko, Lagos.
Ebun, a lot of water has flowed past under the bridge. We thank God for His faithfulness and abiding grace.
God will grant your soul eternal rest in His bossom. And grant comfort to the family you behind, including friends and school mates.
   We shall meet at the last at the feet of our Saviour, Jesus Christ.
February 27, 2021
February 27, 2021
Mama Prof Mary Kolawole was a warm, gracious, Christian woman. She was a worthy role model to the women in Chapel of Redemption UMCA Gaa Akanbi.

To those of us in the academia, we looked up to her as an example of a woman who had reached the apex of her career and had still successfully raised godly children, was committed to her walk with God, active in Christian service/fellowship and was a loving wife to her husband!

We take comfort in the scripture "to be absent in the body and be present with the Lord (2 Cor.5:8)".
May God comfort her family and the Church. Rest well Ma, see you in the Morning
February 27, 2021
February 27, 2021
Posted for Sade Olagunju:

Adieu, Mama, Prof. Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole ( M.E.M). May God grant you eternal life. You were a rare gem. 'Mama rere' was a Professor of English and Literary Studies, Cultural and Gender Studies and also, a consultant to Nigerian Tertiary Education Task Fund (TETFUND.) Mama rere, Mama Womanism and African Consciousness, odigba o.

https://www.facebook.com/100001537351703/posts/3889723317755542/?d=n

February 27, 2021
February 27, 2021
POSTED FOR PROFESSOR OLUROTIMI FAKEYE

Late Professor Modupe Kolawole: A beacon of academe and womanhood. 
My family and I were overwhelmed with disbelief and huge sadness on receiving the shocking news of your passing into God’s glory. We are consoled that the wife of my bosom friend and classmate, Dupe (also my wife’s namesake), had joined the Saint Triumphant and singing HALLELUIA for all eternity.              
Late Professor Mary Dupe Kolawole can be aptly described as FORTHRIGHT in all her ways – outspoken, straightforward, direct, honest and compassionate. She embodied bold characteristics of ladylikeness and motherhood. She carries herself with dignity and poise, a pride to her husband and family- spiritual and temporal. Also she was a good Christian in words, action and deed.
Our 1959-63 Titcombe College Class of her husband was hosted several times in her home and we found her hospitable, warm and homely. Thank you.
She graced the realm of academia at Obafemi Awolowo University Ile Ife and Kwara State University Ilorin with distinction, scholarship and duty diligence; formidable characters for which she would be remembered for aye. She was a Professor of English Literature at both institutions and a pioneer Dean of post-graduate studies at KWASU.
To the Kolawole families Our God is Good and He is in Control. May heavenly strong arms uphold, support and surround the husband, Deboye, children, Folake and Temi, the grandchildren and her larger families at Oko and Iludun-Oro, Kwara State. To we friends, men and women she left behind, who mourn and miss her dearly, she enjoined us to KEEP THE FAITH. “In the sweet by and by we shall meet at the beautiful shore”.
ODIGBOSE!/GOODNIGHT!
Professor Olurotimi Fakeye

February 26, 2021
February 26, 2021
TRIBUTE TO PROFESSOR EBUN MARY MODUPE KOLAWOLE

Beloved Mummy Kolawole, you were a symbol of love, humility, kindness, and uprightness; an
embodiment of wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Your wise counsels, warm affection,
benevolence, openness, and forthrightness the world will miss greatly.

Meeting you and Daddy Kolawole in 2009 marked a turning point in my life. Your love for God was
contagious. You were filled with zeal and unparallel passion for the things of the kingdom God. You were indeed a pillar in the kingdom.

Mama, you thought me patience, persistence, faith in God and love for Him through our countless
visits and calls to the KWASU project manager concerning building a Chapel on the university campus.
You were never discouraged nor disappointed even when there were reasons to so do. Your drive for
this noble course continued even after you left the service of the university. Your patience, persistence
and faith paid off eventually. Through your effort Mama, the Lord gave us more than we requested
for. The entire KWASU Christian Community will forever be grateful to God for your contributions
toward the growth and development of the Fellowship.

Mummy you were a Prophetess. I will miss your words and acts of encouragements beyond words. I
recall a day in December 2017, that I was dejected. I felt used, abandoned, and uncared for. This I did not discuss with anyone, not even my wife. Alas! Your call came through. You requested that I see you that evening and I did. Lo and behold God proved to me that He does care about me as you deliver to me what the Lord laid in your heart for me and His Church under my watch. That act of yours Ma
changed my perspective of God till date.

To Daddy Kolawole, our prayers are with you at this time more than ever before. Your Daughter
Oluwakemi, and grandchildren, Nathan, Dorcas, and Lois all take solace in the assurance that Mama
is resting at the bosom of our Lord Jesus.

Adieu Professor Ebun Mary Modupe Kolawole, a great woman of faith and passion.

From
Sunday Ojo, Ph.D
Ag. Director,
Centre for Technical, Vocational and Entrepreneurship Training, and
Assistant Chaplain, KWASU Christian Community,
Kwara State University, Malete.
February 24, 2021
February 24, 2021
Tribute to a Lover of Widows and Orphans,
A Member of MAWO Foundation Board of Trustees,
An African Womanist

On February 16, 2021, we Lost a founding member of MAWO Foundation Board of Trustees, a lover of widows and orphans, and an African Womanist; Professor (Mrs) Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole.

Since November 16, 2017 when the Foundation was officially registered by the Corporate Affairs Commission with Professor Mary Kolawole and her husband as members of the 9-man Board of Trustees, she has actively participated in the activities of the Foundation, giving hope and courage to the widows and orphans.

Professor Mary Kolawole never missed any of the quarterly empowerment and thanksgiving programmes of the MAWO Foundation that humbly started in 2017 with just 21 widows, and now has over 700 registered widows and 40 orphans in its fold.

Late Professor Mary Kolawole has been a source of inspiration to the Founder, Board, Management and the entire members of the MAWO Foundation. We will miss her motherly support and contributions dearly.

We all love her, but the Lord love her most.

Adieu our MAWOF Mama.

From All of Us at MAWO Foundation.

Muritala Awodun, PhD
MAWOF Founder
www.mawofoundation.com
February 24, 2021
February 24, 2021
We thank God for a life well spent of a beloved mother ( Professor Mrs Mary Kolawole). We are so much comforted in the Lord because they that transit in the Lord do not die, they live forever in our hearts until we meet at His feet. I believe mummy is singing with the Angels in heaven. Accept my condolence . Rest on mummy.
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
May God comfort the family and friends she left behind..

