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Her Life

From me to you....your youngest

May 31, 2012
Mum thank you for making me the person I am today.  I am what I am today...... because of you and your wisdom you have passed on.  You have always and will continue to inspire me till eternity.  You have taught me patience, endurance and to love unconditionally.  My heart is full of love and compassion that you have embedded in me, but you are no longer here to savour it.  I get a compulsion to visit this site Mum and yes it always brings tears to my eyes.  It allows me to recollect the endless and fond memories, from as far back as the vivid memories at the age of three in England, right up to the very last moments when you took that last breath, with your hand lying helplessly in Anisha’s hand .... when my whole world came crashing down.   You were my everything Mum and still are everything to me.  I always look for your blessings from above and find alot of strength and courage from your  priceless wisdom, that youendowed upon us, throughout our lives.  Thank you Mum for the unconditional love, priceless advice, continued support in all my life decisions and the on-going guidance  .....you are the best gift anyone could ever ask for.   You left a lasting legacy and will live on in my heart today, tomorrow & forever more and never, ever be forgotten. 

Love from deep down in my heart where it hurts the most, Suman  : ((     tears,tears, tears, tears.....

Mum succeeded in building on her Vision, her dreams and aspirations.

March 15, 2012
Mum had a Vision.  Mum set her boundaries and rebuilt her life enjoying all the precious moments with us.   She was a very proud mum and always believed in us.  She was full of unconditional love.  She wanted us to follow our aspirations and never quit anything in life.   She taught us to believe in ourselves and to never look back, as the glass was always half full.  She was my role model.  To be strong and not to waiver on the small events that throw us off course in life. Always encouraging us to do even better than yesterday and move to the next level and reach for the stars.  Mum  mentored and guided us throughout our childhood, teenage and adult years with the tremendous wisdom she had accumulated  along side her over the years. I saw that her getting through the toughest parts of life, became her know-how and her wisdom, as she experienced the various phases in life, and as we reached our respective milestones.  Mum how do you know it all! 
Mum was also very proud of the family home she had also worked hard to build and maintain with so much loving care.   
She started enjoying the fruits of the tree she nourished with her over-flowing loveand loved being a nanni to her loving four grandchildren: Anisha ❤️ Neel and Stephanie, Keith.
She had a very strong belief that Neel and Anisha would follow the right steps and something great would unfold.  

A NEW BEGINNING

March 15, 2012
Mum moved on to England with a Vision and determination, with the help of her family.   A new country, a new culture and a new language, a new home......a new beginning.  Mum was very brave and she did this to fulfil what dad wasn't able to fulfil due to his unexpected death.  Notwithstanding that mom had lost her soul mate, she instantly took on a new demanding role of being both our loving mum and our loving dad.  She survived on the notion that defeat is not declared when you fall down but when you give up which she wasn't about to do.  She showered us with patience and unconditional love and immediately did what she had to do.   She worked very hard and did an amazing job in providing us with the necessities and beyond and yet made it appear so seemless.  She taught us the values and ethics that every mum wants for her children to have.  She was fortunate to have her 2 brothers and sister along her side.  She raised us as loving, caring and respectable children.

The Telegram - a Tragedy

March 15, 2012
Until one day, mom received the telegram from hell.   Her whole life came crashing down right in front of her eyes.  Dad had taken ill and died from cancer at a hospital in Warwick, at a very young age of 34, just when the doors to opportunity were about to open.............but now mum’s life was about to change.  Tears filled mum’s eyes and she cried so HARD at the loss of dad, she cried everyday.  She couldn't see light at the end of the tunnel.  She endured alot of heartache.  How was she to continue life without her one and only soul mate and find the strength to raise three very young children aged 4.5y1.5y and 6m
  


Hope for a promising future

March 15, 2012
Mom married dad at the age of 23 and gave birth to three lovely children (Pinky, Suman and Vinod), children that would become the pulses of her life and one day........ would be all that would matter to her.
Dad was a very religious, sincere and loving person.  He went on to England to find that land of opportunity where he could build a career and home for his young awaiting family.  He focussed on his job and his love of math to better himself and promised mum that one day soon we would all join him.  Mum gave him my baby outfit as a keep sakes memory as he left for England
Mum was very eager to leave her homeland so her dreams and aspirations would come true with Dad in England. 
 


As a child

March 15, 2012
Mum was a very hardworking and enthusiastic girl, always helping out her dad (Papa ji -Amar) in the fields and at home in the kitchen with her mom (Bibi ji - Damenti daughter of Parvati).  She always looked out for the well being of her three brothers (Jagdish, Hardev and Ashok) & three sisters (Kanchala, Kanta and Ramesh).  Her brothers and sisters looked up to her as being the most sensible sibling of seven children.  She developed her strong maternal instincts especially during the emmigration from Pakistan to India and would often reminisce with her very heartfelt stories.  Her astonishing memories of how the family crossed the waters and the life threatening risks they endured.  How they left their mansion, acres of property which was ram sacked.