Her numerous works and contributions to humanity speakvolumes and that will be enough to make her memory lingers in our hearts.

Mama lived a wonderful life
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
I remember Prof. MEM Kolawole with fondness. She was one of those lecturers I admired as an undergraduate at OAU, Ile-Ife. She was more than a lecturer; she was a teacher, mother and friend. When my colleagues and I concluded our programme in 2001, 'Mama' as we called her then invited us to a buffet at her place. I mean, who does that?
I know that her legacy lives on. I pray for the repose of her soul and the well-being of those she's left behind.
Goodnight, ma'am; see you on resurrection morning!
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
May your gentle soul continue to rest in peace Prof MEM Kolawole. My thoughts and prayers are with the family she left behind.
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
May her gentle soul continue to find rest in her maker.
Adieu mummy!
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
May your gentle Soul rest in the bosom of the Most High God.
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
On February 16, 202 1, a beautiful butterfly flew up into the clouds and beyond. Professor Mary Kolawole you were a woman of excellence, a woman of substance ,and most importantly and most importantly, a woman of God.. I will always cherish the memory of your gentleness and soft soothing voice. Continue to rest in the bosom of the lord until we meet to part no more  - Dr. (Mrs) Taiye Olubuyide
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you and whispered,
“Come to Me”
With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we love you dearly
we could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best. 

My Darling Grandma, we will forever hold in our hearts in which we have truly learned the most from,
Your strength as a wonderful mother to our mothers and fathers,
And which we hope to gain in raising your great grandsons and great granddaughters.
   For you will be truly missed and remembered for your love and honor in which we will preserve.
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
ADIEU MARY.

Adieu to a gem, a friend , a sister, classmate, and devout Christian. The news of your passing came to me as a shock!!! But who are we to question God, our creator? We never understand HIS working, we taken solace in the fact that you have gone to REST. You will greatly be missed! I will miss the Bible quotes and passages followed by prayers you sent to me every morning I wake up to read. I will miss sending you prayers also every morning you wake up to read. I noticed you did not read the prayers I sent to you on the day of your passing to glory, but I know that my prayers went with you. Sun ree o dear one.
May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace and may God comfort and be with your loved ones you left behind.
Adieu my friend I will miss you. I will remember you.
You will forever be missed.

Anike Lawal Adesokan.
February 23, 2021
February 23, 2021
Wow! What an amazing woman of God! Folake, I read your tribute and it was so powerful! Im deeply sorry for your loss but I know her beautiful, strong spirit lives on through you and your children. She touched so many people and you are blessed in so many ways. I pray her soul continues to rest with our Lord and that God grants you and the rest of the family the strength and comfort you need! May God protect and comfort you.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
The news of your passing came as a shock. It was so sudden. Just last year, I was at your house where I spent some time discussing with you, Daddy Kolawole, and Temi. I never knew that would be the last time I would see you. Kwara and indeed Nigeria and Africa have lost one of the best female professors of African literature and gender studies. We will all miss you but we are comforted by the fact that you are in a better place. R.I.P Mummy Kolawole.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Mama Kolawole,

I cannot imagine writing about you in the past tense. You remain ever present as I look back to what you are to me. You are a gem. A phenomenon so phenomenal!

Apart from being an intellectual role model, you are forever a career muse. You are a legend who bestrides my path in many indelible ways.

I love you like several others who encounter you.

From being my B.A long essay Supervisor, you have been God sent.

I wish you safe travels. May your special soul rest peacefully in the Lord's bossom.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Professor Mary Kolawole allowed God to use her in my every memorable encounters. From her days at the College of Tech, to her daily Bible text encouragements, God used her to touch my life. When I expressed my need for her daily text of encouragements (not knowing it was our last encounter), she responded gracefully as always posting this for me on December 29, 2020:

Luke: 12:29: "The Lord will provide all our needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Amen. Hallelujaj. SHALOM.
Prof. M.E.M. Kolawole.

That was her last post in response to my request. Oh what a blessing; oh, what an encouragement! May her encouraging words to me be the portion of the loved ones she left behind. I thank God for allowing me to experience her love, smile, wisdom, and her Godly character. Rest in peace, Prof until resurrection morning.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
A tribute to Professor Mrs Mary Kolawole by Bishop (Mrs) I. V. Oladimeji

Precious woman of God.
Beautiful in spirit, soul and body.
A mother indeed to many.
You will be greatly missed.
Rest in peace in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ mummy till the glory dawn.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
I just can’t believe that you are no more with us physically.
I admired you the first day we met in my office  in OAU, Ile-Ife . Since then we became friends and later neighbours. We used to enjoy the fellowship held in your house every week and the way you shared the word of God with ease and joy. I remember your smiles, the tambourine in your hands and the way you used to dance and jump when singing the song " JEHOVAH YOU ARE THE MOST HIGH, YOU ARE THE MOST HIGH GOD."
You were the Godmother of two of my children and you played a prominent role during the marriage of one of them in Ilorin.
You really touched many lives positively and won many souls for Christ. You had an excellent and peaceful spirit which can never be forgotten.
May the Lord comfort your family and grant you eternal rest.

February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
We were lucky enough to get to share several evenings and visits with Mary and Deboya when they were here staying with Folake and her family. It was such a treasure to get to know this wonderful, talented woman and her family whom are just like her! It makes me sad to know those times will not come again .... but feeling blessed that we have been fortunate enough that our paths merged for a while. She will be greatly missed. My heart goes out to all the family.❤️
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Mummy, wonderful mummy. Going down memory lane, I remember when I was brought to you, less than 10 years old, you took me in as your daughter. You took the role of my mum, molding and making me to be who I am today.
1. When I was to be enrolled in Primary School, I was asked to repeat the previous class but mummy refused and asked them to put me in the next class. She believed that I'll perform well. She tutored me in English privately while doing chores. This helped me with my written and spoken English and affected my overall performance positively.
2. In 1983, you brought God into your home. Through you actions, I became a beneficiary of the touch of God. Your actions lead to my salvation and baptism in the Holy Spirit. Your actions lead to the revival that broke out in University of Ife staff quarters (road 14) where many youths and families where converted to Christ. This lead to Tuesday evening house fellowship.
3. Mummy embedded in me, qualities and virtues of life. Mummy was very accommodating, caring and loving. These are the qualities she also impacted in me.
Mummy, in 1990 I wrote to you, appreciating you for the opportunity I had to live with you. Today, I am saying it again. Mummy, I truly appreciate you for making me who I am today. I am forever grateful. Rest on Mummy. Your works follow after you
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Professor Kolawole had such a warm, kind, iridescent personality. She was always smiling and ready to offer assistance or expatiate on a topic that needed clarification.

As her student in my days at OAU Ife, I looked up to her and wanted to be like her; an academician brimming with knowledge.

I’m sure she lived a long, full life as evidenced by the tributes and memories shared here. I pray that God almighty comfort her family and all those she left behind.

Adieu ma!
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
She was a soft spoken, amiable yet firm lecturer. She supervised my undergraduate project on Alice Walker's The Color Purple and introduced me to the concept of Womanism. I still remember her warm personality. May her family and loved ones be comforted.

Seeing news of her death made me remember the words of John Donne in his poem, Death be not proud, taught to me by Professor Wole Ogundele, who has gone to rest too:

Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou are not so;
For those whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul's delivery.
Thou'art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell,
And poppy'or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell'st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die.

Adieu Professor Mary Kolawole.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Mama, as we her students at Great Ife fondly called her, was motherly in every sense. She was simple, peaceful, loving, cheerful and caring. She was more than a lecturer. She was indeed a mother. May your soul find perfect rest with your maker. Good night, Mama.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
My Anti, Mummy, Mentor, Confidant, Wife, Spiritual warrior, Adviser,, and myyyyyyyyyyy till we meet to part no more in the kingdom of our lord and savior Jesus Christ. This space is not enough to express who you are and meant to me.
1. You took me, a niece in law as your first daughter when you came back from Britain in 1974, even when you never seen or known me before then.
2. You did not treat me as a niece in law but built me up with strong faith in our Lord and savior Jesus Christ, quality moral standards, integrity, honesty, and respect for other human beings.
3. Hah Mummy, my Grandma raised me from my childhood to late teenage age, but you raised me from then till the last time we talked in january 2021.
4. Your soft voice always assured me that I am a woman of God and that I must continue to show the glory of God no matter what life situations throw at me.
5. The impacts of your regular prophetic prayers that you pour on me every time we met or on the phone are unimaginable.
6. I will always remember your words: Titi, this situation is not about you o, it's about God and salvation of souls. Just continue to be who God made you to be like blessed memory of my blood mother used to say too.
7. Mummy, you taught me to be a virtuous woman for my family, profession, and in the body of Christ and that I should know that all rewards come from God.
8. The impacts you made in different areas of my life are immeasurable and unforgettable. By the Grace and mercy of our Lord,
9. While I am still in a state of shock, I could hear your soft voice telling me to get up and continue to be the victorius woman God has made me to be for His glory and honor.,
10. I will continue to hold on to your words of advise and inspiration till we meet again in the kingdom of our Lord God Almighty. Good night for now, my Amazing Mummy.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Sometimes ago in 1979, I went on a visit to a family of 3 at the then Kwara State College of Technology, Ilorin. (now Kwara State Polytechnic, Ilorin). On getting to the house, I counted about 13 people living in that house. These are people from daddy's and mummy's relations. "Go and put your bag in the room", mummy said but I told her that I was asked to deliver a message and that I don't have the intention to stay, which of course was a lie. That is the kind of woman Prof. (Mrs.) M. E. Kolawole was. Always accommodating.
That's one of the reasons why I always see her as an Angel among men. Rest on mummy, you're alive in our hearts...
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
A tribute from Elder Umoh;
A mother who gave and never once asked for anything in return. That is her secret you know; always giving without exceptions. She is as constant as the sunrise, the moon, the stars and I count on her. She helps me find my way through the years and makes me laugh while doing it. There are some things that only a mother can do.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Posting for Dr. Bolanle Oyerinde.

Mummy as I fondly called her, a daughter of the Most High God, a loving and supportive wife, a doting mother and grandmother. An erudite scholar, a Professor of professors, a woman of integrity.
One thing that stood out to me about mummy is the fact that she spoke her mind always. She never straddled the fence. You always knew where she stood on issues, and she spoke her mind fearlessly.
You’re gone too soon and you will be forever missed.
One of your many daughters,
Dr. Bolanle Oyerinde
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
TRIBUTE TO PROFESSOR MARY EBUN MODUPE KOLAWOLE
(1949-2021)

The news of your transformation got to us last week
And we suddenly faced the reality that you no longer dwell with us but among the Saints
Where your new duty is to sing worship songs to the King of Kings
Your final place of rest and everlasting abode

We would have been in sorrow but we have sweet memories of your time here
The radiance of excellence in everything you touched
We can say in confidence that you fought a good fight and kept the faith
As received from the patriarch of our faith

Excellence is the word for your academic exploit
Beautiful is the word for your heart
Discipline is the word for your conduct
Love is the word for your relationship with others

Knowledge is what you gave to your students and the human race
Companionship is what you gave to our Daddy, your husband
Morals is what is what you taught your children and their families
Comfort is what you gave to all family members and friends

Humility is what your spirit radiates
Virtuous woman was the first impression of your personality
And the standard which you raised
Was a guide as we continued to grow

I told my friend how proud she should be for having a mother like you
I know you are accomplished seeing how far your effort has brought her
I told her even though we will all miss you
We will not mourn like unbeliever because of the type of life you lived

Adieu Mummy, continue to worship with the saints
And when the saints go marching in on the last day
Your joy will know no bound
When you see the lives you touched in the roll call


Prof Nicholas Akinwale TITILOYE
Department of Pathology
School of Medicine and Dentistry
Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology
Kumasi. Ghana
(Folake’s friend and classmate)




February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Prof Mrs Kolawole's family and mine were neighbours for many years at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. We shared the words of God weekly in her house. Her contributions were unique and filled with the Holy Spirit. She was gentle even in the face of extremely provocative situations. She would go to God in praying instead of complaining. She was one of the two people I have ever described as PERFECT. God knows best.

Prof Abraham A. Jibowo
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Dear Mummy, this news has come as a rude shock to many of us but Baba God knows best.
Mummy you always had a warm smile for everyone... you were beautiful inside and out. You and Daddy were exemplary in your faith, dedication and love for each other. You were mentors to so many of us knowly and unknowingly.
Thank you mummy for giving to the Lord, for sharing your heart with us young as we were in those days. Your legacy lives on through us all.
Adieu Mummy Kolawole, till we meet again at Jesus' feet.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Professor MEM Kolawole was a wonderful lady! She was a “mother” to me. She encouraged me and motivated me in English literature, which resulted in my becoming a professor today. She also taught me many life principles by drawing from her own experiences! I have been depressed since I heard of her passing! My selfless mama, worthy mentor, erudite scholar!

May the good Lord grant her sweetheart and life partner - daddy Kolawole, her real children, all other members of the families and all of us her students and “children”, the fortitude to bear the pains of the moment and the irreparable loss of a mother and super icon.

May she rest in perfect peace, and may her memory be a blessing to all she left behind!!!

"Your memory is my keepsake,
With which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping,
I have you in my heart."
   - Bonnie Dodd

By
Professor Kolawole Waziri Olagboyega.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Aunty, your life was a treasure to all of us. Your smiles, verve, and exuberant love for God simply lit up every space. Seeing and hearing the way in which the life of God knit you and uncle together and reflected in your home was such a testimony to me.
When years later, I started teaching here in the States, I became one of those who used and still uses excerpts from your book "womanism and African consciousness" to stir up debate and engage your ideas. You left glorious footprints on all our lives. May God's comfort encourage uncle, Folake and Temi and their families as they come to terms with your passing onto be with the Lord.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Mommy Flakky the joy you brought us will never end, pictures of you on Facebook said it all. Always smiling, I hope life is better where you are now. You will be missed.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
I met Prof Mary Ebun Kolawole for the first time in 2016. I watched her walked in slowly and steadily, dressed in a white Jacket and a flowing skirt Into the KW-IRS training room on that particular morning. It was a detailed session which left an indelible mark on the then Management Team of the Service and for me marked the beginning of a secret admiration for this highly intelligent and very detailed personality. A very soft spoken woman, with a large heart and always full of smiles, Prof. Kolawole had a prayer for everyone and the few times I had with her she always had a prayer for me.  Mama was a great woman whose contributions cannot be pushed aside. Her legacy definitely lives on, the many lives and homes she imparted and her contributions to the academia are proofs that a great Personality once passed here. She is fondly remembered and will be missed. May your soul Rest In Peace.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Aunty, Mrs Kolawole, was so graceful and gentle. Knowing her when I was still a teenager, there was no doubt she loved Jesus deeply. She was one of those people you didn't want to be near when you had just sinned; you had a strong feeling Jesus would tell her. She wanted to see us love Jesus, and so she would talk to us young girls, pray with us... I looked up to her and her kind while growing up. Quintessential. Classy. Intelligent. And sold out to Jesus. That was Aunty.

My heart goes out to the family- Uncle, Folake and Temi. May the Lord keep and strengthen you. May He flood your hearts with beautiful memories that make you grateful for knowing her. May His comfort uphold you through this trying period. Grace to the entire family in Jesus mighty Name.

Rest in the bosom of your Lover and Savior, Ma.

February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Mummy, this really came as a rude shock when I heard the news from Folake. I just assumed that you will always be around with that smile and beautiful demeanor. It was always awesome seeing you and Daddy together smiling and ever so pleasant. May you Rest In Peace Ma.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
So sorry to hear of this.
My former lecturer, Year 1991...
Also a long standing member of Full Gospel to which I to was a member.

My heart felt sympathy goes to all the family esp. Prof Kolawole...

Love Mary, Manchester England.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Mrs Kolawole or Folake's mum as I referred to her, was one of the older christians on the OAU Ile-ife staff quarters that I can say mentored me (us) as a young christian(s). Apart from the obvious "Folake's mum", my mum took to her and Folake's dad, as such my first close interaction stemmed from this. My mum came home one day and said you are starting after school private coaching classes at the Kolawole's. There was just four of us: Folake, Dupe, Kemi and Bola. She was a firm and loving host during that time and it laid the foundation for my relationship with her and Folake's dad years later as I became a committed believer and they on the other hand became one of my older sounding boards for all and anything pertaining especially to the All souls chapel youth fellowship. It was a blessing knowing her.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
I still have fond and vivid memories of mom’s smiling face. Her home was open in fellowship to all of us young people. She was kind and never gave up on any of us. May her soul Rest In Peace with the Lord. May God comfort and strengthen the family.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
From the early days she spent with us in Roswell, she shared her gift of songs with Jordan. She was our strength and support as she provided us with her words of wisdom on raising our darling Jordan. She was so helpful with her gift of words & songs and we will always remember.

Losing our mother has been painful but we take solace in the fact that she left us with her glorious memories, words & songs.

She sacrificed so much to be with us and we will forever be grateful. We will forever cherish the moments, the love, the support, the guidance and the words & songs............

Forever in our hearts

Layi
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Professor Mary Kolawole: an approachable, accommodating, erudite and motherly human being.
May God grant her gentle soul eternal rest.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
The soul with pure heart ,who always want good thing for others who was there for us people when she was needed, your contribution,to our life can never be forgotten Rest in peace mama we will miss you love you ma.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Our loss is indeed heaven's gain!

The one thing that comes to my mind when I remember you is your gentle spirit. You sure are an embodiment of Christian character and virtue.
You were not just a friend to my mum but a sister indeed!

Trusting God to comfort and strengthen the entire family you have left behind.
Rest on in the bosom of your saviour who you loved so very much!

Funso Olarinde (nee Aladekomo)
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Farewell, Professor Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole, the teacher who opened our eyes to the endless opportunities in studying English and/or Literature-in-English. In her words in the interview I conducted as the Editor-in-Chief of 'The Fount' Magazine, a publication of Awovarsity Literary and English Studies Society (AVLESS), Department of English, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife in 2000, she said 'English Studies is professional'. Till date, I have had no regret studying it in the university. Besides being our teacher, she related with us like a mother. I will never forget how she hosted us after our final exam at her official quarters. It was a feast! Teaching to her was a ministry. She ministered to our bodies, spirits and souls! Indubitably, she came, she saw and she conquered. You will forever remain in our memories! Good night, Mama!
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Huuuuuuu, what an irreparable lost to the world of virtuous women My mother, mentor the one who taught me how to be a supportive wife, how to bring up godly children, who taught me to be a goal getter. I can't forget your role in the choice of my life partner. With your blessed hands you carried my first daughter on her christening day (who is now a medical doctor at 22years) Aunty Mary as you are popularly known and called your life was full of love and always teaching and impacting knowledge to all that comes your way. Indeed your memory will ever be fresh. You are loved by Kayode your son-in-law and your grand children: Dr. Torera, Barr. Seeke, Ninla and Dara.
Sun re oooo iya mi owon. Till we meet to part no more at the feet of our Lord Jesus. I promise to keep your teachings in my heart and be a good mother
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
Prof.M.E.M Kolawole was a great friend of our family and we used to attend Tuesday fellowship together back in Ife. When my Dad passed away in 2012 she was visiting Texas for a program and was able to attend the church service on the day of his funeral. While my dad's pictures was projected to the screen and his biography was being read I got emotional and was about to start tearing up when a quick glance at Mummy Kolawole's face stopped the tears from flowing down as she motioned with facial expressions for me to "remain strong ". She was a true Mother and daughter of the most HIGH.
Rest in peace until the resurrection of the righteous.
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The following tribute was delivered by Professor Chinyere Okafor at the Feminist Roundtable in honor of Professor Mary Kolawole at the African Literature Association conference in Knoxville, Tennessee, USA, May 25, 2023:

Ululation in Honor of Professor Mary Modupe Kolawole
by
Professor Chinyere G. Okafor,
Wichita State University, Wichita, Kansas, USA

@ALA Conference 2024, Knoxville, TN, USA

Professor Modupe Mary Kolawole departed from this world on the 16th of February 2021 in Nigeria where she was a full professor of languages and literature at Kwara State University, Malete-ILORIN, Kwara State, Nigeria. News of her passing travelled with expressions of shock, questions, and laments in a world barely recovering from the trauma of the covid-19 pandemic. Modupe would never support sadness or queries to the Ultimate Spirit, so I have chosen to focus on my notable memory of her at Cornell University’s Africana Studies and Research Center where we were both Rockefeller Humanist-in-Residence Fellows in 1991-2, and occasional meetings at conferences, which accorded me appreciation of her as a person and a scholar.

When I met her in 1991, she introduced herself to me as Modupe, but she also went by Mary. I got to know her more as we shared an office at the Center. Her gentle demeanor, permanent smile, and affability stand out in her personality. Some know her as their loving mother, so I am not going to intrude into that space ruled by Folake Taylor and Temiloluwa Kolawole, whose childhood stories were fondly shared with me at break times in Hoyt Fuller Room of the Center. I will not speak about her kindness to students who called her Mama and a model for teaching and mentoring. I will not speak of her as a wife, even though she shared stories of her marital abode overshadowed by the suzerainty of the Holy Spirit. Her loving husband, Professor Deboye Kolawole, later added evangelization beside his scientific prowess.

In addition to anecdotes about personal issues, my discussions with Modupe centered on our research that intersected on the poetics of African oral and written literatures and performance. Women’s social, political, and economic activities in different ethnic nations of Nigeria and Africa came up frequently in the debates about feminism, womanism, and afrocentricism. I began to appreciate Modupe as a woman who wore many hats as professor, researcher, author, mother, wife, and person of faith. My focus in this memorial is on her as a renowned literary professor and African feminist scholar whose academic prowess was rooted in research in oral and written literatures as well as her knowledge of Nigerian and Yoruba folklore and folkways.

In Kwara State University website, Kolawole described herself as “a professor of English, Literary Studies, African Cultural and Gender Studies.” My interaction with her and reading of her works reveal feminism as the uniting factor in her academic output. As a stance for the development of women and their children (men and women), feminism frames the literary and cultural discourse of Kolawole’s research, papers, and service including her religious activities replete with her counsels that strengthened many in their endeavors. Mary’s religiosity may suggest the so-called meekness of some women of the bible such as Esther and Miriam acclaimed in Christian circles, but I hasten to qualify their humbleness as packages of their determination, focus, and strength. Modupe also identifies with the drive, activism, and foresight of African heroines who blended the terrain of marriage, motherhood, and leadership in the spirit of omumu ideology derived from fecundity and creativity. Growing up, she admired the guts of her grandmother, who was noted for hunting down anyone that hurt her grandchildren, be they teachers or strangers. Her grandmother’s audacity ignited Mary’s interest in stories of heroic women such as Madam Efunroye Tinubu (c. 1810 – 1887) and Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti (1900-1978) from her Yoruba background as well as other heroes beyond her ethnic region.

Her research in African folklore exposed her to numerous prototypes of female assertion and leadership all over Africa during different epochs of African history from precolonial to modern, which constituted the backbone of her academic achievement. In her outstanding book, Womanism and African Consciousness, she emphasized the contribution and leadership of women in the fight against imperialism foregrounding numerous examples such as the Igbo and eastern Nigerian women’s war against the colonialists, women’s mobilization during the Zimbabwean war, Kenyan women’s contribution to the liberation struggle, and South African women’s engagement of apartheid. She emphasized their strength in combating multiple infringements from traditional patriarchies as they fought the imperialistic strangulation of African peoples.

Professor M. Kolawole’s gusto in Womanism reveals her passion for women and gender. This passion has been with her since childhood when her feminist father refused to uphold the expected silent presence of women which would have lent voice to inferiorization of women. Modupe’s motivational story was the conversation she heard between her father and his friend who tried to convince him not to send her to school but to save the money for the boys. Her father rejected the advice because Mary was his first child, and he was not sure that the boys would be brilliant like her. This incident was the bedrock of Modupe’s motivation to fight for women through her teaching, service, research and publications.

At Cornell, our fellowship research was enriched by the intellectual ebullience of African scholars at the Africana Center such as Ali Mazrui, Micere Mugo, Don Ohadike, N’dri Assie-Lumumba, Salah Hassan, and Nanji, as well as the robust diasporic input of James Turner, Locksley Edmondson, Robert Harris, and Ann Adams. The controversial invisibility and voicelessness of African women came up in seminars organized by Nanji at Hoyt Fuller Room. Mary’s voice was heard as she laid the foundation for further academic pursuit which did not stop at Cornell. She soared in academia and made her voice heard across continents. She did not disappoint her father and regretted that he did not live long enough to see her soar beyond his imagination. Had her father conceded to the inhibitive notion of his friend, Modupe would not have had the foundation that propelled her across the globe including the following:
 
Cornell University (USA) - Rockefeller Humanist-in-Residence Fellow.
University of Kent (UK) - Commonwealth Visiting Fellow,
University of Cape Town (SA) - Research Associate at African Gender Institute.
Nordic Africa Institute (Sweden) - Researcher.

No doubt, Professor Kolawole has made her family and all of us proud. For the academy, she left a robust legacy of books and other publications that engage the voices of African women through oral and written literatures to elicit their communication of identities unique to African women that shaped their brand of feminist engagement long before the term feminism was coined in early nineteenth century France. Kolawole employed her strategic position at the intersection of feminism with gender and cultural studies to great advantage in expounding African women’s audibility and identity. She left the academy with numerous publications including the following:

Womanism and African Consciousness. Africa World Press, 1997.
Gender Perceptions and Development in Africa.  Arrabon Academic Publishers, 1998.
Zulu Sofola: Her Life & Her Works College Press Publishers, 1999.

I take pride in celebrating Professor Mary Modupe Kolawole, and the remarkable impact she had and still have, with this parting verse inspired by the spirit of her scholarly message:

A gentle wind touched the lip of my left ear.
Her touch was like drums as it made its way,
In my head compelling me to mark her words:
In or out of the room, she holds the yam and knife,
Dead or alive, her voice carries bitter nuts and honey.
Please respect the voice. Voice is God’s gift to women.

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My dear Mummy! Not a day goes by that I don’t reminisce about you, whether it’s with Daddy or Temi, Layi or Jordan, or internally. I see so much of you in me, and lessons I learned passively by being your child. You took care of Daddy. You were his peace. You taught me how to be a good wife. So when Layi tells me that I’m a good woman, I know I learned from the best. Continue to rest in peace.
Her Life

Early Life, Work Life, & Post-Retirement Life

February 17, 2021
Mary was born on March 10th 1949, to Mr. AmosOdeyiola and Mrs. Deborah Adewoye, in Lagos Island (Isale Eko). 

She attended primary school in Iludun Oro, Kwara State, and secondary school in St. Faith Girls School, Kaduna.

She obtained her BA in English from the Ahmadu Bellow University, Zaria.

She met the love of her life, Deboye Kolawole, during her undergraduate degree in Zaria. 
They got married in Ile-Ife where he was working after his MSc from Zaria, and went on to Birmingham, UK for his PhD. 

In 1973, Mary and Deboye gave birth to their first child, Folake, in Birmingham, UK.

They returned to Nigeria on completion of Deboye’s doctorate, and settled in Ilorin, where they both worked at the Kwara State College of Technology (Now renamed Kwara State Polytechnic).

In 1980, the family moved back to Ile-Ife, and initially worked at OSCAS (the Oyo State College of Arts & Science), before Deboye rejoined the then University of Ife, which later became the Obafemi Awolowo University, OAU. This was also before Osun State was carved out of Oyo State.

Mary obtained her MA from the University of Ife, before joining as faculty

They became involved with the All Souls Chapel in OAU, as well as several house fellowships on campus. They also became very active with the Full Gospel Business Men’s Fellowship (FGBMFI). 

In 1985, Temiloluwa was born in Ile-Ife. That was also the year in which Mary obtained her PhD. 

Ile-Ife is where they both worked primarily until their joint retirement in 2009. They did have several sabbatical leaves abroad in this timespan. They also both became Professors at the OAU as well, and rose to the pinnacle of their respective professions, attending several conferences every year, both nationally and internationally. 

Mary was notably the recipient of a Rockefeller fellowship at the Cornell University in Ithaca, NY, as well as the Commonwealth fellowship at the University of Canterbury, Kent. She also received other similar fellowships all over the world. 

Mary authored several books during her career, most notably these 2:
•Womanism And African Consciousness (still Available on Amazon).
•Gender Perceptions And Development In Africa.

Mary and Deboye retired from Ile-Ife, to their dream home  in Ilorin, in their home state of Kwara. 

They then took on contract jobs at KWASU (Kwara State University) for a few more years, during which they stayed active in their respective professions, imparting more generations to come as well as attending international and national conferences. It was important to them to pass on as much of their knowledge as possible, to those comments after them. They alsoboth took on administrative roles in the university, and Mary was Dean of Post-Graduate School, just prior to finally bowing out, and deciding to stay retired in 2017.

They were very active in their church, UMTC, and in the community.

Mary passed on to glory on February 16th, 2021, just a few weeks shy of her 72nd birthday, after dealing with a sudden worsening of some health challenges she had dealt with for a few years. 

She is survived by her husband, children, grandchild, brothers, sisters, step-mom, nephews, nieces, and many that she adopted into these roles.

She will be sorely missed. But we rest assured that she is in the bosom of our Lord, and we will see her again on resurrection day.

—Folake Taylor, MD. 
    Favorite Daughter. 
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DETAILED ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENTS 
Culled from a more detailed official tribute by Dr. Muritala Awodun

An African Womanist

We Lost an African Womanist, Great Mother, Lovely Wife, and Upright Mentor
in Mary Ebunoluwa Modupeola Kolawole
B.A. English, M.A. American Literature, PhD African Literature and Gender Theory
Professor of African Literature and Gender Studies 

Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole retired early, as Professor of African Literature and Gender Studies from the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile Ife in 2009 because her husband, Professor Deboye Kolawole, a Professor of Microbiology was due for retirement that year, and would be relocating to their home state, Kwara, from Ile Ife. While at OAU, she was Fellow of the Center for Gender and Social Policy Studies, Nigeria, Fellow of Network for Setting an Agenda forWomen's Studies in Nigeria, and Director, Centre for African Research in Progress.

Professor Mary Kolawole joined the Kwara State University, Malete, upon her retirement from OAU, in 2009, to offer her State the required support in nurturing the newly established University. At KWASU, she served as a Member of the Board of KWASU Centre for Entrepreneurship, Head of Department of Languages and Linguistics, Chairman of the University Ceremonies Committee, and Dean of the Postgraduate School, amongst other teaching, research, administrative and community development responsibilities. She left Kwara State University, in 2017, also because her husband was separating from the University, to take
the deserved rest of retirement, having contributed her quota to lay the foundation to sustain the nascent University.

She received several distinguished international awards and honors, including the National Endowment for the Humanities/USIA, University of Berkeley, California, 1990, a Rockefeller Visiting Fellow in African Cultural and Gender Studies, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY, 1991/92, and Associate of the African Gender Institute, University of Cape Town, 1996. She was also a Guest Researcher at the Nordic Africa Institute, Uppsalla, Sweden, in 1997 and a DAAD Guest Scholar at Teh Humbold University, Berlin, 2002.

Professor Mary Kolawole was consultant to many international agencies including the Ford Foundation, the United Nations University, Tokyo, and the International Institute for Higher Education, NY. She was the Nigerian National Coordinator of the Women Writing Africa Project of the Feminist Press, NY. She won the USIA/National Endowment for Humanities, University of California Berkeley, 1990. She was the Rockefeller Fellow in African Cultural and Gender Studies at Africana Studies and Research Center, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY 1991/92. She was also a Commonwealth Fellow, at the University of Kent in Canterbury, 1994/95. She was also the Foundation Associate of the African Gender Institute, University of Cape Town, 1997, and Research Fellow, Nordic African Institute, Uppsala, Sweden, 1999. She was a participant at the International Scholars' Program on "The 2000 African Internet Connectivity Project," University of Michigan, East Lansing, Michigan, May, 2000.

Her book, Womanism and African Consciousness (Africa World Press, 1997) and others are on the readilists of many American and European universities. Through an in-depth examination ofthe oral and written genres by and about women, Mary Kolawole presents a comprehensive account of the African woman's role in forming and shaping cultural, societal and political spheres in that book, Womanism and African Consciousness. The book, in its 8th edition was first published in 1977 in English and held by 269 WorldCat member libraries worldwide, is a comprehensive study of the African woman's cultural, societal, and political audibility. Through an in-depth historical critique of indigenous oral and written genres by and about women, the
author challenges the accepted notion that African woman are "voiceless" members of society.

At the base for her study is the concept of "Womanism" - an ideology which she defines as the "totality of feminine self-expression, self-retrieval, and self-assertion in positive cultural ways." This methodology reveals hidden areas of audibility and calls for a new generation of writers who will create a global consciousness about the realities of the African woman and women of African descent. The issues discussed are important and relevant to current dialogue among critics of feminism. Her conclusions, particularly on the issue of the "invisibility" myth and its origins, are well supported.

Tracing the development of the portrayal of women in literature in a comprehensive and cohesive manner, the Mary Kolawole concluded that African women writers are not passive to their condition - they are not "voiceless." She recommended a dialogic approach to modern criticism in order to accommodate all approaches to the African woman's self-definition. A high level of consciousness, she asserts, is central to self-recovery for the African woman and can be attained through African womanist ideology.

Gender Perceptions and Development in Africa is another book of Mary Kolawole. In its 7th edition, it was published in 1998 in English and held by 81 WorldCat member libraries worldwide. "In this multi-disciplinary collection of essays, several African researchers present gender perceptions that shape the lives of women. These studies critically present existing myths of gender in an attempt to transcend the stereotypes embodied in them. The collection further presents women's life histories, socio-economic space, empowerment and environment to reveal the problems and the gains. Rejecting negative perceptions enhance African women's search for social justice, poverty alleviation and reiterates women's right as human right."

The Context of African Women’s Struggle was published in 1997 in English and held by 1 WorldCat member library worldwide. Through an in-depth examination of the oral and written genres by and about women, Kolawole presents a comprehensive account of the African woman's role in forming and shaping cultural, societal and political spheres.                         

Zulu Sofola: Her Life & Her Works is another Mary Kolawole’s book that is in its 6th edition and was published in 1999 in English and held by 84 WorldCat member libraries worldwide.

Some of her other most widely read works are:
- Perspectives on African Studies: A Multidisciplinary Approach
- Gender Theories and Polemics: A Critical Source Book: Festschrift in Honour of Professor Mrs Mary Ebun Kolawole
- An African View of Transatlantic Slavery and the Role of Oral Testimony in Creating a New Legacy
- Re-conceptualizing African Gender Theory: Feminism, Womanism and the Arere Metaphor
- The Context of African Women’s Struggle
- Text, Texuality and Contextuality: Paradigms Lost and Paradigms Regained in Literary Theory
- The African Write as a Maker and a Mask

She was the Editor-in-Chief of the following Journals:
- Journal of Gender and Development in Africa, Center for Gender and Social Policy Studies, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Nigeria.
- ISALA: Ife Studies in African Literature and the Arts, Department of English, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Nigeria.

Professor Mary Ebun Modupe Kolawole died in Ilorin, Kwara State in the early hours of Tuesday, February 16, 2021 leaving behind her husband and two children.


Muritala Awodun, PhD
Professor of Business Administration
Centre for Enterprise and Human Capital Development
Crown-Hill University, Eiyenkorin,
Ilorin, Kwara State, Nigeria
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A TRIBUTE TO MY WIFE, PROF MARY EBUN MODUPE KOLAWOLE

March 8, 2021
How do You Say Good Bye to a Part of Yourself?
Fifty-two years ago, I saw a beautiful, polite and innocent fresher at a meeting of the Fellowship of Christian Students in the Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria. She looked familiar but I was sure we had never met before and I confirmed this when we met again at a different setting. The familiarity continued to intrigue me so I followed up the hunch that continued to say “that’s your wife”. But she punctured the build-up by saying that’s not what she came to the University for and did not want to get carried away in the bandwagon of October-rushed girls! Hmmmm, she was intelligent and firm. Focused. A jewel. An Angel? I’ve always liked people who know where they are going. However, I backtracked and we both agreed to remain on talking terms as friends. All this was in 1969. Her name? Mary Ebun Modupe Odeyiola! She was just entering the University then and I was going on to my Masters degree. Our agreement led to our engagement in December 1970 and to marriage in December 1971! 
The above account is what I would have given at our 50th wedding anniversary in December 2021 but when the Almighty God says it is time to come to Him, there is no prayer or high level of healthcare that can stop Him. In our case, we had both and renewed daily mercies from God. 
Our marriage at 50 seems like one long day embellished and garnished by attitudes of ‘give and give’ (not ‘give and take’), sacrifice and sacrificial living, the power of two in agreement, virtue, love and unwavering faith in God.
I deferred my admission and commonwealth scholarship to Birmingham for two years so you could finish your B A degree course. But when you finished you were given an automatic admission to Canterbury by the foreign external examiner. You decided to put that in abeyance in order for us to be together and nurture the young marriage. This was a much bigger sacrifice since you didn’t even resume active academic work until you quickly did your Masters and PhD degrees at Ife in 1982 and 1985 respectively, more than eight years of deferment. I gave you a car for your 50th birthday and you gave me a bigger car for my 60th. The trend continued in every area of life as if wanting to outdo each other. 

I must say something about your academic prowess even though I’ve always commended you for it. You were the first female Professor of English and first female Professor in the Faculty of Arts at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. By your academic achievements, you carried the name Kolawole all over the world, including an official visit to Queen Elizabeth II at the Windsor Castle. You also got  the highest Fellowship award in the Arts in Nigeria - Fellowship of The Nigerian Academy of Letters, FNAL. I will continue to praise you and praise God for you for making me and the children proud in the community (Prov 31: 23, 28-29). 
Working together for the same establishments was positive for us rather than negative. You typified the virtuous woman described in Proverbs 31:10-29. I build structures and you fill and decorate them with goods. Almost all the ornamental plants in our garden were planted and nurtured by you, sometimes involving your physical labour. 
In Christian Ministry, we habitually ministered together and here the power of two in agreement always worked for us (May 28:19). The City of David Counseling Ministry inaugurated in 1986 is a good example. As I teach and operated in the Word of Wisdom, you operated in the Prophetic ministry. To our amazement, miracles always happened. We counseled young people on success in academic study and they almost always have testimonies of better performances sometimes going from borderline withdrawal cases to outright honors degree passes. We once found a young man waiting for Counselling at the entrance of the Counseling room. As I started to speak to him, he said ‘Sir, I can’t hear anthing now, I am hungry, I haven’t eating for three days’. I called you and you quickly prepared a bowl of eba that would satisfy the young man. By the time I went back to check on him he had finished eating and fallen asleep. When he woke up three hours later he was alright and didn’t need Counselling again. 
You helped me build the family with love and your capacity to accommodate other people. This gift made our home look like a family of 15 or more even though we had just two biological children. Yet there were full grown adults who still came to me either directly to ask if I could be their father or indirectly tell Folake they wished her parents were their parents. You showed love to all who came and helped in their academic work. 
The Yoruba would say ‘t’ewe ba pe lara ose, a d’ose’. Our Sister Okeowo at the FGBMFI has been calling us twins for years now. How therefore can I say good bye to a part of me?
Another Yoruba proverb says “Oto n’iku, oto laare“ There is no illness that God cannot heal but if the time allocated is up, He will recall. He must have seen that you have completed your assignment here and therefore my jewel of fifty years has been transformed for higher service in Heaven. 
Knowing where you have gone to, the children and myself have no option but to make sure that we make heaven. 
I can therefore not say good bye, 
but rather, Good night, my Love. 
We shall meet again on the resurrection morning!

Your Husband for Ever
Professor Deboye Oriade Kolawole

My Mama‼️

March 9, 2021
Mama!!!

In your last days, you were surrounded practically equally by Daddy’s relatives, as you were yours, those who loved you fiercely and could physically get to you. My point? You didn’t keep Daddy’s family away. You embraced and loved them the same, and raised many in your home. 

Jordan particularly remembers you for the songs you made up for her when she was a baby. She’s never mentioned it before. She also said she wasn’t ready to lose you, you weren’t that old, and she didn’t get to say goodbye. 

The OAU Quarters youth who were Christians when I was growing up all see you as someone who was a huge part of them getting to know God. I’ve heard so many stories in the past 3 weeks. I’ve heard words and phrases such as “angel” and “saint,” “kind” and “loving,” “grace,” “hero” and “exuding good energy,” “stellar believer, scholar, and all around class act,” as well as “always smiling” since your passing. “Her memory is a sweet aroma of love, kindness & warmth.” One of your “daughters” wrote that in a message to me. Another described you as “humble.” And they keep pouring in. “Lovely soul,” “sweet spirit,” “always singing and dancing,” “a blessing,” “a good wife,” “a terrific mother,” “incomparable legacy,” “a very easy going person with a dignified carriage always.” “My brother and I were beneficiaries of her kindness, grace, provision, and prayers.” “...built a solid Christian home,” “lover of peace,” “epitome of beauty,” “such a pleasant soul.” “Soft spoken, approachable, and an epitome of simplicity.” 

What I remember you for the most is you being my biggest cheerleader. You always pushed me to do more and do better, and never let me feel sorry for myself, or feel like I couldn’t do something. And you always prayed fervently for me. Who’s going to pray for me like you did now? Nobody. That cannot be replaced or replicated. I gotta be a big girl now and pray for myself. 

You were ahead of your time in so many ways. You had the original Apple computer, and learned word processing in UC Berkley, then came back home with your Apple Mac computer. It was another 10 years plus before I learned how to use the computer. 

You introduced me to healthier eating (ironic, right?), and found the co-op across the street from Harry’s, near the Big Chicken. And I bought my granola from there for more than a decade, until they built a Whole Foods near us and they carried the same stuff. Till this day, even Temi is hooked on that granola and buys a stash to take to Nigeria on every visit. 

You authored several books. Your first book, “Womanism And African Consciousness,” became a text book in several American Universities. 
A well respected professor of English language and African literature, you left your mark in your work, your teaching, and your accomplishments. You even met Queen Elizabeth in one of your commonwealth events. 

I am proud to be your daughter. So very proud. Thank you for the legacy you left behind, the good will that I will continue to enjoy from people who were blessed by you. 

I will miss so many things about you. I will miss your singing. You sang in the bathroom, you sang while cooking, and while doing chores. You even sang when someone who shall remain nameless upset you! 

I feel like my whole life, you have prepared me for such a time as this, equipped me with what I need, to go on without you. You never sat around and moped about anything. Not loss, not challenges, not disappointments. I watched life throw curveball after curveball at you, and you never broke. Not even a crack. And you raised me to be malleable as well. So, I’m not going to break because of your passing. My cousin Niyi said yesterday, “She will not be happy to see me moping around or snapping at my family members in frustration at her passing. She will want me to get up and be strong, and make her proud, and run this race to the end like she did.” 

The kind of strength we reference is not one of denial. It is one that is rooted in a strong faith in the most high. 

We know this happened because this is God’s plan, and your work is done. So we need to get up and make sure we do our work, that which has has assigned to us, so that God, the same way we know you’re telling Mommy, “Welcome, good and faithful servant, enter into the joy of Your Lord,” that you will say the same to us when it is our time. 

I love you forever, Mama. I will carry on your legacy and make you proud, as you look down on me. 

Your favorite daughter,

Dr. Folake Taylor.

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